sirBLUNT: what get me angry with nigerian girls is that when you are nice to them 4 example you sent airtime to a girl even when she did not ask or do something just because u feel like and the nxt thing is the start seeing u like some kind of mugu who dnt knw wat do wit his money n they begin to demand anyhow seriously speaking dat attitude get soooo mad!! like can i be nice to a girl without she tinking dat i like her or am som mugu!
Chai! Nigerian girls don suffer. I have heard enough Nigerian girl this, Nigerian girls that to last me a lifetime.
Why some girls wil take you as mugu is that we have been told a lot of times(by guys) that nothing is free especially when given by a guy...So it means that there's nothing like "no-strings gift? Is that true?
writerights: I call all the girls on my contact 'sweetie' except for the too religious one who I address as 'dear'. It doesn't really mean anything to me.
Exactly! I use those terms a lot on people I'm super friendly with even when there are no strings attached although I'm sensitive to the people I call it as not everyone can relate to it. But generally, I'm trying to tone it down a little as a few of my closest male friends told me that it tends to confuse, create false hope or unsettle the faint-hearted guys. So I don't use it as frequently as before.
sirBLUNT: act of service and gift its not a big deal to me,helpin in the kitchen and al dat and also buying gift its a normal tin dats wat makes the relationship fun!
Hmmmm....nice.
Words of affirmation comes naturally to me too. It's not a big deal either
musicwriter: Let me give you an example why English is the language of liars.
Imagine you have an enemy named Shola. One day his son died and you went all the way to the place Shola want to buy coffin and you said ''good mourning Shola''.
Shola understands you've cursed her, but every other person around don't know. Soon a fight broke out. When people gather to inquire, all you have to do is deny that you simply said ''good morning''.
Get it?
In African languages there's no way to do that without others immediately understanding what you mean. Example, in Igbo language ''akwa'' could mean Egg or cloth, dependng on my intonnation. In Yoruba language too its like that. Depending on my intonnation ''ogun'' could mean a state or a number or a god. So, in our language you mean what you say and you say what you mean simply by your intonnation which we do by adjusting our pitch. In English you can say something and deny it even with audio proof of you cursing Shola.
Lol...brilliant! I get it now. They call those words we use to "lie" homophones and homonyms.
sirBLUNT: yea and alot of girls have act of service gift or quality time as theirs though its not base on gender...but what i find quite appauling is that alot of people dont even know abt this temperament and love language and yet they are in a relationship and i ask how can u understand each other sef? because it takes understanding to be outstanding for every relationship to work out
Lol..a lot of girls have acts of service and gifts (just like me ) as their language.
I agree @ it takes understanding to be outstanding for every relationship to work out. Knowledge is indeed key!
musicwriter: Noam Chomsky is the world's foremost lingust. He indeed said English is the best language for telling lies, its not just his view, but the view of linguists.
sirBLUNT: of course a gud different which i find you interesting
MEISAN temperament trait i dont think i heard that before i only know of SANGUINE, CHOLERIC,PHLEPMATIC and MELANCHOLIC so do you mind elucidating on that a bit i want to learn something new... well my temperament trait are a mixture of melancholic and choleric
love language...WORDS OF AFFIRMATION yea i want to hear does positive words dat wil push me to go high...
MelSan is a blend of Melancholy & Sanguine.
Words of affirmation? That's great. A lot of guys have that or physical touch as their language.
musicwriter: Noam Chomsky is the world's foremost lingust. He indeed said English is the best language for telling lies, its not just his view, but the view of linguists.
Munae: This is so right. We need to love and respect each other. Support each other. Don't let jealousy cloud your judgement.
It is this same problem that is affecting our Nigerian female Music Industry. They don't support each other, they're so divided and hate on each other on a daily basis. You hardly see a woman to woman collabo, pride and jealousy wan kill them. Unlike the males, who stand together and climb higher together despite all odds.
I guess women are naturally more envious than men. I think we also have more women backstabbers than men. We get threatened a lot of our achievements by our own folks.
Most of the time, a woman can successfully be your "friend" as long as you are beneath her or equal with her. The moment you start to surpass/climb higher, problems set in. Jealousy, possessiveness, envy, hatred, greed, covetousness & evil start manifesting.
musicwriter: Not just technical as every other language have got its share of technicalities, but English is almost illogical. In fact, one have to be mad to understand English very well. Linguists were so much bothered about it and when they checked they discovered English is the best language for telling lies.
English language was created by illiterates who couldn't speak Greek, French, Spanish, Latin, German. That's why it's such an illogical language, actually one of the worst language on earth.
It was never a language from beginning as English people themselves considered it illogical, because its a patched up language from many other languages. The original Pidgin is English language.
The origin of English language. Everybody should see these videos, it's under 20 minutes, all.
Luukasz: One of the reasons why school and academics is overrated, many folks are in school while some outta school and they dont even really understand their course. Even someone who didn't study their course or goes to school, know better than they do
musicwriter: English was never a good language even in Britain. Its so irrational a language that early British people themselves found it difficult to communicate each other. It wasn't until 1362 that they made it an official language to encourage its use. Before this period it was spoken as Pidgin.
Its so sad this's a language we're left with at the detriment of our more intuitive native languages.
So sad indeed! The language is so technical. It's almost annoying...
drololaaof: Good write up,some people will castigate you for bad or poor English whereas our mother language, we refuse to learn and speak. Some parents will speak English to their children at home ,ask them where are they from,answer is I am from so and so town in x state how come you and your children can't speak your language answer is - we are Lagos based
Hmmmm....deep. Even though English language was my best subject in school and I also majored in it in the university, I still don't totally understand it. Don’t think I ever will. The rules are just too complex and confusing!
mrphysics: What we have been saying is Theory while what you claim you are is practical. So when it disagrees with Theory, then practical must be wrong
Hmmmm..really? Your moniker is mrphysics. Now, Pray tell, which is more believable in the world of science? Theory or practical?
mrphysics: You tried. The point I am trying to make is that it is by asking me my location that forced me into that location. I might be in Ogun state before you asked. So the question you asked forced a location on me. Something we call, expectation value.
How does it relate to what we are saying: it is the presence of sellers, the prostitute that forced a buyer to appear. Ordinarily, it will be called rape if she was not selling and no man will be seen around there.
Hmmmm...you try too. But I can still turn it around & say that the prostitute noticed that the buyer wants /needs her services before she decided to start selling. Won't it still be a valid point?