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You would have to create her fr. In this generation your looking for all these features lol, ur not ready to marry at all.

Nice one op , I feel like most naija men just view women as sex objects rather than friends or companions , women can be very valuable and can be of significant impact to you if you play ur cards right.

For me ,I tend to have more women as friends ,I enjoy conversations with different women , I learn certain things from them as well. Its not all the time sex sex sex, sometimes learn from women , learn how they think and so much more, its would only add to your knowledge.

This period is the worst period be a Nigerian youth ,the government has completely crippled and humiliated us. The economy is very bad and even worse, things are getting out of hand every blessed day.

My problem with Nigerians are our spirit of adaptation , I can promise you dat if fuel sells for 5k per litre people would still buy after complaining heavily , cause thats all we do ,complain bitterly but everyone would at d end of the day find ways to adapt.

For how long are we going to continue this way for christ sake? Almost all the youth are into one fraudulent activity or the other these days and the most decent looking ladies have a very troublesome amount of body count these days as well.

How I wish we can all in our frustrations pay Tinubu a visit at Aso rock , atleast make we protest heavily reach him side cus im fed up honestly.

I'm a bachelor but im still managing like a student , bills upon bills and worst you dont even get to enjoy for these services you pay for at all.

You cant even find an understanding girlfriend anymore in this country. Omo make I stop here before I go craze , Nigeria matter fit make man craze .

Mhen 2023 was kinda brutal and bloody but we thank God.

In 2024 first of all im getting more closer to God. Start working for God as well.

2024 is for learning , just learn various new skills that can bring in more money in early 2025 .

Sign up for a gym membership

Eat healthy and balanced diet with high nutrient , cut off junk foods and soda

find a really good girlfriend and engage her


Protect my energy


Give my parents salary every month

Take my health seriously

Stop drinking and smoking weed

Stop fornication

Invest in myself

Read good books rather than watch movies

Get a car (optional)

So help me God.

Girls are this way , she was only trying to make u work harder to get her sexually. Kinda she wants u to beg for sex , d same way she has been begging for a relationship and u no gree date her . Its 50/50 man.

Same here with me op, ive lost great relationships with girls I really loved over petty issues.

In my next relationship id try hard not to fight over petty issues ,after all ,we are all flawed.

You should use the term soul mates and not spiritual wife. Btw I think you guys might be destined to be together.

Honestly nairaland used to be a fun and well respected forum ,but its has lost it juice. If u post anything these days , u go first chop small insults. Just bunch of losers everywhere smh

Burgermotors:
Oga how can you be dating a married woman talking with her for 3 years and you did not find out, no no no, OP this your story be like tinubu certificate

Lol first of all ,it isnt me its a friend of mine. He was in d same city with her wen there started dating but he left later on to anoda state where he stayed for 3 years , during d 3 years him and d girl were still doing power couples , he Didnt know she had married after thier first year of dating.

ItisWell22:
The sister was only watching the biological clock you all advise ladies to watch.

Atleast, this 1 sister follow advice. 🤭

Sorry for your friend though.🙏
Que sera sera.
He should count his L and move.

He will be fine, no matter how long he hurts.

Its quite easy for you to say move on but dude is really hurting ,my only concern is dat he doesnt commit suicide cus lately he has been acting like he wants to end it all. Dat wy im really worried.

Gadafii:
This is why it’s good to always have spare tire incase one burst on the journey, you quickly replace it

This analogy is not about true tho, but having one girl and solely committing your existence to her is foolery, and suicidal

Don’t take girls matter too serious, have your own life to live without her, and make Ute you have option


If your friend like make he commit suicide, the deed has been done and the better option for him is to learn and never make such mistake again

I agree with you bro , he overly invested in the girl ,he didnt even look at other girls while he was away from her. Now man is in shambles

CandyOps:
Carry am comot go park go chase enof babes especially this Xmas when everyone done fresh up

Bro he doesnt want to go out at all. Ive tried convincing him still nothing. I even invited two girls ,him no even look their side at all.
I guess id just leave him alone.

Omo the matta no be small o , mhen I don tire for women matta mhen. Make u sef see

A very good friend of mine of recent shared his breakfast story with me and I felt his pains wallai , I felt it inside my bones. So theres this girl my friend had been dating for 3 years but it was a long distance relationship(LDR) , this girl he was dating was everything wife material , church girl , smart , career oriented ,beautiful. My guy thought he had hit the jackpot when she agreed to date him 3 years ago. Baba think say him don jam better wife lol.

How the breakfast happened.


So my friend and his now ex girl were having communication issues , the two of them werent talking to each other for a while , my guy was tired of this and decided to call d girl's Mum , na 4 there kasala burst o, her mum asked him how long his been dating her daughter , my guy said 3 years , d girls mum laughed cos she obviously thought he was joking , wen she realised he was serious she then opened up to him that her daughter has been married to another guy for two years now and she had a twin earlier this year.

