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Interesting, i realy read every thing posted but this made an interesting read.

Am certain its a gift given by the holy spirit both unknown and known(so poster is mistaken), and also certain that some people fake it, peharps thats the angle the poster is comming from.

I attended a crusade many years back, of a now thriving and big church somewhere in ikeja. i will not mention the name here. i dont believe in slander. After the crusade new members were welcomed, we filled some forms e.t.c, then they set out in groups to pray for us individually,,,,,the aim of the prayer was so we would repent and speak in tounges.

i was much younger and so badly wanted to speak in tounges, i tot it was so special, with an open heart and mind i put myself into the spirit of the prayer. At a point the lady went, 'just open your mind and say anything, anything at all that comes into your mind, spew, speaketh, just say any thing' and she was skabashing all the way. When the prayer seemed to drag for ever, I said a few boboboske, whatever so the lady felt triuphant that her work was done and the prayer stoped with her thanking our Lord for giving me the gift.   I was so disgusted.

I dislike self deciet, i hate decieving people not to talk of myself. how will i just begin to say anything ,,,,,was that their definition of tounges. to mumble mumbo jumbo. Well i never went to that church again and lost alot of respect for people that supposedly had that gift, becos i realised that some might just be 'saying anything'.

Till today unfortunately or rather sadly, i have still not got that gift(though i would love to) but 1 cor 14 gives me comfort that there are other more important things in christianity, tounge speaking is not a burining issue. i should focus on the gifts the holy spirit has given me and make the best of them.

We forget the same paul also said he would rather we remain like him UNMARRIED so we would have time for the things of God. Celibacy is also special like gifts of tounges, but not every one can have it.

PEACE peeps

if the house is on village land the contribution should be to the bearest minimum, becos she or her children cannot lay any claims , her support should be more of moral encouragement. Village land has no proper documentation and the sharing is bound by laws of the village. Most igbo lands for instance

If however the house is in town a met city, then she should ensure that all documents bear her name fully. not Mr and Mrs XYZ but Mr ABC and Mrs DEF XYZ. Her full name should be there. Here she can contribute and the girls can inherit. based on civil law and a will. If the Mrs is generic believe me, there can be another Mrs XYZ.

soapdish:
Pls I need a second opinion here. My son just started school and he usually don't accept breakfast before leaving for school so I pack his cereal along with noodles or anyother adult food. Last week the class teacher said we should stop putting the cereal for him. I'm considering letting them know that he doesn't eat proper breakfast before leaving for school but my husband is saying I should do as they say as I may come across as teaching them their job. He is not two yet and I don't it is ok for him to eat only noodles, biscuit and juice from morning till 2 or 3pm. What do you think?. Thanks

For them to tell you that then peharps the school has no provision for that, but i think you should let them know. Your husband dosent have to know, just ask them nicely. At my kids school i pack cereal for breakfast, a snack(Caprisone, n sandwiches or biscuit, lunch and another cereal for around 3 o clock) she is not yet two so its a play group maybe thats why they tolerate the food. IF they dont agree, then start compellin sunny boy to eat in the mornings o. you could start with giving him rice or whole meal biscuits in the car or something and some soymilk(by chi- its filling and my girl loves it and she sees it as a snack).

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I noticed that whenever my boy returns from a weekend with his grandparents, he is more stubborn and more demanding. I have talked 2 my MIL, she says he will outgrow it. But this week that I l traveled I am seeing a different side of him. He can cry for hrs till he gets what he wants, bangs his head around n insists I carry him all day. This is becoming too serious for me 2 ignore. Any advice?

I think grandparents are the kings of spoiling kids. . thats my personal opinion. they allow them to get away with anything becsos they know they would not face the direct repercaution. they do this unknowingly. they give lots of chocolates but dont have to deal with the tatar and tooth decay when it comes. those ones become your problem. I personally avoid such visits as much as i possibly can or till when it begins to look akward. keep the kids busy at weekends, 'Oh shes going swimming'whatever, , limit it as much as possible. its inlaws that might take offence, but me i do it both ways , with nice smiles and excuses so i dont feel guilty about it. They have trained their own. lemmie train my own. I have also sold the idea to my husband successfully so we talk with one voice there.

The guy is just looking for excuses bo. He should have some respect for the demonination that played a part in your upbringing!

Issues arise only when you dont want to change if not it is very key. I can just imagine MFM and catholic getting married, how would they say their family prayers
Since u want to change, then there are no issues, you can as well start changing now. But you didnt call him your fiance so i am not even sure how deep the relationship is sef.

I am personally so dogmatic and religon grounded that i am sure someone like me will NEVA change religion becos of a man, so for peace sake i avoided all interdom relationships.

No vex abeg

I guess i am venting out my fustration at the biting episode. I never felt more helpless. I actually considered pulling her out of the school.

