₦airaland Forum

Young players in academies in Senegal , now have another opening into European football.

ClearFlair:
Come close I want to tell you something

*farts on his face*

Mrtaye:
And Nigerians deserve the worst

Nigerians are good at surviving bad leaders, less than 8 years remaining to 2031....Nigerians will cope as usual.

bobobenz:
NIGERIANS WHAT DO YOU THINK?

SHOULD THE PRESIDENCY BE SPENDING THAT SORT OF MONEY ON A YATCH

Yes, he should. Nigeria is a rich country and Tinubu deserves the best as the President.

Biodun556:
In psychology good behavior is rewarded and bad behavior is punished.

If you reward bad behavior, it is likely that it will be repeated. That is the story of happy boys.

Those sponsoring Mmesoma education abroad for forging UTME result are rewarding crime that is likely to be repeated because she was rewarded for the previous crime.

What do you know about psychology?

Did you and your lot not reward Tinubu's forging of attending Government College Lagos with the Pesidency and did not consider it a crime or are you struggling with selective amnesia?

You are now thinking in the line of morality because it is Mmesoma? You will be happier if she remains in Nigeria and serve her 3 years ban?

Are you sure you didn't skip your medication this morning, because you wouldn't have been this delusional if you had taken it.

Tax collectors on the prowl....Yarimo, what have you got to say?

OgbeniOja1:
Igbos dey collect woto woto first Niger bridge, now ladipo

Ignorance on display.

richeeyo:
Dino can never be a governor

You that can never be a local government councillor dey also talk.

Brandiebird:
What about the visual and auditory hallucination… I thought maybe schizophrenia? I really feel for the op because he’s obviously in distress but he lives in a society that doesn’t care about mental health!

Yes, the seeing and hearing things. There is so much OP is going through thus my suggestion of him seeing a psychotherapist and through talk therapy, he would be assessed and be mentally prepared for the need to see a psychiatrist.

Sadly, mental health related issue is a taboo territory for many.

I hope it is not also a case of persecutory delusions as I see markers in the story.

Just as you believe in prayers, also do make effort to see a psychotherapist as you have so much to exhale.

Windblown2much:
Still Available

Rate?

She truly went through the forest of a thousand demons.

Journalist marry journalist.

GEJDHERO:
If she goes against his wish dissolve the marriage

Marriage ends, her life continues in a different direction as they work how to co-parent their child.

fykes:
Do you have any idea what paramedics do? I can bet you, if she's not in a busy city like London, Dublin,etc. She will have enough time to take care of her child.

Are you saying paramedics working outside London, don't have much emergencies to deal with?

Who will take care of the child when she is on duty?

GEJDHERO:
op dont allow her go....there is nothing special about working as a MEDIC in the UK.There is the risk of her straying away and also with a 5month old baby .COMON! DAMN D CONSEQUENCES ,She shouldnt go

What is special about working as a MEDIC in Nigeria?

If she has made up her mind to go, OP CAN'T STOP HER.

Cruise777:
Fashola and Wale Tinubu, Tinubu's nephew attended Uniben together and graduated together

Spewing falsehood as FACTS....How can Tinube who is said to be the nephew of Wale Tinubu's father, also be Wale Tinubu's uncle or are they not supposed to be cousins?

The nephew to your father is your cousin, not your Uncle!

blacksam01:
we are not marrying ourselves for economic wellbeing...we are marrying ourselves for love , companion ship and children...it is along the line we plan economic survival of the union


its love and togetherness first before economy of the house

frog12:
it's just madness. people will do silly things for money. just common sense. if i were the husband's relatives I will oppose this plan. but you know how people are wired nowadays, they will be the ones to encourage the wife to go.

What rights does the husband's relatives have over the woman's acceptance of the UK job and eventual relocation?

goody234:
I agree that mother/child bonding is important in the formative years bad decision made here

How would the physical separation for a few months from the mother, adversely affects the baby's growth and development?

OgbeniSir:
Many thanks for donating your wife to us here in the UK. I can assure you that UK boys go yansh am well well before you come join her (if ever that you'll join her). Her kpekus go receive penisilin wey she never ever get from you. If you've never ever sucked her pussi before, UK boys go teach her how it's feels like.
Your name na sorry!


quote author=IkpemhiTG post=126713023]She will be going alone (A hard and tough decision i must confess) leaving the me and my 5 months old baby till when things are soft for us to join her.

