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I'm thinking why the two phone lines are not working

Like I said:

Motee:
I am waiting to see more views to learn more...

Nferyn: Makesure you try all your best in your marriage. It worth staying together.

Well, interesting views from Nferyn and which I believe should cross every human thought created by God. I am not disputing these (quote from Nferyn: Concerning divorce, just as in all ethical dilemma's, you need to weigh the good against the bad. If you're in an abusive marriage where your partner neglects you, beats you up or is unfaithfull to you, then you better take the route that causes least grief to all parties involved. In this case that will usually be a divorce.

My issue is that you cannot "re-marry" as long as this man is still alive according to the Bible. {Isaiah 40:8 His words stands forever} The law we are following which says if one commits adultery you can leave him or her was given because of the hardness of their heart by Moses and it was because of his own annoyance also towards them but if you read further into your bible, God does not allow it.

Divorce is always an argumentative thing even among our parents.

I end it with a quote from Nfery:If you are too immature to compromise in your marriage, then seek help and try to salvage your marriage, especially if there are children involved. But above all, get some life experience before you jump into a marriage.

ANOTHER IDEA FROM A FRIEND 30 MINUTES AGO: She says if you marry when you are not born again Christian and you now want to change but one of the party does not believe in Christ, you are allowed to re-marry.  (I HAVE NEVER HEARD OF THIS BUT ANOTHER VIEW ONE HAS TO MAKE A SEARCH).

I am waiting to see more views to learn more...Got to go...not feeling to well!

I think it is getting worse at this times of our days including girls not only women.

That is known as CONTINUOUS DANGEROUS ZONE.

I feel it is just a soul tide problem. When she is able to save herself from it, she will totally avoid you and unfortunately, you might have lost the right person in your life because she would not totally appreciate whoever is in your life at the moment.

Don't you think you are creating a deeper feeling that might never go because every positive reasons from him concerning the way he appears is a negative feeling in most women especially me.

WesleyA QUOTE: well, if you're christian then you can't remarry. if you're not, you're lucky because YOU CAN!

Good idea dear; but a word is enough for the wise (hope rightly put)

To those of you saying it is wrong:

JUST A THOT:
Do you have sex before marriage and feel comfortable because you are not staying together so no one knows?

OR

You rather stay together and let us know yes, they are doing it and they are not pretenders.

I think she looks like Janet.

We prefer to hear your wedding bells (FIRST kissers) not “the first experience”. (This experience can lead somewhere unexpected)!

A word is enough for the wise.

Not these days again Layi. Majority of them knows what they are going into and they don't care because they believe there is maturity, understanding and financial capability in it.

For those of you picking up the idea of divorce; do not forget that as long as you are both married and you ended it with divorce papers, both of you will forever stay unmarried most especially when you are both Christians (Born again Christians) according to the bible.

Angels are messengers of God. They are our Guardians and they answer your call when you call them or send them out. You need not wait to see them in the physical everytime because they can come in different form.  Seek them and believe.

Well to me, they can both be more unfaithful. It is just a pity that men's own come out most often because they cannot hide it and for women, we are more secretive than men.

Ka:
But if I was a parent, I would get the child to do what I want by subtle and not-so-subtle techniques. For example, if I wanted him to be a world-class footballer, I would play audio tapes of football matches during my wife's pregnancy. Then I would play back-to-back videos of footballers when he was a baby... I'd take him for kickabouts in the nearest playground when he was a toddler... I'd hang posters of world famous footballers in the house... I'd buy football video games, etc. etc.

Very interesting point.

I think you should leave the job.

I know good looking guys who do Conductor's work to send themselves to school so therefore do not bother about who to pay for your fees. Infact it shouldn't be an issue.

I can feel it so strong in me that you are also not interested in her!

I support Fabian's view but the only thing I would not allow is the man moving out if he so desires. He can only achieve that if I am not alive, because our marriage covenant is ...till death do us part NOT[color=#990000][/color][....till my best friend do us part.

Please your views on Catholic worshippers is needed on one of the topics from Family/Marriage. The topic is Catholic/Pentecostal: why the disagreement?

I think one of the issues between Pentecostal and Catholic Marriages is their way of serving the Lord which is totally different.  

I respect Catholic worshippers because most of them are devoted but I disagree on so many issues with them and one of it is that of bowing down for Holy Mary.  To Pentecostal, you are worshiping a statute and it is a sin from our own point of view.

I think it is very, very important for couples to understand what they both believe before going into it. Ordinarily, the issue of religion can break a home and that is why we need to settle this before going into marriage.

@ Seun: Can you invite a Pastor to tell us all about Catholic and Pentecostal Worshippers?

Years before now - no probs.

Now, open your eye well, find out about them, be sure you know what it takes for a different tribe to mix with them and the choice is yours.

Thanks for your appreciation. That is why we are NAIRALANDERS.(Administrator permit me o)

I believe having children or not should be an agreement between the husband and wife. If they want no children so be it and there is nothing bad in that.

and what is the new side of the story?

Dear babe, if you feel in your heart this relationship does not worth it please drop it (no matter how you feel). If you feel this relationship is wrong but you want to continue no matter what, please go ahead.

Reason is that, when it comes to your own personal feeling towards this man, until you decide in your mind you are no more interested, all advices are waste of point because you are deeply in-love and you would not see reasons to any of it (LOVE IS SOMEHOW BLIND but has to be dealt with a times with a serious mind).

Yes, you might be playing with a broken heart later on but it is better you deal with it now than when it might be too late.

Finally, if you are a Christian, marrying this man makes you an illegal wife because his wife still exists.

The child is free to reject the family religion as long as the child is at the matured stage. Personally, I see no reason why my children will refuse my religion because who else will you serve if not God.

I will prefer to have two children.

I think we should all visit this website (http://www.handpen.com/Bio/children.htm#Wrong) and have a good knowledge of what having children is all about as much as it is important to have them.