@mutter, thanks for helping me better select ma english

Lemmie not derail the light, cheerful note of this thread . Peace all,,

@tess
I guess careless is kinda harsh, becos with my little parenting experience i know there are some bad habits of my child i am still struggling with, sometimes they really dont know what they are doing, but other times believe me they do!
Your reaction to your hubbies biting back is presisely what i am talking about, though i dont believe biting back will solve the problem, infact the child might see it as a game., but i think you should recognise it as an issue, theres nothing cute about it at all, go read about it online (baby centre et al). It has got to be on the front burner, becos the child can harm others. you dont have to love the solution, do what is necessary. at least try your bestest best first, i still think there is room. My hubby has a cain for our baby, i hate it, but he uses it to scare her and frankly it works, so i close my eyes becos we cant conflict on training issues in her presence(and as long as i monitor the cane treathening sessions).
Spanking (with my hand on her bum) is a personal choice, it worked for me while growing up, i didnt see it as abuse and i have the bestest of relationships with my parents. I intend to follow that approach, i daresay i turned out pretty well. Thankfully i live in Nigeria where a corrective spank is acceptable.
So sis, put urself in my position, if there is a child that loves to punch, (and his parents have tried everythin )then he practices his punches on ur baby and knocks a teeth out, twice. You might just say more than i did

Hi ladies,
To the mamas with biting babies, i think you have to do more to stop it. My baby started it and i spanked it out of her, she stopped. She has started school (21 months) now only for a fellow classmate to have bitten her on two occasions, the scar of the one of the bites would definitely remain till her teen years, thats if it ever goes off.
I didnt find it funny that i made painful strides to stop my child from biting only for her to experience biting from a child with a careless mummie that did not make enough effort. I sound harsh, but i honestly did not find the bites funny , the first one i actually laughed off, but the second,
Long and short so all you can to stop such habits before they leave the house.
Dont get me wrong, my parenting skills are not perfect but sometimes we have to take the bull by the horns. I saw some mammas saying they didnt have the heart to bite back, giving the child a sophie to bite, my dear they might see someone called sophie in class and try their teeth there.
The tot of that bite mark on my babys fair skin just ticks me so offffffff

I had been making enquires about a plot in the ijegun area of Lagos only to realise that the half plot was lenght wise. Well while i am still making enquires on the lands veracity (it is claimed to be sold by the owner himself, that need money to build on his own half blah blah). I began to wonder if it was even possible to plant 4 flats in such a ridiculous shape of land.

Good people of the house , do kindly advise, so as to know weather i should bother with the veracity enquires or just move on. Its major attraction is that it is from the owner itself and the road is fair and the area is already built up. Its downside is its kinda swampy and of course as complained its divided lenght wise with the 30ft side facing the road. Looking forward to useful replies, thanks

Lovely, and congrats again on ur upcomming marriage.

Pheww. Appologies for my unfounded miscontrution

Cheers

[quote author=gree-die link=topic=861431.msg10156831#msg10156831 date=1328781891]I ve set d date for cherry poppin, gonna be dis Dec, wit d one man who is worth poppin d cherry for. i dnt normally advertise, i feel its an individual tin.

My promise to God while i was approaching puberty is d main reason y im still a virgin, i knw God is merciful (considering i was too young to understand wt i was sayin) but im too scared to try him, dat plus d fact dt i want to be different in a morally bankrupt society. I ve nt had much challenges cz im more of an indoor person nd my saucy look does a good work of scaring d guys. I try to go to d ryt places nd avoid bad company. I ve had jst 2 bfs nd no sex yet, however, i make out wit d present one, i ope i dnt stray. Having said dt, my biggest problem is my project supervisor, he is askin me out eventhough my work is excellent nd if he persists, i ll just change him
by d way, im just 20 goin on 21. Too young ryt? Yes dts y im not rushing [/quote]@ gree-die
So does that mean ure getting married in DEcember, if so congratulations am so glad for u if not, well its actually not really my business, but why december, whats the advantage, whats the rush, believe me from someone who knows. Sex can be overated. Why would u plan in advance to commit sin . The Lords merciful alright but even in the law courts premeditated murder and self defence that lead to murder are totally different things.

Staying away from occassions as uve been doing surely does help to maintain status quo. Alone with guys in coloured lights or dark rooms or even brightly lighted ones, is a recipee for disaster, so ure doin well(well thats if u want to )

On ure intimacy with boyfriends, i laugh in spanish, i aint no soothsayer, but the probability of loosing it before December is high if u tow that line. Peharps this valentine . So if its not ure intention, try stop, reduce to bearest minimum or put clear boundaries, gist, go for outings in public places, give ureself a curfew even in school, pray hard,

On your supervisor, u made it sound so light, but i actually think its rather serious. Its unethical for people in such positions to do that. You sound as if ure feeling flattered about it. Well if it dosent affect your grades i guess polite nos when he asks will suffice. A no with a smile, bat of eyelids and twist of hips actually means, 'am enjoying this ask me again or keep trying you just might get there'. So if its really a problem for you grow up and say a NO with a straight face.

