Life ain't fair jare..

dannyrhymes600:
pls what exactly is considered as cheating.
asking another girl out when in a relationship?
romancing and caressing another girl ?
or having sex with another girl.
abeg I wan know

All of the above

Kyom20:

Yes we r still together.

Wow... that's interesting! Will you be marrying her irrespective then?

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Preshy561:
I don't understand why feminists have never raised their voices against these awful treatment of girl child, rather they keep fighting men instead of fighting for the girl child, fighting against the laws that put girl child in these type of mess and the religion that upholds such terrible ideology.

But No, they wanna fight for the the gender that brings spoon and milk in the kitchen or who sleeps and wakes up first in the bedroom.


God deliver Africans, Arabs, people and religion that uphold this nonsense.

TBH, there are lots and lots of NGOs who do rallies and protests against child marriage, even female celebrities and activists are actively involved. There's a lot going on in that space trust me. But then, change is gradual. Hopefully, with time, child marriage will phase out patapata.

Trust me, the "feminists" are not folding their arms and doing nothing. lol

Kyom20:
I cheated because my partner gave me the impression that she was faithful, she talked about her faithfulness nonstop even used it as an excuse for any bad behaviour she exhibited. Saying things like yes am abusive but atleast i dont cheat. I actually believed her till i saw texts on her phone making hotel appointments and having chats about kissing with other guys.

I had been holding myself because i had this "holier than thou" picture of her in my head. Once i realized i was wrong i let the girl who had been wanting me for so long have as much of me as she needed�

Oh... a case of retaliation.. Are you still with that your gf?

IceColdVeins:
The bigger a$$ is always better

Like seriously?

internationalman:
Cheating or the thought of cheating is there to humble your partner whenever they want to start doing like a scrambled dstv channel ..


Anytime i intentionally plant the idea and believe of me cheating in my girlfriend's mind, that's when i know that she loves me even more than i love her.

I always keep her on her toes..
The idea is never to let them get comfortable thinking your player prowess has dwindled because you are with them..

Alway let them think you are a woman eater; that's when their love for you is ever unwavering

PS... I don't even cheat

Really? But do you think this is sustainable? Will you always threaten her with infidelity?

Tell me, if you have ever cheated on your partner, why did you do it?

I am an advocate of fidelity, but the reality is, only few people are completely faithful to their partners. And so I wonder, why? What exactly do we want? Why would a man/woman who "has it all" in his/her partner still cheat? What do one do so his/her partner doesn't cheat?

Who knows, your response might help someone somewhere...

Sigh

Why do guys cheat sef?

Lol

Nawa o. Prophets be interfering in people's marriages since 1701

[quote author=Grayjoy post=85389161]First and foremost, desist from using "most naija babes" you haven't dated 20, even 20 is too small to make conclusions. I always marvel when I hear guys complaining about ladies gold digging them, it's an experience I will like to have, my advice is change your preference in women, probably change your chasing style.[/quote]


Thank you!

Zues123:
That is November Pay.. God still blesses in Marriage. All Ladies are created to multiply only few understand this mystery of God given abilities deposited in every woman..

While y'all are celebrating OP and fighting Thegeneralqueen , who else noticed the narration of this "November pay" is interesting? What company pays you 817k and narrates as a "Transfer......Property Dev (OMP LTD)"? Besides, salaries almost always carry kobos

Also, who else saw OP post the exact same thing on https://www.nairaland.com/5605443/re-ladies-marry-guy-earns/14#85368226
Me I'm just saying ni o.. Plus he opened his account just today.

As to my curiosity, I just think the rich ones don't brag and something wasn't right. Thaz all

cassyrooy:
Women can instigate the abuse by being unnecessarily stubborn to their spouses, and you know many men would go by the cultural way of ‘being the man’ and must instill discipline for the woman to comply.

