₦airaland Forum

Gungnir:
Well, it appears that is no credibility but depends on what the person swears with to me tho.... But i won't lie that i am not shocked at what transpired on here.

I am in disbelief....but who knows....

Jupxter:
That's why i always leave life like i settle for a loss. I keep clean hands, pure heart, pure motives. People will call you a fool if you live this clean, but trust me,down the line you'llsee the rewards. I was in an office discussing such subject, and an elderly man walked in, he was the CEO of different companies in the country and he affirmed this comment, saying, all his university colleagues that were in shady deals stealing villagers chicken etc, all of them had problem til today, none did well in life, just the ones that were of clean hands. If one is sowing for 5-10-15-20 years, purity of motive is of the essence ma, we may fall short of our convictions, but we should strive to do our best ! Righteousness is a shield that protects from evil

Jupxter:
This was someone i knew personally, i even know his duagther, his death left her without care. One has to have clean hands in this life that's only when curses don't catch one in the long run

Jupxter:
IO know a guy that died from swearing oh...

Blackfyre:
My guy, i avoid long stories with such people, some people are very compulsive liars. They will lie and twist things you would begin to doubt your reality. I will just simply tell you to swear on it, no time.

Fawklicant:
OK. I hear you ma'am!

Fawklicant:
But you gotta be domesticated first so you don't usurp the roles.

VictorRomanov:
It's like guys na wild animals wey need domestication

lefulefu:
who is more Godfearing than apostle sulieman and pastor Chris oyakilome? But then they were accuse of extra marital affairs abi? Pastor Chris was here in Nigeria doing his ministry while his wife was over in the UK. Forget he's a pastor..he is also a man and has feelings and the temptation came..maybe if his wife and him weren't separated by long distance i doubt if any issue of cheating would have arised. Look,God fearing or not...if u no gree give ur husband the way he want am in ze oza room then he will easily fall to temptation.

lefulefu:
yes she might be very beautiful but cold in the bedroom.the problem is many ppl who are not sexually compactable get married to each other. This also contribute to the cheating issue.a one minute indomie noodle man gets married to a woman with a high sex drive and is not ready to address his problem ..so wat do u think will happen?.or a lady who believes MouthAction is a sin and an abomination and gets married to a man who is sexually adventurous and she's not ready to bend to her believes..how do u think dat also will end? Ppl just lump themselves into marriage with ppl they don't like and they believe everything will turn out right. In this same country there are some married men when its time to close in their workplace u see them looking so cheerful and wen u ask them wats up they tell u they can't wait to get home and just hold their wives in their arms.sister do u think such a man will cheat on his wife?

uboma:
My bad.


Your point is noted!

Prec1ous:
While all your points don't tick. Most are correct.

The aspect about attention is what freaks some ladies out indirectly, this makes them think they worth too much, then misbehavior sets in. Unknown to them, the guy is the paymaster to the piper.

Also the part about intelligence is a go too, but it happens really because the guy has you alone so he checkmates and second guess you.

Do not ever think you conquered a faithful man, he has his reasons. He may want one woman at a time so he can chase other goals.

And yes, they got very high libido too and all that sexual frustration and it's accompanying anger is fixated in you.

uboma:
If point 6 is the most important to you, then you do not REALLY love him.

derock123:
All that glitters are not gold but that doesn't mean we won't go after shiny things cause good things are good. I started dating my girl(now my fiancé) Since my first year in the uni and I must say, it's been enjoyable, though laced with dramas.
She's my first and by God's grace will be my last. If there's something she hated most, it's cheating which made her leave her wealthy first love and settled for me when I had nothing. I've never cheated on her and never will, I guess the environment, my will and self control helps me a lot. I have nothing against men that cheat, in fact since I came to leave in the city most of my friends even married ones cheat in from of me but I see it as their way of life while acknowledging my own way of life. I'm giving all these details about myself cause I used myself as a case study and I made sure I exhausted all my excuses b4 writing this post.

