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Huggies snug and dry size 3 (204 pieces) cost 9200
same with size 4(cant remember how many daipers are in the carton).
I live in asaba and get mine from a wholesaler, the Lagos prices should be better.

Reading the replies got me amused, i first tot it was my hubbby that started the thread,

I think its one of the most difficult things my hubby told me. He chose a crisp monday morning to tell me, i actually cried all day at work.

Alot of tots though,,i have house guests, everyone licks their plates, but my choosy hubby complains(he even complains about his mamas own food, hes actually hard to please food wise)
Well i am in this for him so hes the ultimate.
Anyway i had to talk to myself as criticism is not easy to take, have enroled in a catering school ,telling me self that there is always room for improvement and i will only come out better.

The first thing is for her to acept the challenge. Also she might be someone that does not pay attention to detail or is careless, because when i put my mind to it and learn from experience it actually comes out better. Its not easy, Goodluck.

My hubby taught me how to drive. Each ride left us boiling over with vex, kai he sabi nag and i sabi vex.

I advocate driving school anyday,

Even till now, when he gets into my car he still complains, and he makes those same errors when he drives sometimes. I am so sure i am a good driver. I learnt with a new car been driving a year and did not even get an okada dent, I try now. Even my friends tell me how sound my driving is.

He loves to complain till now, what i do is i warn him, if it is my car i will not take any comment when i am driving, if not he would drop off or we use his car.

When i want to toast him or when someone else praises my driving, to his ears i say my baby taught me, it makes him proud. Thats the only good part, it strokes his ego.

Na today yash begin dey back. ,
A church is made up of people, the good, the bad and the ugly. EVERY CHURCH!!!
Becos the RCC is big, imposing and authoritative most of the criticisms are pure BEEF or NTAJI ANYA.

The situation is sad and painful, definitely not something i wish on anyone. But for me there is one lesson. We are all human, we all have evil tendencies, peharps not pheodphilia but from the wide range we are all guilty or have tendency to commit one or the other.

When a church preaches forgiveness, love and mercy it is not difficult to see why some of the preists seemed to be let off easy. Dont get me wrong, the church also preaches Justice, but even that is coated with mercy, thats why things like capital punishment is never supported by the present canon law.

I am not sure of all the details but did any of the victims report to the civil authourities, if i wanted my justice that way i would have reported the case to the police and not a bishop. A bishop will handle it according to cannon rules and law. If i want the offender to go to public jail then why in the world did victims not report to the relevant authorities.

Its like someone offends me and i go meet the persons father to report, most fathers would flog their child or handle it their way. IF i am serious i should report the person to the police.

Please people should leave the pope and the catholic church alone bo.

Fantastic thread!

We were all watching a soap and a man opened the car door for his wife. I asked my dad why he never did that for my mum. The guy replied, help me tell your mother o, before i even apply the brakes she has already jumped out of the car.

Mumsie was yabbing my father that when they were about to get married the guy promised her the latest Honda Accord and here she was with a jalopy. Popsie quickly replied, but the latest is not yet out, they keep bringing out the latest, she should be patient.

I just love my parents,

I am preggie and heavy and mine expects my car to be always clean, nags about us needing a help when i have explained that with assistance we can both work it out.

I work thankfully and he gives me absolutely no money for house up keep, ive tried to ask, but it always brings trouble. Use some of the money he gives you when he does to buy him something he loves. I get him with icecream


he demands to know how i spend every penny of the money i make and at a time i was submitting monthly cash statement of every pomo and biscuit i buy. I could not cope so refused to continue.

Yours cooks at all? Well mine has never ever, and i dont think ever will not to talk of cleaning, i had to get a weekly cleaning lady when i could not cope and he complains about her rates always. But he assists with laundry though, sure its becos hes more finicky about clothes handling than i am. I am always grateful when he launders and i tell him so.

Bottom line is that i know i am not perfect so cannot expect him to be

i love him with all his wahala and i respect him. Read a book on the love and respect cycle and it makes sence. Respect him unconditionally and results could be good. Dont ever trample on his ego, praise him sometimes, not alot since he thinks he is a fine boy!

Stop complaining, esp when he expects u to.

Try to talk to him, if he would listen, mine hates talks passionately, he believes its a waste of time.

Find other sources of happiness, i dont let my joy depend on any man.

Make friends, bond with your parents or siblings get joy from other sources. When he decides to sulk or ignore me. i watch a movie or read a book, thankfully i get so absorbed that he becomes jealous of the book or movie.

Pet him, cook for him, love him, smile at him, pull his ears, serve him. Mine can demand for food at midnight, i always have a meal ready for him. If he complains the meat is too hard, appologise and next time make sure its soft. Do all this for the love of God and u will be happy.

Be more active on twitter and co, add him as friend and butt into his gists

Good luck!

