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DanTunde:
So my fiancee told her elder brother about our discussion, he invited me and was threatening me that he won't let me marry his sister unless I sign an undertaking before our wedding can go on. I reminded him of his sister that said she would poison me, he shouted and told me I deserved it if his sister should poison me for beating her.
I told my fiancee that i am calling of the wedding, she hasn't even returned my call or said anything about it. It is like she moved on so quickly like I meant nothing to her even though we have been dating since 2 yrs.

And why didn't you sign the undertaking?? Could it be because you have plans of panel-beating someone's daughter?

Oga, abeg waka. The babe has seen what's behind the mask and I congratulate her heartily

Kennedyiheme02:
has money stopped chioma from knacking perruzi.. I'm sure you heard the rumors.. he picked a hoe lol no wonder he kneeled

That's what they are...RUMOURS!

Didn't stop him from flying her to Dubai for a vac you know

Kennedyiheme02:
thats all you see, the money tje fame.... what about his pride as a man kneeling for a woman you're doing a favour.. what does that make you?.. anyways his problem

Loooooool.. What else is there to see? What is "pride" without money Pride ain't gon feed the fam bruv.

Davido has money, and all other things were added for him

Kennedyiheme02:
now take davido and chioma, who needs who?.. why did he have to kneel?.. its just unmanly.. for all we know davido is doing chioma a favour.

He knelt because he valued her. It's that simple.

And trust me, he has everything a man should and kneeling didn't reduce him one bit! He is still Davido, the music star, the rich guy and father of 3 (I think).

Interesting thread!

But did Davido die after he knelt to propose to Chioma? Did it remove 1 naira from his 30bn? Did it make him less of a success?

I believe kneeling to propose wouldn't be a big deal if the woman is worth it.

Mylife21:
I want to correct a negative notion here. Whatever is my action was born out of the need to really know if this lady will be the stingy type, even when the metal meets the meat.

And moreover, 7years and 5 weeks of courtship is different, but what is the outcome? both are still stingy.
My last relationship before this current one was just 9months and this lady, an European-born Nigerian, paid for my trip, to and fro, from Nigeria to one of this Arabian country just for us to meet for this first time.
The only issue or I will call it misunderstanding is that she want to have a way. And that's a redline for me.

I am not a gold digger, neither am I, a gigolo. I have this mantra, a man is simply doing a woman a favor by marrying her.
And no matter how wealthy or influential a woman should be, she still needs to be submissive to her husband or spouse.

Y'all... he's one of them

As much as the statement in bold annoyed me, I had to laugh out loud... Jeeeeeez! How backward can you be??

I can assure you 1000000% that no self-sufficient woman would ever ever ever marry a man who thinks "he is doing her a favor by marrying her".

Haven't you heard? The narrative changed a long long time ago baby!

Good luck with your search bro

So because she "counts money everyday" now, she should be responsible for you?

@OP, I think you should be the one to go wash plates... No woman wants a liability!

The guy probably doesn't know how to love his wife properly. He should ask her why she hates sex and then take it from there.

RisenPhoenix:
Yes. Would be murderers are a problem. Anyone who feels that taking the life of another is the best option for redress is a problem to herself and to society. Thank God he started it so he can make an informed decision concerning marrying her, otherwise we will wake up one day to another Maryam Sanda or another Yewande Oyediran epic.

Oga, so men don't beat their wives to death abi

smh

RisenPhoenix:
Just leave them jaare. You give them logical points, they respond emotionally. When you make a joke to your future wife and she starts explaining how she will poison you, what poison she will use, how that type of poison affects the body, which type of food best hides the taste, the exact pot she will use to cook it and how she will pretend to be crying when your relatives come; continue thinking of her as your future wife. It is not yesterday that husband killing started and it is not tomorrow that it will stop.

You are definitely the owner of this situation.... OP didn't put all these details ooo

Anyway, I think the lady is better off without you. If you beating your wife is a possibility, she needs to flee...as far away as she can.

maynation:
Thank you.
This is just everything, people with poverty mentality are the ones who think otherwise.

Abi. They expect a woman to mute her lifestyle cos she wants a man. That was then o looool

CosmicJames:
I give up.

Please do
Guy obviously doesn't understand you lol

SBL28:
I'm a single mum of two. I'm not saying it's a walk in the park but I don't subscribe to leaving your kids behind.

I understand you...but we don't know her circumstance sha. While I don't like that she left her kids, there are lots of reasons she could have done it.
It's still not an excuse but then, I believe in delaying judgement...

I'll give the same advice people give to women in such position:

Run for your life. Sha you're not hearing about men being stabbed upandan ni?

Take responsibility of the child, but flee! You don become baby daddy no niyen. No time

SBL28:
I'm a woman and I blame the mother of those kids. I'm not saying the man should not step up o but I don't understand why a woman would pack out of her husband's house and leave her children behind!

She obviously does not love the children. So she's eating and sleeping comfortably somewhere knowing she left her little children behind? That is a terrible terrible mother, she does not even deserve that title.

The one I hate the most is when women remarry and take the child(ren) from their previous marriage to live with aunties or grandparents. That is never happening with me, you love me, you must love my children too. Na package deal, buy one get two free!

