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Even at his age, he remembers the secondary school he attended, have school mates and still participating in the activities of old boys association unlike someone. .

Death threats from a spouse should NEVER be taken lightly.

onoja12:
She done use him money set up business,done dey nack small boy ,now she won form independent woman.
If its me ,just drop my children ,because no way in hell will I allow a single woman raise my children.after all they are teenagers,she want the children,so she still has atm if all goes bad.

The children belong to you the father and her, the mother. If the marriage ends she becomes a single mother, you become a single father and you both co-parent.

GboyegaD:
This is a joke right? If she has a business why will anyone expect the financial bulk to be on the man alone?

In the post I quoted where the writer wrote 50/50 contribution gives a woman a chance to have custody and that is not so, thus the text you bolden.

In Lagos state, even you are just a baby daddy the court will grant judgement the man pay for child's school fees, medical bills, feeding and clothing, the woman takes care of accommodation of she and the child, which most times is with her family.

Trapnews:
The situation can still.be managed but it is clear that this one has refused to understand what will happen to the kids, she is just concerned about herself, why is it hard for women to consider children when taking their selfish decisions? Because of preeq, you wan leave your children. May God judge you and your cousin, every marriage get.
their challenge, una dey look.for perfect marriage, nonsense!

She is not leaving her children, she wants to separate and co-parent with their father.

Reading....

Thermodynamics:
True, but on a wider scale most rich men value and stay with the woman who stood by them during hard times and most rich men do not value the women they met after they became rich.

It's highly possible that the husband was the one who opened the business for the woman the OP is talking about.

In your personal estimation, what is the percentage of those husbands who remain only with that wife that was there from the onset?

neonly:
U mean u want yur cousins or whatever to have asset to d man money tru (child keeping)
Thief
See una never jam correct mad man u and yur whatever rubbish

So a man providing for his own children after separation/divorce is criminal?

akpunda86:
Avoid stories that touch the heart and u think the man have time 4 court cases hahaha,have u seen where kids were all sent out and not even the country d woman will know ,some times silence is best answer ,a woman that opens her mouth and say I want to divorce or separate can still kill.Have u heard of sudden ,when love dies craziness starts,either she take the kids and run away or sudden comes and kids stay with dad I heard oga is VIOLENT.let it not to to VAWLUENCE.

Even Dangote that have no time for court cases, know why he has lawyers on his payroll.

So a man who opens his mouth and say he wants divorce or separation can not kill?

The man get money and connections pass the sons of Babaginda, Atiku etc whey their ex-wives finally got custody of the children from their marriage?

Thermodynamics:
Na them, I hate broke men, I can't date and build with a broke man, I want an already made man so I can leach on his wealth. How do you expect the rich man to love and trust you when he know you came for the money. She should carry her cross.

Which cross? She say she no wan do again and not begging for financial assistance.

Let us not give the impression that "broke men" make the "perfect husband" . A "broke man" can also be irresponsible, some "broke men" when they finally hit it big, tend to discard their wives who were there for them when they were at their lowest and upgrade to women who would dare not even look at them when they were broke.

akpunda86:
Successful business from his money ,if I check well must be from an average family then having successfully established herself well she wants a divorce.
She had already paid for a �,wow well planned and soon she will join club of single mums looking for same dick.
Well for 12 years you said she endured and at the eleventh hour her eyes opened,I tell you the story is not complete,u or she said it to favour her.
Stories like this don't end well wish her good [b]but if she wants to go let her leave the kids [/b]and go dragging it with him with her successful business money she stole from him will dwindle her.
Bros she insists,it never ends well.

Why should she leave the kids when she is also their biological mother just as the man is their father unless it is proven otherwise.

Separation does not only mean the woman having sole custody but can mean sharing custody with the father as agreed by both parties and documented by their lawyers.

“We formed this party to rescue the people and their collective prosperity from the avarice and greed of an elite that will devour the nation’s God-given endowment"..........8 years later.

FreeStuffsNG:
While they are wasting away under the yoke of politics of envy, lies, ignorance, hate and bigotry, Asiwaju consolidates in his strong APC dominated north on the same day Prof Soludo is replacing all the major billboards and posters of lp in Anambra with APGA after pulling the biggest crowd ever in the South East for APGA on Friday in Anambra.

Top 10 states by PVC registrations: Listed below are the top ten Nigerian states where many of the 93,469,008 registered voters are –


Lagos: 7,060,195

Kano: 5,921,370

Kaduna: 4,335,208

Rivers: 3,537,190

Katsina: 3,4516,719

Oyo: 3,276,765

Bauchi: 2,749,268

Plateau: 2,789,528

Benue: 2,777,727

Niger: 2,698,344

Asiwaju lokan, e lo sempe eyin alaimokan!

Don't forget that not all those millions of registrants belong to the same ethnic groupings of the host state, they are not homogeneous....so let us not get it twisted.

HudaIna:
What ever we don’t know! LOL! This is a friend of a kinda story… right? We don’t know the deeds!

