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DaudaTheSexyGuy:
Don't worry, I will be servicing the lady for you while you're outside the country

No be only servicing. Na overhauling

realman42:
U r sounding as if girls go finish.Baba new beautiful girls keep coming up year in year out.Go abroad and hustle when you r successful come and marry

Hmmmm. That’s deep.

stanliwise:
You told your parent you want to get into a serious relationship.
Omo this one di kwa risky o. Okay you said I should not bash you.

But that part ain’t necessary, if you don’t have any serious one here for now then just rest and go over there. Did they tell you that there are no Nigeria women there? That would agree to come home and marry.
Abi do you prefer arrangee marriage( the one parent would help you to find) here and later on one saheed that would be helping you warm her engine while you’re abroad working hard. Baba calm down, stop following too much rumors and rules. Calm down

I thank so much. I was waiting for the bash but I think I was happy not to find one after reading through your piece. This one you talk really sink inside my head. Thumbs up bro.

gfon:
Leave relationship,think about making it abroad,if konji hold you,plenty chicks dey over there to oil ur engine without even asking for a dime from you.No come travel abroad,come dey think of one liability in Nigeria in the form of a girlfriend.

I get your point.

ZIINI:
When you get advice from folks do you follow them instantly or you also sit down and think about what you want to do?
Well I'll advice you to go there first if you leave your girlfriend here, bro our body ain't log of sticks this girl will later fûçk another nigar due to konji.
Get there first so when it comes to green card saga any girl that comes your way and help you out with it you can marry her if you like her..

Thanks. But for green card I can always get that at the right time over there. I’m not in a rush though. I’m migrating not for visit. But I love your point. Thanks for this piece.

Powersurge:
My guy, first of all, by the time you spend a year or two over there and you come back to this thread, some of your assertions here would be either very wrong or very right. i can bet on the former.

No girl dt would hv the knowledge dt her new bf is abt to japa with the possibility of coming to pick her that wouldn't behave like an angel. Even olosho go pretend to be a virgin.

Many Nigerians have made the errors you are abt to make. While some worked out, others end up losing everything. The assumption that Nigerian born girls would be a better wife over there. Go to Nairaland travel section and read up some story. In fact, most Nigerians abroad preach against coming home to pick a wife (from the comments on those thread). However, nothing is constant in life except death. It could work out for u perfectly.

My advise is what you don't really like. Date one among your friends. I am 200% against dating new person for this purpose. In the end, the decision is yours. May your journey be fruitful. peace!

Hmmmm. Dating one of my old friends? Ugh! What if I know little about their present character?

PrimadonnaO:
In every decision, there'll be pros and cons.

Don't approach relationships or people with this mindset that it must be concrete enough in 3 months.

Begin to accept the fact that you may not find a worthy partner in the time you have left here in Nigeria.

There are so many ways relationships can start, so many unimaginable scenarios that lead to two people ending up together.

There's no telling who you'll meet over there...
A friend or a former love interest may just end up being your spouse...

Be actively searching, but without the pressure that you must find her in 3 months.

Thanks for your advice. I appreciate a lot.

gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh

In my own opinion 3 months is enough. Don't disclose your plans about getting a woman in 3 months to any lady you got entangle with, this might hid her genuine parts and result bring out her fake side because of 'Abroad'.

If you can't get a lady just talk to your oerents they can get you one.

But if you can play well, you can get a nice trust worthy bea here, just pray that God will should be done.

You’re very right. Exactly what my sister told me. She even told me not to tell any girl about it. She even told me not to upload any photos on my Facebook so as not to entice the wrong lady

Hi pals. What’s your opinion on this subject matter?
I actually intend traveling out pretty soon ( less than 3 months from now ) but I was adviced to have a woman down before Moving out. So that when I get there I’d just come back to marry her and take her with me. But right now I have no serious relationship. Though I have a lot of female friends but I’m not into any of them. So I told my parents that I would want to start one as soon as I get there. Probably a decent Nigerian girl over there. But theyre afraid I’d get tangled to a white girl. They also complained that it can only take the grace of God to find a decent Nigerian girl abroad because of the feminist society I’m about to immigrate to. I’m not racist but I don’t really have flare for white ladies that much. Now my question is.......