Nagging me, behaving as you like, utterly ridiculous behaviours can sum up as emotional abuse. Imagine I ask my wife to do something in a certain way and she goes contrary to my instructions and I snap, I expect remorsefulness and quietness so I can soak up the deeds and see the situations (because I'm naturally predisposed to looking at things differently, and understanding the consequences of any changes and how to manage through). Failure to follow this easy way out, I might totally fault her as disobedient to my instructions.

Hope you understand my description above?

For the men, it can be hard to get women to sometimes see things our way too. And because of this disparity in view and approaches, the man will cut her off, and sidelines her about decisions because it'll cause heated debate about ‘having his ways all the time’.

I've heard many family members complain to me and I'd wonder who's wrong and who's right because their matter doesn't make much sense to me as to why it even led to quarrel.

Early this year, my close friend and her husband had a fight over pot of soup.

The man was like, ‘she let the soup spoil so that I'll bring money for a new one’ and the lady's defense was ‘you know the weather we're in, it can make soup spoil overnight’.

Both had compelling stance and I was in the middle, unfortunately, they couldn't resolve things and a fight broke out and I received punches from both parties, lol! What happened, the woman had been nagging the man for sometime and he used that channel to vent, and the woman had been nursing a grudge too against the man's behaviours and they used that outlet to fight.

We can only understand things differently because it's not us being in the midst of all the actions. But being in the heat, we are likely to behave in another way.

And if things were the other way round?

If you guys planned on A, and for some reason you do B...would you not prefer that she listens to an explanation from you on your reasons instead of snapping and tagging you "disobedient" outright? Same way I'm sure she would like to explain why she went against your "Instructions"
Women are not mad you know. Sometimes, when we do things differently, it is for the general good.

crackhaus:

You are on track right there.
That's exactly the point of the slap.

Is she allowed to do the same if she wants you to keep quiet?

bukatyne:


Hahahaha

You have the sequence ready:

Constant abuses - - - - - one slap - - - - - - - apologies (which includes & & &

On a serious note, I do not consider the resulting slap 'physical abuse'.

It is more of a keep quiet mechanism especially when the abuses dey enter body.

Maybe because I went to boarding house sha. You run your mouth too much, you chop slap.

If you are too big/strong, people will leave you till one day they will mass you.

When our seniors that are very wicked finish WAEC, we gather and mass them.

I insulted one senior like that and felt bad years later sha.

I had to repent of it.

P.S.: mass = joint beating.

Some peeps are too much to handle alone

Really? A "slap" is normal? I am disappointed sha but it's fine. We all are entitled to our own opinions.

cerpvad:
In my opinion and from experience, broke girls are better to date than the girls with financial independence. Some broke girls are hundred percent loyal sexually and in other ramifications. This is unlike several financially independent ladies who have tendency of undue control over you thereby instituting power struggle in the relationship

I have dumped a number of working class ladies as a result of the above reason.

Really?

seanblaise:

To those category of men, a teacher is financially stable. Financial stability is relatively. There are families who have a teacher as thier farther and thier mum is also a teacher and they are doing really well. There are also people who see bankers as poor people. To each his own.

I disagree.

Most men want their wives to be teachers because they dont want to do any house chores or provide child care.

Later they will come and say the woman is not contributing financially or she's lazy yen yen yen...elo ni salary e?

cococandy:


Honestly Some of the things I read here sometimes . Smh

And sadly, some gullible people are lapping it all up and making it their daily mantras. In the end, their partners will open an anonymous NL account to seek counsel...

cococandy:


Collect your baby?

This is why many of you can’t have peace. Until you recognize the woman you’re in a relationship as someone who has equal stakes in the union as you do, and deserves the same respect as you, you can’t have peace. Unless your dealing with a zombie with no self esteem or mind of her own.

You will collect the child from the mom like you sent her to fetch a cup of water for you and you’re just back to collect it.

freecocoahubby:



I didn't lie tho ..

If truth is always this laced in insults, trust me, those meant to see it would see only the insults, then retaliate and the circle goes on and on lol. I'm sure that's what's happening between the males and females on NL rn .

