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My mum has the same feeling Laide. J

Just seat her down and tell her you won't wear it again and what you do after is your business. You are a big girl!

My dad said he is happy all his children are serving God and even if God calls him to a higher ground, he would not mind.

One of the best advice from Dad but too emotional to be accepted by me. (I want no higher ground work now for my dad)

layi:
What if he insist on his own child not smeone else's (adoption)?

@Vexxy...check this quote

Yes, I would love to change our spirit of leadership but i would like to know who are their MENTORS.

How many seed have you sown so far and you are sure their germination is praying for you and GOD is saying that's my boy BIBI?!

yes o.

I learnt yesterday that when you divorce you can't even re-marry unless death do u both part.

According to the bible that can't even be a second wife unless death separate them.

I  got to understand this from Christian friends yesterday. I thought divorce is allowed but if you do it, you have to stay unmarried forever unless you get back to each other again)

The best is to stay single forever or be very, very sure you are marrying the right person.

Alright ladies.......it is well

I don't pray for this to happen in Jesus name because our answers are easier said than done.

@ Vexxy dear - Yes, I don't want to share my man for whatever reason; we got to adopt; and so on.

Prayer works, but let us just imagine this:

(1) Where does our covenant comes in........in sickness and pain till death do us part(Permit if wrongly put)"

(2) I know him very well because he is my husband, he desires having his own blood(child). Does he have to surfer in silent which l know might end my marriage since I don't want him to be shared? His biological child can only come from another woman. We are both still very young.

kazey:
Oh yes, by the time I get married, I would have enough to retire on. Watching tv, travelling, enjoying and playing golf would just be what I would do.

@ Seun and Kazey - Don't be surprise.  This is what they do as Husband at home.

Thanks dear. Am behind you 'cause you are always the first.

Since we are not Nun or a Monk unless you are thinking about it, I think Marriage is compulsory.

Without marriage, there can't be sex!!! (The Holy Bible illustration if you believe in it).

If you don't ever want to get married, that means don't think of having sex as it is ONLY allowed during marriage.(The Holy Bible illustration if you believe in it).

Men should work no matter what. I don't like the idea and I don't think such idea can last among couples especially in Nigeria.

Yes adoption is an option. All I think depend on what he has decided to do and which I think the lady has very little option to object if the problem is from her.

You are not yet his wife and be beats you a lot and you are still asking if you are to dump him.

To be sincere, when you asked yourself this question, what was your own answer and if you haven't, please do and answer back.

Dearheart, do not do this to yourself for no reason PLEASE! PLEASE!! AND PLEASE!!!

On a lighter note, I want to believe this is not happening to you but it is your imagination for a POST in this forum.

kissyspark:
why am so confused is this, when i get fed up and calls him up 2 talk to him he`s scared i want to dump him because i have met some rich dude and then hes begging ,crying plz don't dump me ok i promise to change and then after sometime he goes back but i love him just hope he would change

"...you want to dump me".  Those type of words from guys! Please try not to believe such words EVERYTIME even from a guy from your family. Infact from some of them you are already dumped why it is the reason he is making such statement.

Open your eye my sister and let God leads you.

If you are comfortable with your feeling that you are losing him, please give him a break from your own side also.

If you know your feeling is so strong and you can’t just stop loving him despite his recent behaviour, then ask him if he is still interested in you. The reason is because if you are still very much in love with him, telling you to drop him is a waste of time because you won't do it. All because the so called love is blind as they say.

Like I always say...a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

ajsalako:
why not? when she is paraplegic what else must be done? a man needs a fully functioning wife, not a useless invalid. same as a woman! life may be cruel/real at times but it a part of life. we must all accept and deal with it. people that try to hang on just become resentful (and that's just unnecessary).

This could be painful but where is your "...in sickness and in health, till death do us part" vow during the wedding

@Joftech & Bambi: I like your break down of payment. Very funny.

We are still not save sha!

The simplest answer is "he is unavailable at the moment"...you are not lying. It’s now for you to take up your duty as a receptionist and move further by saying.....may I take your number while I get back to you the moment his available? Or I will make sure he gets back to you.

Yes o Dablessed.

May this never happen or happen again.

I cannot believe such a story from the man but at that moment I will allow the sleeping dog lie.

For him to appear like that, he has seen more trouble than what I would have preferred to offer him.

why do women especially the married one's go sniffing around when they can do practically little to stop the man if he is fooling around?

I feel every married wife should once in a while sniff on the husband. You should be jealous about what you own and guide it judiciously. If not for yourself, do it for the children.

I think a family relationship should be a thing like when the man is not around and a decision has to be taken, whatever options the wife decides to take should relates to whatever the husband would have preferred best for them.

The Bible says the TWO shall become ONE.

@ uchetobi

Question: And what if the guy doesn't marry you?  What happens?
Ans:         then you don't have a husband and we are talking about an unmarried couple in here

Question: he dies before the weddin for one reason or the other, then you'll bear the tag unmarried mother
Ans: if he dies before the weddin....you are still not married but you lost a very dear one but not yet MRS. WHATEVER
and that means you bear no tag and I never said i will ever be pregnant before marriage sweetheart.

N:B; I believe there is a different between an impotent man and a man who can't have a child. Some men just have low sperm and that causes their being childless or do I need a doctor to explain the difference in more biological way.

I wouldn't say some of them are heartless but rather they should be careful of their temperament.

Women are weaker vessel and men shouldn't just forget that but am not disputing the fact that certain women can be very, very stubborn.

@ Seun....I BACK YOU UP MAN.

@ Sade....Goodluck.

No I won't get pregnant before marriage but since am already a fiancee that means am ready to face his incapability and that is, he cannot ONLY have children and which am aware before marriage.