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My brother, for you to be forgiving your wife up and down irrespective of her cheating shows you are a weak ass pussy....bitch ass nigga. How dare you? For you want to die? If you are an Esan man you will be long dead by now. See my brother just take your few loads and leave the house for her then come back later for a pattern test to determined who owns the fruits from the marriage...since so many man has been jointly eating her meat you paid for.

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.

(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.

In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).

I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.

She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.

In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.

In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).

Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.

Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.

My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.

I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

KLoo..my blood. So sad to mourn you here. I just got the information that you were shot by blood sucking demons called SARS. I know how long you have been in the struggle all to make life meaningful yet they cut you shot...I'm devastated right now. All memories of you begin to come in my mind. And I ask what a world we live in, where humans don't have value for humanity. I'm so pained my blood...to see you bloodied by these bastards. Men...Bleep up. Amigo rest on.

tiger28:
Here we go AGAIN O! Biafra media has started their untempered jagons o. Bunch of fools! What have they EVER won in the history of Africa

I pity your generation. Imagine you being a tribal bigot.

Reminds me of one pastor like that

kahal29:
BAUCHI STATE 2019

GOVERNOR

- PDP

SENATORS

- APC 3

- PDP 0

HOUSE OF REPS

- APC 7

- PRP 2

- PDP 1

STATE HOUSE OF ASSEMBLY

- APC 20

- PDP 6

- PRP 3

- NNPP 1

Lol.... APC is in charge.


https://mobile.twitter.com/yunusxonline/status/1110249084634435586

Just another post by a terrorist

starring:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

My brother run for your life...the guy will.keep fucking her oh

BlackAxe...take it easy. Eiye turning to an endangered specie

Amechi you will pay with your children's blood

davidnazee:
And these people u just named still lord over you..

No wonder Yoruba claimed to have found Bini.

See his fractured skull, later they will say they are not corrupt

davidnazee:
And yet Esan is still under Bini..

Please learn from the guy u responded to.. He just schooled u with the truth and facts.

well I don't blame you, when did Bini people start going to school. All you guys know is Armed Robbery(Anini), Prostitution(Madam Agbiyagha) and cultism mixed with illiteracy (Tony Kanaka, Nomoless and Koga)

Meanwhile the IFA Priest is allowed to bunk her wide pussy that has been lamed in Uni

Edmanpumpin:
Her Royal Majesty, Regent Taiwo Oyebola Agbona


As the first girl child, she is to stand in gap on the throne of her fore-fathers till the Senior traditional Chiefs (Afobaje) choose the next King for the town.
Tradition entails her to temporarily take over the rulership of her kingdom.
She has been on the throne for over a year so far.

A recent graduand of Achievers University, Owo Ondo State as been crowned as a Regent (Adele Oba) in Aaye town in ifedore Local Government, Ondo State
She was born into the Royal family of HRM Oba J. B Agbona, Orimoro 11, the Alaaye of Aaye( who transformed from mortality to immortality to join his ancestors on the 4th of may, 2017).
She studied Medical Laboratory Science (Heamatology).

She is also on social media and bears Royal_bliss on Instagram.

As a Regent, Her Majesty is forbidden to Kneel to any human, she must not have sexual intercourse, she must not eat in public, she must always be in male atire.

We wish Her Majesty successful reign.... Ase!!!!

Kábíyèsí ọ!!!!!

mr1759:
who are esans in fact divided you fall united u stand all we know is Edo ppl
what is this one saying go and unit with Edo ppl

Your poor grammar makes me puke.

cyrilamx:
first ur generalisations is wrong. secondly bini and Ishan which is more known internationally in terms of history? Thirdly, u fail to address where the Esan come from? Fourthly, every empire makes use of military men frim its vassal-land just like Rome use General Scipio Africano to conquer Carthage and so bini having Esan military general cant be different but we all know that Bini were always the commanders. Fifth, Esan doesnt have a language of their own. 90 percent of Esan words are Twisted bini. And most Esan cities or villages are derived from Bini words. e.g Ewohimi...land or town of Ikhimwin ( a type of plant), Igueben village of Eben etc. About prostitution or laziness of bini men, you just displayed ur bigotry or hatred for the binis who birthed u. Prostitution isnt limited to binis, it is a modern world cancer no thanks to moral permissiveness of putrid society. Also saying that potent medicine men re mainly from Ishan is just one lie too many. Maybe u hv not taken ur research to Usen, Utekon etc. U claimed Esan defeated bini army yet they couldnt liberate themselves from being under the binis. Today as from time immemorial, Esan have no kings, your Enojies re all sons of the Oba and under authority of the Benin Monarch. What else do u want me to say?

