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True talk as simple as ABC......

This simply means d husband is stingy but men,the arrangee could go wrong n turned to real kidnapping.

sonnie10:
This one is not poisonous

naso who would wait to verify that, their adrenaline would first push dem to run.

eyinjuege:
That father is not irresponsible please, and the grandma is not selfish.
It's time for her mother to step up.
A mother that abandoned her child for 6 years, not knowing how the child is faring, yet remarried and going about her life as though if the child is alive or not, its none of her business.
Is that one a mother?
Her husband says she is hardworking, meaning she is earning money. She should also take care of her own daughter.
If it means packing out and renting a place for her child to stay with her, then let her do it.
Which responsible single mother marries a man not ready to accept her child?

chikena I jus can't wrap my head around it, God bless u jare.

revolt:
If i pounce on u this night nl will judge our matter.

wat a good laff

Ioannes:
True talk.

I no tell u? D looser is quoting despite not quoting him directly das cos truth hurts n I smell frustration at d same time. Anyways I will ignore him like plague like I once advised u. he doesn't know frustration kills faster dan aids n cancer join together. He's even contradicting himself. Childish.

Oju ni malu n ro, obe o da lorun

remioshy:
Please if you love your wife truly you will love and take her daughter. I already had a daughter when I met my husband, he won my heart the moment he told me he wants to marry me and be a father to my daughter and whatever God provide for him he will take care of me and my daughter, my mother insisted I leave m6 daughter with her but my husband said no way, my daughter moved in with us the next day after our wedding. She was 5 yrs old. Fast forward to now 21 yrs later, he is the best dad I can ever wish for, my daughter loves him to bits, she confides in him more than myself, she loved him more than her biological father who is even nowhere to be found, We did not have a child of our own unfortunately but he always insisted my daughter, is enough for him, My husband is one in a million, a good man. So Man up and take the child in if you really love your wife . A child should be with her mum. Your family cannot live your life for you. My husbands family said lots of things especially my mother in law, called my husband nanny and child minder, but my husband ignores all of them. Today my daughter is the one taking care of his needs , if you don’t know us from beginning you won’t belief he is not her biological father. Yoruba proverbs says “ Eni to bini, ko to Enito wo ni dagba ”

may God bless u my sister ur adage is sooo right, may God bless ur man abundantly he is indeed a rare gem, one in a million truly. I say there r still good men out there I don't base my judgement about men cos of some mofos around me. Live n let live.

Ioannes:
It's not more dangerous unless you are insinuating that the op is a child molester, huh?


The man married the woman and all her burdens, so also did the woman marry the man along with all his burdens.

That's what is defined as marriage.

They can't keep all children born out of wedlock out of the house. If they did are you the one that's going to take care of those offsprings?

Or are you saying that the woman shouldn't be allowed to raise her daughter because she is now married?

Should she go and dump the child in an orphanage because the father of the child is marrying someone else and she is married to someone else and the child's grandparents are also rejecting her?

Put yourself in that child's shoes.

Is it really soo difficult to be empathetic? To try to do to others what you want others to do to you?

Would you be talking like this if it was the man that had the child out of wedlock? I bet you would come here and start saying "He is the head of the family..."

What if the child's father was dead? Is the woman to kill her child because her husband is afraid of what his family would say?

Some of you haven't really experienced life, have you?

please ignore him, he's actually talking out of experience, trust me

janellemonae:
This post is a lesson. All women should strive to be financially independent. If this woman was making good money she won't be at the mercy of these miserable men in her life.
She would be able to stand strong for her child.

Gbam! That is jus d plain truth!!

daewoorazer:
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I tell u

stano2:
Op nice one, i will add one which is COMPASSION
Children should be taught to care, show mercy, and sympathy.
Parents should lead by example and also getting a pet for them will help in teaching them the act of compassion

I love this bout him especially bn a boy any human in this life that has compassion towards another will NEVER b self centered cos he will always empathize

daewoorazer:
10 cogent qualities to instill in your little children.