All good though.

People are talking divorce already. What happened to seeing a counsellor?
This our generation sha..we're like a spoilt child who instead changing the batteries of his tired toy car, smashes and destroys it cos it wouldn't work. Let's try the "Fix" option before we destroy naa.

freecocoahubby:


Just imagine the sense of entitlement. So disgusting!

This mentality right here is what makes the average Nigerian woman a completely useless non-entity who is undeserving of love, loyalty or respect.

I dont blame them sha.. it's some of these lilly-livered beta simps we call 'men' in the society who have done a fantastic job in convincing foolish women that they deserve the world simply because of that putrid GUTTER in between their legs

Are the insults really necessary?

IyaTola:
After seeing the post https://www.nairaland.com/5456607/ladies-marry-guy-earns-n30k of a man earning 30k shouldn't consider marriage Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy That Earns N30k? by ejitest1(m): 6:04pm On Oct 06 - felt I needed to post my opinion so others can learn.

If your idea of a good marraige is to get a man or woman with a good source of income from both parties and a comfortable lifestyle..

It's fine BUT>>>>

let me tell u the truth..

All those things can be wiped in days.. e.g job's good lifestyle wiped in a matter of days...

So what if he or she was a multi billionaire b4 you decided to marry them.

After few months or years, demons of parking everything appears and parks everything? Oh you forgot 1 bad loan gone south can cripple everything?

We focus on one thing, always related to money gain.. nobody talks about the spiritual aspect of marriage.. everyone always goes with - he must be working in shell or NNPC.. We have seen people who retired from those places and went back to square minus 0.

I told my sisters, never should a man bulk salary or business profits energize you to be a reason to want to marry him because if anything happens to that job or business - you will lose interests in the marriage - then divorce...

Marry a man who got a purpose, drive, vision, someone you can support to be something.. from scratch so that even if he crashed you can always advice him back to the top.

Those kinda marriages last long, majority of those men will love you till death.. even if they cheat, you will never find out... and they can never say "where were you wen I was building my wealth?"

When my uncle's friend (Now working in NNPC) a muslim was told to add another wife, I was in that room - he said in Hausa and I quote "you guys were not there when this lady (his wife) had to sell akara to sponsor his transport fares looking for jobs, so I don't want anyone competing Me with her."

If it was all about the money, you think faith Oyedepo would have married David Oyedepo? Am sure he wasn't seeing 30k monthly salary when he started Living faith church...

Btw, ladies - am not implying you should go marry a lazy broke man, rather marry a man who is starting little with dreams and strong visions, such that if everything crashed, he can pickup again and fight back.

We should marry motivational speakers abi??

You try!

But it's not about having a Benz...How she wan take maintain am? Servicing a Benz lasan is twice some people's salary looool. Spare parts cost a whole lot.

Issokay. We dey here dey look

Mraphel:
You should have seen the signs bf u married her ..i will advice you not to slap or beat her again, go get a divorce instead. Beating or slapping her will make you d bad guy or a beast.

Divorce kwa? They never even marry naa looooool

ImaIma1:
You started what you could not finish. Now you can't handle the result. She could also be lying. And how is she sure you didn't actually cheat and are now claiming you were lying?

You don't need advice. You know what you can live with and what you can't. Act accordingly.

One question though...What was the intention of the confession you initiated anyway?

Good question... trouble siddon jeje, you go wake am. Watin you bin wan gain from the "confession session"?

internationalman:
she's anything but lying..she is just been economical with the truth.

as a matter of fact just multiply that one person she slept with by the number of months since you met her, then you'd get your real answer about the number of guys she's slept with..

marry her if you want to. some girls can cheat without emotionally attached too.

And so you came to this conclusion after reading just two paragraphs about her? Na wa o

lomprico:


dem never kidnap your pikin b4 ba?

That happens only if you choose to get domestic help without due process. A lot of families use domestic help naa