now to the point, ladies (I mean good ladies) wishes for a faithful man, but most of the times they can't handle them, I will go ahead and list the consequences of having a faithful man, some of the points are detrimental to the man but it's still a valid consequences to the woman:

1. YOU GET ALL THE ATTENTIONS: this might seem good but looking at it critically, can you really handle all of a man's attention? With this, many things are expected of you cause of course to whom much is given much is also expected.
All his sexual needs are equally directed to you. sometimes I see and meet beautiful ladies and I assure myself that yes these ladies a cute but that's all I know about them. I try my best to score my woman above them, and make sure she wins, when this accumulates, it forms serious desire that sometimes she can't handle it. faithful men are hornier than Casanovas .

2. ALL YOU DO MATTERS: faithful men are usually intelligent, and intelligent people do more of thinking and I the middle of these thoughts is the woman they love, hence, most of the times meanings are read into things she might not read meaning to. The thing is, cause you're a serious entity in his life.

3. YOU GET LESS 'I'M SORRY': unfaithful men usually have no problem with saying sorry because he just want you to be happy at the moment so he could get what he wants. faithful men put good thought when dealing with their woman, hence when she complains, sorry is not the first thing they offer, they first try to figure out the mistake if any, not that your feelings doesn't matter but he's trying to fix what happened for good.

4. YOU'LL GET FAT: true! Men that are truly faithful are true lovers. hence they try not to exploit your weakness, always seeing good in you. always trying to make you better without you doing more. This sometimes translates to the lady getting lazy or worst still fat.

5. FUNNY SURPRISES: because of reason #2 above, you might get some funny reactions sometimes. also cause he endures a lot, you might not know when enough truly becomes enough. unfaithful men most of the times can afford your dramas after all, there's alternatives, but faithful ones has no way out but to either bend you or bend themselves, hence expect some funny surprises.
6. YOU FEEL HE'S BEEN CONQUERED: you feel he has no better choice than you. You feel you need more. You value him less

The list can continue but I'll stop here for now. But I must say, the advantages far, I mean, far outweighs the disadvantages.

ubunja:
no one cares about your life story. keep that for your diary.

NightHound:
I don't understand......are people not allowed to air their views on this thread regarding the original post? I thought that's how Nairaland worked.

Here's an idea for the mods: there should be the option (available to users) of creating a topic to which people cannot reply. So that anyone who's arrogant enough to declare his write-up an incontrovertible treatise can use that option and count his 'likes' in peace, without dealing with the dissenting opinions that are bound to arise that could hurt his fragile ego.

NightHound:
I don't understand......are people not allowed to air their views on this thread regarding the original post? I thought that's how Nairaland worked.

Here's an idea for the mods: there should be the option (available to users) of creating a topic to which people cannot reply. So that anyone who's arrogant enough to declare his write-up an incontrovertible treatise can use that option and count his 'likes' in peace, without dealing with the dissenting opinions that are bound to arise that could hurt his fragile ego.

symbianDON:
like seriously! they have a mobile app that does nothing else than occupy space on your device...it is unusable....and despite tons of complaints on playstore, they have done nothing to address it. their ATMs are nearly decorative pieces because they hardly ever have money to dispense. their staff...gosh!! they hardly know anything about their own bank. needless to say, their banking halls are usually uninspiring and boring. lastly, their short-code 833 has never worked for me....perhaps it has a phobia for my phone line

symbianDON:
Ma, if you bank with Skye bank for just a week you will confess your love for zenith bank

smato:
We have only 3 banks in Nigeria, first bank, GTbsnk, Zenith bank, others are rubbish.

symbianDON:
skye bank ought to be voted the worst bank on earth! very s.t..up..!d bank with the most useless mobile banking app in the whole universe. their staff all look and dress like aliens from a faraway planet...always looking lost and clueless!

