₦airaland Forum

Sad.

Gaps in the story, another tales by moonlight.

Seeing messiah complex strewn all over the story.

Gaps in the story, another tales by moonlight.

Seeing messiah complex strewn all over the story.

Heterodox:
What does it matter, when the men bear burden alone.


Whether they gamble it away or multiply it, the husband benefits nothing from it. Mostly.

It matters because having a spouse who gambles, is like living with a thief..... your peace of mind is affected as you can't trust them.

Ubty22:
Hello nairalanders so last year October I applied for volunteer job with UNICEF /NPC and after the screening we were selected for the job.
We were told that we would be given transport fare and data
The job the description was to go in the villages and register children from five years and below for free birth certificate
We started the job with much passion and enthusiasm even when the transport they promise us was no where to be found
Now my bone of contention is since last year we finish the job no payment has been made to us I wonder if it's like this every where please if you have any experience please let us know we are really feeling bad as we all spent money

It is not like this everywhere, someone/some people along the line have misappropriated the funds meant for you guys.

You and your colleagues should threaten to take your grievances to social media, detailing the exploitation while copying UNICEF and I believe those thieving staff in NPC would feel threatened because it would grossly affect subsequent funding from UNICEF.

Heterodox:
Next time you lots appreciate a good man better.

You've only been a man for a little period of time and you're complaining.


This is what most men go through, the burden they bare. And they don't complain as much.

While those men are bearing the burden, are their wives gambling away?

millionboi:
hahahaha betting is not a mental disorder na haba,but in his own case of using his salary to bet,is too bad.

It is. Mental health disorder is not reflective only on those who walk around psychotic, dirty, disheveled etc.

As long as Gambling disorder is classified in the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), it is a mental health disorder.

There are therapists who go on to specialize in gambling disorder in order to assist those struggling with obsessive gambling.

Having a gambler in a home, is a living nightmare.

Just make sure no more pregnancy, don't give him any money no matter the disguise, don't serve him food if he didn't drop money for feeding the family . I hope his family of birth are aware of this mental disorder.

Ignore him when he adopts malice as a means to emotionally blackmail you, it is expected of such addicts.

Nice one.

Cypress042:
You can open a new thread and mention me, we're deviating.

No, this is my last post on that here.

Cypress042:
It's a very simple thing to say, but have you ever wondered why the nigga walked out? don't draw to conclusion base on what your mum told you man

You can "walk out of the life" of the mother of your child, but your child?.....There is no story that can rationalize non contact or non provision for your child.....I guess such men are #teammychildwilllookforme.

Richy4:

Reason I laugh when I read here, suggestions by some Nairalander that if a woman's family is proving difficult regarding marital rites, the guy should sharply impregnate the lady, that would force the lady's family to agree to his terms, sha no be for my side....no pikin is a "bastard".

Yes, the earliest picture is the one he was carrying me as a 3 month old baby and handing me over to the Priest for Baptism, that picture melts my heart.

Richy4:

So Abuja marriage has consequences

At least from my own part of the world, traditionally no room for baby mama, the child belongs to the man who married the mother or bears the name of his/her maternal grandfather. The girl will be married off from her grandfather's home while the boy, will also be eligible to inherit land within the family.....End of Discussion.

Richy4:

Yea.. I have heard something like that in one of the Nigerian movies we have watched some time ago..I thought that it was only a movie, I never knew it was real

It is a fact. Though a painful reference, Davido had to bow to tradition by hastening Chioma's bride price in order to bury their son

Reason it is important for those who are #team baby daddy, to investigate where their intended babymama is from before setting out on a fruitless journey.

Richy4:

The vibes he will create between those couple will be horrible to imagine..
And in a case it turns out that the child was not his, he would have succeeded in indirectly reporting the woman to the husband that the wife was two timing him those days... While his wife might forgive him, Rita's husband might not..

Where I come from, even if the DNA results shows that OP (though a fake story) is the biological father, he can't claim the child, even if the marriage of the woman in question ends with the husband and he moves on, the child will bear the maternal grandfather's name, be it male or female.

Obi kererenke Obi, is a national classic victory song, across generations, not whiff of the moment ...oya stretch out those leprous hands to whip the oraimo, person whey I know no weda e don see food chop today before you faint, say u want whip somebody.

Ttalk:
They were crying on social media claiming Buhari has abandoned Tinubu, I wonder what they are going to say now that Buhari is in the state of the main opposition

When we say Obidients are just internet enthusiast that only come online to suppress their depression, people would say we are hard on them.

