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@chika98
That's y im seeking help from other guys to really understand men's nature. Shutting the woman out only makes it worse that's y i just want to know why?

@ruffrider
Everything u said was done but i figure they want to be left alone but they wouldnt say so or tell u.

@JJYOU
I can relate to that but not discussing things only makes it worse. Is it money? How would u know the woman would understand and just wants to be by ur side to support u when u shut us out? Yes that makes us women scan our head n think the unthinkables. When u love someone, is it only good times, no! It isn't healthy but how do we pretend to be happy when u feel left out?

@Jassie
If it's only happy times then I wonder if love is involved cos as a lady, I want my man to tell me when he has problems, that makes me even feel more cherished n closer rather than shutting me out even when I'm just trying to make sure everything is ok, or at least food.
I can relate to ur girl, how would u call friends and spend time with them when going thru this problems but can't even send a txt, saying hi to ur girl, that's what I'm trying to understand.

Men, sharing ur problems with us doesn't always mean u r stressing us out or at least even if u dont want to tell us, then stop shutting urselves out or is it for the best.


@Whitelexi
We give u men space but isn't enough space when u dont spend time the way u ought to. For example, ur babe is just calling u even once in a week to know how u r, asking u to come n eat, not staying with u n not asking anything from u but making sure u r ok. Isn't that enough space or is it best to just totally ignore??

@sisiJinx
Well said, that helped. Men! so difficult


Please would love more answers. Different Opinions.

where r u guys? pls need answers

Right but why act differently with friends and differently with ur partner. It makes us feel lost n helpless. So the best is just to ignore?

Need answers from u Men, females are also welcome.

When You are stressed out, maybe goin through financial probs, You like to be left alone. Why? not to even be disturbed by ur partner or loved one but still have time n act differently towards ur friends, i mean much better than u would to ur girl or wife. Why??

Men, when going through problems, what is the best that we women can do for u because most times u guys don't even want to hear love or anything relating to that, so what do we do to help u as ur partner whether wife or girlfriend?

Need answers from u Men, females are also welcome.

When You are stressed out, maybe goin through financial probs, You like to be left alone. Why? not to even be disturbed by ur partner or loved one but still have time n act differently towards ur friends, i mean much better than u would to ur girl or wife. Why??

Men, when going through problems, what is the best that we women can do for u because most times u guys don't even want to hear love or anything relating to that, so what do we do to help u as ur partner whether wife or girlfriend?

@WhatEver90

please how do u over pamper a man? I mean shouldn't everything one does be natural? I feel little pampering or overpampering still makes a person, an unsatisfied person still misbehave.
What are things that women do that can make a man feel over pampered?

Long thing?? what's that?

Not bad, love says it all though i'm not saying one should marry her grand/great grand dad'S age. But talking aboutbeing an early widow, that's true but some that get married very young still die whether young or old so i believe one shouldn't be looking at whether I would become a widow soon or not to consider.

I believe that long courtship is bad. 8years is too long. Some people court for a year, less or more and already can't stand themselves, finding the whole faults, getting tired n eventually break off.

@agwoko
Pls could u translate that in anglais(English)

@jjyou
Thanks 4 ur matured answers, it's people like u n others, lots to mention that makes me keep coming to nairaland except Danke

Lmao @ poster

Yeah it is while you have been with the person before the accident or whatsoeva but sometimes i think with the way i feel in love with someone that i could overlook it depending on what though. It is possible with love, I believe

@JJYOU
please help me tell them, People like Danke I dont know his problem, advising with anger n irritation like i begged him to

@ BusyBody
True Talk n thanks, I'll use that advice.

lol lol lol Dont worry I'll invite u for my wedding, Miserable human being.

@ Busybody, yeah i guess im too nice but cant be a fool. I said he texted me saying he forgave me n so on. I ignored that, all i said from my side is closure, he wants to see me n i would to hear what he has to say, is that bad? The forgiving part i ignored it cos i dont know what he's forgiving me for n thats y i said it would be left till we see in person, so i could really n finally know n talk to him. I'm not begging any1 here.

@Karmamod
Yeah I have n I'm all clean dear. Thanks I've heard but i believe i wont fall for his games.

@Danke
sigh it's a pity, u really are  a miserable person n ready to fight n yap all sorts. Call me all u want, it aint nothing dear. Newayz uve said all u want, can u leave my page.

Thanks y'all for ur advice both the good n bad but at the end of the day, I live it all to God since sum pple such as Danke, ! reserve my comment

Peace out.

@jjyou
Thanks dear at least u understand

@Danke, i wasnt going to beg but thinking about it, im actually wasting my time with u. U really sound bitter n alws ready for a fight. Read ur other posts. U rnt the only one giving advice, if u dont want then leave as simple as that, R u the only one on nairaland. By the way is there something bothering u that u would like to share that is making u so angry n irritated easily even when it's not called for? Maybe u should check urself to find out y u r like this.

@yinraph
pls what exactly do ur messages imply?

@ Danke y do u alws sound harsh n bitter even with ur advice? how do u know? r u there or here with me?

@ others
if i ignore him, then what?? i mean this bout communicating n getting closure, pls show me how im wrong here. please

It is more like getting closure HE is the one that wants to see me.

U guys pls dont criticise me. I know what Im doing. Now he has apologised n I still got a lot of things on my mind to say. So till we see of cause I'm not gonna be his doormat. I'm sure u guys have been there, no matter what even if ur heart is stone or rock, it would be very hard to move on if u still have things on ur mind. I'm not seeing him to beg him but to tell him my mind n what he has to say then i could finally hold my head high. My heart is open to any1 oo for relationship  , I aint sticking to him. I've met a couple of guys im dating u know but it's good to hear from him first u know.

Like U mean how he hurt me cos i could write an emotional letter but wouldnt that also include apology?

Yeah I know, I believe seeing eachother would work things out but by the way could u guys help me on what to say cos we r seeing to make peace n not fight again but i still wanna say my mind. Do i write in a paper n give to him while we see face to face or just talk to him orwhat. I'm not a kid pls but just wanna know the best way as we wudnt bring bad memories or fight.

nope im cool, just to say my mind n hear what he has to say u know

@ Busybody
Like u knew the next question I would ask. What to tell him when i see him

Actually he texted me to know how I was doing n that he forgives me I just told him when he had time I would still like to talk to him in person

Infoseye

Hope I was of help, trust me the sex might be good but after then what else, knowing u guys wouldn't get back together. Like I said i know it's hard but try n it would be worth it.

Right u r infatuated with ur ex n lusting after her. I advise u not to think twice n ignore her. After the sex? what next? guilt n how would u look into the eyes of ur current girl, the one u love? If u feel Hot, talk to ur girl over the fone or keep urself busy but i know it's hard.

So what about ur current girl? U love her too or what?

If u dont love her, ur ex, i dont think you should spend time her as this could lead to things u may not want n it would hurt u n be unfair to ur current girlfriend.

Lol people ooo pls i posted this while i was still sobbing n before i made up my mind to try n move on.