dollytino4real:
na coup to dethrone buhari

CrescentMoon:
The fourth one is not in Nigeria and she is the best I've ever met in term of intelligence. We can't overcome distance, and we had to rule out dating. It's a different situation when something finds you first and when you are trying to find something. If it finds you first, thank your star. If you are the one trying hard to find it, the cost will be great and what you find may still not be needed by you. What I'm saying is that before I could get the attention of the four women, it took me months each. Stalking them in threads - arguing with them today, asslicking tomorrow, creating threads that make you come off as intelligent, dishing out advice to feeble minds etc. It's not easy. I had to retire. They said in a bid to rescue a drowning person, ensure that he loses all his ability to swim before you make attempts to rescue him. If not, the two of may get drowned. Maybe that's what God wants to do in my case.

Intelligence is more important to me. But I want at least intelligence with average appearance because beauty will still fade.

CrescentMoon:
Intelligent, beautiful women are predominantly found in best offices, movie and music industries, or as married housewives. Hardly will a woman with such credentials go for interviews and not get the job because getting connections is easier for them. Once they get into that office, their male colleagues become their targets as husbands. Once hooked up, you don't see them online contributing to ideals, philosophies - visiting shoprite and getting spoiled by the man becomes the order of the day. If they are unable to get a man with like mind in their job environment, they will become active and more involved in having a better society - contributing to anything that will make the earth a better place. While doing these, acquaintances will start multiplying for them. And after taking baby steps to see if the acquaintances of theirs will make better partners, and find out otherwise, they give up and rely on fate while their marital clock seems on a sprinting spree. If a genuine man shows up later online, he would become a victim of generalization of masculine stereotype. Like myself who likes to marry someone like Chimamanda Adichi, Angelina Jolie, or the woman who is the Queen of Iceland in the movie Dark Kingdom: The Dragon King, where will I meet such? And if there are nairalanders that have such potentials, they seem only coming here to read news and disappear into thin air. When suitors are already stumbling upon their selves to have the attention of these type of women offline, you don't expect them to give attention to those men in cyberspace except a supernatural force is playing a script.

Why I gave up

I have met three women that once held nairaland hostage in term of intelligence. I too had put more effort in appearing intelligent and won the attention of these women (I deactivated those accounts). When we met, their physical appearance is nothing to write home about despite my own imperfections. I mean their appearance is not what I can afford to live with forever. At present, I see pretty girls every second. But if anyone say I will choose a wife from among them, I will flick my left hand off my head as a way of dispelling evil omen in my corner of the world. Now my definition of a 'moderate pepper seller' is a pretty girl with ability to write and read well without higher education, and I still can't find that - hence the hope to meet one.

CrescentMoon:
Let me tell you why it always doesn't pan out as expected: until a man meets his crush in person, he is not in a position to think he has genuine feelings for someone. And the probability that a pretty girl you know in that street of yours is intelligent is almost zero as most of them turn out to be 'pepper them gang' mantra advocates. Besides, pretty, intelligent women are usually not found in the streets (married off or infront of computers in large corporations), and most of us combing nairaland for beauty-plus-brain designates are at present from the streets. You may ask 'what are you still doing in the street if you are truly wise?' And I will tell you that women stand a better chance with job opportunities if the brain and the beauty remain their exclusive preserve. What we see as beauty is never constant, no matter how pretty a woman is.

There was a time a girl missed her direction and entered our compound. I was stuned beholding such a gem. I asked who she talked to for her mission and I made efforts to cross her path again. When I finally had the chance to look into her eyes, I told myself she is not for me - I have a way of seeing what I want upon looking into a woman's eyes.

The first girl I met from NL never sent her pic to me. When we met, I backed off, despite her imposing academic exploits - more educated than my self. The second one works with a financial institution. She considers my physical form 'a threat' because hers is a very below average appearance. Now you may say why don't I go into prayer for God to help me. I will say God should answer my prayer for career goals first before I will have the energy praying for marriage.