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kelechiMarie:
Relationships don't last long because we are selfish, irresponsible and very much unwilling to take the blames for our mistakes. On nairaland here, no matter what happens it is usually the fault of the woman , in some other places it's vice versa. This generation has unrealistic expectations, we want our lives to be some sort of reality show. Many guys are superficial, they want to be playboys; have women at their beck and call and at the same time want that special woman who will love them unconditionally. Many girls want the money and all that but are still looking for true love or whatever. This new generation ignites quickly and also burns out as easy, nobody wants to be friends first. We have invented terms like the friendzone, to slyly imply that if you don't get down to action quickly you're a loser of some sorts.
It's always funny to me when someone gives the excuse being heartbroken to break other hearts, honey it is a vicious cycle; the person who broke your heart was probably a nice girl too once upon a time and you are also going to break a nice person's heart and turn them to a monster. I have been broken , I have been assaulted but I refuse to let that cloud my judgement because I know good people still exist. That's the problem with us, we allow our experience to determine our default settings, I say we're all fuckin.g cowards who are too afraid to love or commit.
Let us keep on with the blame games and take no responsibility and let's clink glasses to more "broken" hearts

A million likes for this. You put as clearly as if you were there when I said these same words a long time ago.

@refusing to let bad experiences cloud your judgement cos you believe good people exist, it's exactly same mentality I have. No amount of heartbreak is enough to make me so bad I will turn a monster. I still believe there are genuinely good people out there who have refused to join the band wagon irrespective of their bad experiences.

@ being cowards who are afraid to love & commit, I couldn't agree more too. I have told a friend this same thing before. All of us are here complaining about men and women alike. Yet noone is bold enough to try again. Including me
I tire abeg!

CorGier:
yeah right, but they will never admit to this openly mind. Not that we expect them to, though. Their actions speaks louder.

Ex once told me I made her do some crazy kinky stuffs she never thought she would (meaning, even if she enjoyed it - prolly more than me even - that she takes zero responsibility in acts which questions her idea of herself)
I, in turn, told her she brought them out of me.

Lol

CorGier:
Its the society dear. By manipulating and feminizing men they can control us easily can't you see? That's why they will happily separate kids from their fathers, leaving young boys to grow up without a father figure.
They would eventually turn to drugs, booze and weed. And there you have it - a population of effeminate men too drunk and high to challenge authority.

On your last point, we can agree. At first I thought it wise to ignore you when you said I perceived all girls as hoes, when in fact I was advocating for men to never take you lots too seriously in relationships, cos y'all can't just help yourselves in always falling below our expectations.

But I feel you though, a relationship is most fulfilling when each significant other perceives the other as an equal. Though we both know a man and a woman can never be equals, but you get my point.

First, @a population of effeminate men too high and drunk to challenge authority. Is it authority you want the men to challenge or the ladies who are manipulating them?

Second, from your earlier write up sir, one can deduce that you perceived men as hoes. Even though I didn't call it that directly but the point was that you said & are still saying that women shouldn't be taken too seriously. Why is what I don't know. And what are those your expectations we always fall below? Just curious.

Third, yeah, I get your point. I also don't believe, (I'm not sure I ever will) that a man & woman should be equal. I only believe in fairness and respect of our individual differences.

sirBLUNT:
hmmm joy me and you will have a serious fight oo what do you mean by..you dont know what you want? oh you're a perfectionist right?

Lol...don't mind me o...
And no, we can't have any fight at all. Let alone a serious one

Yes, I think I'm a perfectionist.

ubunja:
that would be like fishing for fish that are already in the boat. if they are my followers already why keep on trying to convience them? they are convienced already..
even the Pastor doesnt convience his church that Christ is Lord daily.

But Pastors lose members on a daily basis. The current debate on tithing #freethesheeple movement should tell you that not all who follow pastors are grounded. Some are still sucklings, some are babes, some are indecisive, some are reluctant, some are mature, some are grounded. But they are all followers, aren't they?

sirBLUNT:
that's what people dont understand the moment we beging to judge and criticize people instead of complementing their weakness is the day ego will set in and instead loving the right person we end up fallen for the wrong person for the wrong reasons because we dont even know what we want..

Lol @not knowing what we want. Me sef, I don't know what I want

But seriously, we all need each other.

ubunja:
what followers of mine?