Opps i sound so preachy, its all a matter of choice sha, but i am sure its a good choice if you decide to keep it up. Your pretty, u dont need to devalue urself . Do try!

I am married and opened this thread out of curiosity. I maried my husband a Virgin, I was almost 30. had wanted to hear from fothers who shared my ideals and values. I didn't think I needed to post anything but the thread sounded so un encouraging for anyone who wants to tow that line that I saw it necessary to post.
for me it was purely for the loveof God and sheer Pride and the total of being a boss over my own body,the fact that no one could lay anyclaims to seeing my Underwear. it just made me feel good about myself. it helped me pray better and look at my relationships with a clear eye no beclouded Passion. I had good relationships that all ended well becos no sex convenant.
I am certain my virginity got me the kind of husband I desired. a full package guy.he has trust for me I guess also becos of my value system. he has the good feeling of knowing it has been only him and honestly I sometimes gloat about it. I tell him I have given him all, preserved and waiting just for him. he usually has no comment after that.
I am pretty and have been tempted but with God and religion I miraculously pulled thru and I have. Never regreted it.
so for those who want to fine if u have a differentoutlook fine. its a free world. no preaching here just sayin my own. peace

My little girl was reacting to johnsons baby range. That range is made in everywhere in the world so their quality control has comma. So if u use it, i suggest u pause.
If its dry skin use E-45, sheabutter or coconut oil. Doh

@poster.
I sincercerly understand what u are going through. I once read or heard somewhere that infidelity is not only when u sleep with someone else. There is also infidelity of the heart, tots e.t.c.
If a knd of joy, gist, friendship is shared with someone else, its also cheating, becos that part of the heart belongs to ur spouse. Am thankful that ure sensible enough to stop and think. The next step is to do a full U-turn and channel that energy into steps that would spice up ur marriage. Begin to avoid the guy, PERIOD. Wish u success. doh

All my ex es make me do is deeply appreciate the berra person God has given me now. No shoulda, woulda feelings here. A dog does not return to its vomit

I rented mine for 30,000k. I was the 2nd wearer, i didnt mind, it was accordin to my taste. Though I noticed that white was more difficult to come by when renting the creams and ivorys wer more common, but i finally got one, it was lovely and have never ever regreted it.
My mothers own is occupyin space and gathering mothballs in her closet, what a waste!!!

freecocoa:
[quote author=SweeTPoosy link=topic=779817.msg9320402#msg9320402 date=131

My sentiments exactly!
I repeat.
Igbo people should not be allowed to live ANYWHERE but in Igbo land!
See?


I dont understand, so the igbo girls or women located in igbo land deserve rape



[quote author=kemisuga link=topic=779817.msg9322666#msg9322666 date=1318420513]There must be something more to this story, d violation is just used to cover up. Why will 5 male adults and 1 female abduct a teenager? Can Chika (female) also violate her friend. May be they didnt succeed in their initial plans, so they decided to do sometin else.

My tots exactly, the story is not yet complete. It makes very little sence to me,


Weather a kidnap, abduction or whatever my heart goes to the poor girl in question, may she find peace. Amen[/quote]

This country sef, if all the allegations are true so what was DPR, NAPIMS and FMEv doing when this was happening. They dont realise that NNPC owns the largest share in the joint venture.
Funny legislators

677ano:
@Jettage

why would a man strive to marry a virgin - Inexperience woman
and then end up looking else where to your so called spoilt women outside marriage for fulfilment

Being a virgin does not make a woman a good wife nor does it make a perfect marriage

A man that wants to be unfaithful would be even when his wife is experienced. So please find another line.

Agree, but as was rightly said, the corrupt leaders have beget the corrupt people.

i Remember once in school when my note was seized by a technical assistant. The guy said i had to come to collect it at his house. Tot nothin of it as i knew his wife and kids and lived in a BQ close to them. I got there and infront of his children he told me i had to buy him malt before i got my note. I tried to wangle my way out of it, till he directly told me to bring money. I have never been so ashamed in my life. shame for such a conduct infront of his children who were all under 10 years old and staring at both of us. I debated leaving the note, but remembered all the important things i had there.
I had to leave his house and put money in an envelop as a feeble attempt to cover up the nonsence that was going on for his kids sake.

Its not a curse but those children would definitely be corrupt. Thats the example we see today from our leaders starting from our parents. God help us!!!