The pictures are lovely, really makes it tempting to go there. It so sad they hate Nigerians , the tot of that hate would definitely prevent me from falling into that temptation. I think i'll make do with the nice pictures, remind me of Gods' wonder

Quote from No2Atheism
it is the responsiblity of government to force those companies from polluting the environment in which they operate. Yet these same foreign companies have been saved millions of dollars by the laxity of government in enforcing those lawas. Yet this same Shell has the temerity to not want more control of resources by the Nigerian government. They can leave for all I care. . . others whether european or russian or asian are ready and willing to take their place.

- Oil companies are making illegal money in nigeria cus they are not playing by international rules . . . e.g. gas flaring saves them money which they ougth to be forced to spend.


- Nigeria is more or less at the mercy of the international oil companies, hence the bottom line is that we need to reduce that dependence and hence gain more control of our resources. . . if Shell is not okay with that they can take their leave.



Do you all realise that of any shell asset 30% is owned by Dutch Shell. The largest percentage is owned by the government and thus all its liabilities, flaring et al. I think our anger, passion and comments are misplaced.

It really depends, my hubby and i have the same employer. Different departments, different buildings. We made up our minds not to cross by each others offices, never to sit together at lunch (i enjoy this one, sometimes i see him and pretend i dont know him, not even a greeting), When we quarrel to leave it at home, no sending of spiteful mails e.t.c., We made sure we both had cars, we leave the office at different times and even come to the office at different times. I try to get home earlier and be a wife so i still have the priviledge of hugging, hearing him open the door and welcoming him with hugs and a hot meal. Becos of our ground rules, i guess i am enjoying it for now.

Advantages
We know when we are paid, bonuses whatever, no room for lies
Have an idea of each others movements and activites, gives a certain comfort without being nosey
we use free IM services for our love notes and marital gossip
We have similar gist so i can flow with his work jargon and he can with mine

Disadvantage
Its putting all ur eggs in one basket, if there is a failure at the centre the family would be badly hit

I think you have to add vegie oil in the mixture too.

lol

I have yab for my husband !!

I am still laughing.


But really on a more serious note abeg.

Im not from the niger delta but my hubby is. I would like our child to have a native name and my hubby is clueless. Please help if u can. Thanks a bunch

Michellin89 thank you, thank you, thankyou

U took the words right out of my mouth.

Am i his maid? arrant nonsense!!!

I never cooked, cleaned, or laundered for my hubby before we got married.
I am positive he loves me for me and not my cooking, cleaning or laundry skills.
He calls me the best thing that has ever happended to him.

Thats why at the end girls feel cheated, 'after all i did for him blah blah blah, 'who sent u. pshewu

chiejik:
i cant wait,remember ladies fades easily unlike men so is andvicable to do it as soon as possible so you rest

Moral of the story is dont go down that lane if ur wife is older than 23.

Besides the external families would not let u guys rest and the pressure on ur wife would mount, you know people dont mind their business. You have got to be exceptionally thick skinned to knock off all the busy bodies.

Personally, i would wait a few months.very few months[sub][/sub]

ajoks1904:
@ Aterus: Welcome to the real world. Am gonna take it that u are married, rite? If not there is not point going any futher, else, if you are,its better you know the health status of both partners cos u cant assume because you probably got someone pregnant @ some point in your life, u can still do it again or cos your wife has been pregnant before doesnt mean she can still get pregnant, If that part of the story is sorted out, good for u. Dont forget that God-factor is always there, Even when you are ready for them,its only God that can determine when kids would actually come!!! If you wanna get married without kids been involved, fine. Marriage is not all about having kids,though.

Enjoy all you can, k? Cheers

WORD.
Kids might not come when you want them to!

With her consent
Tie her to the bed.

There was this story i read of such happening to a woman, i tot it was fiction but i liked her reaction, ignore her completely, pretend that nothing happened.
Your next action would be based on her reaction, so take ur time.

I am so sorry

I feel you,
I could only think of da ff:
1. Begin to lobby for a bigger appartment- kids might soon come being the ammunition.
2. Cajole or stylishly make her do more house work, ask very nicely with a warm smile, buy her things to show your love so when you ask it would be difficult to refuse you, this would make her see the need for a house help.
3. Discussing with your hubby might be futile, becos think about it, what can he possibly do.
4. When she complains about the toilet, if ur hubby is arround, voice out the need for a bigger appartment so she would be more comfortable, your hubby might get the message.
Good luck

Please, does any one know the contacts of the rebranding nigeria crew. I think formal petitions should be written to address this.
NOBODY likes to be called a bad name what ever angle you look at it. I would not clap and praise someone who insults me, its natural.
Nigeria as a people have a fundamental right to complain. If we get a contact and alot of people petition, it might make more press and if Dora has the passion i think she has, a formal complaint should be made.
I know of a simple petition by secondary school students to remove an offensive billboard, and it worked in Nigeria.
Our greviances should not end in empty jaw-jaw.

It supprises me when men complain about women prefering a man that would at least make them comfortable,
Men choose women if they are fine, have the right body and figure, botty size and all sorts
So why cant a woman also choose. Why is her basis for choosing now looked down upon.
Personally my hussy aint rich but he aint hungry and its good enough for me, i did not suffer in my fathers house so i cannot marry to go and suffer.
If your sis were to bring in someone you think is not responsible or cnat at least feed her, wount you discourage her,
Guys get real

@poster . Definitely yes!!!!