You know, the ones you are trying so hard to convince.

sirBLUNT:
lets be real here every woman need's a man likewise every man need's a man,no man is an island,i always tell guys that if the only thing a woman offer is sex then you have no right to be with that woman talk more of marrying because every woman can give you sex likewise if the only thing a man can offer you is money then you have no right been with him except you're after his money..it's about finding someone who completes you and makes you happy!

Exactly dear! No human is an island. On the other hand, no human is more important than the other. Find that person who complements you. Simple!

CorGier:
Yeah I feel you brah. We were all brought up in a society where our needs as men do not matter. As young boys, we where taught how to be nice and respectful to girls, study hard, get a decent job, settle down and then have kids. Our entire sense of self is centered around pleasing and validating women.
Girls on the other hand, grew up to be self-centered and entitled as they never had to work for anything. Hey, I mean with a set of nice tits and and an ass to kill for, you're made for life. Some mofo out there would be ever willing to walk her down that aisle.
But us guys? ha.

So our quintessential nice guy grows up depressed; failed relationship after failed relationship, and wonders what else he has to do to to get some level of reciprocity from the same women he has been taught to love, respect and care for. After living to please women all his life, why wouldn't they want him?


Along the line, he discovers he's been lied to all his life, then he takes out all that anger on the society.

Someone on here made mention of how our fathers and grandfathers managed to keep their women in check back in the day; it tells you how feminized the modern man has become. Our relationships, and dare I say marriages, are failing because of our inability to control our women. They fail because every time she's acting crazy, you fail in your God given essence as a man to hold your frame.

I feel you sir. Sometimes, I feel it's actually a woman's world. We do have a lot of privileges more than men. But hey, who started it all? Who started the idolizing the women? Who started objectifying us? Who started elevating us most times even much more than we deserve? Who started revolving their lives around us? Who started seeing us as gods to be worshipped? Who started seeing us as prizes to be won & battles to conquer?

Now, no gender is much more important than the other. We complement each other. We complete each other. But you guys started these things you are complaining about. You started it & yet you are complaining about it.

The key? Find a good woman who won't feel she did you a favour by dating or marrying you. That's how it starts sometimes. Both of you should be striving to outdo each other in the "worshipping and idolizing" game cos you both deserve it. And trust me, you & your folks won't feel left out.

My humble piece though.

ubunja:
thats the Master Manipulation of women: no one is ugly.
it prepares the male mind to accept all women as they are.
its like that other manipulation: Respect is earned. but love me as i am. total self-serving mind control. if i ever hear my lil bro say No woman is ugly, i will give him a slap so hard he will land in the future.
ugly women are like poor men. nothing to offer.
and learn to take criticism like a real woman.a man who doesnt worship women is not a man who hates women.dont get it twisted.you are so used to men agreeing with u to earn approval that any man who doesnt give a fvck makes u insecure.
women are pieces to be played with coz what else does a man need from a woman? like really? imagine a working guy,driving a nice car with a house , who cooks and cleans for himself-what use does he have for a woman except sex? to be honest.

First, I don't need to argue with you about ugly women and poor men. As far as they are still human beings and I don't know tomorrow, I can't laugh at them.

Second, You didn't criticise me so what do I have to take like a real woman? Again, we are arguing CONSTRUCTIVELY so I don't see what I will be doing with your likes & approval. When you make sense, I agree & approve. It doesn't make me any less than you as it seems it makes you feel when you agree with people.

Third, yeah, that guy you mentioned above doesn't need a woman. Women are not important. Yet, that's what every guy on this forum talks about. That's all wehear about 24/7. That's even what you & I are talking about even though you are trying so hard to convince yourself and your followers that women are nothing but pieces to be toyed with.

kingofcasting:
we can only hope

Yes. We can. May our expectations not be cut off

sirBLUNT:
oh no wonder the moniker...

