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|Health / Re: Coronavirus Daily Live Updates by midnighter(f): 8:11pm On Feb 28, 2020|
|Family / Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by midnighter(f): 4:47pm On Feb 14, 2020|
|Family / Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by midnighter(f): 3:49pm On Feb 14, 2020|
Yeah. The man is too passive. I gave up when he said that the girl comes in to gist when they are in bed together That is so weird...
And his wife really knows how to whine him and make him feel like he has no case.
|Family / Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by midnighter(f): 3:42pm On Feb 14, 2020|
This is the crux of the whole thing. What exactly did they used to "share together"? D!ck
|Islam for Muslims / Re: A Muslim Marriage In Brief by midnighter(f): 2:21pm On Feb 14, 2020|
Hmm...if you say so o
|Islam for Muslims / Re: A Muslim Marriage In Brief by midnighter(f): 11:46am On Feb 14, 2020|
That was actually intended for times of war or long travel to stop people from breaking Shariah, but some modern Muslims are exploiting it.
|Family / Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by midnighter(f): 10:03am On Feb 14, 2020|
I see where youre coming from but to be honest, I think your comment yesterday was misleading. It was when I saw somebody answering you and opening the whole "sister debate" up again that I decided to talk because both of you were moving towards unnecessary extremes.
We are not condemning her because he is broke. We ended up trading insults with her, some of which included the fact that he is broke. Those 2 actions are not the same thing.
They actually condemned her because of her horrible attitude and her refusal to come up with any kind of concrete plan that didnt involve leeching from her sister. The entitlement was too much.
The underage stuff was mentioned quite a lot but was not as relevant to the topic because the point was, what are you going to do now? The "broke" aspect came up because of the lack of direction she displayed now that she has decided to continue the relationship as an adult.
Even when somebody advised that she gets the man to do a low-key introduction to give them some small self-respect, she began to attack the person. Does it make sense?
Yesterday in another thread the OP was in a relationship with an abroad-based man for 10 years with no plan for their future; she was still insulted even though we dont know what the man does. It is disingenuous to claim that everybody just piled on top of this babe solely because the man doesnt have money.
No, it was due to the way she answered everybody back. Being poor, being a carwasher, or squatting with friends are not crimes but they became ammunition for people to knock some sense into her head because of all the nonsense she was writing to people here.
If the dude was wealthy and she began to insult everybody who tried to advise her, the same thing would have occurred so I personally dont support this narrative youre pushing of women being so money-hungry that they are unable to call a spade a spade.
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|Family / Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by midnighter(f): 12:08am On Feb 14, 2020|
The thread has become so long that a lot of the details that led to its current state have been forgotten. Making it sound as if everybody randomly attacked the boyfriend just because he is not wealthy and shifting the blame to everybody except the OP is misleading; however I think your comment is also missing the mark a little. More objectivity is needed.
1. Her family refused to send her back to school after she fell pregnant.
2. She makes hair as a vocational skill, so she is not idle.
3. The dad told the sister to stop insulting that guy (even if he deserves it). If she doesnt regard OP, she could at least listen to their father.
4. Her sister had no right to scold her to the extent she described here. She could have castigated her out of frustration (because shes a very ill-mannered lady and Im sure she wasnt totally innocent when it came to hurling insults) but some of the stuff she reported here was crazy!
Remember that when the nappies finished the lady would say "Did I tell you to open your legs" and begin to rant. I dont even think thats an appropriate thing to say in the presence of a baby, hian! And its psychologically damaging to be spoken to in that way.
Providing somebody with food or money doesnt automatically give you the right to talk to them anyhow you feel like; after all the same person could still be the one to help you tomorrow.
I think the elder sister could have done better even though she was disappointed.
If she was bitter about the situation she could have called a family meeting to state her case. After all, they would have to at least pay attention to her since she is the breadwinner of the house.