How can Obi who doesn't have one poster from Lokoja to Lagos win election in Nigeria?

Hope Buhari would campaign across the country, showcasing how he has bettered the lives of overwhelming majority of Nigerians since 2015.

Yes, my present job.

LocalStandard1:
Madam calm down, haba! I am listening. Don't worry, this is a faceless Forum and I am a good listener, I also understand things well.

And don't assume my asking in a different light. I am not trying to get anything, I just think you too will be better talking. And I love a good gist.

I assume nothing. Abeg no use me do "practice of counselling" .

One of the key rules about counseling/therapy is "do not insist", let the other person decide whether to engage or not and what to talk or not talk about.

I listen and talk for a living, I don't need to burn energy here.

LocalStandard1:
You know my problem with you personally is you're too serious. Do I have to be one to ask simple valid question? Or do I need to have something to give to you to get a gist from you ona faceless forum?

Come on madam, tell me. You will be happy we started this conversation.

Like I said earlier, I am having no conversation with you about my childhood, to what end? If I need to have a talk about it, I will so discuss it with someone who have been trained in active listening and I am at ease with.

Sighs....

LocalStandard1:
Tell me pls, I want to know.

You are neither my confessor nor my therapist, so I am not obligated to disclosure.

LocalStandard1:
Sorry for quotating you but Mindblog is that you? You have such a wonderful father and childhood then what went wrong?

What do you think went wrong?

Conversational skills....which motivated my final career path. My Papa sabi start and sustain conversations so easily!

grandlexuz:
Impressive and intelligent write up. When are we getting married?

Who supplies your weed?

Stillwhites:
Two days ago I returned from work earlier than usual just to meet my wife with a young guy romancing and naked on the couch in the sitting room. I threatened to kill the guy but before I returned from the kitchen he had ran away. My wife pleaded and vowed never to repeat same. After family intervention, I decided to let her stay.

I pretended to have travelled to Abuja on Saturday but returned this morning and met her with the same guy in the visitor's room, he escaped thru the window.
I'm fed up with marriage. She must leave this time around.


Seun Mynd44 nlfpmod

I love women and I can't deny that fact. I need mummy to give birth to a girl child so we can be holding our meetings and sharing ideas. I HATE being mummy's only child. I Just need a sister by all means...Sep 20, 2022

I'm a young guy who is seriously in need of a woman for a serious relationship. I don't mind the age or the marrital status, as long as you can be loyal to me, dm me or better yet call me on 070xxxxxxxxxx....... Sep 29, 2022

As at September, 2022 you were single but your January 1st thread you posted the below that made front page:

It's getting to a year now that my wife began starving me of sex. Honestly I can count how many times I sexed my wife in the last two months and in most cases I initiate the engagement.

Go do something reasonable with your life and stop these tales by moonlight.

Tinubu said it was an insult to mention Obi's name, weeks later he is now leading the choir in chanting Obi's name at every rally instead of showingg how APC has positively transformed Nigeria's economy in the almost 8 years in government. .....

Ikpaitid:
Obi is a Biafran not a Nigerian only a Nigerian can be president of Nigeria.

And Nigeria's INEC cleared him to run with a Biafran passport.

osato45:
anita get a job because if you have a job you would worry less about his behaviour, give him a time frame to come around, if he doesn't walk away. He clearly doesn't love you or you are constantly doing things he dislikes.

Have you done both white wedding and traditional wedding?

Clearly for you to consider cheating it means that ex of yours you are considering given him green light?

You are playing with fire!!! I am sure where you are from if a married woman cheats you know what happens to the man, he would die

If a married man cheats, the wife will not die but when a marred woman cheats, the husband dies.....is it how easy a husband's life is in the hands of the wife, to decide if she wants him dead or not?

Gadafii:
Our mothers were married as virgin, why should man marry a non virgin that’s still a liability?

Our mothers didn’t sleep around sampling different sizes and shapes of dicks like these new breed of women we have now, that’s why we have cases of paternity fraud, most men are bringing up children that are not there’s, all in the name of one stupid arrangement called marriage

Who is the first documented person in history that attempted paternity fraud?

@plaindealer, that can not mention Tinubu's biological father's name nor the primary school Tinubu attended or why not even a single Nigerian has come out to say he/she was Tinubu's classmate in either primary or secondary school he attended in Nigeria but is always busy creating threads and writing epistles on Peter Obi in order to be assured of his monthly stipends.....what a life!