Lol...yeah

kingofcasting:
at the bolded, you know sometimes I usually ponder about that. What joy does a couple derive in having a child out of wedlock. At first ,when I see celebrity divorce news particularly in the western world, I'm all like " that makes sense. No wonder the men don't like getting married.they prefer to be baby daddies. To avoid the troubles that come along with inevitable divorce I.e financial loss" but trust naija to copy every trend from the western world. Babymamaism is now the order of the day and its the latest business in town for the ladies. Its a shame true love has gone into the infinite abyss of nothingness. Where did we go wrong in this generation

My dear, that's the world we live in now. And the scariest part is that it's gonna get worse. I fear for the future. Seriously.

ubunja:
true to a point.that applies only to women.there are more hoes than good gals today.but its the opposite with men.
only about 20% of men are getting regular sex. most men are celibate or using porn. gals dont realise they are only having sex with just 1/5 of the male population. and what adds to this blindness is that they see this 1/5 fvck everything with a skirt and so they think ALL the guys are manwhores! but they dont understand that 80% of men are in friendzones. everytime gals fight over one sexy guy it means another avarage guy out there is without a GF. everytime gals queue for that one hot guy that fvcks like a god,it means a bunch of avarage guys out there are forced to rely on porn.
are women to blame? NO. thats nature at work.evolution.and its gonna get worse for future men.i advice all men never to have sons with ugly women.their sons will be doomed. get a gorgeous gal pregnant and your son will enjoy pvssy.

I think I will agree with you to an extent. Women are now taking the hoeing business to another level. They have overtaken the men. And they are brazen about it. Reason why guys like you classify all ladies into one category: hoes. Even the poster above @CorGier thinks the same way. In all, I blame the ladies for giving you guys that impression.

Now, what's your obsession with ugly women? Noone is ever ugly. But are you saying an ugly MAN can marry a gorgeous woman but a man shouldn't marry an ugly woman?

Another question, how many major bad heartbreaks have you gone through to hate women like this & see them only as pieces to be played with?

sirBLUNT:
ok..mayb he was been sarcastic!

Oh no, he wasn't dear.

sirBLUNT:
whats wrong with you? are you sure you're ok? whats up with the insult?

Please let him be.

sirBLUNT:
seconded because in life if you dont define yourself for yourself you will be crunch into other's people fantassy of you eaten alive!

True.

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It is because there are a lot of:

slay queens,
fuckboys/men,
prostitutes,
escorts,
gigolos,
hit & run men and ladies,
proud baby mamas/daddys,
demons (from all tribes)

who don't give a hoot about love & relationships. There are just so many of them that they outnumber the willing and ready ones.

My humble take though.

A strange and evil world

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adeniyi3971:
but you still tasted it nevertheless!! how I wish you slept just for night!! it's never complete without the lights out!! that's when terrible things happen!

I know right!

How I wish too....

Beautiful.
Adorable.
Cute

dancok:
thank ur star u didn't

Really? Why?

I loved boarding school but I never attended. My parents especially my mum didn't allow me. Even when it was compulsory for students in the exam classes then to board, she came to school to explain their decision not to allow me board.
But I had to have a taste of it somehow. So, I started going to the hostel/dormitory. You would almost think I was a boarder. I was there ALL THE TIME! I would lie on their beds, eat with them, sleep there etc. It was so bad that on one of the days we had a paper during SSCE, we slept off in "our" corner. We woke up to discover that everyone had left the dorm and exam had commenced a long time ago.

Hmmmm. I knew ALL of them & their rooms/corners.I knew their routine and what each bell meant. I had so much fun.

Chai! It was crazy how much I loved boarding school.
I just wish....

purityval:
Bae iphone 7 will fall on you this season...... Time to dump that phone.

I don't want an iphone. I want a Samsung, Sony, HTC or LG. Is that too much to ask? Is it?

purityval:
Well you can ask from any friend who might hv so they can copy it for you, or prolly go to computer village. No carry 8gig flash o, go with 16 or 32gb.

Purest, my phone is spoilt. I think it's the touch pad. Not responding. But I can pick calls with a headset. Just giving you a heads up.

sirBLUNT:
goodmoney..make sure you have a blast celebrations!!!

I definitely will. You too.

sirBLUNT:
sorry i mean thats my email
merry christmas!

Merry Christmas to you too.
Good morning

sirBLUNT:
just sent @solomontengu09@gmail.com

I don't understand please

sirBLUNT:
thanks too!

You are welcome dear

sirBLUNT:
no need to be scared..but i got you though..can i pm you pls even though i dont even know what to tell you..

Thanks for getting me.

Let's see....