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Moderators who moved my thread from the family section to romance.pls move it back to the family section

Wow.this is how my flirting online turned into a real cheat.I actually started flirtng online with a moslem dude tho he didn't grow up much in naija.he is not a stranger I have always known him.it started off harmless but then things took another turn.it got to a piont where I had to get another BB secretly so I can do all sort of dirty stuffs with him without my partner having a clue.after series of lunch I had with him,we were willing to meet in a hotel.our sex was so intense.I loved every bit of it.now the painful part is why don't I feel guilty.its not as if my husband wasn't satiafying me sexually but then I just want more from this guy.we have had sex like 3 times.am not a gud person at all.what if my family finds out.what really happened to me with my nice upbringing.

preciousmee: Am bothered about my husband's nonchallant attitude 2wards me, am like the bread winner of the house cos I have a better job and I do everthing in my power to ensure we are not behind in anythin. I don't even spend on myself as much as I spend on my family but my husband don't seem to pay back at least by being there for me when I need him most. I drop money for any big project we have as a family, I think my husband is selfish cos anytime I buy cloth 4 myself he complains, he clubs and wuldnt even pick my call when he is in d club and it is obvious he is cheating on me. Am confused I dnt kno if I can continue to trust him by doin everythn nd puting down my hard earn money for any big project we ve as a family.

I really dont like seeing my fellow Ladies unhappy all in the name of Marriage.one thing i noticed,men take nice women for granted,its happening to my elder sister now.pls why dont u try taking care of urself,i mean Look extremly good,Then see what happens

Efemena_xy: What an illegal thread.

Jenny, looks like you've got another admirer emerging from the wood work

I knew u would take sides wit her.pls be a true friend to her madam and tell her the truhth.she is so full of anger like their was a problem with her childhood.

Thought i was the only one noticing her very harmful comments.very fake woman/Fake life

jennykadry: Shush and face front.BTW I have finished another book if you want to add it to your list. Who married you again? What a waste of time

Was expecting it.your normal you

jennykadry: LMAO. This thread starter is a joke.Define romantic? you wake a man in the middle of the night to chat? you be winch wey no dey sleep? is that your idea of being romantic? waking a man up to chat nonsense when you know he has to work in the morning? what do you want to talk about that cannot wait til the next day? are you so self centered that you have forgotten that you are jobless and have enough spare time to sleep in whilst this man of yours has to get up in the morning and prepare for work?

I don't blame you, I blame the mills and boons you have been reading and I blame the fact that you are jobless. Go and find work my friend. So this fiance of yours now will be making mouth to his friends that he has found a wife in you, unbeknownst to him you are one of those women that are advised to get married @ 35 with the hope that before you get to 35, you would have grown up.

Why are you the way you are?so quick in crucifying someone.i wonder how you cope up as a married woman.you have to really stop commenting on peoples thread.Too bad my dear.you reason from one side view.

abisquare: He I mean romantic am nt sayin d sexual pain bt lyk been carin and luving infact he is a workaholic he just dnt knw hw to pet a lady

Buh does he love u more or u do?i prefer a man loving the wife more.my hubby is a workaholic too.All he does is just work and he keeps reading his Engineering books,talks of subsea engineering,installations and so on.Am not sure u can change him cos thats what i thought before we tied the knots.If u truly love him and he is responsible then pls proceed,But their is going to be alot of Boring times so u can help urself by indulging in Things u love.Like i love fashion,Going out to nice places,fashion magazines,Going out with my Friends,watch movies in a cinema.

saintiyke: There are alot of questions begging for answers in the story.
1. Your wife was raped and you kept quite, didnt seek medical help and waited for the pregnancy to emerge?
2. Is one month pregnancy NOT too early to be detected?
3. How did you know the pregnancy was the robbers? Or have you not met with your wife since then?
4. How long since after the incident untill now.
5. Has your wife gone for other test apart from pregnancy test because she could as well have HIV or other STDs....

U re so correct,hw can he actually tell the pregnancy is it his?,and i always advise Ladies/women if u were raped pls report to the hospital within 42hrs after the rape cos the pregnancy and sti's,Hiv can be reduced to a minimal level.

2sexy: Thank you and may God bless you for the kind gesture. Such blessing will extend to your children as they shall find favour in un-expected places.

Tanks and amen
Hw can I reach u easily,and ur field should be elect abi.

2sexy: MLS12, I have been trying to reach you from the carear section where you commented on my thread. Did you still talk to your hubby about me? Pls, let me know.