I actually changed my mind about marrying someone becos of that, its amusing to see that many people would have done otherwise. I felt he proposed to me only to keep me around and was too scared to go the next step of giving me a ring, i felt like an aftertot. I even asked for one esp as it was a long distance relationship and got a its not necessary reply.
For me that spoke volumes and i balled out of the relationship.

My baby tosses ,turns and then wakes up when the weather is hot. Check the temperature !!

I know a Wavecrest School of Hospitality in surulere, 75 Adisa Bashua Street Off Adelabu street surulere.I dont know what programmes they offer now. Its been kinda long

When a man acts that way its only one thing - insecurity, he believes the woman is 'too much' for him. Please this also means ur cousin can have her pick of men.

I have a friend in such a situation, its terrible, shes a nutcase and has a very strong peronality so more difficult to break. But that is the aim of the man to break u, to put u under in a position where u would not flourish and be a threat to him. Its a sad sad uncurable situation. She saw the signs but tot it would be better with time and she would gain his trust but , the marriage is 10 miserable years, plenty of counselling,plenty of pastors and family interference and a nightmare. A man towing that line is miserable and would make others with him miserable.

Even if ur cousin has turned 35 she still has a choice. Such a marriage is simply not worth it

You guys should cool down, We however have to remember that this is a democracy, that there is a probability that there are people who voted him. It might not all be rigging. There are people eating from the same plate with him and enjoying his leadership. There people who he has buttered their bread. So such people would vote to ensure that their bread, in form of contracts, sidekicks whatever is being buttered. For them good leadership is directly proportional to personal riches (and i know it is the same for most humans) . This group might be more than we think. Even gadaffi has plenty supporters among his people.

So please let us not tow the line of notherners who are sore loosers. Four years though it seems long will soon pass away. A baby today would not have started primary 1 in four years
I share the profound pain of Deltans, loosing a fight is never plesant.

Please note that some women lie ooooooooo.

Poster please do not exernorate ur self from all blame. I actually tried to picture it happening to me am also in a young marriage and have a little kid. My husband with all his faults respects my mother too much to shout at me in her presence, I cant even picture it. If i do something bad, he would stomach and warn me quietly then shread me when we are in the room.

Your poor motherinlaw could not take the insult and since ure her son(weather u like it or not) she treated u as she would treat her kid. Wit a smack.

Berra cool down. Tell her ure sorry for ur outburst but dont like and cant accept that! the marriage is too young to start offending inlaws, for peace sake act like a man eat humble pie an move on.

WORD!!
My mind was on money when gbam i saw this on the front page. Women have to be wise. By nature they make extra sacrifices for the family. they forfeit pleasures to ensure d kids have a new shoe or whatever, without ever thinkin about it. But men are not like that. Women manage this manage that and at the end theya re asked, 'what sef do u do wit ur money' .
And to make matters worse we are in a society where we at the recieving end when God forbid there is a problem in the marriage -after all the managing (which is usually done joyfully).
The aim is to try and save for a rainy day whatever the kind of rain, a shower, a storm, downpour or a tsunami, a percentage of earnings weather from housekeeping money, business or regular job. And above all to live within our meanssssss, u dont have to keep up wit the jonses.

@poster
i understand ur delima, bottom line is ur friend, since u said she is indiffernt about her catholic faith, then the ride will not be too bumpy. IF however she is serious about her religion and shes not the type to compromise, then u need to have a rethink on how the modalities would go, which church would u get married in, would you allow her to still go to her church afterwards, the childern nko which religion. Both of u would have to discuss this extensively

Remember all that the church a person attends is part of what made that person pleasing to u in the first place, so disrespecting ur spouses religion is disrespecting the very essence of that person.

The same reason why guys go for preetier ladies or those with ample backside or ample frontside, as they prefer

tshew,

Slowwww down people

All the poster is trying to say is she would like men to be aware of the 'work' it entails to be a woman. To understand that is it really not that easy, she is asking for emphathy and desiring the support from the men.
Am married and i love being married(at least for now) and i realise that one of the things i love is when my oga is supportive or when he praises me for work i have done or am doing. I absolutely hate being taken for granted and am sure no woman likes it. So please dont crucify the poster all she said is true but its work that we do willingly and one that spices up our life.

Pretend it does not hurt u, dont nag and go about your normal business. Still be plesant, nice and warm, give him a good home to come back to.

Get interested in other things, watch movies, get recipee books and practice.

If u keep this act up long enough, he would stop and ask himself what is he doing, and why u seem so unconcerned and still happy.Then he would change.

In short let it seem ure contented and happy wit or without him, then u'll catch his interest. Men sef!

This is a nostalgic topic.
When its the first time it should be special for both the man and woman.

Though in my own case i was more excited, after waiting for so long(my lifetime) u feel like its an oasis in the dessert. Needless to say, i was not impressed. The experience improves with time and practice