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Romance / Re: Can We Now Say Virgins Are Good Girls And Wife Materials? by midnighter(f): 7:14pm On Feb 08, 2020 |
Stephenmoka4: Thats why I tried to avoid commenting..whenever this issue comes up people wont be objective and give a reasonable answer They will try to cover up and console themselves by making silly statements to downgrade the importance of chastity and make it as if virgins are stupid Not being a virgin is not the end of the world and shouldnt stop somebody from loving, respecting you or marrying you (because people are more than just the state of their genitals) BUT that doesnt make it totally irrelevant. Saying that it has nothing to do with behaviour is a lie because it IS a behaviour. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Can We Now Say Virgins Are Good Girls And Wife Materials? by midnighter(f): 6:13pm On Feb 08, 2020 |
Vortex369: I tried to keep quiet but honestly, this is just such an illogical statement. Sexual behaviours are directly indicative of moral conduct and you cant reduce everything down to sluts once being virgins unless youre being deliberately facile. All thieves were once innocent, does it make stealing correct? And so all paedophiles had once never defiled a child before. The only thing is that you will measure it according to your belief system (within reason); that is, some people believe sex outside of marriage is wrong, while others believe that its okay if you are in a serious relationship. At that point, you will know whether or not you consider chastity to be a virtue. But trying to dismiss the importance of morality with regards to sex completely doesnt make any sense unless you are literally a nihilist who doesnt believe in any kind of organised society at all. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Black American Woman Looking For A 50/50 Relationship by midnighter(f): 6:06pm On Feb 08, 2020 |
Hmm Good luck auntie but be careful o! Hmm.. |
Celebrities / Re: Chioma Akpotha Twerks In A Benin Queen Attire On Set, Gets Blasted by midnighter(f): 5:40pm On Feb 08, 2020 |
Glycosunde: Okay, thanks for the info |
Celebrities / Re: Chioma Akpotha Twerks In A Benin Queen Attire On Set, Gets Blasted by midnighter(f): 5:39pm On Feb 08, 2020 |
Etinosa1234: Thats why you people should be careful where you insert your drumsticks...so that you wont take on multiple tribal identities and end up confused... 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Chioma Akpotha Twerks In A Benin Queen Attire On Set, Gets Blasted by midnighter(f): 4:55pm On Feb 08, 2020 |
Etinosa1234: He said he became Bini via soul-tie...meaning that Bini membership was conferred on him via sexual union with a Bini damsel... 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: Chioma Akpotha Twerks In A Benin Queen Attire On Set, Gets Blasted by midnighter(f): 4:05pm On Feb 08, 2020 |
Celebrities / Re: Chioma Akpotha Twerks In A Benin Queen Attire On Set, Gets Blasted by midnighter(f): 4:04pm On Feb 08, 2020 |
Halexgos3: Lol but she's looking strange na |
Celebrities / Re: Chioma Akpotha Twerks In A Benin Queen Attire On Set, Gets Blasted by midnighter(f): 1:10pm On Feb 08, 2020 |
Is that Etinosa 2 Likes |
Politics / Re: Uba Sani: Senator’s Nude Video, Photo Go Viral by midnighter(f): 12:05pm On Feb 08, 2020 |
fergie001: Lmao he should just charge it to the game! Too bad hahaha |
Education / Re: After Graduating With A 2.1 In Engineering, What Next? by midnighter(f): 11:57am On Feb 08, 2020 |
Congratulations! 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Uba Sani: Senator’s Nude Video, Photo Go Viral by midnighter(f): 11:54am On Feb 08, 2020 |
fergie001: Exactly, Im surprised. Most high-profile people have security who will search the girls and force them to drop their phones at the door. And even sign an NDA Hmm these Senators be careless yo! |
Religion / Re: Nairaland Moderators Are Been Biased Against Christians by midnighter(f): 11:41am On Feb 08, 2020 |
effissyman: Anyway, I can see youre not serious about this. I thought you actually wanted an answer. There wouldnt be any swear to click if people would stop abusing them on their threads. Bye! 1 Like 1 Share |
Religion / Re: Nairaland Moderators Are Been Biased Against Christians by midnighter(f): 11:30am On Feb 08, 2020 |
effissyman: Because trolling was getting too much on their topics, thats why they implemented the Islamic Oath. You have to admit that some of what people write on their threads is totally insane. Anyway, Christians are not as sensitive as Muslims when it comes to blasphemy which is why we dont need any stupid swear on our topic Imagine wanting to comment on Sunday and being blocked by "I believe in the Holy Trinity of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit and that Jesus Christ is the only begotten Son of God" Wouldnt that be very stupid When people write nonsense about Jesus, it only gives others the grounds to counter them and show that theyre wrong. Remember that Nairaland is only a microcosm of what is happening in the real world. People make satirical cartoons about Jesus and nobody cares. Do the same about Mohammad saww and somebody in another country may even be sliced into pieces for your sake. |
Religion / Re: Nairaland Moderators Are Been Biased Against Christians by midnighter(f): 10:59am On Feb 08, 2020 |
But I dont think we need any special section. Anybody should be free to comment on a Christian topic |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Ruling On Muslim Working In An Interest-based Bank by midnighter(f): 9:46am On Feb 08, 2020 |
