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silverr:
By your words, a king doesn't inform the wise men, he consults them for direction. If he always turn down the advice of the wise men cus he's the king, there will be chaos.

if he finds his wisemen,unwise he can do away with them or simply ignore them..evry wise man listens to his wife,if his wifes counsel is wise.then his decision will be based on what his wife says..a wife should understand that her place is to give wise counsel and try to persuade her husband,not to rule and unrule as she pleases.....

PresVA:
Seriously when I read certain threads, I can't stop thanking God for my wonderful husband. ..

How can people be debating on this issue? You'll bring in someone into the house you both share without her approval . .. God help y'all... dictatorship isn't headship...

true,dats wat av been saying..dictatorship isnt headship.

bukatyne:
You tell me. You said women who claim equality with their husbands are looking for trouble. That infers a woman is not equal to her husband. Now I ask if a woman is inferior, you said no... she is 'strong'. I ask again... if a woman is not equal to her husband, is she inferior to him?



This is not about what I 'hate' or what I 'love'. There is no 'final' decision the way we operate



I have already told you we discuss issues like two mature adults and come to a conclusion to what is best for our family. No ego tripping, No I am the head you are the tail thingy. What is best for us at that point in time.



Please do.

At the end of it all, the way MY family is run doesn't add N1 to your account.

hmmmmmmm...i get your point madam..from the way u souding,i can tell u r angwi..please dont be angwi my friend,we r just airing our opinions...liike av always said,it is only a foolish man who thinks being the head,gives him the right to ignore his wife and treat her like trash.a true leader listensss..the fact that your husband sits with you to discuss family matters,shows that he is a good head/leader..but dont forget that he is your head,so anyday he disagrees with your opinion/decision,then u just av to submit to his will and hope things works out well..take note,you r not inferior in anyway to your hubby,just becos he is ur head.....i hope we gud now my friend.

netizenbuzz:
And when the visitor comes, he can decide to take care of him all by himself.

hahahhahhahahahahaha.ninety percent of nairaland ladies have a problem with this comment..abeg make una no vex oh........so you think a man cant take care of his visitors by himself?.....netizenbuzz my friend,you make me laugh..

bukatyne:
Bros, you need to try comedy.

We are definitely not saying same thing.

So when he is 'giving into' me, he is no longer the head?

LOLS!

so does your husband being your head,makes you inferior?? hahahaahah......winks...or you just hate the idea that the final decision is left with your husband.i hope this is not you problem because if it is,dont worry experience in marriage will teach you better.....lol....wait till he you have different opinionss concerning a thing,only then will you know whose decision is FINAL.......i rest my case.

bukatyne:
Lols!

I asked a simple question, see answer you give me.

So a husband is the head and a wife is the strong!

Hahaaahahahahahahahaahahaaaaha!

Who even mentioned head or tail?

Having fun this evening.

i think i have answered your question in my other quote...i pray u dont give birth to a child with two heads.....winks......havin fun too my friend.

bukatyne:
None

We sit down and discuss whatever issues there is depending on the facts and circumstances on ground.

can you just read what you wrote again.i think what is getting you scared is the idea that your husband is your head,because i can see dat we r saying the same thing.when he comes,home with a problem,what do you do?you discuss it,this is where you state your opinion and how u feel abt it.then because u r able to convince him,he gives into you,but if you cant convince him,he wont give in.this is where his authority as the head comes in.

bukatyne:
If a wife is not inferior to her husband and she is not equal, then what is she?

submission my friend doesnt make u inferior,it makes you strong..no matter how hard u debate this,your husband remains your head,and he isnt your head just for fun.

bukatyne:
So a wife is inferior to the husband?

@Bold: Na so you dey fear?

nooooooooooooooooo.a woman is never inferior to a man.u r misunderstanding me...a womans place is to give counsel to a man where necessary,and that of the man is to take the final decision.....only a foolish man will think his wife inferior.

bukatyne:
Haahahaahahahaha!

You will never know, will you?

LOL!

I am so amused by NL this evening.

nice.so your husband takes permission from you before he does anything,or he just seeks your opinion and advice??

bukatyne:
My point in my post you quoted bro.

hmmm.obviously you are not married..

it really bothers me that most ladies commenting on this thread are craving for equality in marriage i.e man equals woman..well i dont blame them at all,its just that many of them dont know what it means to be submissive,neither do they know the power of a submitted wife...marriage is like a kingdom ruled by a king(husband).decisions are delibrated by the counsel of elders(wife),where everyone of them is allowed to make meaningful contributions.the final say is with the king.a wise king surrounds himself with wise men,but what do you think will happen if every elder chooses to act as the king?..ur guess is as good as mine....chaos.......women,no matter how hard you debate this matter,you can never be the head of your husband,you can only help him make wise decisions..dont quote me if u will abuse me.

bukatyne:
Hahahaha!
"'Nigerian marriages'....
Always wanting to bend themselves or conquer themselves like it is a conquest.
Carry go

what is your point exactly?

lenmafon:
. so ur head can live withov its neck?

its funny how u misunderstand things.lol

lenmafon:
u seem to be the bossy kind of man who feels a woman's opinion does not matter. hmmmm the man is de head but pls which part of the body controls the head?

have you ever seen a man who survives without his head?no one can my friend.but i have seen many live without any other part of their body.

omolola15:
You know some people would have flip with the way she quoted you. But i love your maturity and your response. Being the head of the family does not mean your wife is a slave.

