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Talk to her and let her delete them on her phone. You don't necessarily have to report her to any of the parents but you can threaten to report her if she persist.

wwhitewitch:
I just discoverd that my neibour still bath his 15years old daughter and i was like this is not right, though the mom is not always around, she is a business woman but do you think it is right for a father to still be giving his daughter her bath after 15years? "cc mynd44,Lalasticlala,dominique

Just being curious, how did you know?

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HaneefahRN:
Thank u, my sister. The verse tht was revealed as regards polygamy pointed more towards marrying widows, how many men marry widows or divorcees? Many of the men who go into polygamy av no justification other than selfishness and at the end of the day, they don't follow the guidelines and conditions needed for a polygamous home wtout going against God and man.

On the issue of polygamy, I can see that we are on the same page as long as all necessary conditions are met. This is the injunction of our creator.
I will differ with you on the verse on polygamy, there is no where it emphasized marriage to widows. Even if emphasis is on widow, for the sake of argument, will women still accept them as a co-wives with no resistance?

ok

let's see who resigns first.

Another IMF agenda looming?

daretodiffer:
I know that it is almost impossible to fulfil without stressing himself.

I know that by the time I am through with research on wife's rights in Islam, it is only God that would help him out.


If I decided to overlook some things because I don't want him stressed but instead of him to improve himself, he decided to share the already limited resources. He is basically telling me that he can do all because he is a man. And he must definitely do all


What's my own?

Omo wa ise, o ri ise

I do not want to speculate on your marital status. When you talk of sexual satisfaction, I know men can be found wanting. Some can't even satisfy one woman. On the other hand, I have seen women who had to beg their husband to take a second wife when they found their demand too much to fulfill. Whats your take on that?

Even if you are so active now, what will happen in 30 years time if hubby is still very active?.

You mentioned that you attended a camp last December, which of the camps was that if I may ask?

daretodiffer:
A man that wants to marry a second wife must be ready to

-carry all financial burdens. I ain't spending a penny out of money for anyone
-and fufill all sexual needs. All sexual encounters must be satisfactorily. If he can't discharge that duty, you are free to call the whole world on his head. I am waiting for man who can do that. Ni be me send am



Where have you been?

All you have stated above are non-negotiable. This your emphasis on sexual satisfaction shaaa

Thank God we now have a responsive government, the last government would have used it as Avenue to Generate Revenue (AGR). The scandals of NIS are still fresh in our memory.
Come to think of it, you struggled to get a job and having gotten the job and worked your entire life, you also struggled to get your pension. Why not start something on your own. Be an entrepreneur. Entrepreneurship is living a few years of your life like most people won't, so that you can spend the rest of your life like most people can't.

Below are some pictures that remind us of the last NIS recruitment scam. They were not in the stadium to watch any match, but for a recruitment test.

Fire incidents in all news. May God protect us all.

What did you say you had in English Language?

Is this a good or bad news?

really?

Good news for the UNIVERSITY

May God assist us in raising our children. Has he also been promoting gay rights?

Good for Nigerian waterways and roads

HaneefahRN:
Lolz, I guess too much nollywood films influenced ur comment although u're right in some ways.
I'm from a polygamous home and sincerely I dnt wish it for my worst enemy. But I think the success of the polygamous home depends largely on how the man manages his home and the mindset of the wives. Most women coming as second wife come wt the mindset to destroy the home and the relationship the man has wt the 1st wife- If the 1st wife is also troublesome then more trouble in the home and when the man decides to take a third, the 2nd wife most times puts up most fight forgetting she did it to another woman.
The basis for polygamy in Islam was mostly out of compassion for women nt for sexual gratification of men (going by the historical backing), even the quranic verses tht permit it has an hidden template to it, wc only wise men who aren't blinded by their personal whims will get. Islam only permits polygamy, it doesn't encourage it. Men are allowed to marry up to four wives on the condition tht they do justice btw all otherwise marry just one wc is the best for u. Then the Quran goes on to say 'and u cannot do justice among them even if u wish to'.(wht is this saying?) .
Sure u can't love them equally but u av to do justice in every other aspect. How many men in polygamy are doing justice in their homes? They think they are enjoying themselves (nt sure wht the enjoyment is sef, sleeping wt different women or what?) not knowing they are incurring more sufferings for themselves cos it's no joke doing justice among women and at the same time they'll account for it, and wld be punished for it (if they fall short) if nt in this life but surely in the hereafter for not taking on the command ascribed to polygamy wc is JUSTICE.
A wise man blessed wt a loving and wonderful wife wld steer clear of polygamy if he knew what is best for him and not blinded by his personal whims, the enjoyment he is seeking is temporary compared wt the loads of account and punishments (if he falls short), he'll face from his Lord.

Hello my good sister,
I started this thread as a follow up to a previous one seeking advice on how to design a house for 2 wives, the link is here https://www.nairaland.com/2813888/architectural-design-house-two-wives .Most people's understanding is that polygamy is evil and it only benefit the man whose intend is to satisfy his sexual urge. As someone who came from a polygamous home, you should be in the best position to advice.