jelel6: You still dont get it because its not about "you and I" having "differing interpretations of what Islam means to both of us" . Its about using intelligent discussion to stamp out harmful ideologies from people's world-view. You are being duplicitous by trying to brush the fact that the Islamic world is severely fragmented along ideological lines (and that those fissures are affecting everybody else) under the carpet. No matter how much people insult them, the people who write these threads will never write a genuine post explaining why terrorism is not permitted by Islam and get it pushed to Front Page, why They would rather copy and paste Wahhabi scripts about pouring water over one's head after sex or banning innocent children from studying philosophy and wait for trolls to come and bash them. Dont you think its a misplaced priority? After all, like you said, Muslims are dying and being harmed in this too. Its either that they secretly agree with Islamist terrorism or they are too afraid or unbothered to check what Islam actually says about it. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 1. I am a Christian 2. I have never been a Muslim 3. Anything that claims to give guidamce on how to live one's life is an idea. Whether religious or atheist. Preventing probing of so-called "Islamic" concepts from a philosophical angle is a sign of insecurity and not piety. Remember that the number 1 reason that terrorism abounds today is that you cant shoot or bomb the inside of somebody's mind. We cant predict who will go rogue and blow up a crowded market or stab random people to death in the name of Islam You cant kill an idea. You can only replace it with a better one. Why wouldnt you want that? I mean, as a practising (and, I daresay somewhat intelligent) Muslim? |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Ruling On Muslim Working In An Interest-based Bank by midnighter(f): 9:36am On Feb 08, 2020 |
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Islam for Muslims / Re: Ruling On Muslim Working In An Interest-based Bank by midnighter(f): 6:34pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
jelel6: You're talking from both sides of your mouth. You admitted that people have different viewpoints while denying them the right to explore whether those viewpoints are correct or not. So where did Boko Haram learn to kill people? Don't you think if they were taught to critically evaluate the extremist ideas they were fed, they would know that what they're doing is wrong? Otherwise how do you know that YOU are not wrong and Boko Haram is not correct You dont have any right to assume that you are less murderous or suicidal than a Boko Haram member. That is arrogant speculation. You don't know what he has been taught. The point of this is education, enlightenment and teaching. What is the basis of fiqh schools? What determines who follows which school? Why do Sunni Muslims reject the inclusion of Imam Alis as name in the Adhan? Why is the hand of Fatima a ubiquitous symbol throughout the Islamic world, even though superstition is banned in Islam? All you just described here is philosophy, which means you don't even have any problem with philosophy. You only have a problem with other people not subscribing to your view, based on your interpretation of what the scripture means. Which is hypocrisy. Whether you like it or not, religion is just an idea and ideas should be examined and explored and not just swallowed blindly. So philosophy is not unislamic. 1 Like |
Family / Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by midnighter(f): 5:15pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
I'm shocked at all the diplomatic and intelligent answers I'm seeing here. When it comes to money, men suddenly grow some sensicles 3 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by midnighter(f): 4:55pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
I think you should have had some dialogue on this before now...how would this topic only Come up 3 weeks to the date, haba...! Like others have said she was probably shocked by how direct you were. Maybe she was expecting you to foot the bill or she's offended at the thought of you eyeing her money She shouldn't be behaving this way but it depends on the manner in which you said it. It's even her family who is supposed to be paying for "white wedding" because that's how the "white" people overseas have been doing it (don't mention that to her though, make my comment no scatter you people ) |
Family / Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by midnighter(f): 4:47pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
ahiboilandgas: Hahaha you are very smart |
Family / Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by midnighter(f): 4:09pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Triniti: They may not need to take your permission outright but they still need to be considerate because people (women) are trying to organise and budget for their feeding which a good visitor should be mindful not to scatter. 1 Like |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Ruling On Muslim Working In An Interest-based Bank by midnighter(f): 4:04pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
