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[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=281830.msg4000862#msg4000862 date=1244559317]Sorry i modified my post, like i said he needs to sit down with her and lay his terms on the table, that he does not want her. The girl is just hurt and has a right to be emotional . . . Did bthe guy told her he already had a girlfriend before hooking up with her?

Forget that "I did not come inside her" business, any liquid oozing out of a man's penis is capable of carrying sperm so it is not until you come that one can get pregnant.[/quote]According to him she knew he was with someone else from the the get go and after the rendevous she continously called him and pressed him on a relationship and he refused the advances.

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=281830.msg4000755#msg4000755 date=1244558361]Well if he slept with her, she could be pregnant, but what you friend needs to let this girl know is that, being pregnant will not make him stay with her, that her being pregnant will not trap him. The girl is just hurt that another girl is in the picture, she might not love your friend that much for all you know.[/quote]He admitted to me that he did not "come" inside of her for fear of her getting pregnant. I asked my girl about this whole pregnancy cycle thing and she said it could be very possible she is but the time frame is a little suspicious.

What he is most afraid of is loosing his girl over this and not the actually pregnancy. I have told him he might have to confront her with the situation but he is again too scared to do so. It really hurts me to see him like this.

A close friend of mine had an affair with another girl while his girlfriend was outta town.

After this situation he felt extremely guilty and broke off any ties with this "other girl" but she refuses to let go claiming 'she is in love with him and wants him to leave his girl for her." Of course he refused and told her he was not going to.

A couple of weeks later the girl is claiming she is pregnant and is keeping the baby despite several pleas by my guy to terminate the pregnancy.

I have asked him to confirm this preganancy by going to the doctor with her but he is too weak to do so.

The past couple of days this girl has been using this pregnancy to really threaten my friend and I am beginning to get very upset about this and have even contemplated calling this girl and threatening her.

She has shown him no proof of this but is adamant that she is pregnant and will go ahead with the delivery regardless of what he says.


What should he do in this state? Please no I told you so responses!

@ poster


As it is evident that people are born black , white, brown yellow short, tall, retarded, intelligent, weak, strong,dumb, stupid, slow,transsexual, hemaphrodites,conjoined,

i don't think any one chose any of the above attributes. Therefore it is quite plausible to say I am of the opinion. People are born gay and do not choose this inclination.

you have two choices
First, marry that girl before you process your visa and risk K leg in the process. You may be lucky and everything goes smooth.

Second. process without her, get the visa, cross over and get green card. Once that is secured. I suggest looking for a job which you will work and save up money for a 7-8 month period. Go back to Nigeria and spend the remaining 4 to 5 months time with your "iyawo" so the feelings are not lost on both of you cause long distance relationship requires a lot of trust and the US is bad "temptation".

You can do this for a 4 1/2 year period till you file your paper work for your wifey by then una fit don marry for naija, born pickin sef and then slowly but surely all of you can cross over eventually. This alternative is very taxing but it really depends on how strong your love is.

Bottom line everything nah risk. Ti depends on which one you want to take

slowpoke, ignoramous,non entity, nuisance, skaliwagg,

They are good at big grammar abuse too