₦airaland Forum

Dreament:
after one child she didn't know he was not responsible. She was still there to have more with him. The most useless person is the man that take custody of four children in this 21 century.

Many men who have issues with procreating, traditionally become fathers through this means and his kindred would accept the child/children, the wife is coming with into the marriage.

StJasper:
Whenever a person from another tribe falls victim of your so called culture, you always celebrate and eulogize your culture but whenever its other people's culture, then you will start wailing.

How can someone from "another tribe fall victim" if he had properly married the woman? Do you think it is applicable to only non-igbo men? When you research you will find out that there are many igbo men over the decades who had no paternal custody of their biological children because they did not marry the mothers of their children. In igbo land, bride price is what traditionally makes a man an in-law not being a baby daddy.

madone:
niggar dem feeling out of place in the society these days. Let them be give your female children education, empowerment and employment them still gonna marry we.

They don't need to be married to you, to have access to your sperm (if viable) in order to become pregnant and experience motherhood.

MrDoGood:
Bro relax your mind.
By law, a woman can't claim a child. Except the father choose not to associate with that child.

Get a lawyer to explain better to you.

You're bringing stone age to the future.

Let's say you're ready to marry your baby mama, but her family is against it. What then happens to the child? The family claims it?

A lawyer will explain better to you. Okay?

I guess the Adelekes couldn't afford a lawyer, who could have explained better to them.

[quote author=clappa post=125069554][/quote]Make effort to marry properly and avoid the short cut of cohabitation and having children..

ceejay80s:
All is story...if pikin grow he won't know his father again abi?

No go do baby daddy with the "wrong woman".

MrDoGood:
Your tradition is different from the constitution governing a state.

Except the man don't want issues and choose to let his kids go away

What do you think made Davido to hasten marrying Chioma? Their late son had Adeleke as his surname on paper but traditionally belonged to Chioma's family because the father never married the mother. Davido's family had the wealth to go up to the Supreme court to contest legally but they knew better to respect tradition and did what was necessary before they could bury the boy.

JuanDeDios:
In the man's culture nko?

If a man's culture see no reason to pay bride price, he can't impose same on the woman who comes from where paying bride price is very fundamental and he is free not to involve bride price when his own daughter is getting married.

Ekugbeh:
you think everybody reason like goat

How you reason is so inconsequential to me.

Godoverevery:
So she realized after 22yrs thate the children doesn't belong him


No marriage but she lived with him for good 19yrs.

Nawa oooo.......

Just cohabitation, no Nigerian law regard them as husband and wife.

jeromestarks:
Yes. Yes. Yes. And, again I say Yes.

You are just damn lucky you live in a country that turn a blind eye to your likes, that sexually exploit minors.

jeromestarks:
You see why I say fvck any girl you want but when it comes to marriage, find a virgin woman and marry. Only her can guarantee you a happy home you can return to after work.

Never marry a woman you did not disvirgin, she will never forget her ex. She will fvck him whenever he's in town and you will train his children thinking they're yours.

A woman who has been fvcked and mounted by many men is a curse to her children: born and unborn.

Are you going marry that one who you groomed as a minor and disvirgined?

Babe1994:
not really.. I guess I just feel ashamed of the situation I’m in. But then I ask myself how hard will it be to find someone else.. especially with a child?

Your issue is that, you are least bothered about finding yourself but focusing on finding someone else. If you can't experience happiness being alone with yourself, no other person can fill that in for you.

Work on the core of who you want to be, your present relationship is not helping you to grow as a human being as you both are not good for each other, seeing each other as a stumbling block but still refusing to let go as deep down you both feel too devalued to be eligible for the scrutiny of a new relationship.

First love yourself.

Ahmed4002:
Indeed and full Europe, but you won't notice them.

Just some silence achievers and not noise makers

I agree that Hausas are conservative in nature but full Europe is what I do not agree to, as there are way more Southern Nigerians in Europe than Northern Nigerians as a whole. When it comes to countries like Sudan, Morocco, Egypt, Saudi Arabia, Hausas have their population.

