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Travel › Re: Giving Birth In Brazil by MRBrownJ: 9:52pm On Sep 28, 2015

futurerex:
@MRBrownJ, I would love to start a beauty & clothing businesses there in Brazil importing to Nig. & other African countries. How do I go about it? Thanks

1) get in Brasil
2) decide what type of company you want to open
3) find an accountant that will work with you and your future company (beware many are plain clueless when it comes to international export)
4) have all the right paperwork so that your accountant will set up and open the company
5) wait for the CNPJ so that the company can legally do business in Brasil
6) find the right suppliers
7) find the right exporting route/cargo

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Health › Re: Should Abortion Be Illegal In Nigeria? by MRBrownJ: 8:53pm On Sep 28, 2015

Bambless1:
Nairalanders,,,,,,,,,, Should Abortion be Illegal in Nigeria? I need your answers

abortion IS illegal in Nigeria

Politics › Re: I Received The Greatest Embarassment Of My Life Recently by MRBrownJ: 8:50pm On Sep 28, 2015

@spectroscopic
with a big smile on your face, you should have stopped him while he was talking trash about Nigerians, and said:" watch out now, i am Nigerian and you cant paint a whole nation because of the negative actions of a few."

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Romance › Re: Is It Possible To Be In Love And Still Cheat On Your Spouse? by MRBrownJ: 8:32pm On Sep 28, 2015

Mindfulness:
What you describe here could also be considered infatuation, what do you think?
And it also means that love is a state, in which you feel different and possibly better.
I know what it feels like but I am not sure whether this state is love or infatuation. I would rather call it infatuation.

you can call it "like" or even "friendship"... as i said, love is very difficult to describe, and a person who has only ever liked all his life would rightfully and mistakenly take such for LOVE. but one thing is certain, there can be NO LOVE if i knowingly hurt/poison/destroy that emotion (like the subject of this thread).

Indeed love is a matter of the brain rather than the heart. Scientists have proven that the brains of some animals who maintain life long relationships produce certain hormones that are responsible for bonding. Since scientists are azzholes , they decided to block these hormones in order to see what happens when they do and what happened was that the animals felt no desire to maintain the bond any longer. Are we the 'victims' of our hormones?

love indeed is fuelled by the brain but the heart has a big part to play in it too...remove one of them and we have nothing

In summary, love according to you starts with a feeling, an affection, is then somehow fed, and develops into passionate commitment. If the environment is beneficial, love grows. The question is, how do you feed this initial affection for it to become a passionate commitment because we all know that in most relationships (I dare say most) the passion and spark fade and finally die out. What remains, at best is the promise of commitment that people uphold for very different reasons.

positive action/interaction/bonding, compatibility, desire for one another etc
if the passion/sparks fades away then so be it, you cannot force what is NOT there. if there is no sun, no matter how much you water that plant, it simply wont blossom because the environment aint right! what remains is to go your merry way instead of stubbornly try to find love where there aint any.

YES! Love often comes uninvited and it also often leaves without being asked to.
And how comes that MOST people know that respect, trust, understanding and care are necessary for love to blossom and yet fail at their relationships and marriages, feeling agitated and even hostile toward each other eventually?

you cant force someone to love you and follow your path, you can only bring what you possess to the table, and hope that the person in front of you desire to head in the same direction as you do.

Could it be that we don't have as much control over this feeling that is caused by chemical brain reactions as we would like to have?

we all have control of what WE desire, but you certainly cannot have control of what others desire... your brain will only send the right impulses
if/when the person in front of you act/interact/bond in the positive way you desire... that is the only way there is going to be a love match!
if the person in front of you pretended to be who they were not, in order for you to fall in love with them, then as soon as they become their true self then the "love" will die a natural death

Beautiful but have you ever encountered TRUE LOVE and if yes how many times?

of course i have!!!! thats the true unconditional love i have for my parents/siblings... now, have i ever found that in a partner, not yet, but i certainly know how it will feels (i just have to look within myself and see the unconditional love i have for my parents/siblings).

Are humans able to truly and unconditionally love another person? Or is 'love' rather conditional and permanent and not supposed to last for decades?

dont you love your parents unconditionally?! i do!
you see, as hard as love of a partner may be, there are conditions attached to it (mostly positive emotional and physical ones), while true love has NONE!

