₦airaland Forum

AFONJACOW:
I don't want to take pills, change of shift from work place is the cause and it's really wearing me down

You do not need medication because.it will make you develop dependency on pills which is not adviseable. The stress from work is really putting your body in a state of hyperarousal and finds it difficult to shut down through sleep.

If you can, get a hammock and have it hanged. Sleep in it as the rocking motion helps the body to ease into a restful mode and sleep sets in.

AFONJACOW:
I haven't slept for more than 2 hours a day for the past 2 months

Seek professional help.

Destiny20five:
I applied there for Msc Mental Nursing since January but no update till now. What did you apply for?

Hope you are sending them mails as follow up.

How low Buhari has sunk Nigeria!

Nice one

Nice one.

DaddyGngeess:
Na waoo, my very home town

Ihitte or Uboma side?

Adakintroy:
that's what's he about to refund in jail. The virginity, the hurt and the pain he caused her over the yrs. So let her refund hers.

his love , care and school fees, intuitions, health insurance. Ck. He caused her everything. Pain and love. She isn't refunding only pain and hate. Let her refund kindness and love too. Everything he gave her.

Oya.

ALL he will be getting in return is the jail term he is presently serving there and based on experience , fellow prisoners who wield power there are likely to make sure they add to his misery based on his crime.

If such can not deter other "sick" fathers, I wonder what can. A father can never defile his daughter by mistake, it is premeditated.

Adakintroy:
Ok. Expose him. But refund all that he gave her. Since he is a full blown pervert incapable of showing love. Refund all the money you de eat, the rent, intuitions, everything.




He is not your father, he does not love you at all. Square up be fast. No talking. Pure hate and resentment for pure hate and resentment. After which let him face the full wrath of the law.

Let him refund her virginity and the tears she shed when he forced himself on her!

Even a psycopath is capable of showing "sick love".

Adakintroy:
Go sit down. If them leave that child for you to look after you go fit? This one you de chap mouth like say you fit do reach the parents. Do you know the amount of consistent sacrifice to raise one child.?

Am not judging hardly like you. Am saying he did wrong. But if it can be manage then let it be done. Many of this things they do when they just bring matter to the social front for Public sympathy has a way of backfiring.


Many of you shitty young generation undermine the importance of family wisdom. The moment something happen you rush to the media to do tatafo because of few days of Fame. wise up. Life na sense them take de follow am.

Every family get their own dark secret. Na Mumu man oil them take de do party.

No I don't know what it involves to raise a child, not to talk of more. Defiling your child can not.be "managed" in house! What backfires?..... He that is down need fear no fall! He/she who decides to bring forth his/her story to expose their abusers should be respected for their decision.

Such talks of "backfiring" are covert means of silencing victims, while perpetrators continue to live their "normal" lives that may involve the continued abuse of the minor or another minor outside the family.

Feel free to lump me into your shitty young generation, I dey collect demeaning language on a daily as my livelihood is tied to it....e no dey pain!

Adakintroy:
My friend go and sit down. Your ignorant. You don't know the definition of a pervert. That's his father. Like it or not. One act in perhaps moment of weakness does not define a whole o
Person.

He contirbuted his labour and time to her eduction feeding and health care while she grew where is the pervertion in that?
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In your mind, he is not a pervert just a man who mistakenly had sex with his10 year old daughter in moment(s) of weakness that led to a pregnancy and probably the law is not fair in punishing him for such incestous act.

He did not do his biological daughter a favour by feeding, educating, healthcare because it is his OBLIGATION or who do you think should have done it? Such obligations are not excuse to defile his daughter, glad he is behind bars where he deserves and your perception of the situation can not hold water in a court of law....provision for a child can never rationalize such abuse!

Oluromantic:
Lol.

That's all I can say to your comment. Have you experienced divorce before? See you talking about it as if it's like rejecting biscuits for cake

One does not have to be a divorcee, dynamics changes after a divorce and what becomes paramount is how to better co-parent.

