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XingXhang:
I'm good. Where you been?

I have been here o. You know those writings I told you about, I have been tackling them. Since 3/4. I'm sorry I didn't reach out.

What's up with you? Happy Sunday

XingXhang:
Hey Boo-boo Gaga!

Hey!!!! How you?
Good evening

1) "I have never been with anyone the way I am with you."

2)"I have seen so many ladies but I don't know, you are just different. There's something special about you."

3) "I wish I had seen you earlier. I'd have married you instead of my wife."

4) "I'm not usually like this with other people. You have touched my life so much."

5) "You mean so much to me. My life will be incomplete without you."

6) This is the oga of them all, "I have not had sex with anyone for the past one year...because I haven't seen you."

I must say sometimes, their lines are so believable. You find yourself falling. It's natural. But if you look closely & try to be rational, you'd poke holes in those lines (big enough for a ship to pass through) & see right through their lies

On the other hand, these fuckboys & "demons" & players will fill you with such skepticism that you will begin to suspect every guy that comes your way.

boiz2men:
Are you serious? Is that what you guys think?

Mehn, I'm shocked.

So if I don't have money to throw around for frivolities.. Your gender will term me broke.. This is just funny.....

A guy is trying to build a future and some girl somewhere is thinking of today's fun.

When you said you will support him, what kind of support you talking about financial or emotional

I was being honest o. Cos I have seen that most of the guys ladies call broke are working well & prolly saving up for the future. You won't expect that guy to throw money around on ladies especially if he isn't dating any one of them.
Surprisingly, I have also found out that most of the ladies calling men "broke" aren't actually in a relationship with these men.

Support? I mean all round support especially financially which is what we are talking about.

Andrez123:
Some guys actually feel and mean those words but probably after a few weeks or months, it all washes away and they start feeling it for another lady. Most of them actually meant it when they said it. humans are the most complex and unreliable creatures on earth so don't expect them to be same after a few months or even weeks.

WORD!

Viking007:
"I've never felt this way before" that line always works.

True.

boiz2men:
If he isn't able to meet basic needs, will you start a life with him?

I don't think ladies consider character of a man. But men do a lot.. After beauty, the next is character. Only few men can tolerate garrulous and nagging women. Only a handful can tolerate feminists no matter how pretty she is..

But ladies tolerate abusive men for reasons best known to them. They only yield when their friends have advised them severally to leave the relationship

BTW, I hope you know I'm talking within the context of finding a partner for marriage. Not bf gf relationship

I don't think I can. Sincerely. Can you allow a lady provide the basic needs for you before marriage? But that's different from what we are discussing. Cos my idea of a broke guy from a girl's perspective is not having enough money to throw around after catering to some basic needs. Again, a man may have money just for two mouths in marriage but they both know deep down, they can't cope with catering for babies when they start coming. Some can also call that broke.

Now, it's easy for me to SUPPORT a man before or in marriage. But that he can't even secure accommodation? That's extreme!

I don't know about other ladies but I DO consider character. That part can't be compromised. Except I don't want to be happy. So quit with the generalisation.
You are right that more men consider character than women.

Oh I know. I am too.

boiz2men:
Broke is not being able to meet basic needs comfortably.

What is a husband material?

Do ladies consider character ?

I know a lady who for unknown reasons loves that particular guy that beats her up with head of his belt more than any body in the world.

We broke guys are not 98% husband material oo. Don't be fooled. Poverty humbles a man.

If a man can meet basic needs comfortably, you think I'll call him broke?
That's why I asked you for your definition of a broke man cos apparently, we both have different definitions of it.

Oh yeah? A broke guy is not 80% husband material. So what would you have us do? If we look for an established rich man, you guys will term us "gold diggers". Now we want to wait for that person we love but who isn't ready yet, you are now saying they won't be same when they succeed.

Which way men?

Ladies don't consider character? Do men do?

XingXhang:
Goodnight
Make sure you go to church

Rise and shine Mr Xing...
Hope you slept well.
I will soon head out to Church.

Catch ya later.

XingXhang:
Yeah, hailing someone.
I do like exploring new areas. Just the bus smoke and all. Except I'm seating close to some interesting lady
We chat and all... Ermmm

Ok...

I can understand dear.
Lol @intersting lady.

Sleep is calling dearie. Have a good night's rest.

XingXhang:
You did.

The truth is, the whole vehicle ish gives me stomach cramp... Maybe it's because of its distance

What does that even mean. It's used to like hail someone right?

Eeyah...sorry dear. I can understand. It means you don't like travelling.

XingXhang:
Omo to da!

You travel a lot then...

Wa shiere! Did I get that?