Romance › Re: Is It Possible To Be In Love And Still Cheat On Your Spouse? by MRBrownJ: 7:18pm On Sep 28, 2015

Mindfulness:
What is love?

love is many things and very difficult to describe, those who have loved will know what i am taking about... but love could simply be described as walking on clouds, a fantasy, a dream, emotional desire... OR all of them together, and more.

love in a r/ship is a powerful emotion fuelled by the brain, which started as a "like" and, after building an attachment, you will feed that affection so that it possibly blossoms into a passionate commitment. that emotion within a sane r/ship becomes the environment that makes you both attain the best version of yourselves, thus turning into an item. within that item, you would share a special bond and become dependent of each others interactions/emotions /feelings/satisfaction.. and thats why you would miss one another if far apart; get hurt if your partner is hurt; and lookout for your partner's best interest which would ultimately be YOUR BEST interest too.

love often arrives in your life "uninvited", although you have an idea that it is in the "air", but you need to nurture it for it to show itself and last the test of time. love without nurturing is infatuation, love without commitment is "like" AND love without restrain is an obsession. in order to grow AND sustain LOVE, you need the proper ingredients such as RESPECT/TRUST/UNDERSTANDING/CARE etc (although a little bit of jealousy aint bad), and without these items, love would A) not grow "righteously" (aka obsession etc) and/or B) will simply die a natural death.

beware: many people will unknowingly, foolishly and mistakenly view infatuation/lust//like/friendship etc as love. true LOVE dont fall on your head like a ton of brick, it comes in your life in stages:
STAGE 1 like/infatuation (aka physical attraction)
STAGE 2 falling in love/romantic love, where there needs to be a POSITIVE emotional/physical interaction
STAGE 3 true love... love at its purest form, comparable to the love a "proper" mother has for her child or vice versa. thats the stage attained by people who have been together for decades FOR THE RIGHT REASONS, not because of kids, money etc

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Family › Re: Urgent Help -I Caught My Wife With A vibrator by MRBrownJ: 5:18pm On Sep 28, 2015

Brymo:
Just points are balance, no doubtbut nothin can justify a wrong doing, negligence isn't even good enough.

you are absolutely right but they BOTH did wrong...

Family › Re: Urgent Help -I Caught My Wife With A vibrator by MRBrownJ: 5:10pm On Sep 28, 2015

^^^i think it is too late and now this guy has to work with this side "tool", to enhance their lovemaking, FOREVER. she has already tasted the forbidden fruit and she LIKED IT!

Brymo:
bottom line, he was meant to b d one doin d 'thrusting' not a machine. She cheated, neighbor or no neighbor. If i was d one, way too disapntd, i tut she cud talk to me, she's my wife for God's sake.

bro, she did talk to him... she demanded sex (which the husband viewed as "disturbance" ) and he denied her what is supposedly her marital right, under the pretense that he was "tired".

yes, it can be viewed as cheating to some people but she was forced into the act.

Romance › Re: He Found Out About His Wife's Secret Asset by MRBrownJ: 5:02pm On Sep 28, 2015

Ferraricash:
na dey check check always be dat

who said marriage was easy... lol

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Romance › Re: Is It Possible To Be In Love And Still Cheat On Your Spouse? by MRBrownJ: 3:26pm On Sep 28, 2015*

EnlightenedSoul:
Are you joking? That shyt happens all the time! Or is 'falling in love' a rational ordeal on par with gaining respect for someone (or not) for you? In fact, what exactly is there to respect in someone you're just barely getting to know and supposedly 'fall in love' with?

i guess, when you (EnlightenedSoul) meet a guy that you initially like, and then discover that he is a beggar, a thief, a lazy no good person, or whatever you view as lacking respect in your brain, you will knowingly continue feeding that affection you have for such person until it becomes LOVE, because this is what "sane" people do, right?! you dont love strangers, yOu get to LOVE someone after you get to know them. dont mistake BS infatuation with LOVE.

Not only are love and respect entirely different phenomena (with an ability - not a necessity - to overlap), but 'falling in love'/being 'in love' with someone and loving someone are also two different things.

whO said it was the same "phenomena"?!?!?!? since you dont seem to understand what i wrote i will write it one more time: LOVE and RESPECT is the same thing in this issue because you CANT LOVE someone you have no respect for. now focus on that for a minute and see if what you wrote above has any link whatsoever to this discussion.

There is no 'different' definition of LOVE in the true sense. That's just your perception. I'm not arguing with your preception either - it's healthy, desirable, and stands the test of time!

sorry, i forgot that you were "special" and therefore you fall on your head and love appears FOR NO DAMN REASON... but for all of us mere mortal, the interaction, the person, their actions, their being, their emotions etc is what feed this "like" and turns it into "LOVE".
but hey, there is nothing wrong with people like you who supposedly LOVE total strangers.