I saved ur mail on my notepad,he is in abj dnt want 2 discuss over d fone or BB.I will def keep u in touch

reinedamse: Post modified.
I realized there's no point trading words with an obviously sick old woman

Pls ignore dis dry crayfish woman,I knw her so well from home,she has lost her joy,nothin good happening around her order dan reading her TRILOGY text.

JallowBah: The biggest reason is finance, yes. I was young and stupid, and got some debt, among other things from going to school. We wish to buy a house in two-three years, and first we wish to live together in Gambia for at least one year. For that to happen, I have to pay off everything, and also save up much money as well.
Living in a rented apartment in Norway takes almost 3/4 of your paycheck..in my parents house, I will live free.

He needs more education to be able to get a job as what he wishes for in Norway; a translater. The cost of going to school there compared to Norway is 1/10 of the price..

I do believe our marriage is strong enough to handle all this, with no doubt in my mind. We are thinking five years a head doing this, instead of only 6months ahead.
We wish to start our own business in Norway as well, so all this is leading up to some very important things in the future.
One tough year, for having many good years later on..

And yes, I plan to call him at least once every day, and also use skype so he can see us

Re u guys on BB,or yahoo?so u can always chat.I had a distant relationship kept it burning by constant chat and calls.Hope u save a lot for dis one year.plus me and my hubby re relocating 2 norway next month,stavenger.d accomodation re quite expensive.we got one for 11000nok.Take care

omoeast: Hey Nairalanders,i would be glad if someone could tell me why United Kingdom is sooooo expensive.

I think this country is the most expensive in the world,things are not normal AND still it remains everyone's dream land expectially Nigerian

For Example,am a student i live in the UK,i pay £400 every month in east london which is not even central,£400 is 100k naija currency for a room,is that normalNot a flat...Just one room without no sitting room...its gonna be a shared apartment.3-4 people might be living in the same flat with you,you will share kitchen and toilet with them.Sitting room will be for let as well...I went to Heathrow Airport 3 days ago,someone called me to come online,i went to there internet cafe to browse,i was surprised when i saw the price...£1 for 10 mins(250 naira for 10 mins)Is that normalThere so called Olympic stadium seats are soo empty,do you know why?Ticket price aren't normal.Several Olympic venues were far from full on day one.

If you live in the UK,you will surely know no one except the rich kids will take black cabs,it's so EXPENSIVE.

I was checking apartment in the Olympic Village...I found a house for 1 million pounds monthly.Isn't that ridiculous(i cant find the link anymore but you can check the internet,just google olympic house for rent in stratford)

Now the question is WHY IS LONDON SO EXPENSIVE

If u say uk is expensive den wat will say of Norway esp cities like oslo and stavenger.@ least u can afford a beer in uk nah,go try am for oslo

reinedamse: ok.i get it now.point taken and noted.
Thanks for d advice

Ur welcome.hw do u intend getting a househelp.thru an agent

reinedamse: Thanks sis for ur advice.what i can deduce from ur advice is dat i should be careful lest my husby ends up in bed with my maid.hmnnnn.
Well i do not see my fiance as d type to cheat and even if he wants to,what happened to all d babes in town? I think a man dat would cheat on his wife with a maid will cheat with anything in skirt anyways so y bother my head?
Saying i shouldn't get a maid to prevent him from cheating on me is like saying i should lock him up in d house to prevent him from going out so dat he won't spot other ladies that he can cheat with.
My point is dat a man dat will cheat will cheat anyway whether with the maid at home or d secretary in d office.
I might be wrong though.dats y i came for advice.i'm quite new in all dis marital thingy

Wasn't talkn of cheatn,as in most of dem steal valuable's,nurse wicked agenda's,no mata hw Gud u re 2 dem.I was only sayn becarefl in aspects of not discussing everytin abt ur plans in front of her and all dat.because dey could expose u 2 outsiders.

U can get anytime u need,I personally dnt like a woman wrking her ass off all in d name of house chores.buh u got to be careful wit dem O,because dese househelp re d most ungrateful pple unda d sun,u hardly get a good one.and neva give dem access into ur Bedroom.u jst be careful

Pls wat sites can I download latest naija hits from.Tanks alot

[quote author=2sexy]Hello house,
Please I need direction because I feel I lack information in this area. I will be graduating next year as a Petroleum Engineering Student from Petroleum Training Institute(PTI) with upper credit,HND.

What should be the next thing to do? I thought of distributing my CV within Delta State, Portharcourt and Lagos and also to submit them online. I learnt that short courses also boost CVs. If that's the case, what kind of short course/ certificate should I go for?