Well everything should be laid bare before the judge..... what the husband knows, what the wife knows and what the children knows in order to reach a judgement that is of the best interest of the overall wellbeing of the children.

Lest I forget, at least for Lagos State the woman do not need to prove she can pay towards their education and living 50/50 in a standard that is acceptable for these children for her to have a fighting chance of shared custody rather the financial bulk is on their father.

HudaIna:
With all honesty if the mum can hold her own and contribute to the children’s welfare then she has a fighting chance because her children are at an age where the father can also lay claim. If she can pay towards their education and living 50/50 in a standard that is acceptable for these children then she has a fighting chance. But If the father wants to show her something and he can prove certain things then she has a fight on her hands. I fear niqqers with money when it comes to kids!

Prove things like what?

Socratiz:
She doesn't need a lawyer especially because this is happening in Lagos state.

There is a Lagos State Agency she can contact. The government will intervene and the man will not be able to harass her unless he wants he wants to taste prison beans.

I am not sure whether the information should be shared on a public forum like this.

You can send me a mail so that I give you the necessary information

Share the information on this forum since it is a State's agency so that others can also benefit, just as we have the Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team, which is an Agency of the Lagos State Government.

Upgrade is the focus

ColdHunter:
Yes he is rich. But she isnt exactly struggling too as she can afford a good lawyer. Secondly, she isnt really looking for full custody as she wants him to be a full part of their lives. I'm basically wondering if there are precautionary measures she needs to take before officially serving him

Let her get the services of a good family lawyer, who would give her sound counsel while she prepares herself for co-parenting.

Michelle55:
This one is sharing kpekus like biscuits, now she's out of job
I hope her partners in crime would assist her in getting another job so as to continue from where they stopped.

They were also dismissed except for 2 that was suspended.

Criminal elements wasting human lives all over the Country and it is a non-issue for those in Power.

Requiescat in pace, Padre..

Wrong, that should be personal and by the way, God is not about our money but the heart with which it was given.

kazyhm:
You can ask amadioha

His phone number, please

Eyah.

He is back.

I don't tithe but do put in my offertory and offer some time and skills to the Church.

May their souls rest in peace.

yarimo:
Mumu man going to London on Monday and ordinary rallies he can't do on Monday in any part of south east to show his popularity

E dey pain dem

I trust Obi not to be scared of answering questions directed at him, like some people who needed others to answer on their behalf to avoid showcasing cognitive decline.

Banbutton:
The boy is going to London fro treatmentand he refused to pay doctors salary for 13months in Anambra.
But his foolish and gullible followers will say he needs rest cos he's human

APC and PDP knows about Obi's medical treatment abroad and they have not used it against him?. ... you really must be high on something illegal.

Well captured.

funshint:
Why will you risk your life because of a politician?

He is not risking his life because of a politician, he is a palm wine tapper and climbs many Palm trees daily to tap palm wine or harvest palm fruits, only few are skilled in that.

So going up there to paste the posters, is a walk in the park for him.

kazyhm:
Something that is baffling about men and women is that.....women do many wrong thing unintentional while men are very intentional about their acts... either wrong or right.....

I had similar issue some times in the past when my child was about six months old.....my wife mistakingly gave my daughter a wrong drug that would have taken her life.....but I never read any meaning to the mistake. for the fact that she (my wife) is a medical practitioner..such mistake shouldn't have come from her....I drove to all the pharmacies in my area looking a drug my wife said would neutralize the drug in her system........thank God I got an alternative drug (can't remember the name now) and she survived it.....

I came back from work one evening; about two months after the drug incident, my wife was in the kitchen so I lifted my daughter up to play with her, as she heard my voice, my wife told me her (my daughter) food is on the dining, I got to the dinning and saw two feeders with food, I took one and started feeding my daughter. My wife came out of the kitchen to the dinning, on siting the feeder left on the dining table, she just started shouting that I have poison my own daughter.....before I could say jack Robinson, everyone in the quarters are in my house...

When I was query her if she put poison in one of the feeder, she said no but that the feeder I picked was the one she make in the morning before leaving for work......and because of that it has become harmful......


Since this incident, I have been very wary of her......such accusation from my own wife


Reading unnecessary meaning to innocent act and blowing of false alarm......for what gain ?

Anyway, I started showing her attitude, and counting every little misdeed of hers......infact, at some point she accused me of having mood swing....I ignore her totally..........the marriage was becoming one kind, she then started querying me about what the problem was........anyway, she paid for that singular act of stupidness and I believe she will never try that with me next time, we're good now.

So how does what you narrated relate to this thread?

krianmar:
I agree with all of them should hang... but some cases you dont know and try to understand if this man did this intentionally or without any bad intention as he says... its no easy. You cant also hang unless you are sure.

When it comes to child safety around anything sexual, there is nothing like weighing the intentionality or bad intention, he is just "lucky " that he is in Nigeria.