Is 3 months enough to find a woman to start a relationship with or should I just forget about the whole thing and just travel in peace.

Please do not bash me o. Lols. I take God beg una. I’m just confused. I tell you. You don’t wanna be in my shoes right now.

I can attest that the sermon is boring

Have you ever wondered why people dress to church only to end up sleeping during sermon? I won’t say I’ve not done it before. But as an instrumentalist it’s very rare I fall asleep because my hands are busy. So for you, have you experienced it? If so, what’s the cause?

tosaino95:
Okay, but when you do mention me so that i can know on time you have post it.

Sorry I’m typing this now. I’ve posted it. Sorry for the delay

Ghozt:
If i am going to be honest with you ,in my own humble opinion without being sentimental of course, without offending anyone who thinks differently from my own point of view,but also by looking into this matter in distinctive perspective ,i would like to say i have nothing to say

Lols. Foool! You got me mehn.

SavageBoy:
You deserve chilled bottle of Heineken

I'll pick and save the last sentence of your statement in my memory drive

It happens to both sex but women have it most

[quote author=drmikeadams post=98959309][/quote]I let her out of my life for almost one year before I got another job. If I’m a simp atleast I would have been stalking on her then. But I didn’t. Like you said; confidence is in you whether new job or not. So that’s what I’ve displayed all along. Hope this helps you understand me better.

[quote author=drmikeadams post=98959309][/quote]I think simp is now a new word to you unless you don’t know how to use it. I’m a man who has an open heart to life. I don’t worship women. I only try to be responsible so I don’t know where your simp is coming from. I got a better job and left the environment. Whether job or not I’ve made up my mind not to have anything to do with her again. Why is it a problem to you? My words stand. Don’t think I’m a little kid. I didn’t create this thread for you to advice me. I opened it for people who knew what has happened before now. Please mind your speech. What do you know by the word simp? My new job has nothing to do with my attitude towards her ok? If that’s where you’re going

SavageBoy:
You haven't learned,why will you reply her message on Friday

If she tells you "Hi" on Monday, reply her "hello" after 2weeks
That's how it's done

Modified: Just read your story, I think I remembered when you posted it then
But it got me wondering... let's keep simping and redpill aside

I believe in treating a Lady with dignity, love and respect
But why is that a lot of ladies like misbehaving whenever their guy is treating them with love and respect

Is it an in-born tendency or are they trying to prove something or what
And most times such ones will now come running, begging for the relationship fire to be reignited again

I'm just thinking out loud though
I for myself have learned never to take ladies seriously, and only giving out a quarter of my emotions in any relationship

And that’s what I’m doing right now. I resorted not to love women but rather show them care. Learnt the hard way. You’re correct

Brosbeforehoes:
Read her message and ignore

Yeah that’s cool though.

debbydams:
..I like u man, my ex did thesame I beged tired, sometime when i.called him heard lady voice, I stopped calling after a month he called I told him I'm busy.. I hate one sided love, if I stopped loving u, if u like buy me iphone � 12 i.wont even like u nd I might even reject it

Exactly..... when love dies it has died simple!

Zzor:
mtchew Benita doesn't have your time yet else she knows what to do.From your write up sef you are a vegetable man

On a serious note. Trust me. Where I Dey operate. I don’t need to look back. You know what I mean.

SavageBoy:
You haven't learned,why will you reply her message on Friday

If she tells you "Hi" on Monday, reply her "hello" after 2weeks
That's how it's done

Lols. Guy your blood dey hot o!

I want to use this opportunity to thank everyone that advised me when I needed it most.

For those who are new to this topic can visit the former tread here:

https://www.nairaland.com/5637320/2-women-life-which-should

A lot happened after this time but I’d summarize it.... God help me. Lols.


Ok....... I had to settle for Benita after all. Everything was going smooth until she started messing up. Usually when she goes back to school ( 100 level as at last year 2020). She calls, both WhatsApp call and video call. She never wanted to miss me for a second.


After a while I started realizing that for 2 to 3 days I won’t hear from her. I decided to allow her probably she’s busy with assignments and all that. The 4th day I decided to call her. No response. To cut it short I had to chat her up. Told her what’s going on. The usual “I’ve been very busy lately”. She continued like that for two weeks. This time I decided to man up and tell her that I’m not comfortable with her recent attitude. She got angry and stopped chatting with me.


