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It is not easy settling in as an international student, especially when struggling financially as earning less than £240 weekly when one strictly adhere to the 20hrs per week work rule,

IkeIgboNile:
Let's assume the story is true. Judging from the comments here, most people think he's weak and a joke and others think it's false.
Men are now shamed whenever they speak out while women are supported. Many married men are depressed and can't speak up because they'll be seen as weak and "not man enough".

It is the menfolk that should lead in normalizing men being more verbal about what they are going through without being shamed by fellow men.

More women experience suicidal ideation and attempt suicide than men but more men die by suicide than women, more women live with HIV than men but more men than of its complications than women....... something is certainly amiss.

Things don happen for love though I have my doubts about the story..

Which ban? Low self-esteem!

What of Indians whey no send anybody when it comes to their meals, dem go microwave am at work and everyone gets used to it.

In such situation, the woman is very much justified moving on with her life. The husband should hire a care assistant....reaping what is sown.

Hmm....

That would be a waste of public funds.

Blessedmercy8:
God bless you. Exactly what i expected from them wey claim Methuselah abroad but I think they are angry because more people have joined them there reducing some of the benefits they were enjoying before now ( according to a YouTuber) and this woman come dey open their yansh join na him make egbon mindlog just dey rant up and down.

No near me o. I no get strength to argue. E be like say kor kor don teach you.

What benefits are Nigerians in particular enjoying from the UK govt especially those on the student visa route when on the visa , it is clearly written " no recourse to public funds" even those who went with kids are warned not to allow their kids eat free food in school as it would after their Visa after studies. The healthcare the Nigerian students are benefitting from in the UK, is the almost one million naira they compulsorily paid to the UK government before they could pay for their UK visa.

I have stated along in different that no amount of lamentations on YouTube videos of how abroad is rough would stop Nigerians from migrating, whoever has legitimate means to relocate should do so, enough of all these regrets videos that is the in thing especially among recent Nigerian students in the UK for the sole purpose of generating traffic.

There are many opportunities their YouTube channels can highlight e.g getting better paying jobs even as a student and converting from part time jobs to full time jobs even as an international student, supermarkets and time in the evenings one can buy food stuff almost 20% of the original prices etc, how to get free household items without paying anyone and can go to the extent of shipping good quality fairly used stuff to Nigeria etc these things to share with Nigerians, not only dire weather.

Sarang:
Dude just stfu he is right! You should know better ffs!

TheChameleon:
No wonder you spend your life abusing Tinubu and Yoruba who will ALWAYS be superior to you.

Your pops was a deadbeat shouldn't make you a coward keyboard warrior nah.

I advise when you go for your next appointment, make sure you inform the Psychiatrist that his last prescription has not been good on you.

Freethinker87:
I expect someone who lives abroad and has faced harsh weather conditions to at least sympathize with new entrants. You come off as arrogant and insensitive, which is not a good look for someone who has been opportune to get a UK education. I also studied in the UK, but I understand that going to the UK as a teenager for studies and Japa-ing as an adult is a different kettle of fish.

As a teenager on a diverse campus, one can easily mingle and make friends at SA events, clubs and society, and from other social interactions on campus. However, leaving everything behind in Nigeria as an adult; friends, family, associates and hobbies, to travel to an unknown place to start life afresh is deeply depressing and lonely.

You in particular should know that the extreme weather up North is not sjomething Nigerians are used to. So When they cry out, you're supposed to show empathy and not ask them to "return to Nigeria if they don't like it there". That's unbecoming of someone who lives in the most educated city in the UK.

I left Nigeria, a full blown adult..... Amongst the places I worked in was in South Sudan, way more extreme weather-wise coupled with the intense gun fighting, I didn't come online to lament because I was not kidnapped in Nigeria and dumped in South Sudan!