Adakintroy:
They move on. Many of you are the real monster. If the person seek forgiveness genuinely and regrets his actions Then settle with the family. Am sure he has had his fair share of disgrace all his life given the whole family knew it. So what's the purnishment for again.

Aside there is many more hurts still to come and in this life. How many will you equalize.

Seeks forgiveness genuinely and regrets his actions? The law does not operate with such, reason families make all effort to repress it so it is not "known outside" because the consequence is dire.

Such sexual perverts settle with the law, not with family and part of my job at the child protection unit where I volunteer, is to see that such perverts do their regretting behind bars, reason I assist such victims to be in a better mental space to come up with their victim impact statement.

Then at the psychiatriatic facility I work in, the serial ones tend to end up at the prison section of the hospital till death takes them away as their paraphilia represents a danger to their communities.

Life is full of hurts and the ones that can be brought to book, should.

Oluromantic:
Great!

So what happens after divorce?

If there are children between them in the marriage, divorce can not diminish the fact that the former spouse is the father/mother of the children and milestones/situations in their children lives will likely bring them together even when they have moved on with another relationship.

Emzenoz:
with the way Nigeria is now, any psychopath test run on any Nigeria citizen now, the person will fail. the country alone makes someone mad.

Sadly so! The present situation tend to continually trigger mental disorders.

Adakintroy:
Of course it is a taboo. But it was many yrs back. You don't know if he felt guilty or has more than try to make up for it. Is the in-between you lack that you should ordinary make you refrain from judgment like that.

Moreover it happens Manny yrs ago. Am sure they would have move on. And the child of that sinfull act has also brought joy to the mother.

Somethings a re complicated. But am sure if you were with the crowd with the prostitute drag to Christ. You will be on the side of the people with stones.

A child raped by her father never moves on, no matter how many years ago it happened..... that is basic psychology and reason the legal system punishes such monsters who are regarded as mentally distorted, most times with life imprisonment no matter how long ago it was perpetrated.

williams20:
Good job by all , thanks for giving back . pls no one has mentioned Lincoln university at all here , is all well with the school?

Choice of University is dependent on the course, modules, cost etc. For example, the Msc program I will be going in for in September is offered by only one university in the UK, having gone through the reviews of those who have already gone through the program and what it has helped them achieve professionally, it will not bother me should the University be rarely mentioned here.

Is your spouse, be it husband or wife not your family?

Really sad. Doubt if the Nigeria Police Force run Psychopathy tests on their officers.

We all make our choices.

notok:
That's how it's supposed to be but you know we're not in an ideal world

Once the earning partmer is no longer providing because of death, ill health or divorce, what will be the fate of the one not earning?

notok:
what if they don't ?

Irrespective of gender, adults should be earning an income except cases of ill health.

Earning income is no longer location dependent, for some they don't have to leave the home to make money.

Painful.

A year from now, a good. number of the computers would have packed up and gathering dust in a corner of the lab

SanctifiedSista:
The secret to raising godly children is commanding them.
Living Faith church is.having miracle service today by 11:45 am. Find ur way there. All sick, joblesss, tired of life, barren, crippled and the even satanic habits u have ..come o..venue..cananland ota

What do you mean by "commanding them"?

Sad. May her soul in peace and her family be consoled

Many will form busy!

Umu Ejima happy birthday and more of God's blessings.

OP, sorry for the loss of your child. Whatever emotions you feel towards your mother right now are valid as you and your wife struggle through the dark tunnel of loss and grief. Keeping away from her as you mourn your loss will be a good way to lessen the negative vibes from her direction.

mutter:
This is no good enough!ly
Government should put a restriction. A kind of limkit unless it is an international school. -

Those are private schools and no one is forced to send their children there, those who are comfortable with the fees and the standard of education offered there are free to enrol their children there. Government should rather focus its attention to upgrading the public school system which sadly its officials have little or no motivation to do so because their children attend those upscale schools.