I started begging. But it took her another one week to respond. Ever since then, if for example I say hi on Monday, she replies hello on Tuesday. This continued like that till the lockdown. She came back from school. Mind you she usually comes back once in a while for weekends and spend it at my house before going back to about 3 states away from where I stay. To tell you how the love was so strong then.


She usually visits but this time she went straight home. She refused coming home. Even when I wanted to take her to shop. She told me to send the money to her instead. Then I started having ill feelings that she’s seeing someone else. Ok I had to tell her to atleast come let’s see. She said we should meet somewhere. Immediately she said this I became very feverish. This babe was like an angel to me. I didn’t wrong her, I didn’t offend her, we never quarreled before she left my house back to school.

When I realized myself I told her we should meet anywhere. She obliged. I took her to a very expensive eatery and talked to her and told her there’s no need to behave that way. That she shouldn’t worry about me anymore. She’s free to live her life. Her countenance changed as I left her there and went back home.


She still didn’t call back but I wasn’t worried anymore. After sometime I got a better job and moved out of that environment. This time I had to take a break in everything. Susan is also living her life but I decided to let them be. Not quite long Benita started calling again. But trust me, I’m off her. The job I have now opened me to so many people and I’m happy now. I must tell you the truth. No feelings anymore for her. Now. She tells me hi on a Monday and I say “ hello” on a Friday.

tosaino95:
That mean you are going to do it right ?

Yes I will.

tosaino95:
It better you open new thread about it bro because people can learn one or two things from experience doesn't end.

You’re right

tosaino95:
Hey Man, We all thought you're cool with benita.
What happened between you and her and even Susan

It’s a long story. I don’t know if I should just open another thread for it.

Vindmeapp:
I also agree. Seems to me your heart already chose Betina anyway, that's what matters... Are you visually attracted to both equally?

Sadly I’m no longer with any of them. This thread has really lasted a long time. Thanks all.

sirrotex:
I have traveled by road to Ghana on two occasions and have subsequently gotten Schengen Visas with ease. I am of the opinion that the only country that can say it's boarder stamps are fake is that country itself. If truly you travelled to Ghana by road and got your passport stamped, you can attach evidence of your hotel accommodation for subsequent visa applications. My 2 cents.

Hmmm.

Beblessedbaba:
My dearest brother,

Thank God you posted this on nairaland else i can assure you you will be in a lot of mess by tye time you present same passport to another country especially in the Americas or Europe.

You may be banned for life and your passport seized and submitted to Nigerian Immigration.

The immigration will make you hate Nigeria more cos there is a cabal between their staff, the transport companies especially Cross Country very fraudulent firm, Ghana and Benin immigration will make you regret and curse the day you visited Ghana.


Only travel out of Nigeria by air else the chances of you getting a fake visa stamp unknowingly is more than 90%. You will understand better if you fall into it.

Run!

Wooooow! Thank you so much. God bless you. I’d take your advice. Thanks a lot

Hello friends. I’ve been having this thoughts on me that scares me so much. I want to travel to Ghana in order to disvirgin my passport in order to get a travel history. But my problem is that I use to hear that at the Ghanaian border they issue fake stamp sometimes. And this usually denies them visa to their desired country in future. Please how true is it? Because I’m not really sure. If it’s true do I just suspend the trip? Please I need advice.

To my Ghanaian brothers please this thread is not to downplay any country. It’s jyst an information I got and would want to be cleared about it. Thanks and God bless.

[quote author=DonEd post=96802530]Walk into the nearest Mountain of Fire and Miracles and deliverance Ministry.

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I don’t think that will work anyways.

SimplyFacts:
Could be as a result of hurtful heartbreak

I feel the same too

Not really heartbreak. But how did you manage to break even?

paulolee:
same here BT different bcoz i lose interest wen I don fire her nunu....urs na anoda level of madness....maybe u jus love catching cruise with their feelings

Not really. I don’t do it intentionally. That’s why I’m worried. I know I’m making a hell of life mistakes which is why I need to correct it now.