logon599:
If atall this story is true then the OP has either acted as a weakling or a totally naive person. How can a 'friend' have access to your bedroom and even your matrimonial bed while you and your wife are there? Is nothing sacred anymore? Yes your wife and the friend may have planned this but you helped them carry it out, either by your weakness or stupidity. Now the plan has worked out, good luck starting a new marriage on the grounds of infidelity, distrust and disrespect.

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Yeah. The man is too passive. I gave up when he said that the girl comes in to gist when they are in bed together That is so weird...

And his wife really knows how to whine him and make him feel like he has no case.

Manipulation 101.

Overlordship:
She said my wife wouldn’t mind as they sometimes share things together as they are besties for life right from their school days.

This is the crux of the whole thing. What exactly did they used to "share together"? D!ck

Akpan107:
It's actually not only in the time of war.

During one of the war,
The Muslims went to meet Muhammad and told him of their sexual desires.

Hmm...if you say so o

Akpan107:
Well, not all marriages in Islam needs witnesses.

According to Sahih Muslims Book 16 Hadith No 17

In Islam, if you see a lady you will like to have sex with, you can contracts a temporary marriage, and it doesn't need any witness.

You can spend 1, 2 or 3 days with her, depending how you want to satisfy your sexual desires with her.

That was actually intended for times of war or long travel to stop people from breaking Shariah, but some modern Muslims are exploiting it.

Michellekabod2:
exactly my point.
I even started out by calling her out for her actions towards her sister.

Why it seems people are condemning her because he is broke is because few condemned his actions with an underage as statutory rape,the lines used in rebuking the couple was mostly his financial state. .

In issues like this is hard to get a balanced view. If we had this balanced view all this words exchange will not occur. The thread is indeed long and has served its purpose,I just hope she reconciles with her family and move on with her life.
At least we can teach our kids lessons from this: the dangers of premarital sex and how not to act out of anger

I see where youre coming from but to be honest, I think your comment yesterday was misleading. It was when I saw somebody answering you and opening the whole "sister debate" up again that I decided to talk because both of you were moving towards unnecessary extremes.

We are not condemning her because he is broke. We ended up trading insults with her, some of which included the fact that he is broke. Those 2 actions are not the same thing.

They actually condemned her because of her horrible attitude and her refusal to come up with any kind of concrete plan that didnt involve leeching from her sister. The entitlement was too much.

The underage stuff was mentioned quite a lot but was not as relevant to the topic because the point was, what are you going to do now? The "broke" aspect came up because of the lack of direction she displayed now that she has decided to continue the relationship as an adult.

Even when somebody advised that she gets the man to do a low-key introduction to give them some small self-respect, she began to attack the person. Does it make sense?

Yesterday in another thread the OP was in a relationship with an abroad-based man for 10 years with no plan for their future; she was still insulted even though we dont know what the man does. It is disingenuous to claim that everybody just piled on top of this babe solely because the man doesnt have money.

No, it was due to the way she answered everybody back. Being poor, being a carwasher, or squatting with friends are not crimes but they became ammunition for people to knock some sense into her head because of all the nonsense she was writing to people here.

If the dude was wealthy and she began to insult everybody who tried to advise her, the same thing would have occurred so I personally dont support this narrative youre pushing of women being so money-hungry that they are unable to call a spade a spade.

CeterisXVII:
You did NOT read the entire story from the beginning. I would urge you to do so, even though it is quite lengthy....and you would see what led to this debacle.

The thread has become so long that a lot of the details that led to its current state have been forgotten. Making it sound as if everybody randomly attacked the boyfriend just because he is not wealthy and shifting the blame to everybody except the OP is misleading; however I think your comment is also missing the mark a little. More objectivity is needed.

1. Her family refused to send her back to school after she fell pregnant.

2. She makes hair as a vocational skill, so she is not idle.

3. The dad told the sister to stop insulting that guy (even if he deserves it). If she doesnt regard OP, she could at least listen to their father.

4. Her sister had no right to scold her to the extent she described here. She could have castigated her out of frustration (because shes a very ill-mannered lady and Im sure she wasnt totally innocent when it came to hurling insults) but some of the stuff she reported here was crazy!

Remember that when the nappies finished the lady would say "Did I tell you to open your legs" and begin to rant. I dont even think thats an appropriate thing to say in the presence of a baby, hian! And its psychologically damaging to be spoken to in that way.

Providing somebody with food or money doesnt automatically give you the right to talk to them anyhow you feel like; after all the same person could still be the one to help you tomorrow.

I think the elder sister could have done better even though she was disappointed.

If she was bitter about the situation she could have called a family meeting to state her case. After all, they would have to at least pay attention to her since she is the breadwinner of the house.

This is not to excuse the terrible attitude of the OP, but I dont think defending the elder sister wholeheartedly (or condemning her fully) is the answer.

Actually both the sister and the boyfriend are secondary issues; the problem is OP herself and how poorly she managed the bad relationship between the 2. Bringing the dude to the house just to get insulted for the billionth time didnt make any sense, and conspiring with her boyfriend against her own blood sister also didnt make any sense...!

I am not saying this to ignite a further exchange of words but I disagree with the way people are bouncing between 2 extremes, either totally blaming OP or trying not to blame her at all...neither are correct...she has some blame, but not all...or she is innocent, but not totally...any one you prefer is okay...

If you're worth your salt, they will be bending over backwards to pronounce it even better than your own parents

StephenBB:


There's nothing wrong with the pics
I'm not saying it shouldn't be edited...I'm saying the edition is just too much

Even a blind man would notice it

I go for natural....anytime....anyday

Okay, I actually asked because I don't see anything unnatural about the pics. Thanks

StephenBB:
Too much editing dey spoil picture

Could you please enlighten me? What's wrong with the picture...