I schooled in Cambridge and still live there, in my mixing up I have only come across 2 Hausas and a Kanuri lady (she graduated last month and now gone back to Nigeria) and they acknowledged they are far less in population in comparison to the Southern region.

Babe1994:
I’m working, I’m doing averagely okay. I can do better which I’m striving towards at the moment. Having a child really set me back but I’m getting there. The most important thing is that I have money coming in every month and I have a very supportive family.

With all you listed, do you still want him to pay your bride price?

From the report they were never married as bride price was never paid. just cohabiting.

In many igbo communities, children of such relationship belong to the woman's family and should she get married to another man, those children will remain with her family of birth while in some igbo communities, the man who eventually pays her bride price becomes the father of those children and bears his name.......ask questions before opting to be a baby daddy.

Youarewelcome:
Can my woman move into my house ?

"My woman" is generic, while "my wife" is a different world altogether.

ahnie:
Garri has bn upgraded to grocery.

Abeg garri is garri!

ahnie:
This beans go sweet to soak grocery wallaihi.

Weldon maam

Soaked grocery!

I guess Nigeria has been blessing every non igbo since 1960......the South East region has the worst roads in Nigeria, every other region outside the South East has world class primary and secondary schools, their hospitals and health centres are of international standards, the South East has the lowest cut off marks as the igbos are the most illiterate in Nigeria, there are no crimes nor killings committed in other parts of Nigeria, every prison in every state in Nigeria are filled with prisoners who are all Igbos because they are the "enemies" of Nigeria.

LocalFARMERS:
Why not? Give it a try.

Too much sugar, honey is preferable.

Crushing is allowed.😆😆😆

Gentlelox:
get out of my trend dummy... f*#l, a guy can't ask a younster "how are you?" "How is ur family?" Don't ever engage my trend in ur life again... Ewu

Gentlelox:
he for lock her and her entire generation up for station...

Make I give you hint of my friend's family for Delta... "Ibru"

Dirty gal wey never baff clean... My friend is just friendly, he had no sexual intentions for d gal. Na aje wey nor dey used to those street life... Small thing dey move am.

He always had it easy right from birth until date... Even his business he runs it by proxy... He just doesn't take anything serious. He imports pharmaceutical stuffs...

Whether he is an Ibru, Akpabio, Otedola, Ibeto, Elumelu or even Dangote .......why was he "demeaning: himself asking a random dirty gal wey never baff clean, "how are you?"

What if her boyfriend (assuming she has one) is one kook in the trenches and jumps on him for invading his babe's personal space?

No dey form boss dey fiddle lighter anyhow, you no know who carry petrol.

IconicR:
You better go to your family section before bottle meet you there

You dey form baddo, you still dey learn work.....my livelihood is majorly tied to relating to folks whey their baddo dey way ahead of yours ....I am imagining the hand whey u go use carry bottle.😆😆😆

IconicR:
What is this one saying?

You are suppose to down your medication with water but you used, grapetiser, see how it is making you look disoriented.😆😆😆😆

IconicR:
These are posts moderators needs to be deleting. It's not everything you see you bring on social media platform. We have to protect the image of Nigeria to the outside world.

Your hypocrisy from your days as Iyaebe, is yet to abate.....I certainly would love to study the neuroimage of your brain 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Acidosis:
Shipping ke

Yes nah., abi are you expecting her to start her marital life taking care of 3 children without first enjoying living alone with her husband?

At this phase of your life, you are not good for marriage!

It is insanity to expect those soldiers to hand back power to the ousted President, best they can do is to negotiate his exile.

Praxis758:
The DSS is the equivalent of FBI in the US, any individual who would not pass FBI screening for a major public office will not be appointed by the US president.

The screening by the DSS should be final and supreme over politicking, this will embolden our and other institutions of the state to be independent. It will also send a strong message to our big men that no individual is bigger that our laws and state.

Which DSS?

Did DSS not clear a former minister of finance, who investigative journalism later busted her fake certificate?

Mountbatten:
You think immigration wouldn't find out eh? So many stupid people on here lol!

Which immigration? It clearly shows you don't even have an international passport, reason you think marital status is part of details on the data page! Keep showing off your ignorance.