My guy too thought it was joke until d girl's Mom sent pictures of the wedding and new born twins.
Omo na there my guy wan craze , he told me he was planning to marry her wen he came back dis year , the girl's response sef was that she couldnt wait ,that she has missed him so much. Now my guy is in severe pains cus for d past 3 years he never cheated on her even once. They were always talking almost everyday for d past 3 years.

After asking d girl if wat happened was true she said her family rushed her into the marriage bla bla bla ,dats he should move on its not her fault.
. He's been acting like he might commit suicide lately , I dont even know how to help him cus me sef I get tins wey dey bother me too , my friend doesnt drink or smoke if not I for don call my plug tay tay, make him smoke loud make him body calm down.

Now mans just down, ive given all the advice in this world but baba heart is beyond fixing I guess. Pls Nlanders how can I help him. Ive tried taking him to club too but him no wan go any where at all.

allabig:
Hustle still

Dem no suppose tell pesin dat one bro. Any man wey no hustle na hunger go finish am.

The new year is fast approaching and I just thought to share some wonderful tips that has really impacted my life positively.

Note im not saying you should engage in all the tips here , just pick d ones that works well for you. Lets get into it.

Take health very serious.
Take good care of your parents ,even if its little gifts here and there.
Read powerful books.
Invest in any digital skill.
Invest in your talents.
Forget about your past.
Take your L's in peace ,dont blame anyone for failure.
Grow up ,embrace growth.
Change your mindset.
Face your fears.
Be in competition with only youself
Cultivate good manners and ethics.
Respect everyone even your juniors.
Mind your business and focus on your priorities.
Take meditation serious.
Invest in music , good gadgets such as quality headphones and good music streaming platforms can really boost your creative life.
Take life step by step.
Dont look at other peoples time.
Believe in yourself , love yourself.
Be closer to God.
If your broke aviod women ,except you find a woman that loves you for you and not money.
Think outside the box.
Create your own niche and stick to it.
Learn life hacks .
Be financially disciplined
Keep in touch with reality.
Be street smart , no lose guard.
No send anybody pappa wey no send you.
Spoil yourself when you can.
Dont forget life is vanity , if your always chasing money you would never enjoy it, ask Dangote with all his billions baba hardly sleeps.
Go out and have fun ,meet new people and socialize .
Dream big
Make smart moves ,take calculated risks.

Buy a tokunbo toyota pencil ,year 2000 or 2001 ,minimal expenses on maintenance , spend less on fuel , rough and rugged. If police see you for road dey wont bother u.

Atleast you will become an officer second lieutenant of the Nigerian Army after completion of your training. Far better than applying with o level , dat wan na suffer.
Well sha ,the Nigerian Army is a really tricky job , if ur not smart and corrupt you wont enjoy there.

Thanks everyone for your wise inputs and counsels ,ive gotten some really good advice here no lies and im grateful.

Currently working on my commitment issues now and letting all my fears go.

However ive also chosen to ignore some pretty offensive comments and insults. Cus no be me cause una problems or frustrations peace and light.

Good day Nlanders, pls I need the wisest counsels of wise Nlanders. I have a problem which is lack of commitment to women, ive been this way since I left uni, and pls know that this isnt due to masturbation or any sorts, cause I havent done that thing since my teenage years.

I meet a woman today , we vibe, connect and all but i'm just damn too scared to commit any woman no matter how good she is. I'm scared that if I continue this way I may likely find it really difficult to get married.

Seeing and experiencing different complains of men in real life and on the forum as made my commitment issues with women only worse. I'm currently working, fair pay, got my own place, I'm doing quite well for myself. Ive met different women this year that were good women, but I fear if I give my heart to them they may switch up, women are too complicated naturally to cope with.

This fear of commitment is seriously holding me back from getting a serious relationship. My only fear is if I continue this way I may not get married. I need the counsels of wise nairalanders to advice me on what to do concerning this commitment issues cause it quite depressing no lies.

I form hard guy, but deep down I really be craving for a romantic relationship, I'm just too scared to give any woman my heart cause ive been hurt in past relationships . So hurt that even when I had a good woman I couldnt see it and I lost her.

Your Wise advice and counsels would be deeply appreciated thanks.

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I've come across lots of people that honestly thinks japa isnt a proper way of seeking fortune and finacial stability. They will tell you how hard foreign countries are , discourage you not to come over, tell you they are regretting why they relocated bla bla bla.

Now my honest view is ,japa isn't going to 100 percent take you out of poverty and just bring you fortune overnight, you'd have to still work very hard and smart then your chances of finacial stability can significantly increase.