You have not responded to me like an educated person. You just ranted and ranted without even addressing issues I raised. I raised issues of Bini and Prostitution which is a notorious facts. I addressed Bini symptom of betrayal which is well know by their betrayal of their Oba who was deposed as an Oba and sent packing to Calabar via Ughoton River and I also addressed the reason why Binis fear Esan people Militarily. I also raised issues of Esan Serving as Mercenary soldiers because your lame ass people couldn't defeat Idah and Akure, rather I took Esan Mercenaries involvement for Binis to win those wars. I also addressed the fact that Bini and her Oba was sacked within one year because of the fact that you betrayed your Oba and you betrayed Ogiso Ewodo's first son Izoduwa. I'm not disputing whether throngs of our ancestors came from Bini but I am telling you that real men left Bini and lame ass men stayed back that is the reason you find most of your success tied to your girls in Italy. You where the ones that corrupted Esan Girls into prostitution. The Binis have been known to be prostitute since the late 1970's. Thus making Bini people the highest number of human traffickers and prostitute in Black Africa. I'm not making a case for anyone doing prostitution.... But what I'm saying that the fact that you all claim Esan came from Bini or somewhere else, I'm saying that we have held our game high and built our culture.
I wonder why I should respond to your next lame comment when you don't know that Esan Clothes were sold in Manchester trade fair in the 19th Century as reported by Walter Rodney in his book. The Esan people already had a textile industry that has flourished over time and still existing today... you see the Ododo Clothes, Igbulu and many other Esan clothes to mention a few. We may have similarities in culture, language and religion. But Esan have held their own and developed her own well...

cyrilamx:
You are the most bigoted, ignorant person I have met online. Is ur ex a bini dude? U re a chronic lier by saying a bini woman can cheat without any repercussions? Infact the fear of her or first son dying is what bars a bini married woman from adulterous act. Also you cant severe Esan umbilical cord from bini. Esan are fully binis by lineage. That why majority great like binis...lagiesan, lavbieze...etc in other words, Esan is a extension of Binis

Well I have to state here that she is not far from the truth. I was once seriously engaged to a Bini girl who was trafficked by her parents abroad. We had a Child together and she left the child at 9 months for Spain to prostitute for money. I bless God she left because there was a total turn around of event the same year she left. I am married to a beautiful esan woman who has accommodated my first child and also given me a second child.

Esan women respect tradition so much when compared to the Bini woman. A Bini woman wants to be in charge and Bini men are fucking lazy, they always want food on their table. I have to also state that, you have 2 to 3 girls prostituting abroad in a Bini family and it is notorious fact that is know by the EU.

Also another thing that is common among Binis is betrayal, they sold their Oba, Oba Ovoramen to the British invaders, if not for Esan land Bini would have been left in ruins....The Esan warriors came to Bini rescue couple of times during the invasion. It will beat your imagination that all the conquest expedition by the Oba Square the 1st has Esan Infantry soldiers and dark art magicians, thus the so called Lagos fell to the Bini due to the man power support from Esan land. Also I will like you to know that it took the British 7 years to Conquer Esan land compared to Bini where the city was sacked and Oba deposed due to the betrayal syndrome associated with them. The Bini suffered defeat in Esan land and lead to the death of Oba Ozolua. Esan contributed immensely to the sacking of Akure, Idah and other places. Do Binis have the sense for gurrelia warfare? LoL...Esan men gave the British a run for their money with our Gurrelia tactics even when it was not a known phenomenon back then.
Please don't in your life compare Bini with Esan, we are small but got the strength of Spartans. Go ask your palace chiefs and Oba who are the best medicine men in Edo State....they will point to the center. Esan is the Center that holds Bini.
Sadly, the reason the Binis fear us is because of our strength, unity and ability to conquer anywhere we go.


https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Esan_people

Buhari the systematic failure. Just watch and see d next level of suffering

And you are not ashamed lying that you drank tea with God. Do you know who God is....u look lie a grain of rice where God is, and he came to your house for a cup of tea. You are not different from the politicians that rigged elections and are proud of it and the other man that raised a man from d dead...all liars

Anthony Joshua is British abi, while this one na Nigerian? Well nothing to say since this place is a dumping ground. But d last time I checked he learnt his manners there

stephleena:
lol..u are really hurt..doh!
In as much as, Christianity is all about love,loving your neighbours as yourself that doesn't mean u should go blind, when you see the truth staring at u...and the truth is these northerners don't want help, they detest
t progress, as long as their brother is in power.. they love power even to the detriment of their well being .

You were part of the people hailing them,calling them "kingmakers".. despite the kings coming from their midst, what do they have to show it?..

Even the Bible say,he that hates work, should not eat.. if they could queue up as early as 2 a.m,to vote,they should have the strength to work..

God bless you. I for like marry you now. Sweet girl.

Nigeria can never get here, bcs we are a failed country. A country where the qualification for political offices is primary certificate because of some certain unproductive people from the North

Sham

Well I pity for Nigerians sha...d next level of suffer, hunger and strife will humble each and every one of you all

They carried out Buhari's order.

Tinubu is making lagosians poorer and brining the true alimanjiri in them

Smelly pussies love evil people. At least he should come and be the president of your koven not Nigeria

Thunda faya

Instead of you to be battle ready for Book Haram...u are battle ready for Elections..

That's what you get in next level

Locomotive Trains in Naija...what happened to bullet trains?

Y u dey advertise am na? The plot was achieved the election was shifted.

Who b did fool?

I'm going to Vote