This is not to excuse the terrible attitude of the OP, but I dont think defending the elder sister wholeheartedly (or condemning her fully) is the answer.
Actually both the sister and the boyfriend are secondary issues; the problem is OP herself and how poorly she managed the bad relationship between the 2. Bringing the dude to the house just to get insulted for the billionth time didnt make any sense, and conspiring with her boyfriend against her own blood sister also didnt make any sense...!
I am not saying this to ignite a further exchange of words but I disagree with the way people are bouncing between 2 extremes, either totally blaming OP or trying not to blame her at all...neither are correct...she has some blame, but not all...or she is innocent, but not totally...any one you prefer is okay...
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|Music/Radio / Re: Should I Use My Real Name Or A Nickname As My Stage Name? Please Help by midnighter(f): 10:26pm On Feb 13, 2020|
If you're worth your salt, they will be bending over backwards to pronounce it even better than your own parents
|Romance / Re: I Am Getting Married On 18th April 2020. Kogi Here We Come by midnighter(f): 10:20pm On Feb 13, 2020|
Okay, I actually asked because I don't see anything unnatural about the pics. Thanks
|Celebrities / Re: Top 10 Highest Paid Musicians In Nigeria 2020 (per Show) by midnighter(f): 7:54pm On Feb 13, 2020|
Wow! So flavour and phyno have joined the category of musical ancestors
|Romance / Re: I Am Getting Married On 18th April 2020. Kogi Here We Come by midnighter(f): 7:44pm On Feb 13, 2020|
Could you please enlighten me? What's wrong with the picture...
|Romance / Re: I Am Getting Married On 18th April 2020. Kogi Here We Come by midnighter(f): 7:40pm On Feb 13, 2020|
So lovely..congratulations...please sew a gown for your wife with that same pink material... hmm...why is your attire looking better than hers lol...maybe because we're not seeing the whole thing
|Celebrities / Re: Kemi Olunloyo: Eric Agboegbulem Igbedion's Death, Drug Overdose & The Prostitute by midnighter(f): 7:33pm On Feb 13, 2020|
Lol just like that Hope you're not trying to run any Valentine's scam on me? I am not buying anything o
|Politics / Re: Diri Duoye Celebrating After Supreme Court Victory (Photos) by midnighter(f): 7:30pm On Feb 13, 2020|
Why do South-South people always allow their singlet to show when they're on native I never understood the fashion behind it.
|Education / Re: UNILAG Ranks Best In Nigeria And 8th In Africa by midnighter(f): 11:21am On Feb 13, 2020|
Without trying to be mean, I dont see how University of Abuja is on a list that Benin and Calabar have been left out of
But since its done based on popularity and not academics, I can see some sense in it.
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|Family / Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by midnighter(f): 11:13am On Feb 13, 2020|
Lol! Leave your child out of this but you cant leave me out of your psychotic posts? Did you see me quote you anywhere today
Looks like Im actually your own oxygen and not the other way around, have a nice day sweetie
|Celebrities / Re: Burna Boy: Nobody Paved Way For Me by midnighter(f): 10:43am On Feb 13, 2020|
|Romance / Re: My 34-Year-Old Abroad-Based Boyfriend Impregnated Me. Why I Want Abortion by midnighter(f): 10:34am On Feb 13, 2020|
You havent told him that youre considering abortion. Youve said he doesnt have plans for you but what are your own plans for him or even yourself? No advice here can make any sense until you tell him what youre feeling and get his reaction.
Do you know any member of his family at all? Try to ask them whats up with your boyfriend before making your decision
What do your own parents think?
I mean has he ever made mention of marrying you at all? 5 years outside of the country should be enough time to let you know his plans already
Are you sure he doesnt have anybody else over there? Or even somebody here Hmm. 10 years! As in 2010. You really tried ha!
Well, normally I would tell you to save yourself, abort and LEAVE that unproductive relationship, however there is not enough information available here for us to advise you.