1. Confidence:

You are on a shopping spree with your son in shoprite but you think you should protect him by speaking to the cashier for him? That’s very wrong by all standards. When he wants anything, tell him how to go by it:

Hello, may I get a bar of chocolate please?

Teach him, there is no age requirement to being able to standup for oneself. How long can you protect them? You don’t even know how soon you gonna leave them. No one is wishing another death here, be a realist for once!

2. Courtesy:

For every little act of help/kindness, let your child know ‘thank you’ doesn’t cost a thing. Your daughter just bought a bar of chocolate, it doesn’t matter if you spent your money to buy it, teach her to say a ‘thank you’, it is free to say, but will earn you invaluable respect from onlookers!

3. Sex education:

Are you still telling your boy that new borns are delivered via the anus? Continue, ok?

How about he learns the truth from a spoilt girl/aunty?

He is brave enough to ask you what condom means and you are yelling ‘shut up’ at him, don’t forget the internet is at his disposal. He will never trust you enough to discuss sensitive information with you, he’d rather turn to strangers outside. Result is you’ve lost your son, not literally though.

Still on the matter, if your daughter sees her first period and she gets scared crying, you are a special failure, not the ‘F’ type you see in the university though.

4. How to use the PC:

Your child tried using your PC, you caught him but to yell and rebuke him? Really? Which decade do you think you are, or you still think they carry slates and chalk to school?

‘Oh he is gonna spoil my laptop, things are expensive under buhari’

Oh my, you had let him get familiar with computer right from childhood. In Nigeria, the next few years may mean no lecturer will waste his time writing long pages on the board, it’s gonna be a central system of learning, students will have to download notes and assignments. Don’t be your child’s undoing. Let him use that PC or buy him one, just deal with parental control and you are good. Remember cafes still exist, the porn you fear in your home, the cafes are willing to dish!

5. Politics:

Can you recite state and capital? Do you still think akwaibomites are Igbo people? Probs you still think Nasarawa people are Hausa people? Some have never heard there is a region called middlebelt! If you don’t want your children in same shoe you are, you had better expose them now! Let them stand away from the crowd. There is nothing as impressive as when a boy/girl of ten years discusses educative politics outside.

6. How to properly bathe:

Listen, whatever you teach him/her on bathing is what he/she is gonna stick to for the rest of his/her life. If you teach him to be 60% clean, he/she may never pass that level of cleanliness as an adult.

Teach them as young as possible, don’t let any aunty, uncle or cousin bathe them when on vacation/holidays. It will save them, trust me!

7. Sharing:

Teach them to understand everything in life is privilege, and that nothing beats the happiness you feel in sharing. Selfless values are invaluable.

Trust me, the world hates selfish folks and akagums!

8. Pray

Teach them how to pray, tell them to lead family prayers in mornings and in the night.

9. Punctuality

Teach them the importance of this. It will save them as adults. Punctuality is a value that can be mastered over decades, help them by teaching them early!

10. Truth:

It breaks my heart to realize 90% of Nigerian parents will beat their wards for saying the truth. He broke the mirror, told you and the next thing is give him 3 dirty slaps; you are not helping the child neither are you your child.

Let them realize punishment is reduced for saying the truth, but extreme when hidden. It will help them as adults, even beyond the shores of Africa!

This is an addition, please whatever superstitious beliefs you grew up with, never share with your kids. Like seriously?

‘If they eat while standing up, the food will settle down on their legs’.

Children are inquisitive, one day she tries it and realizes you are a big fat liar!