My question here is 'Why do we marry?' Are we not suppose to consider how marriage influence the society, its social-economic impact, its effect on population growth? It is only when marriage is taken as a personal affair that the negative aspect of polygamy is seen while the benefits are given away.

What is the Islamic ruling on adultery? why does adultery attracts a capital punishment? why does it take 4 witnesses to testify (seeing the act and not speculating) when the accused wouldn't have used a stadium?
The Islamic injunctions are always preventive so as to protect the society. Individual would face his Lord to account for his deeds but the society has to be protected so that weak one are not lured into sins because of what goes around them.
If we want to protect the society by banning fornication and adultery, by encouraging (early) marriage, by banning prostitutes and prostitution, by assisting widows and divorces, we may not practice polygamy but should not condemn it.

I agree with you that men abuse the institution of polygamy (as terrorists abuse the use of hijab), should we discourage it because of some individuals?
No woman would want to share her husband with anyone but when the reality of sharing comes (especially when widowed, divorced) their opinions always change.

Allah knows best.

Mindfulness:
Are love and affection limited resources?

Why not give love and affection lavishly and inexhaustibly to everyone?

Thanks for your comment. Like I wrote, I am trying to increase my understanding on some family issues.

Why would a wife refuse to cook for herself and children because the husband is not at home? In my own little understanding, such wife's affection is more to her husband than the children.

Well, I may be wrong but I will love more explanation. Has it happened to you? Why would you take such a decision?
This is just an example of happenings withing the family. As insignificant as it may be, it explains lots of things.

I have been reading the understandings and dispositions of lots of nairalander on family issues. I have my own understanding, but while trying to comprehend others views a question came to mind. Should women show more love and affection to their children or husband?
As a woman, have you been faced with a situation where you refused to cook because your husband was not at home leaving you and your children to 'manage left overs' at home. Is your affection more to your husband than your children?

At what point should one shift affection from husband to children or vice versa?

You are please welcome to share your views

The type of business you invest in has to do with what you are curruently doing, where you live and your readiness to do business.
If for instance you are not much engage with work, you may visit retail foodstuff shops within some estates in Lagos as wholesalers. You will be buying from some neighbouring town around lagos at relatively cheap price and sell at profit to estates retailers.

Remember that " enterpreneuship is the ability to live a few years of your life like most people won't so that you can live the rest of your life like most people can't"

No matter what you choose to invest, may the good Lord bless it for you.

I like constructive critism, it makes me see things that needed to be improved on.
What does PDP actually want? They wrote that they are the best opposition, who are they competing with? Isn't the Dasukigate revelation enough for them to bury their head in shame?

APC has mastered the act of opposition that they have forgotten that they are now the ruling party or governing party.Why would they be critizing the critics?

Thanks for d info

There are enough problems in the middle east. A diplomatic solution must be sought before it leads to another war. Saudi and Iran have always been enemy.

One question I aaked myself was ' who would benefit from this probe at the end of the day?is Buhari or the Nigerian masses. This brought me to a conclusion that both. Even if PMB's intention is to pay Dasuki back which I doubt, Nigeria as a country stands to gain a lot.
The probe would send message to international communities on our seriousness in fighting corruption.
The probe would enable other intending looters to have a rethink.
If pdp could loot that much to prosecute election, how much would they have looted if they had won in 2015? And what would have happened to Nigeria?
What i do not know is the reason why Dasuki and others have not been referred to the Hague..
Kudos to PMB! Nigeria will be great again.

Investigate all polititcal jugdements and bring erring jugdes to book

Ina lillahi wa ina ilayhi rajiun. From God we have come and unto him we shall return. What a circumstance?

I think you have a cruch on this neighbour of yours. The last time you open a thread that he parks his car infront of your house and looks up your window. Now he came into your house and ignored you.
If you like him, and see him as a husband material, make friend with him. He his probably the shy type of guy.

Please do note that my emphasis is on marriage.

@op. Where did you meet your wife?
You have alleged your wife of a serious crime. She could be prosecuted for illegal publishingof indecent materials and adultery (in Northern Nigeria).
You may have to confront her in the presence of some family members with all your evidences and be prepared for seperation.
I can't imagine living with an adulterous wife. The earlier you confront her the better for your life l

oohrhiifx:
I read the thread from the first page right to this and I must say I am so impressed by your resolve, plus you actually do have a valid point. I read that full article you posted and even saved it, it's purely true, most of we men are just too ashamed of accepting the fact that men are naturally promiscuous, it's all and the same with everyone,it's just the level of exhibition that differs which also makes me respect your resolve to rather have two wives that forlic around. However seeing how wise and well learned you are I am sure you obviously know that it won't be bed of roses.

I wish you all the best in your chosen path.

By the way I think having two different set of everything joined by a central living room makes a whole lot of sense, however I'll advise a small living room for each wife individually and also a separate get away for you.

Best wishes

Thank you for your comment and advice.

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