But some ladies have a very very big problem with the word SUBMISSION

Anyway that's non of my business.

tnx

sheyinoni:
Ogbeni u get brain,you've spoken with wisdom

tnx my man.

viktor01:
True talk boss

tnx

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it is only a foolish woman who thinks submission is slavery.whereas,foolishness is when a man refuses to listen to the voice of an insightful wife..a woman who cant submit to a man has nothing to do with getting married and a man who thinks a woman who submits is a slave should not get married.this is why most african marriages are crashing because,women wants to be the head,and men,slave masters.

pinkpebbles:
The home belongs to both of them and they should make decisions and agree on it together.I am not married but I do not think that if I dont approve of my husband bringin in his friend to my home, he should go ahead and do it. if your wife is rational, trust me, she must have very gud reasons. Your frend would not die in d city, afterall, there are cheap hotels everywhere, u cud take from her upkeep money and lodge him wtout her knowing but please dont bring him home. She wont jst be uncomfortable, she wud also make d home uncomfortable for your guest. When a man listens to a woman, his home is peaceful.

my sister,please listen.the reason why a man should always seek the opinion of his wife is because no one is an island of knowlege,and sometimes women can be very insighful.the best a woman can do is to make her husband see reasons as to why she doesnt want it.but believe me,if you are good at it,you will always have him at your call.but please,dont go into marriage thinking that if you dont approve of a thing then it will not stand because when a man sees this attitude in you,he will NEVER take your advise again..the final decision is left with the man.

Silkmoth33:
10 naira he is asleep.

Make he no go breakdown on top #10 on nl.

brings out my koboko..how can my ...........boy be sleeping by this time.is he pregnant?? ....lala na joke oh

yam??lol

lalasticlala come and take ten naira and do the nedful

this is highly educative...lalasticlala come take ten naira buy me garri for iya buki shop.

wins18:
ladies and gentlemen get rrrrrrreadyyyyyy! To feast ur eyes! Thank u Thank u Thank u!

bia op,u bera remove this before i bite my phone.

streetzdreamz:
and you are what?? a lil saner than I am?? was my comment for you?? if your believe negates mine can't you at least communicate in a sane way without insults?? won't descend to your level,if you can read betwixt the lines and you have been with kids you would know this consent thingy has nothing to do with age,a kid can agree to take a walk with you if you buy him candy,some won't even say thanks even if you buy the world,let alone take a walk with you,she is a minor but she was at liberty to make two choices which she failed to make,cry out at the onset of their journey which will get peoples attention,try leaving her abductor when she got to kano,she didn't do any of this and you saying its a kidnapping case?? yea her parent gave no consent but the girl was okay with the journey, why didn't she fight it?? she is a minor and hence an imb*cile who doesnt know what was going on right?? the parents prolly failed in raising her,and the child isn't innocent!! most likely the guy has been having canal knowledge of her right on bayelsa's soil,fast forward to 2016 she is still defiant on going home,and all you could think of was hypnotism and brain washing,interesting!!!a 15 yrs old girl once told me she has lost count of the number of guys she'd slept with,and none of them raped her,she gave her consent,now deal with that...... am not justifying the guy,just telling you the lady had a choice,can you comprehend a thing now??

you are right my friend.i have seen kids do strange things and lead men on.its better we hear the true story before judging.its not abt being 18,its about decision making.i think this ese girl knows more than we do.

tartar9:
Yes o,you shouldn't especially to one crucified rapist lunatic they call 'prince of peace'
" So now, kill all the male children and kill every woman who has had sexual relations with a man.
and all the infants among the women, who have not known the lying of a male, ye have kept alive for yourselves"

hahaahahaahah,a rapist prince of peace??funny...keep fooling yourself...lol......

[quote author=unphilaz post=43419861][/quote]answer the question if you can..

see how these men kept shouting allah uakbar while wasting innocent lives.but common hunger just shoot them ta ta ta ta them don run comot from bush.....

legaxi:
Guy he is correct just shove your mouth in your A.SS and read comments there is no point commenting on what is beyond your comprehension and mental understanding. No offense

hello sir,if you have noticed i dont trade words.abusing me will not get you anywhere.can you imagine using such words as "shove your mouth in your ass" and later saying "no offence"..and you think in YOUR WISDOM,that woudnt offend me..if you must quote me,dont use such words..BLESS YOU.

bqlekan:
i'm no religious bigot, i only stated the plain truth.. i'm sorry it exceeds your understanding...

exceeds my understandin??lol.........very funny