Travelling is one of my hobbies. I love it. You have to if you claim you are adventurous.

Speakdatruth:
That's exactly my point. Though the results could give one or two clues about what kind of safety airline operators can put in place as against crashes but it's not an accident of equal measure. At least not all airplanes crashes in the desert.

You are definitely right.

XingXhang:
I guess it's the Ariaria...

Nice, you seem to know everywhere and everything.
Hmm, what am I doing right now?

Yeah....ariria.

I know right!

What? Errrmm....video game?

XingXhang:
With all the igbotic names I don't think I can recall except the popular Aba market

Where in PH do you know?

Which is the popular Aba market? There are 3 popular markets here.

Oil mill, Elelenwo, (used to stay here), pipelines, waterlines, GRA (Genesis Cinema), Aba Road, Eleme, the artilleries, Choba, Rumuola, Shell gate etc

XingXhang:
Was born and bred there. School brought me to PH. After school, I got a place here. Went for service and returned to the place. Have moved a couple of times. Here I am.

Hmmm....nice. I know PH too.
Do you know Aba?
I'm not just talking location.

XingXhang:
Yes and whats your relationship with Lagos?

I was born and bred in Aba. All my schooling done in the state.

I moved to Lagos after service few years ago. I only relocated last year back to Aba.
What about you?

XingXhang:
You?

Where I was born and bred?

XingXhang:
Born and bred there.

Oh really?
Hmmmm....

XingXhang:
Network damn!

Oh my world!!!!

For the first time, I'm proud of my Galacticos.

That's superb

It's disturbing here too.

I was having goose bumps while watching it.

You missed another question.

XingXhang:
Okay, coincidences flying around...

Hmm, you did a good job today anyway..

Hmm....let me catch one na
Lived there before?

Thanks dear

Please tell me you watched Toni's goal few minutes ago

XingXhang:
Did you school there?

No I didn't.

XingXhang:
Where did you learn the small Yoruba from?

What's tomato puree?

Only you did all these?

This is what it basically means when I say "I'm cooking".
Tomato puree is fresh tomatoes, pepper, (I add ginger & garlic) that is blended together and then cooked a bit to reduce the excess water. Sho ti gbo?

I have lived in Lagos before

XingXhang:
Enh enh, Ekuise o!
You did a great job, a typical epitome of a wife material

So what and what... I'm all ears

Awwwww....e se
Ready to hear?

*meat
*edikaikong soup
*plantain porridge
*fresh corn
*tomato puree

Including the preparations for all of them.

Freshly cooked edikaikong soup with catfish, goat meat and liver.

Remember, #clean and green
Clean because it's delicious. Green because well, it's green

XingXhang:
Lolz. Are you through? Or you're chatting with one hand and cooking with the other?

Oh no. I'm so through.

XingXhang:
I'm done in a kinda way. The rain just drizzled on me, blessings!

Waiting...

Hey you

XingXhang:
Sorry o

Like what and what?

Hmm, Are you Miss Penalty?

Till then nau

Thanks dear....

Will tell you later.

Wjo knows?
Laters dear.

You skipped my questions.

XingXhang:
I think it would.

Don't tell me you're still in the market.

I am Chinesely Nigerian.

You won't believe it! I'm just coming back. That rain I predicted came with full force. It dealt with me.

I'm signing off to go cook dearie. I hope to be done in time to catch the evening match cos I have a loooot of things to cook and do in the kitchen.

Done with your schedule? Hope the rain didn't beat you much. Catch ya around 8 or thereabout. Don't miss me.

sincerely hope you are Chinese. Otherwise, Xing isn't acceptable
Hmmmm....never had a friend named Smith. Cool.

Yes o. Just close.
Your rain is changing the weather here. So I'm rushing to finish.

It would wouldn't it?

XingXhang:
Xing, My international name.
Smith, My national name.

Are you in the market?

Yes, it would be fun to cheat with you though

XingXhang:
Xing, My international name.
Smith, My national name.

Are you in the market?

Yes, it would be fun to cheat with you though

I sincerely hope you are Chinese. Otherwise, Xing isn't acceptable
Hmmmm....never had a friend named Smith. Cool.

Yes o. Just close.
Your rain is changing the weather here. So I'm rushing to finish.

It would wouldn't it?

boiz2men:
they did?

Are you not female?

Sure you guys did. Can't you date a broke guy?

Lol...have done it in the past. Can still do it. I just decided not to anymore. So many disadvantages.

But that broke guy has to be 98% husband material & it's remaining money to complete it. Because even though money is important, I can't date a 40% husband material just cos he has money.
The best is to have both: money and character. If not, give me the first scenario.
Btw, what's your definition of broke?