I don't know how easy or how soon it will be for her to send invite for us to join her.
How's life in the UK with a single mum?

Who have passed through this situation and how did you people pull through

It seems you are high on cheap weed, you think a paramedic will have the free time to be chasing you guys who are burning out the hours in factories and warehouses when she can comfortably earn double your pay per hour with her free time?

I am creating in a mental image of you and what is forming is comical.

VULCAN:
Best Advice you can get even if you were paying for it!!

I actually get paid to actively listen.

Tinubulaba:
Idiot. Is the absence as a result of death?

Bozo. Will the absence of the mother result to death of the baby, if well taken care of?

goody234:
You obviously don't know anything about the formative years of a child and and mother bond ....a 5 months old child is too young to be left with the father to look after period ...And yes breast milk has more nutrition then all the baby formula in the world

Left with the father with support of female relatives while the mother settles in and work towards getting them over......what is rocket science about that?

casualobserver:
Those of us who have lived in the UK should Stop selling these people fantasies. It may work it may not work but prepare his mind for what could come. There is more to life than just making money. The emotional toll separation can take on a family is real!!!! Furthermore and you know this. His wife is now his boss. It may not sound nice to put it that way but that is the reality. He will be at the beck and call if his wife.

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I now better understand part of what triggers you.

casualobserver:
You are being extreme. You don’t know a woman until she has power over you. Uk is tough place especially for a new settler. It is a regimented environment and you are constantly stressed by bills. You are forever in the work/ bill trap. You dread opening your mail because it’s one bill or another.

It is not the environment where you as a man want to be dependent on your wife. She will start to resent you. Fights will start. She will start alto see normal behaviour as you messing up because the real problem is while the job sounds good on paper, in the cold light of day the pay for a paramedic is not enough.

Where. Is your wife going to stay, where are you going to stay when you get there…room or flat? Rent/ council tax will take half her income, transport/ food and bills will take the rest. She will eventually get frustrated that despite all her work she has no savings left and you are not contributing.

So if you make the mistake of not greeting her properly, you have messed up, She goes to work and comes back and the house is not clean to her taste, you have messed up, even to sleep you are messing up. You are applying for jobs but have not secured One…you have messed up. The baby is crying and you even suggest she looks after the baby after her long shift at work…..yep you’ve messed up. You dare ti ask why she came back late….. you’ve messed up. That’s life in the UK for a man dependent on his wife.

I live in Cambridge, UK with my family, so tell me more about how tough living in the UK is.

Whatever!

MuslimIgbo:
Some of una, na noodles full una head, instead of brain.
How does a man take care of a 5-months old baby?

At least noodles na food but na dust full your head instead of brain.

I didn't know that taking care of a 5 months old baby na serious work, didn't know that childminding is part of what women bring to the table!

samsard:

Next time, don't show off ignorance!

casualobserver:
Issokay, I have said my own. Messing up means not doing what she wants. He should just know he is now the wife.

A Nigerian man was arrested in Birmingham last week by the police for messing up......he was having sex with his wife's 13 year old niece who lived with them and their 2 daughters. I guess na the wife cause am.

samsard:
Let's just safely assume that you're stupid. You're studying child psychology but suggesting a woman leaves a baby that should be breastfeeding with a man.

I will safely assume you struggle with ignorance.

I guess you opted for selective blindness when you skipped reading where I wrote he should get their female relatives involved in the child care while he continues to learn child minding? If the man is a widower, how would he have coped?

Go to Youtube and watch many videos of husbands and wives who left for the UK together leaving behind their months old babies behind in Nigeria with their families and some months later after stabilizing in the UK, go back to Nigeria to get their children and travel back to the UK

By the way, I am not studying Child Psychology.....I have already graduated from my Clinical Child Psychology program and licensed to work with children here in the UK.

casualobserver:
Basically she is his sponsor. If she doesn’t want him to come he stays in Nigeria, if he messes up while in England she can have him deported. So who is husband who is wife?

Why would he want to mess up in England or is it okay to mess up in Nigeria?