Have you asked, why the surge of YouTube videos on lamentations of relocating to the UK? They are so many things they can create content around that can still drive traffic to their YouTube channels, such as feeding way cheaper through Morrissons night clearance etc.

madridguy:
E sure me die na another man pickin they carry come give this man. Your own blood will never write something like this.

Make God no allow us born our enemy as child.

You are in denial.

The present generation and the future ones, are becoming more daring and less comfortable with "eye service" and cover ups.

The emotional blackmail the society has been using to subsidize deadbeat parents is fast losing its grip on children of neglectful parents.

Publicly treating deadbeat parents mess ups is becoming the new cool.

For those conversant with the bible: Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.....Col. 3:21

Mozegee:
Idiot listen to what she is saying and counter if she is saying the truth or not.

In your mind, you dey insult me.

Freethinker87:
You're very stupid! It's always the lot of you who have never left their little villages that are the most opinionated when a suffering Nigerian cry out from the diaspora. I doubt you watched the video, you probably don't have data, because if you do you wouldn't be saying "Come back home if you don't like it there" as if living in the UK is some sort of privilege when in actual fact it's a punishment.

You're not even blaming the politicians who made the living situation in the country so unbearable that her citizens now consider living in sub zero degree as an alternative.

If I check, you're another agbadorian preparing to vote another disaster, just so that you can marinate yourself in the suffering you love so much, cos you don't know any other way to live.

I left Nigeria when Jonathan was still President, so calm your temper no be me foist APC on you

Living in the UK is not punishment because I studied, live and work here in Cambridge.

A Nigerian abroad who feels he/she is not resilient enough to deal with the reality of the host country has an option of going back to Nigeria, if it represents less suffering.

Of all the foreign countries I have lived in, I have never for once wailed about the "sufferings " there, na me apply for visa and paid for ticket as I wasn't kidnapped from Nigeria and woke up there.

onuman:
Can't continue to use one Nigeria with its failed/dysfunctional political system and leadership to hinder the progress of some Nigeria's groups, they left Nigeria, grew old abroad, now yearn to return home; yet ethno-religious bigots in Nigeria still strive to hold on to power to sustain the dysfunctional political system.
Now you want to gag those complaining from abroad.

If they are complaining from abroad what do you want those living in grinding poverty in Nigeria to do?

As e bad reach, even if she dey minimum wage job, she is at least sure of £9.50 per hour, she is sure of steady power, gas and water if she up to date with her bills.

I have worked as a Night Support worker in a Children residential home that had only a 15 year old in residence. Mine was to show up at 7p.m at the home, one of the 2 day shift workers hands over to me the necessary paperwork and tour round the house to ensure it is clean at the time of handover, goes home while the second day staff goes to bed (within the house) at 9p.m for paid sleep in (£45) till 8a.m. While after handover at past 7, I go to the kitchen to microwave my supper reserved for me by the day staff (as I am entitled to supper and breakfast). I watch Netflix with the young person in the lounge till 10p.m time for his bed time. I continue watching to keep awake , intermittently going to make tea and snacks to keep me warm then go on my laptop to do some online trainings paid for by the company regarding children care.

Shift ends the next morning 8.00, 13hrs @£10.50/hr..... should I have created a video then , complaining how UK has been harsh on me?

onuman:
Let her relocate to Nigeria to do what? In Nigeria where ethno-religious bigots choose the worst of leaders to lead them and others in the one Nigeria.

Then she should quietly face her life in the UK, complaining on YouTube channels about relocation to UK is now the new wave of the moment, content- wise.

maasoap:
You think she was catching fun, right? Japa mentality don affect your brain.

No be same UK, I dey? Make she calm down and face front, will it stop more Nigerians from relocating?

eziemich:
Classified urchin

Eyah, it seems you are hallucinating.

DivinegiftofGod:
I'm not talking about the nature of job here. I'm talking about suffering in the harsh weather.

