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Prospertochu:
She abandoned them with me because I wasn't financially buoyant .

The boys are not even living with you but with relatives, that counts against you as you are not in a position to be the primary care giver of the boys.

They are triplets, their separation is not good for their overall development as they have to live and grow under the same roof irrespective of the issues between you and their mother, they are not slices of bread that each of you would choose the ones you want.

Get your state's social care/welfare office involved, to work out an arrangement that would benefit the triplets and that would be in the direction of the 3 children living with their mother while you make provisions for them in terms of feeding, education, healthcare etc and also arrange how often you go visit them, if possible work out time they can come spend some of their school holidays with you and video calling them on WhatsApp must be regular.

In as much as you feel that your mother and sister have been taking good care of the boys, they are just the boys' grandmother and aunt, not their mother who is still alive and not clinically diagnosed to be mentally unstable nor abusing substances.

You both should not allow your egos lead to using your children' lives as a battlefield.

Nice one.

Fearyourcreator:
How many you don help back home and how many mansion you don build

I have never helped anyone back home and nor even built a room in Nigeria.

Fearyourcreator:
How much the people you know there son send give you

I live here in the UK.

Sad,

jaksmillioniar:
Good evening pls I wish to ask Wich African country did snow fall.my wife have been disturbing me for holiday and I think she has bin gud to me.i have 2millions but I know it might not take me to oyibo country.a friend ask for 2.5m but I Neva got dat and I think his 419 to scam me.can I travel abroad with dat money or which African country

The cheapest return flight tickets to South Africa for just one person is about N1.3m.

Based on your narration, i believe she is on Psychotropic medication and a possible issue here is adherence,is she taking the dosage regularly as prescribed?

You and your sisters should work on getting her an adult live-in carer who will oversee her daily functioning, house cleaning, meal preparation, laundry, appointments etc.

She would immensely benefit from talk therapy, try to engage a certified therapist for her because there is a whole lot of psychoanalysis that needs to be done to unpack a lot of things clogging her mind

I hope she gets better managed

Yimu.

The racketeering whey dey take this COP28 do, just for some people to enter Dubai is hilarious, some dey form "self-sponsored delegate" but on government list!

Beautiful.....my retirement city.

He went mining and got struck.

thelegend1:
You people are forgetting the tax that comes with that income, as well as VAT on the items purchased. In reality, that £10 is worth 6£

If you are earning £10 per hour and working 40 hrs in a week, in 4 weeks it will be £1,600

UK govt will not tax the first £1,047.50 because that is your tax-free allowance and would only tax the balance of £552.50.

For that £552.50 the income tax will be £110.35 while the National Insurance will be £66.3, it then means the total tax to pay is £176.65

The estimated take-home pay for the month will be £1,423.35

DaddyJapan:
Thanks for your illuminating post.

Many potential Japarists do not understand the that in-work poverty (or the 'working poor') also exist in the UK.



Source: https://commonslibrary.parliament.uk/research-briefings/cbp-9209

While over 65% of Nigerians are in food insecure households, compare that!

Difrent:
Even though Migration is as old as humanity Nigerians are making it look like the next Gold rush.
In the past 2 years UK has made over 50billion pounds from Nigerians alone to shore up it's ailing economy and to keep the economy running they make sure they are stuck in jobs their own citizens refused to do while paying heavy taxes at the end of the day....Nigeria and Nigerian economy loses

Those I'm mad at are those doctors that got subsidized medical education and ran to UK to practice....why didn't you go to study medicine in UK?....just game our system.
If you want to practice in UK.....study medicine in the UK too.....abi does it make sense to want to be treating whites but use blacks to train
Ungrateful lot

In those 2 years, how much have Nigerians living in the UK remitted back to Nigeria and would still remit for more years to come?

You should be "madder" at Nigerian politicians who also got subsidized education at different levels, they steal public funds and run to the UK anc other Western countries to enjoy world class healthcare services and most times offered by Nigerian healthcare practitioners they frustrated ouf of Nigeria!

I support any healthcare professional who wants to japa, anybody whey no like am make im vex go write JAMB and study the related courses to show us how patriotic he or she is.

musicwriter:
Religion is such a disease that blinds both the intellect and spirit. Otherwise, can you tell me how many nurses or doctors who "went beyond" their terms of engagement have been fired in Nigeria for doing the same?

I have seen some hospitals in Nigeria using "we care but God heals" as their motto!!

The Nurse was not fired in Nigeria, Nigeria is not same as the UK.

The patient she prayed for has every right to sue her and the management of the health facility for traumatizing him/her through the "imposing" a religious activity on him or her. I also work here in the UK in a clinical role, during induction we were taught to keep our religious views, activities and beliefs to ourselves, if a patient requests for any form of religious engagement, the appropriate steps to take.

descarado:
Have no iota of likeness for that city.

Very dirty place.

I do somehow because I had beautiful memories growing up there, experienced the neighbourhood evolving, made lifelong friends, played outdoors to my satisfaction (it inspired my postgraduate's dissertation which focused on children' outdoor play) and it was really colourful but as an adult now, I feel so disconnected whenever I am there.

emorse:
We don't restrict ourselves to our professional roles in Nigeria bro. Even our leaders dey leave problems for God to come solve.

I also work in a clinical setting here in the UK and I am aware of my boundaries no matter how e dey shack me!

slaawomirr:
Damnnn niggar

Same oyinbo brought Christianity but now they are using their common sense

Imagine a Nigerian nurse working in UK was sacked for praying for a patient

This tells you that the British only used Christianity on our fore fathers to get what they want from Africa

She went beyond her terms of engagement, she ought to have restricted herself to her assigned clinical role.

Zonefree:
Sane humans don't live in Lagos.

They do, though I am not a fan of permanently living in Lagos as it no longer holds any allure for me, having been born and raised there.

Zonefree:
1k with enough abeg.

Cheap but I doubt it is Lagos!

Zonefree:
Got 7 tubers at 15k last week.

Not bad. How much is the plantain?

If you are thinking of leaving the school, will you also leave every place of work when you have bullies as co-workers?

1MILLIONLiGHTS:
Those days when they read and study without Google or internet.

Read wetin?

Some back then were good at jumping school fences, beating up teachers and "gbegun" (exam malpractices)

Nice one.

Some of them were probably part of those who fought during inter house sports back in the day! Do Lagos public secondary schools still fight during inter house sports?

Beautiful kitchen, money well spent.

In 2053 if Nigeria still exists then as presently constituted, NFF will owe the coach.

ERCROSS:
Based on personal experience and intuition, I'd say a single father is more likely to raise responsible children than a single mother due to the following reasons:

1. Masculinity and Teenagers: The teenage is one of the most critical period of a child's life when it comes to shaping the child. I can say a child that would turn out to be irresponsible would most likely start this lifestyle during their teenage. The presence of a responsible masculine figure in their life would go a long way in correcting a wayward child as men are more aggressive, dominant, and less emotional.

2. Typing...

Those negatives are not "correctives" but used to instill fear and repression in adolescents as not values that would wholesomely mould the young person and positively help them sail through life better.

There are children living under the same roof with both parents who are emotionally unavailable for their children, who have normalized neglect and abuse of different forms and those children turn out to become dysfunctional adults.

The more responsible and balanced of the two parents, will have a higher chance of raising a wholesome child ....it is not a single father vs single mother debate, it is about the personhood of the parent not the gender.

FuckingMachine:
Now show us how many hours pay go to rent.

As a single guy, 40 hrs of a week pay of minimum wage should take care of the month's rent in many neighbourhoods.

Minimum wage will increase next year's April to £11.44 per hour.

Abracadabra!