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OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP

From this moment, stop looking for true love

I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.

Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.

See, in most cases, love is transient.

Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.

sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.

sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.

"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.

So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.

So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.

That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.

this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.

But for someone who fulfils that criteria;

- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;

- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);

- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)

- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;

- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.

- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;

So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.

So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.

If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.

My piece!

jjman2322:
haha tell me about it.. air peace is NOTHING in the airline industry.. NOBODY outside Nigeria knows air peace.. Not my USA friends, Not people in Europe, nobody..

SA airlines are more worried about Emirates, Qatar, Singapore, Etihad, etc.. Airlines who offer flights to destinations from USA to everywhere in the world, with a much better service

maxilly:
Not at all. I know them very well but you will agree with me that they both look really different

Dreew:
Stephanie okereke ke? When did Stephanie begin to act? You can't put Stephanie and Sandra achums on the same list at all.

Regina Askia
Liz Benson
Eucharia Anuobi (this woman was everything classy)
Hilda Dokubo
Bimbo akintola
Sandra achums (really loved this lady)
Steph Nora Okere
Lillian Bach
Bimbo Akintola
Chiege Alisigwe
Ayo adesanya
Victoria Nyama

maxilly:
Please which one is steph n which one is omotola? They both look like two unknown women to me

ffo:
Sometimes bringing personal issues to NL will leave you more confused. An average and ungodly person sees nothing wrong with what you did, some already have dead conscience, but you know in your heart what you did was wrong, your conscience is pricking you, which is a good thing. You don't have peace of mind also, you need to free your mind by asking for forgiveness from God and your fiancee.
Also remember when some of the advises backfires you are on your own. DO THE RIGHT THING ADE.

FlyingTOMATOE:
this

FlyingTOMATOE:
it's a life of choices.

Are you above 30?

FlyingTOMATOE:
congratulations in advance.

of course

Age: 28
Location: kwara
Occupation: A poet, Content Writer, Graphics Designer, theologian and an agricultural enthusiast
Religion: in between Agnostic and atheism
Genotype: AS
Relationship status:
Person of romantic interest: female,educated, , above 30 , be pretty, nice height and be playful. (other things will fall in place)

Hobbies[/b]script writing, football, and long distance jogging
[b]What are you looking for and in what time frame: 1000 spoons when all you need is a KNIFE
Dislikes/exclusion criteria: lack of foresight

Obdk:
Airtel is d second fastest network after mtn.

Airtel ve d widest 4g coverage in Nigeria

Explorers:
Ive not seen Narcos, but that El Chapo is shocking.

Explorers:
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cococandy:


The cognitive discombobulation of it all

Obdk:
For the 1500 i recharged to subscribe. I was given bonus of 4500.. I dont. Make calls with the sim.. As for the data. Most people on nairaland re ignorant how smartphone works. As long as u keep visiting Instagram and videos. ur data will keep zapping

Someone will subscribe 1gb fiam e dey YouTube go dey view HD videos maybe 20 mins video like 200mb

Angelfrost:
Honestly... I don't quite get why most philandering men expect their wives to be faithful (some even demand it)...

Some men even cheat with married women, yet take serious exceptions to their own wives doing the same... It's hilariously silly.

Karma and I are having a serious laugh.

Obdk:
I just subscribed now.

Herevis everything i got for 1500


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Obdk:
I use airtel 1500 6gb for a month

felzylix:
He isn't lying.
It's an offer that's accessible for the first 3months of buying a new sim or upgrading to 4g sim.
I'm using it.

Ibrahim505:
I used N1500 monthly to get 6gb (3g + 3g bonus) I am using mtn pulse.

dominique:
Really? I didn't know about that. They may not practice the same doctrines as the American Mormons though

Jimmy17:
Hi, so I recently gained admission into the University of Ibadan and I've been thinking of a way to support myself...I was thinking of going into mining because of the vast mineral resources in the state but I heard mining is very capital intensive and highly risky..can anyone help me out with tips and pointers to get started??

Thanks in advance

tenmariner:
I am a living example of a victim of TWO powerful heartbreaks..
First one; I was serving and she was in her penultimate year in d uni..The love was boiling in me like an active volcano.. In short, the love I had for her was more than the one expressed by Ramsey, Jim iyke, and mike ezeronye combined together. Along the line, her dad died and she wanted to drop out of sch. I had to take up d responsibility of EVERY of her schooling expenses.Also placed her on a monthly salary even while serving cos I was working in a ministry and in a private hospital at the same time..her rent expired and I rented a new apartment for her, furnished it in my own little way.. am a living example of a victim of TWO power
First one; I was serving and she was in her penultimate year in d uni..The love is boiling in me like an active volcano.. In short, the love I had for her was more than the one expressed by Ramsey, Jim iyke, and mike ezeronye combined together. Along the line, her dad died and she wanted to drop out of sch. I had to take up d responsibility of EVERY of her schooling, registered her in an event and decoration training school during her holiday..still, I never knew she was dating one guy and even invited him to the house I rented and he spent 3 days there. Everything was revealed to me wen I stumbled on her Facebook in box..her Fone got damaged so I collected it and gave her mine. It was until I repaired the Fone that everything got revealed.. How she got pregnant for the guy and arboted it. How she joked with the guy that I am her ATM card..I screenshot the info and sent it to her..she felt like dying.
I left the relationship without saying a word..Her brother begged me, her mum did the same..I didn't tell them what their daughter did
Last year, we got chatting again and I asked her abt the guy, she said he usually beat her, he borrowed all her savings, sold his uncle's office and use the proceed to travel to Libya thru Niger.. Currently she complained to me that her new boyfriend hardly show care to her..she is 28 now and her mum has started mounting pressure on her to get married..




Second lady was a year after I left the first one..
It took me time to start a relationship with her.. We were so close but I was scared of a relationship. It got to a point I asked her out and she after some time succumbed. After a month, I noticed she wasn't into the relationship so I backed off immediately.. Then she met me and pleaded for acting that way..I explained to her what I experienced and I donnot want a similar one..She promised and gave assurance..
After a year, she started acting cold. I was transferred to Abuja from LAGOS..I will take flight to go see her every weekend, give her up keep cash, got her into a computer training school, got her a laptop to quicken her learning, Sometimes, take night bus to lag..until her friend revealed to me she was already dating one guy in the company I helped her secure a job..I felt devastated.. She wasn't remorse.. I remember taking a bottle or jact Daniel weeping like a child all because I wanted to love and care..
I lost so many things in time and value during this period. Some I haven't been able to recover.
I wish dem well, but I have learnt a GREAT lesson in life.

sirBLUNT:
still?

KevMitnick:
Nope, a simple reply of "Happy new month to you too" won't harm you na. , instead of that answer you gave.

KevMitnick:
Be nice

praz001:
I thought all was gone... until I realised I wasn't the only one to have had such experience.

After so much care financially, academically together with her siblings....

prepare meal and take it to her work place only for her to tell me it isnt so tasty and I should have fried it deep and add enough seasoning even when every other person who tasted it were like this good is really tasty.... huuuuun!!!

I never knew I was just wasting my time and she want even satisfied until I got the greatest surprise of my life on 15th March 2019.....

But guys! now, I have extra peace of mind after she got pregnant for another guy... My data sharing is saved, my cash and even gift to her siblings , calling for airtime is saved...

she will always flash me daily..

****Let's always read the signs. Those who never appreciate little things you do for them and who will always have one financial problem or another are terrible

sirBLUNT:
happy new month

sholay2011:
Yes. she tried. Toni Tones was better though.