So lovely..congratulations...please sew a gown for your wife with that same pink material... hmm...why is your attire looking better than hers lol...maybe because we're not seeing the whole thing

pahoehoe:

Wow!!! I must confess that I have fallen in love with you. Please, how can I meet you?

Lol just like that Hope you're not trying to run any Valentine's scam on me? I am not buying anything o

Why do South-South people always allow their singlet to show when they're on native I never understood the fashion behind it.

Without trying to be mean, I dont see how University of Abuja is on a list that Benin and Calabar have been left out of

But since its done based on popularity and not academics, I can see some sense in it.

Ifyjos:
Leave my child out of this am not the one that made you not to have a man in your life and childless because my child is better than your stupid fake life , she is happily living with us her parents and we are training her better so she will be greater than me and her father so shut that dirty mouth of yours. Which better choice you will make when you have nowhere to escape because your witch grand father had been manipulating your life all your life and you are just waiting for you own death to come so you will be expired from this world . See the way your are liking your own comments with your other fake account if the admins was paying for the likes you get under your post , imagine 1 like for 1 millions I bet you would have become a multi billionaire by now hahahaha shame that you are not getting a kobo from it and at the end of the day you will go and beg money to buy foods and data what a shame. Ehibiggirl, funmisqueen and midnighter, nchwor one person living a different lifestyles on social media with fake accounts

Lol! Leave your child out of this but you cant leave me out of your psychotic posts? Did you see me quote you anywhere today

Looks like Im actually your own oxygen and not the other way around, have a nice day sweetie

Hmmm...

You havent told him that youre considering abortion. Youve said he doesnt have plans for you but what are your own plans for him or even yourself? No advice here can make any sense until you tell him what youre feeling and get his reaction.

Do you know any member of his family at all? Try to ask them whats up with your boyfriend before making your decision

What do your own parents think?

I mean has he ever made mention of marrying you at all? 5 years outside of the country should be enough time to let you know his plans already

Are you sure he doesnt have anybody else over there? Or even somebody here Hmm. 10 years! As in 2010. You really tried ha!

Well, normally I would tell you to save yourself, abort and LEAVE that unproductive relationship, however there is not enough information available here for us to advise you.

Good luck sis

CanadaOrBust:


Of course serious. The only thing is that it is an illusion - in reality the earth doesn’t even exist. It is a simulation

simulation hypothesis? Do you believe it...?

Jman06:
Exactly. All these stories about deaths from drugs can only be curtailed when untrained people are stopped from dealing on drugs!

That's just the problem! What has monopoly got to do with drugs Lol do they complain that doctors and nurses are "monopolising" all the sick people?

They don't have the guts to barge into a hospital and start treating people but their business brain suddenly kicks in where people need to measure their dosages hahaha this country is something else!

Jman06:
Or he might not even have bought the drug from a pharmacy! But as usual when misfortunes like this happen people blame it on pharmacists, forgetting that every tom, d1ck and harry sells drugs in this country even without knowledge of effects of drugs.

It's quite hilarious that people sweat and labour for years to learn how to dispense and give advice on drugs, only for some hollowed out container of a guy to begin to distribute them all over the country like popcorn without any knowledge of the effects smh.

The government really needs to overhaul the whole stuff, it's not working well at all

But something must be wrong somewhere, why is Valentine's Day receiving even more threads than Christmas sef

Gcool2:
bro, friends get level o...not everyone you call friends are friends,the guy might just be an acquaintance...like prolly the relationship no too deep reach make he use anything anyhow which he could overlook....e get friends wey fit do this and I won't be bothered,I will just wash it,but there are some that will do it and I will get annoyed,I can even ask him to wash it...

The way he said he screamed was sounding strange lol but I think I understand where you're coming from...it just looked like embarrassment to me

Hedonisst:


I don't know about its interactions with other drugs/agents. I'm only trying to clear the misconception that Viagra is bad for hypertensives or people with heart disease.

Okay, but maybe you should add a caveat to your comments as it was stated in the OP that the deceased was already on nitrate meds which should never be taken in conjunction with Viagra lest one experiences a dangerous drop in blood pressure and later on a heart attack.

Hedonisst:


Stop peddling falsehood. Viagra is safe and good, even for men with heart disease - especially for men with heart disease.

Are you saying that its okay for somebody who is already on nitrates to take Viagra?

Hmmm Who is that fine bobo on blue suit...

pahoehoe:
When will this Kemi grow up? Owing to the fact that a man messed up, she encouraged all ladies not to get married. Meanwhile, click on the links on my signature to know how you can make excess of N3,000,000 per plot from Ibeju Lekki plots of land.

Yes, rather she should have encouraged couples to pay attention to their sex lives. That part of her post was quite irresponsible. But small sense still dey her post sha

Of a truth, Valentine's day celebrations can be corny, parochial and sentimental. The onslaught of love hearts, flowers and teddy bears can make one feel sick!

BUT I dont condemn those who celebrate it in any way they choose

Lovelife433:
dis woman is a blessing to Nigeriana always saying it d way its. It so unfortunate dat dey hate her like shit.

Lol! A prophet is always ridiculed in his home town! Nobody likes to hear the truth

Slymonster:
She is right. No one should purchase such drugs without having their record down if they are hyper tensive. Pharmacy are suppose to ask that question before giving the drugs.

He probably would have lied.

How can you be a known hypertensive and still go for an explosive sex with Viagra?

The man must have been seriously hot, as in all his reasoning and "loya loya" faculties must have gone out of the window when he saw that little girl, gosh