Some folks also said its possible to get a Job abroad from Nigeria. How can this be done with my level of qualification? Though I have been doing some research but all I can see are job offers that requires at least 4 years work experience,which I do not have or can I use the number of years spent in school?

Kindly help me with any information that can help me build my career from scratch. I am the only one that could come this far in education amongst my siblings. Please, come to my aid. I feel a lot of responsibility rest on my shoulders and the thought of it is almost giving me sleeplest night.

Thank you![/qu

I can see u re serious minded.have u worked on ur Cv yet?if no pls try workn on it.and shoryt courses might not get u a job it depends anyway,its possible 2 get a job abroad,my hubby Just got one in Norway(from a leading oil company)he ia a mech engineer.lemme connect u 2 him.I bet u will gain a lot,buh he likes positive thinkers.

Ve also been wondering,some say six months buh dnt knw hw possible.my cuz started her baby @ 6mnths

[quote author=maclatunji]OP, don't mind Jennykadry. She has been looking for someone to pounce on like a starved Tigress and your post gave her the perfect opportunity. Go with Miss Ife's excellent advise and stop stalking your husband and to answer your question. Yes! There are still good men walking the face of the Earth even if they are in the minority. [/quot]

I love ur post I think jennykadry or drycrayfish is a disturbed woman/girl or watever.ve noticed her disturbing comments.and she commented like 3-4 times on dis single post.am sure she is really hurting

Efemena_xy: Girl, your post is an eyesore. It's also offensive to decent people who uphold the sanctity of marriage.

Re: the bolded, is this your career aspiration / life's ambition or something?

Am sure poster meant tailing,not taming so wats d eyesore deir.u really dnt knw hw 2 talk.2 harsh my dear

Insanity: That's great. Subsea7 is a very good MNC..which site did he submit his resume at? Rigzone? Oilcareers? Oilgrads? I have my resume in those sites though am just a fresh graduate with little or no experience in the oil industry. Am still hoping to hear from one those companies one day, but for now, i want to pay for my resume to be appraised, i guess the possibility of them calling me will increase if my little experience is been showcased in a professional format. Please , help me with any other site u feel has a good recruiter/jobseeker networking ratio.

It all still depends on years of experience.dey hardly advertise for freshers,so u ve 2 do sumtin abt dat.will ask him for oda sites

abdulkayus: I study computer engineering wit 2.2, and jus finish my NYSC last month, pls help a brother out.

Ok BrB

vb0mb: It will be okay if we narrow this topic to Nigeria. Most post are talking about western countries where getting a job via online is feasible.

Even in naija most of my hubby's friends got deir job online.dey wrk in portharcourt.

10 over 10: ..Nice one from u..do they have a branch of their operations here in naiaj, wat about d interview

Yeah dey ve a branch in lagos,ikoyi.d interview was done thru skype

abdulkayus: Disadvantage Of Online Application Of Job

Yeah, a close friend told me applying for job online is a waste of time, that many job seekers usually submit their CV in person, and knowing that there are always lot of applicants that submit their hard copy CV, companies dont usually bother to check their online applicants, pls how true is this assertion. Your contributions may help a soul.

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Online is not a waste of time,my hubby is a mechanical engineer who got a job online.a very good job in Norway,oil comPany 2 be precise.d company its Subsea7,u can check dem online.and d pay is so fantastic.and relocation wit family is inclusive.d visa and everytin was taken care by dem.so wat am I saying?it has worked for a lot of pple around mi although it still depends on ur years of eXperience and if ur Cv is pretty attractive.so dnt be discouraged,as far as u re good in ur field.I ve sum Good sites where U can register Ur CV.what did U study?

My hubby wasn't ,not cos he didnt buh he is naturally lazy.he was brought up in ahome where dey blieve men dnt do house chores.I did d little I could,buh tanks 2 washing machine.buh he supported wit oda aspects,by appreciatn me,Tanking God he found me,Takn me out,wen I was having complications,he took 2 all d hospitals I was referred to.buh house chores,Nooooo

Am married(Got married last year) buh I dnt just like puttn on my weddin ring cos I normally dnt like anytin jewelries .I can only manage ear rings.my hubby always puts his ring on,and has not really complained abt my ring absence,buh my sister inlaw won't let me be.she tinks am cheatn,and am sure other pple might tink dat way,hw do I convince dem,as my hubby's trust 4me is so high.

Pls NL's ve been lookn for a nanny buh to no avail.female to be precised.can travel down 2 enugu wit me,take care of my baby and house chores while I attend 2my studies.Tanks