₦airaland Forum

naptu2:
Amina Mohammed did not just surface as Nigeria's minister of the environment.


She was working with the United Nations on their Millenium Development Goals project when President Olusegun Obasanjo brought her back to Nigeria to be his special assistant on Millenium Development Goals.

At that time President Obasanjo was head hunting certain Nigerians that lived abroad, e.g. Dr Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Professor Charles Soludo and Ambassador Oluyemi Adeniji. Amina was one of the people that he brought back to Nigeria.


Part of her job then was to use some of the money that we saved from debt forgiveness to work on rural development, girl child education, etc.

At that time her name was Amina Az Zubair. I don't know why it changed.


She went back to working with the United Nations, she lectured at Columbia University and she also worked with the Gates Foundation after Obasanjo left office.

President Buhari brought her back again to work as minister of the environment before the UN took her again.

Good, she has an impressive work history.

May he be found in good health.

vickydevoka:
u Don't get it. he served his brother n his brother must settle him

OP is a student of Ebonyi State University going by his other thread.

On what legal basis is the mistress fighting to stay in the house?

BuddhaPalm:
She must have shown the man pepper in the US before the guy escape come naija.

Escape to embrace who in naija?

The property in contention is documented do have the woman's name on it thus her boldness in throwing out the mistress from the property.

The fact is, that marriage has ended and the man should properly tidy up things in terms of divorce, co-parenting, shared properties etc then move on with his life with who so ever he wishes to.

dominique:
See grown ass women dropping f-words like street thugs, no be small thing o. See as the man gentle, he must be telling himself I don buy market o

What is making these side chicks so bold and daring these days? Is it the kanyamata mata packages they spend a fortune on to use to trap men? See this one dragging property with the real owner even threatening to arrest her on top her house. Funniest part was when she called a US trained and based lawyer an illiterate , na ment abi na craze

Someone who has been practicing law in the US, not our local charge and bail lawyer o, is who the mistress is calling an illiterate!

adadike:
All I see are two psychiatric patients

So if they are taken to a psychiatric facility, what would be said they are sick of?

Decades later, he would then expect his now little children to be more understanding and forgive and forget.

But PMB's aides would say food items are becoming cheaper by the day.

IT

If with the spate of the bandits induced insecurity is a reflection of something is being done..... it is scary!

tensazangetsu20:
Actually, most western countries only smile at people in the sciences. It is what it is.

Also Psychology which is social science. For example, graduate in Nigeria with a minimum of 2.1 in Psychology and apply to obtain UK's Graduate membership of the British Psychological Society (that designates one as an Assistant Psychology by UK standard), do a one year masters in a subfield that would get you a job upon graduation especially in mental health facilities where one can work part time even while studying. Switching to Ireland also becomes an easier option.

BigDick70inch:
White Knight Aka simp......
Did the wife shared in the brothers suffering while growing up

If the guys.......did jux that u wud have said another thing

Why should a wife share in the man's "suffering" while growing up, was she not also growing up with her own family?

He cannot marry his sisters or female cousins who probably shared in his suffering while growing up.

Yusufisraelj:
As simple as ABC

By the way OP they need privacy, I hope you know?

The wife did wrong throwing his things out, should have waited for the husband to come home.

Sadly, a good number of Nigerians were socialized into seeing nothing wrong in breaching the privacy a married couple should enjoy. There is nothing wrong in hosting a third party but with an adult going on to live for months on end with the couple tend to generate conflicts.

Sighs.....Since you said you were involved in the acquisition of everything your brother owns as you both struggled for it, then it is an indication you can earn.......go rent your own space though still wondering how one who is still an undergraduate of Ebonyi State University was involved in acquiring all that is older married brother owns.

A married brother's house is NOT a family house where siblings and cousins can cruise in and out. It is the home of his wife and their children, so any other person staying there is a guest and must respect boundaries.

We see many justifying that they "suffered" with their brother while growing up. The question would be, was the woman not also growing up with her own siblings? Since a man cannot marry his sister because she was in the picture when he had "nothing", so nah calming down things.

Bestty101:
I'm not even sure the guy is ready to even marry within the next 5 years. If I reach there this evening Sha...

How old is the guy?

majorbravo:
I honestly don’t think he was referring to a catholic priesthood. He mentioned visiting a spiritualist who warned him about women (most likely some prophet in a bush or riverside). He also says something about women not entering certain places with menstrual blood (which suggests Old Testament beliefs).
I’d say he most likely wanted to be a chief priest of some sort or white garment prophet.

Chief Priest!

Greyworld:
Bros I insist that guy is mental but not just roaming yet. His statements lacks logic.

God rejected him as a priest before his mission began. I sent my first 18years of my life Rev. sisters and priest. Even the strictest of them all Never had such hateful tendencies. Not even the former Rector at the minor seminary.

From the point of mental health, I feel for him because living with Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder is draining but can be managed when professional help is sought.

Greyworld:
No offence but that dude sounds evil demented and cursed. You can't hate your brother's wife and still live with them.

To imagine he said he wanted to be a priest "off" me. No wonder God rejected him.

He would not have made it to the Priesthood even if he had managed to scale through to get admitted, he would likely drop off by his second year in Philosophy (with about 7-8years more to go before being ordained a Priest) because hating sex and women is not the prerequisite of Priestly vocation.