Because, i know he would have no one to compare me with, ill be his center and the marriage act would be a real act of self giving, everything heart body .all.

Reptyle:
Well, ehhmmm, let me ask you a question. Was your husband made to pay "armed robber" dowry by your people before marrying you? I have a friend who hates (I mean like really detest his wife) because he claims marrying her almost ruined him financially. Apparently, he was made to pay a hand and a leg (plus head sef) to marry her. So now, he treats her like one of his numerous cars while he keeps SEVERAL relationships outside. He tells me all the time that he BOUGHT her with his money and so her sole duty is to bear kids for him. After that, he has told me he is going to kick her back to her family. The sad thing is that the wife doesn't even know his sinister plans.

He is pissed with her because she seemed to endorse the exorbitant pre-marital requests her family made of him. According to him, they went as far as asking him to build two HOUSES for her parents!!!! Now if that is the same thing that happened to you before marriage, then maybe you should start taking your husband's statement seriously,

LOL

hELL NO! Infact my father returned his share of the dowry. I am thankfully employed so pitched in a little, so did our folks. I can confidently say he was not rendered bankrupt!

@ wakagirl
thanks we do own each other but me thinks my own type of ownership has to be with style and diplomacy, its not in the same level, infact its in secret becos he dosent want to hear that, according to him he can correct me, but i cant correct him, na wah oh, in this modern age.

YOU LOVE HER NOT. plain truth.

i have personally ended a relationship after severally seeing such a manifestation of lack of love.

If she were my friend ill tell her to dump you before you dump her.
Love and selfishness cant go together.

OR
You have not met ur rib

or
you are yet to mature in the relationship.

cheers

I rented,
the morning after i packed the thing and returned (make that 2 days later).
i did not care if it was being soiled, i enjoyed my self and never visited the drycleaners.
I think its whimsical, also a waste of space and money to buy.
My shoes were practical so i wear them some sundays, the earings and stuff die quick, besides they could be cheap so i used them till they died and did not mind.

@ all replies, thanks alot

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
if he really did say that in a serious manner then you should have said that: ¨yes and I own YOU¨

i guess this is would have been the best answer, though he said it jokingly. later i asked him 'to be clear on what owning me meant and if i owned him too', his reply was a stony silence.

sexyLeamon:
guess he is a bit tooo possesive but see it from the brighter side maybe he means you are his.
but saying "I own you" sound kinda raw to me

it does sound harsh thats why i did not like it and considering the circumstance i did not deserve it, peharps i'll dwell on that bright side.

This wife submission thing gives me the creeps, how far can one go!

I love my husband and i am sure he loves me too. I try my best to be a dutiful loving wife. I believe i perform all the traditional wifey roles well. We are good friends, we talk about everything and enjoy a warm relationship.

HE made a statement that 'he owns me' and i found it hard to swallow. i tot we were in the marriage business together, i watch his back he watches mine kinda relationship. I know and realise he is the head of the family and thus my head, but for me, the term ownership strikes me as master slave relationship and i refused to accept it! We havent been married long and i feel that it is correction i must make now, because i am in the marriage of my own free will.

I dunno if i am wrong to have a problem with that statement, so please i need your views and your reactions. Presently he is very angry with me(not talking to me) and says i am being a feminist, please help me to understand the term better if i am wrong, or if i am right how i can make him realise it is not so!

The omo advert where the little boy learn't to tie his shoe laces brings me to tears every single time

Abortion is like killing someone who cannot defend him/herself and worst still someone placed in your care to love and cherish. I believe that no matter the scenario, no matter the stigma, two wrongs can never make a right. I have convinced myself that i will not do it.

I watched "silent scream": a CT scan of a child who was about to be aborted.
The instruments came in and the child 'ran' to the furthest end of the womb trying in vain to avoid what had penetrated his space, the instrument probed, searched and caught the child. ITS MOUTH OPENED WIDE IN A SILENT SCREAM. I dont think we can ever justify such brutality. I believe that if you eat fried egg, get ready to get oil on your lips,

'we all claim we are christian, but 99 out of 100 couple make love before any form of formal introduction. so lets stop pretending. most of this couples have slept with several mates before the got together,'


We all know its not right

For a traditional worshipper or someone who takes tradition first, the trad marriage would seem okay.

But for a christian who should take christianity(GOD) first, i am supprised that the trad marriage would be sufficent for such people.

Why do brides on their wedding days even after staying with the man for some time after the traditional weddings go home and come from their parents or guardians home, it tells us what should be right, we should not let our passions becloud our judgement. Truth is never coloured, it is always objective.

1cor7:6
, I say this by way of concession, not of command. I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own specail gift from God.

1 cor 7:8

To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is well for them to remain single as I do. But if they cannot excercise self control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion.

Paul one of the greatest apostles never married so I am positive that marriage though good is not compuslory even in the eyes of God.