I have previously worked in South Sudan, personally the harshness of UK's cold is way better than the harshness of South Sudan's scorching sun at least I get to dress appropriately for the cold, have heating in the car and at home,,,,,,,,,but South Sudan was hell despite the good pay.

DivinegiftofGod:
Oga, calm down.
Not everyone knows how to pretend and suffer in silence.

Pretend and suffer in silence? when I am not doing minimum wage job nor have to stand long hours in factories and warehouses even though I am not demeaning those doing them because it is honest work and paying their bills.

LordErrk:
Do you even understand the context of the post? If Nigeria was good, a lot of people won't need to travel out. Do you understand now?

I "over understand" because I live and work in the same UK. The surge in Youtube channels on lamentations of some Nigerians especially those who recently moved to the UK is becoming irritating!

Flesh10:
You are stupid. People like you are the ones that encourage these men

Encourage which men?

Is the video or the weather going to stop people from relocating from Nigeria?

Such videos have become the new Youtube niche for recent Nigerian immigrants in the UK, abeg make we hear word.

I am in the UK with her and I dey face my front.

Favourchris:
Oooh will u pls shut up…. If Nigeria is good .. she won’t be there.

Most of u NLers are between 18 and 20. So u still suck from u parents, is the reason most of u lack brain

Uncle calm down, I dey the same UK and facing the same weather.....If I can't deal I can always go back to Nigeria, no be by force to stay Uk and so enough of whining while living abroad!

FOOTSOLDIER1:
I'm back from a successful fresh 14 days ban

NL mods be doing too much. You no be God oh


Please, keep your comments brief and meaningful and avoid writing "am" instead of "I'm"

...avoid writing "am" instead of "I'm"

At least his "process" is verifiable from his childhood as against someone whose childhood is in the dark and felt comfortable stealing someone's else childhood picture to make it his own.

Good initiative.

Chris2863:
Op, don’t take her threats for granted. These daughters of jezebel can be something else. If you can get proofs, arrest and make her write undertaking. Let’s start from there!


This kind of stuff happened to my real gee and the outcome was really scary

What happened to him?

E reach.

DivinegiftofGod:
That is why she's cursing them because they didn't make the country conducive for her to stay, which is why going back is out of it and she's now having to endure the cold which could eventually lead to her death as a result of their failure to do the needful.

It wouldn't lead to her death, if she takes appropriate measures, Nigerians who were born and raised in Nigeria have been living in the UK for decades and surviving the winter over the years.

obiekunie01:
By their comments you will know them!

useless rotten urchinuses!

funny thing is the f00ls above are still residing in[b] maroko [/b]- drinking, eating and shitting in the same water they drink from the most polluted part of the Atlantic, surving on 0-1-0 eating only ewa agoyin once a day then on sallah or christmas they will be opportune to eat agbado and cassava and yet they have the temerity to insult someone feeling anger against the numerous nigerian governments that subjected people like them to the penury they are living in.

STOCHOLM IS A TERRIBLE THING!

No be only Stockholm na Stockfish!

Where was the insult? In your little mind, anyone who doesn't share your line of thought lives in "Maroko" abi na Makoko you wan type.

I repeat, she can always go back to Nigeria no be by force to stay UK.

DivinegiftofGod:
You have experienced the that kind of cold that is why you're talking this way.

Do you know what it feels like living inside the freezer? Someone said she can't wears nothing less than seven clothings everyday before she can go to work yet the cold is still biting.
Can you be doing that stress everyday? How many clothes do you even have to be changing with seven everyday.?

We always think its better at the other side..

Bottom line is that she has to endure or take a flight back to Nigeria.

Adesuwag:
Should a female be one minute less of a mother, the world will growl at her. A man be deadbeat all he wants.. no one gives a sh!!t.
I hope you’re repaying your mother well for being the Abled parent. And promise yourself to do better for your children cos Black Males are culturally absentee father.

Hmm.....deep.

Make she relocate back to Nigeria, she wouldn't need visa for that .