Good luck sis
|Romance / Re: Michelle Obama’s Mother Dies, Leaves Inheritance To ‘my Son Michael’ by midnighter(f): 9:36pm On Feb 12, 2020|
simulation hypothesis? Do you believe it...?
|Celebrities / Re: Kemi Olunloyo: Eric Agboegbulem Igbedion's Death, Drug Overdose & The Prostitute by midnighter(f): 8:38pm On Feb 12, 2020|
That's just the problem! What has monopoly got to do with drugs Lol do they complain that doctors and nurses are "monopolising" all the sick people?
They don't have the guts to barge into a hospital and start treating people but their business brain suddenly kicks in where people need to measure their dosages hahaha this country is something else!
|Celebrities / Re: Kemi Olunloyo: Eric Agboegbulem Igbedion's Death, Drug Overdose & The Prostitute by midnighter(f): 3:58pm On Feb 12, 2020|
It's quite hilarious that people sweat and labour for years to learn how to dispense and give advice on drugs, only for some hollowed out container of a guy to begin to distribute them all over the country like popcorn without any knowledge of the effects smh.
The government really needs to overhaul the whole stuff, it's not working well at all
|Romance / Re: Why You Should Not Overspend This Valentine. by midnighter(f): 3:49pm On Feb 12, 2020|
But something must be wrong somewhere, why is Valentine's Day receiving even more threads than Christmas sef
|Family / Re: What’s The Weirdest Thing A Visitor Has Done In Your House/home? by midnighter(f): 2:05pm On Feb 12, 2020|
The way he said he screamed was sounding strange lol but I think I understand where you're coming from...it just looked like embarrassment to me
|Celebrities / Re: Kemi Olunloyo: Eric Agboegbulem Igbedion's Death, Drug Overdose & The Prostitute by midnighter(f): 1:32pm On Feb 12, 2020|
Okay, but maybe you should add a caveat to your comments as it was stated in the OP that the deceased was already on nitrate meds which should never be taken in conjunction with Viagra lest one experiences a dangerous drop in blood pressure and later on a heart attack.
|Celebrities / Re: Kemi Olunloyo: Eric Agboegbulem Igbedion's Death, Drug Overdose & The Prostitute by midnighter(f): 12:58pm On Feb 12, 2020|
Are you saying that its okay for somebody who is already on nitrates to take Viagra?
|Politics / Re: Court Orders FG To Pay Fine Of N200,000 To Sowore, Bakare by midnighter(f): 11:46am On Feb 12, 2020|
Hmmm Who is that fine bobo on blue suit...
|Celebrities / Re: Kemi Olunloyo: Eric Agboegbulem Igbedion's Death, Drug Overdose & The Prostitute by midnighter(f): 11:38am On Feb 12, 2020|
Yes, rather she should have encouraged couples to pay attention to their sex lives. That part of her post was quite irresponsible. But small sense still dey her post sha
|Romance / Re: Valentine And Love by midnighter(f): 11:24am On Feb 12, 2020|
Of a truth, Valentine's day celebrations can be corny, parochial and sentimental. The onslaught of love hearts, flowers and teddy bears can make one feel sick!
BUT I dont condemn those who celebrate it in any way they choose
|Celebrities / Re: Kemi Olunloyo: Eric Agboegbulem Igbedion's Death, Drug Overdose & The Prostitute by midnighter(f): 11:18am On Feb 12, 2020|
Lol! A prophet is always ridiculed in his home town! Nobody likes to hear the truth
|Celebrities / Re: Kemi Olunloyo: Eric Agboegbulem Igbedion's Death, Drug Overdose & The Prostitute by midnighter(f): 11:12am On Feb 12, 2020|
He probably would have lied.
How can you be a known hypertensive and still go for an explosive sex with Viagra?
The man must have been seriously hot, as in all his reasoning and "loya loya" faculties must have gone out of the window when he saw that little girl, gosh
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