Hmm...not surprised.

The court choosing the hospital where the DNA test should be done and have the results sent directly to the court is a good way to go.

OP forgot he is male, tales by moonlight gone wrong!. He may attempt to come up with the excuse that it is for a friend.

justosee:
I won't care what anyone do to me at old age. I will be prepared to die by then.


I don't think there are many men who need too much attention at old age. All they will probably need is money and freedom.
Give me enough money and I will take care of myself. I can get a mistress if there is no woman in the house.
There are many things I could do at old age.

Your children will certainly cease sending you money once they get the hint that it from it that you are maintaining a mistress.

Make sure you have a cool stash of your own money because it is less likely a young lady will be in a relationship with an aged you, if she is not seeing the money because that will be her motivation and make sure that doesn't finish o!

justosee:
There are men who provide for their kids financially only for them to abandon him in old age because he didn't bond with them emotionally.

There are old men who feel abandoned despite the fact that their children make provisions for them in terms of housing, feeding, medications and money because these same children make effort to keep away......very irregular visits and infrequent phone calls.

Truly at that point they feel justified that they have also provided for him financially, when they call or visit what are they going to talk or laugh about?

The old man yearns to feel the affection of his children, not just the mechanical relationship that only yields material provisions.

justosee:
a few odd ones out does not change the truth.


Do you know the stress men pass through just to provide for the family financially? Women and kids should understand we can't give them everything. We are not perfect.

I am beginning to think that having kids is of no use to men. A man is probably going to die early while the woman live long to enjoy all his hardwork.

I will need to prepare before getting married. I will shut any child who give me problems out of my life.

A woman whose husband abandoned her to take care of their 5 children alone while he goes on to go live a carefree life where his children' welfare doesn't bother him and feels comfortable being a deadbeat father, hoping when he is old and spent the society would emotionally blackmail his then adult children to forgive and forget, accept him back in their lives and cater for him. The abandoned wife with all the burden left for her to bear alone is still more likely to live longer than the husband who walked away, at least we see that around

justosee:
He has to bring kids into this world to fulfil all righteousness same way his parents brought him into this world. That he took care of you financially is enough reason to take care of him in old age.

To fulfil all righteousness!

justosee:
No one appreciate the man for sending his kids to school because it is normal. The rare cases of women seeing their kids through school always make the headline.


That the OP father paid his school fees and he is still being criticized should tell you how men are judged unfairly.

What if the man saved all his money instead of wasting it on food, accommodation and school fees?

Then he has no business bringing children into this world, he can spend part of that savings on paying women who will provide him sexual release whenever he feels like without obligations after the act.

So you see with this way of life, he would not worry himself with baby diapers, food, school fees etc....he will be a free bird as long as his fluid did not result to a child.

justosee:
Some of these women spend their money on themselves. They wait for their husband's money to buy even salt for cooking.
The man gradually become frustrated from too much, and he start pouring the anger on his home. He feel cheated because no one value all the time he spend working for the family. He takes refuge in the company of other men who are passing through similar problems.

And we still get to hear so many stories of male and female graduates appreciating their mothers for seeing them through school? Some even go to where their mothers have been hustling to present them their certificates.

We first work for ourselves to give us a sense of value and identity before linking it to our dependants. A man abandons the ship he is supposed to be the captain and takes refuge in external influences then still expects that when he is old and grey, when those friends, women, alcohol etc have faded away, the wife and adult children to be his refuge?

justosee:
Nigerian women hardly support their husband financially. How do expect men to balance work and family time when they are probably financing everything in their homes?
Majority of Nigerian men have little free time and they prefer to spend it on themselves. Things will be different if women support more.

Earning a living is not an excuse not to have time for your children. Ok, that little free time they have which they spend on themselves, what do they spend it doing? Reason I shake my head when I see most fathers acting surprised when their sons or daughters have been admitted into the psychiatric facility I work in.

Those women you see in the markets, by the roadsides and hawking around, hustling to eke out a livelihood for their family, are they not also Nigerian women? Is that also an excuse not to have time for her child/children?

duro4chang:
You are here castigating your father here. You did not say anything about your mum. I know women are fond of turning the hearts of their children against their fathers. Have ever asked your mother what really happened?

The relationship between his parent is strained, now how should that prevent the father from exuding warmth to his children? Why do they have to fear him? Why has his children observed that he is nicer to people outside and just cold at home with them, is that not deception? He brought forth these children into the world and there are OBLIGATIONS beyond material provisions he owes them.

A man bonding with his child/children is never the responsibility of the child's mother, it must be self-generated. Who tells or teaches a baby to smile when the face of his/her father comes within vision? Bonding starts at that elementary stage. A child needs the affirmation of the father as many who grew up without it, tend to struggle emotionally through life.

His parents had no business with the continued cohabitation, probably to give the outward impression that their marriage is still intact while their children suffer.

No parent has the right to birth and raise broken children as no child should be made to pay for the irrationalities of one or both parents.

Sadly this is the story of many. Dealing with what in Psychology is regarded as Father wound is not easy.


"The father wound, which refers to father absenteeism, whether emotionally or both emotionally and physically, and/or your father being very critical, negative and even abusive character, can impact individuals and their future relationships in so many ways"