Also looking at it from another angle not everyone japa bcus of finacial stability , ive read stories of people in Nigeria who were earning 7 figures in salaries and still had to japa ,part of their reasons were , high rate of insecurity , a poor healthcare system, a corrupt system of government amongst many other issues they felt were life threatening so they had to run for their precious lifes.

Whether you want to japa for financial stability and fortune or you want to japa cause Nigeria is a death trap I sincerly urge you to please do. Ignore the nay sayers saying abroad is very difficult bla bla bla, if it was that difficult they would have been on the next flight coming back home to Nigeria.


But its quite unfortunate that some Nigerians are just extremely terrible people , the backwards mentality is truly a thing , its like we are cursed or soemthing. Nigerians would see something good and would wants to be the only beneficiary of that thing , stingy and wicked in d same order. As if we go carry anything go heaven mtcheeeew.

So if you or anyone around has the capacity to travel abroad pls do , leave this loophole called Nigeria and pls if youve finally successfully left this country aviod other fellow Nigerians wherever you go. Everything is competition to your fellow Nigerian so pls aviod them for your own good.

Also when you finally japa , make sure you work hard and smart involve God too, then you starts to see everything run smoothly for you. I have a friend that feels like his destiny activated the very first moment he touched foreign ground , hes been out there for just 6 months now but hes doing way better than he has ever. I was d one that adviced him to japa despite his family members from abroad discouraging him not to.

Dude prays for me almost everyday cause he's glad he followed my advice. Baba is glad he moved , he sends me 50 euros almost every month as a token of appreciation. But honestly Im just super happy for him. Pray God answers my prayers so I can leave asap , I don tire for this loophole.

I understand your frustrations man, ive been there. From your write up , I think she isnt into you , just try to look for some one else. I personally dont think marriage is something that should be rushed or else u end up with all sorts of regrets.
Find some one else today. Goodluck.

As long as shes happy.

From mile 2 enta oshodi , u go see ketu from oshodi , infacts u fit enta london from oshodi if u know u know

Movies
Reading
Meditation
Sleeping
Cooking
Football
Basketball
Visiting the beach

Oga with all these ur narration now , if d girl later wants you to be her lover , u sef go say yes , open ur eyes nigga , she belongs to d streets

Women would date 10 different niggas and make all of them feel special . Lol

I have been seeing recent news on fp on how the current Nigerian Federal government plans on spending exorbitant amounts on irrelevant things while the nation's economy is currently on fire and people are starving x2 , shege promax here and there , truly sad (shaking my head in disgust). Tinubu and all APC members you all have a special place in hell fire sha , on God.

Fr mhen, ive been drinking every single day since Tinubu took over , pressure too much for man. God pls intercede

Zonefree:
Buy Fanta, sweets, beads, powder, perfume, soap, native sponge and visit any water body close to you.

Take your shower in the river with the native sponge and soap. While bathing, communicate with the water. After the bath, discard all those items in the river and leave.

After 4 market days, things will start getting clearer to you.


Note:
Abstain from anything concerning woman before and after the bath.

Thanks alot , but can I do all these mentioned here in a bucket of water or something? I stay quite far from any water place except I travel back to lagos and dat woud be until december.

Mozino007:
Are you male or female?

Male

I honestly need the help of you guys here. Times without number I have always felt a strange connection with large body waters, both in my dreams and real life , I cant really explain it.

Ive had dreams where I saw myself walk on water , run extremly fast in water and do all sort of mighty things with water in my dreams. I cant really swim in real life ,im kinda scared of water but it quite the opposite In my dreams.

Also I get some memory flashbacks like a trans or vision which tells me im reincarnated, sometimes I get dejavu too, sometimes I see things happen before they literally happen. I can also sense when theres an evil spirit around and also when theres an good spirit around. All these things happen to me, and at first I thought I was just being naive but with time it like everything started connecting.

Im like a god in water areas in my dreams but I cant even swim in real life ,plus I eat fishes too ,which actually just makes it more complicated cause I read somewhere that people that have a connection with water spirit rarely eat fishes, but apart from the fact that I eat fishes ,I have a very strange connection with water. Last time I was at a beach in lagos at night ,it felt like the waves of the ocean was saying something to me , it was in a language I couldnt just understand .

This all I can really explain for now but if anyone perhaps knows truly about the water spirit pls do well to educate me extensively , I would greatly appreciate it, thanks.

I dont want to act on ignorance anymore , I feel theres something I need to know that I dont.

Nigerian women are hard to love , u see a good one but she’s manipulative like mad , u see a bad one , no even near dem side.
I’m trying to save money japa and go and meet other beautiful women outside the shores of Nigeria. I don tire for Nigerian girls.