Walk a mile in their shoes before you cast stones at them!

Deandean:
Loll...motherfucker like u
Ps...so obviously i av other vocabularies in my arsenal like motherfučker...i av each man size
Dnt quote me again o.unless u wanna talk business

Ohhhhhhh... Kudos to you

Having a whole arsenal of insults must have taken time and energy. Great job man.
Now put that level of time and effort into your use of English Language. I'll give you tips: capitalization, punctuation etc. If you really are a business man, you'll need these skills to write proposals and all...except if your business is selling popcorn

All the best bruv! I'll pray for you.

Deandean:
Stupid man beater u mean to say...for the one who said the rubbish is a dîckless single man without an iota of experience. A stupid "after match referee".

Awwwwwwn...what a way to describe yourself

But why is "stupid" very constant in your expressions? Why do you always have to resort to insults to make a point?

P.s: I'm sure your response to this will include "stupid" or something similar lol

proclinician:
Stupid woman. I wonder the sins your unborn kids must have committed or will commit that will make God send them a punishment like you as their mother. Nonsense

Men should raise their bloody kids becauee it is not you that bore them for 9 months.

Seriously bro, was the insult necessary? We all are entitled to our opinions you know. It's not cool to try to force your own opinion down others' throat..

Deandean:
I'm sorry but u are very stupid...very very stupid...if u had said these b4 me,i definitely would av hit ur mouth...

Wifebeater spotted... Better be careful who you "hit", so you don't find a knife in your neck in the middle of the night. Make you no reach heaven before you understand

EmmyDJourno:
I didn't lose nothing, she was not willing to assist in meeting our targets as a couple and I simply made a decision in June last year

In 1November, I met a lady who manages the affairs of a foreign company who are a start up in Lagos

I earn 289k, have 2cars, her car got stolen in December 2018, so I gave her one of my cars to run around. She has 2plots at Ibeju Lekki and has set us the target of building our home there

My dear, I defined what I wanted in a woman(one who would assist me achieve my dreams)

I left the other lady cause she was interested in simply making demands of what I had and giving nothing back

It hurt when I did cause I had feelings for her, but my choice of marriage goes beyond just love

I took a stand and Cupid backed me with someone better

You should be happy for me at least nahh

I am happy for you oooooo

But really, there are cases where a lady's upbringing has programmed into her that a man MUST meet all the needs.. Anyway, you found your choice...good for you!

I wish you all the best bruh!

EmmyDJourno:
You so pained, you had to console your mind

I don't mind if she finds such a man, so she can stop bashing me on her WhatsApp Status

We all deserve to find what we all seek

Me? Consoling myself? Anyone who can read would know it's you consoling your mind looool. You lost 130k monthly, I didn't

And yeah, may we all find what we seek...

And yet another thread created just to bash women... Don't you people get tired?

Ewoooooooo...see as OP plan for person pikin lol

Isookay o

EmmyDJourno:
Some ladies are like that, never considerate when it comes to money

You should have known her attitude towards spending her money on your relationship by now

You should have had this discussion long before now

My guy, your fiancee doesn't want to spend her money on anything or maybe not 50%

So cut down the budget, share it 70/30% and if she wants anything extra, let her get it herself


End time girls everywhere

Until a women gets desperate, they are stupidly opinionated

A chic who earns 130k once told me she would contribute nothing to house rent and school fees. From that moment she started dating herself, till I dumped her sorry ass

..then she moved on to date a man who earns 500k monthly, and believes a man should sort out the major bills, and leave the minor ones (food, toiletries, provisions etc) to the woman. Amazingly, he does home chores too when he's available.
He married her. They now have two kids...

THE END!!!

Riele:
Ecowas should stay out of this .

Nigeria needs to close that border well . It'll go a long way to correct our balance of payment problems .

I agree ooo. And if ECOWAS wan do anyhow, bubu go just turn Trump ni looool

But really, even though inflation is rising, the border closure is "doing well".

He can go ahead...but he has to be sure it's wise to let his people know how much he earns.

Some parents can misuse that knowledge sha. You'll hear "Shabi you are earning 70k? Why can't you give your brother his school fees this month? At least, you'll have 55k left" lol

One of my colleagues is in those shoes rn and I don't envy him at all.

Let him use wisdom fah

LordShiva97:
What's the problem here; you can't read or you have difficulty understanding simple English sentences?

What exactly is the OP feeling entitled to here, telling his fianceé to contribute 50% of the wedding budget when he alone has already financed the traditional wedding without any financial aid from her means he's feeling entitled to her job or money?
Haaaa!
*spits*

She's not yet ready for marriage.

Heeeeeeeeee... OP did not say she made no contributions to the trad oo.

themayor4542:
It's like this.

If you insist and maintain on your mother inlaw not being around to witness the birth of your child,then you are winning the battle.
But i can tell you for a fact that you will eventually lose the war.
Life's all about compromises.

Is marriage even supposed to be a battlefield?? Make mama sef compromise this time around na

ImaIma1:
Who else was meant to train you? The nurse?

You didn't land on this earth by mistake. Your parents probably prayed for a child and you were born. So who else will now care for you?

Plus, I'm not sure a very good job was done on training the boy. His English says it all