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KayodeAjani:
Who are you to defend your sister on sex related issue? That matter pass you

Are you married?

Have u head a home and know the type of woman you married?

Let me tell you your sister you know may not be the one you know when quarelling with the husband or when she disobeys him
Some women are dogs and disobedient to God and there husband

calm down pls.

tboibamz:
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where do you stay?

Benart:
just go for itel better specs at cheaper rate but 15k is quite small bro

what type of itel phone?

pls which android phone can i get with #15000?

abeg make dem talk abt evrything including minimum wage oh.eletricity bill i dey pay,power i no d see.mtchww..now petrol i want pay again weni fit no see

nice...

govmnt should not shove removal of subsidy on the masses.if they feel its wrong for the masses to protest then they are displaying tyranny.my take is,let the masses protest if they want,iase with the representative of the masses.afterall,peaceful protest is not a crime anywhere in the world.to stop a peaceful protest is tyranny.

students r being sent back frm skul in calabar

kITATITA:
Straight from the spoon. Ask any man; na leftover dey reach table.

sometimes i dey finish am from pot.lol

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obongtunji:
OP, let me draw your attention to something. Here in Africa when you say a married man is having an affair outside his marriage, it will sound normal to everybody but when cheating involves married woman then it becomes an abomination. However I'm not saying men should cheat in their marriages.
Trust me the day he discover you are cheating on him, that's the same day he will send you out of your home. Will you now tell people that you are cheating on him because he does the same?

The reason why you and your husband don't connect any longer is because of the way you treat him, believe me, you also must have changed a lot and you still give him that "cheating husband" look and that is even breaking him the more.

You and your husband should have a heart to heart discussion, tell him you have forgiven him and forgotten the issue let him come back to himself at the end of the discussion you will have your man back completely.

Please don't follow your friend to cheat on your husband, it won't take you anywhere neither will it make you to forget what he did.

op see food here...how can you even correct a cheating man by cheating..your hubby no more cheats,but yyou r making him feel guilty.

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm

abeeceebee:
in response to ur questions I am a woman too and my husband does not beat and later demand for sex on the same day. Secondly, that how her husband assaults her on a regular basis, after perpetrating vthis evil act he will be asking my sister to lay her back for him. Am not here to incure ur pity but I need some advice for my sis ASAP!

i think you r intelligent enough to know what to do..

Nancy2016:
You are the kind of woman I advise men to steer clear of. Whose responsibility is it to pay bills? So if your husband was struggling like the op, you would say it isn't compulsory for you to help?
@OP, when we tell you guys to marry self-sufficient women who know what it means to maintain a family, you guys pump your chests and claim that as African men you should be 100% responsible for the bills. This is the end result of holding archaic views on the family.
Well maybe the best solution is for you to stop paying the fees so that when your kids are sent home for owing fees, she would understand that the situation is dire and she needs to step up and contribute towards the upkeep of the family.

you making so much sense.

Suigeneris93:
They will close down this thread, you should have just called the mods if you wanted it to make FP

hm

na buhari cause am jor

nhmmmmm..your wife is not a bad person but from what you have written,your wife has a faulty upbringing.some women actually thinks that they shoudnt support their husband at all financially.and you cant beat it into her.what you should do is to talk to her mother.only her mum can bring her bck to normal.secondly keep praying for her and hope she changes.

;Dif you see d way i dey mould eba eh,u go sabi say i am not only a man,but the main man amongst d rest..

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op has valied points,but to imply that domestic violece is caused by just males is a falacy.

ftc


lalasticlala eguisi and pounded yam is ready.