jelel6: You are being insincere. Tell me, are ALL the ideas and concepts that we see being claimed as Islamic Islamic? Including the ideologies of Boko Haram. Including the defence of gay and lesbian Muslims. And including your own comment where you stated that anybody who tries to give the excuse of being unable to find a job in a non-usury-based institution is only deceiving himself. Do you agree with EVERYTHING people on this thread have said concerning usury? If not, then philosophy and critical thinking are required. |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Ruling On Muslim Working In An Interest-based Bank by midnighter(f): 1:42pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Agboriotejoye: Modified: I just got what you were saying. Yes, you're right but the scope of religious philosophy should be widened to accommodate conflicting or alternative views. That's what we are missing in this pseudo-religious shambles of a country. Critical thinking and enlightened evaluation of ideas. 1 Like |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Ruling On Muslim Working In An Interest-based Bank by midnighter(f): 11:43am On Feb 07, 2020 |
rowrowland: Anyhow you like it is okay, but what I have observed with my eyes is that most Muslims don't bother with Islamic banks and will rush the so-called "Haram" institutions |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Ruling On Muslim Working In An Interest-based Bank by midnighter(f): 11:41am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Agboriotejoye: I dont really understand your comment, sorry. What does it have to do with what I wrote? |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Ruling On Muslim Working In An Interest-based Bank by midnighter(f): 11:35am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Dtoolz: Thank you! A reasonable submission instead of all these outdated rulings they keep posting here without any context |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Ruling On Muslim Working In An Interest-based Bank by midnighter(f): 10:52am On Feb 07, 2020 |
There is nothing wrong with studying Philosophy, Islamic philosophers have some very interesting theories if you care to read up on them, anybody who prevents their child from studying philosophy because of Islam is a liar and an enemy of progress. If more Christians and Muslims were taught philosophy at secondary school they would learn to think well about religious ideas and they wouldnt fall prey to all the crackpot pastors and Boko Haram Islamist terrorism that is holding our country ransom till today. Thats not to talk of native philosophy and wisdom that we have inherited from our forefathers, which should be taught in schools and inculcated into children like any normal country that has not been bastardised. Every Friday they will come and post Wahhabi fatwa here to mess up people's prospects but nobody will be deceived. Liars should stop lying 3 Likes |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Ruling On Muslim Working In An Interest-based Bank by midnighter(f): 10:35am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Grace001: Hmm! You just summarised the whole thing. Very interesting take. I have seen that their interest-free Islamic bank before and its always empty smh |
Family / Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by midnighter(f): 12:27am On Feb 07, 2020 |
YungJo207: Of course its silly for a woman to expect a man who was so close to his people before marriage to suddenly abandon them. But you need to acknowledge that what often transpires in some marital homes is not fair at all and it is a direct consequence of our African familial systems and attitude to women which can sometimes place unfair burdens on the wife. America does not expect anybody to accommodate any sibling or whatever. Once youre 18 you are OYO so if youre living with somebody on their hospitality, you will take it as a privilege and not a right since technically, nobody understands what youre even doing in somebody else's house in the first place. You will naturally respect yourself or be ready to be kicked out That has never been the case in Nigeria so bringing America into the discussion has no basis. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by midnighter(f): 12:10am On Feb 07, 2020 |
YungJo207: I see your point but you cant really compare the US family system which is based on a nuclear family model with African families which are centred more around extended family and wider support networks. The expectation of families in Nigeria is different to that of America and the responsibility and burden on a wife is also different. Not to mention the fact that there are no school fees over there which is what actually causes most people in this country to keep wandering and perching everywhere 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by midnighter(f): 11:31pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
It actually depends on the personalities of everybody involved. A peace-loving relative and an accommodating wife will have a different experience from a nagging wife and a relative with bad intentions. Its a fragile situation; as human beings its not everybody you will like or who will like you. I would try to be objective and see which relatives I can get along with. Sometimes you think you are being wronged but you actually have a giant blind spot that is beclouding your judgement; for example the lady today who was so agitated about her soup, her spoon, her yam etc but had never actually told the younger, student brother-in-law of a guy how she feels. I really couldnt believe somebody could bring such stuff here without even confronting the person first. Even when guy man said "this spoon don spoil" she had nothing to say about it but sat inside the room boiling and complaining to the husband. Passive-aggressiveness sucks. If somebody is irritating you, tell them so that they know how to adjust themselves instead of fermenting issues and fighting battles in your head. That kind of "auntie" would be driving people away from her husbands house without realising it and the man would feel awkward taking a side 6 Likes |
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