BTW, such superstitions will only render them dull, imagine sharing such shyte in a biology class which already told them food moves through our intestines?





https://naijacomet.com/2018/08/05/10-cogent-qualities-to-instill-in-your-little-children/

thanks op very informative, sex education very important, I could remember a day my son bumped into me while dressing n he was shocked i dint v a pen!s that he was going to buy me one, he was 2+ den,i laffed it off sat him down n explained to him. I wanted to stop him from using my tab cos he's becoming too advanced bout it n I was becoming rather uncomfortable despite dat it's not affecting his education in anyway but due to how people used to complain that he's too young to expose him to gadgets atleast now I can ignore their naivevity. Na sharing of things we r still battling with cos he's d only now but he's getting there unlike wen he will never allow other kids touch his toys but now he gives dem d smallest. Every other thing is cool bout. D punctuality na die, "mummy b fast is getting late" even in d morn lol. Thanks once again

Childish

Wat is this mtchew, big turn off, I still wonder wat ladies desire in this anyway I know d normal regular woman out there.

Op don't tell me u felt comfortable sitting in dat bus, that was dangerous coupled with d fact dat he's dirty, using d same hand to change gear, nawa

Us too?

temitopepeter:
So it was peter okoye that pass beside me today in anthony/ilupeju lagos had it been i know it was you i should have collected money from you

u b area boy? Aka agbero. Smh

iamnavy1:
BITCHES ARE VERY WICKED AM DEPRESSED BECAUSE OF THEM.


THEY ARE ALWAYS CHEATING




REST IN PEACE



I AM JOINING YOU SOON




I KNOW HEAVEN TO BE A DULL MAGIC

sai gobe oo, make we know how many of us remain, lubbish. I don't ever think I can feel depressed to d point of taking my precious dear life over a nonsense lover as in HOW? No matter how hard tym will surely heal n u will come out stronger n better das jus it. I can only lay my life for my son.

These people actually need just a competitor n I mean just one then u will realize how they v bn milking us. Who says it can't b pay as u go? I could remember wen mtn started operation in Nigeria, the SIM card was a rip off down to d call card, Infact I remember then dat d call card was supposed to b viable for a specific number of days after which it expired. Why d madness ended is becos competition sets in, now a SIM card goes for as low as #100 with free credit, what this day light arm robber needs is a COMPETITOR den we can all rest.

God knows I need number 2,7,&12. Make I begin de save money.

God knows I need number 2,7,&12. Make I begin de save money.

englishmart:
smoked fish make stew more peppery?

I tire ooo awon cook aiye, it has it's own aroma n taste

I don't know how find it easy to pronounce some of these nonsense politicians names, find it diff sha......... Imagine suswam na to comot d first syllable n turn him to Swam abeg no time for time. Yeye people, old wine in new bottle.

EwuOjota:
Old woman.

Why this guy go marry him mama mate?evening newspaper.

na unconditional love dem de call am, I hate wen it's obvious that d wife is older dan hubby, always feel like child abuse.

.....and after x comes wat next? Alpha n beta shey? Abegy my 4s n 5s don do me. Same old shit with different prices.

Caught Lagos ke? This kidnapper must b a genius, abeg hu b d mod dat pushed this to front page? He or she must b lazy

Anyone that feels ok to play those things up there must b a murderer or a potential one. Wetin b dis?

Yeeeeyyy!!!! UP UNAAB!! MY Alma matta. Thumbs up

Nbote:
Bovi dey madt sha... What if d person don already hammer since and paid for a table for 8 VIP seats in one of ur shows? Jus make mistake talk am for d show see whether e no go tell U " I'm sitting here coman beat me"

he is more than crazy, so he has never stolen in his entire life.

DoTheNeedful:
If you lived in the female hostel then, I should know you too. I'm 2007 set.

no I did not, I lived off campus, camp precisely.

generationz:
Yeah

but he has said he can never run.

I agree with him. It would corrupt or destroy him

what Nigeria needs is a strong military take over by men if integrity.

thank u I was actually talking bout the military taking over power with someone cos all we need is a iron hand, it almost escalated to something else dat my thinking was archaic, but I still strongly belief that could b our only way out. If we should compare the military regime to wat we v now........... Well let me rest my case.