Evina:
My husband and the father of my 2 month old son owns an oil bloc.

but i sold the bloc to him at a give away price.if you marry me,i shall give you my refinery.

colossus2:
Lately, I have read stories and comments here on nairaland about husbands or boyfriends beating their spouse.
All comments have been on the defensive of the receiver of the abusive relationship.
I know it is a wrong thing to be in a abusive relationship especially for a lady.
A man could beat up a woman lets say once, twice, thrice etc, for some maybe, a time comes when they realize their mistakes and decide to make amends, while some go all brutal by the day and never make amends or show remorse.
Now, is it possible for a woman beater to possibly amend his ways?
Are we saying no such person has ever changed his ways and loved his spouse more than before?

cc: mhizeva

Dominique; Lalasticlala


In what ways can a wife beater change?
As posited by nairalanders on this thread.....
1. Knowing God: Total submission and acceptance of the heavenly father through fervent prayers and the will to change is the first step to be taken in order to put a stop to such act.

2. Understanding the purpose of marriage: Marriage is the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law (Webster Dictionary).
Before marriage or relationship, we all go through the wooing stage or courtship. During this time, we had a focus of being the best and not having the mindset of beating or humiliating our spouses. It is expedient that we realise the true purpose of our union and delve out of the beating process.

3. Self Realisation: By self realisation, I believe our spouse must have set a certain condition for us to realise the mistake we made down the lane of the abusive relationship. But we should try not to let it go to a limit which is off the edge before we realise. Sometimes it could be too late, but nothing is impossible. You must be willing to take full ownership of the choices you made. Enough pleas must be added also.

4. Self value: We should know our usefulness or importance in a relationship.

5. Conflict Resolution: There are better ways to resolve disputes with our spouses. Some persons are temperamental and don't know how to control it. Finding alternate means is the best way out rather than hitting. Best way is to walk away when angry or when offended. By this, your spouse will know she hit a nerve when you ignore her or decide not to eat her food.


A wife beater can surely change his ways. It all depends on his will and determination. Don't take your spouse for granted. Let's also learn to forgive and forget.
Thank you.

if buhari can change.y not

Evina:
No you can't.

if i give you d keys to my bank,will you marry me?

Evina:
Eddygourdo, are you a marriage counselor as your opening sentence conotes?

Do you have any success case(s)?
I doubt though, going by your concept of marriage!

The ONLY guiding principles for a successful marriage is contained in a clear instruction to the man and the woman. "Husband love your wife", " wife, submit to your Husband ".

When a man loves his wife, he will take up domestic shores and not feel he is performing the role of a wider and when a wife submits to her OWN husband, she will meet family needs with money she earns without feeling she is bread winner.

All these defining of roles based on the concept you listed will only lead to wahala in the long run.

can i marry u..lol

the phone doessnt browse no matter how much i try,it switchess the network on by itsself and says android has stopped after a factory default.what do i do?

i will quote the girl tht condems this thread

wacoj:
My brother you are not very correct.
I once tried to use this approach to register my annoyance to my wife, immediately i rejected the food, she just gave me a HEAVY hiss, very long one and took the food back to the kitchen. When i remembered what hunger might do to me later, I went for the food myself after all na my money.

Woman no go kill me.

hhahaahahahaahah.ur wife is strong.lol..i salute your courage.

MasterofNL:
What is the best way to show your wife that you are not happy with her?

I mean when you are so offended at her.

I am thinking:

1. Stop eating her food. Go out and buy your own food and refuse to eat whatever she cooks.

2. Turn your back to her on the bed and don't make love to her.

3. Don't reply her when she talks to you or asks any question; just ignore her.

What you guys think?

hahahaahahah.no woman will actually want you to do any of the above oh.do you know y?women like attention too much.d day you ignore your wife is d day you begin to kill her.except she doesnt love u....

bukatyne:
So what did you do/ what should women do?

Share and let others learn.

In my family, bride price is not collected. The husband is given an engagement list of things he needs to bring. The wife's family gives the husband's family gifts and handles the entertainment.

I know it is the elderly men in the bride's family that decides the BP.

cc: misreal

my dear this issue of bride price is one of the causes of domestic violence but not in all cases.for instance,if you buy a car worth twenty million dollars,arnt you suppose to cherish it and take good care of it?since u paid to own her,y dont u take care of her.but this is not the case.bride price should be stopped and proper VALUES instilled into children.because if a man sees women generally as slaves and finally gets married to a woman without paying a dime,he sees you as CHEAP SLAVE.i hope u get my drift