But to claim that someone does not love another for not respecting them is false. Love is love. Respect is respect. They can/should overlap, but it's also remarkably common that they not!

if you would remotely know the meaning of LOVE, then you will understand that what you wrote above is not possible. but let me ask, if LOVE has nothing to do with cheating/respect, then why do cheating partners hide then? and also why would you see it as wrong if your loving husband cheated on you?

Although Cassie may tell you she loves you and also respect you, she may also just plain love you without necessarily respecting you. That's just the fact of the matter. The word respect is a meaningful word in its own right. I love you =/= I respect you.

A) i dont give a damn what Cassie tells me, it is what she DOES that will ultimately matter!

B) if Cassie doesnt respect me and cheats on me, then there is NO WAY she can possibly and knowingly hurt me in such manner and say she "LOVES" me. the two are complete OPPOSITE and we should NOT accept it, instead of making excuses for BS because we love that person. thats what WEAK and low self esteem people do. thats why so many women are beaten and used like garbage (and even die) while still believing that their partner love them, UTTER NONSENSE!

Romance › Re: He Found Out About His Wife's Secret Asset by MRBrownJ: 2:49pm On Sep 28, 2015

Ferraricash:
i wish the 3rd question u typed should be answered by every man and woman before they get married honestly

and also, every 3 months after marriage

Business › Re: Who Will You Favour In A Situation Like This? by MRBrownJ: 1:10pm On Sep 28, 2015

NEVER MIX BUSINESS WITH FAMILY... EVER!!!!
simply let them know that this is your place of work, and since you are not the owner, you will have to charge them the normal rate. if they dont understand then tell them to FUKC OFF.

Family › Re: Urgent Help -I Caught My Wife With A vibrator by MRBrownJ: 12:56pm On Sep 28, 2015

SAMBARRY:
exactly my sentiments.and na them go dey do baba counsellor for church.

Shiooorrrr

to most men, a v1brator is a threat, because that tool can achieve what they selfishly decided to ignore/disregard

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Travel › Re: Giving Birth In Brazil by MRBrownJ: 12:52pm On Sep 28, 2015

awash:
@ MRBrown
I'll be going to PUC-Sao paulo next year but i don't mind taking her to any close city with low cost and good hospital service. Thanks

SP is the biggest city in Brasil so you will have services ranging from all extremes. no worries there!

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Romance › Re: He Found Out About His Wife's Secret Asset by MRBrownJ: 11:28am On Sep 28, 2015

* whats the lady's excuse?
* where did she get the cash?
* does she still want to be married to this man sef?

Health › Re: Smoking Shisha. Good Or Bad? by MRBrownJ: 11:10am On Sep 28, 2015

shisha is 20 times worst than cigarette... dont get it twisted!

Family › Re: Urgent Help -I Caught My Wife With A vibrator by MRBrownJ: 11:07am On Sep 28, 2015

ubanDoma1:
I have been married to my wife for six year now, we re living together. We have one child. Lately , I noticed some strange behaviour from wife, her libido has increased to an alarming stage. Anytime I come home from work tired she kept disturbing for sex which I find very disturbing. Until yesterday I was looking for something in my room, I came across a VIBRATOR. I am really confused.
The question is. .should I allow her continue using it as a substitute or I should stop her before she gets use to using it ( my wife is a full time house wife)
Pls I need mature advice

what an hypocrite... you dont want to attend to your wife's sexual needs, but you also dont want her to satisfy her own self (due to your lack in bedroom game). she wouldnt need a v1brator if YOU were doing your job right!

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Romance › Re: Advice Needed Plz. by MRBrownJ: 12:55am On Sep 28, 2015

Richychizzypaul:
I hv a girlfriend whom i luv wit ma whole being as a human, seriously no jokes or games buh the problem now is that the Ex-boyfriend that left her in the dark cos she refuse 2 hv sex wit him is disturbing her.......in d sense of trying 2 gt her back and HV sex wit her now that I hv took very Good care of what he left 2 mess up and pine away in d past. plz wat do I do? Advice plz.

there is nothing YOU can do, its your woman who should send her ex the right message... so that he stops bothering her.
if she made it very clear to him, then he shoudnt bother her any longer.

Food › Re: How Many Bottles Of Beer Gets You High ? by MRBrownJ: 12:50am On Sep 28, 2015

5 caipirinhas will get me "tipsy" (never drink beer)

Travel › Re: Ten Set Of People You Must Meet While Travelling by MRBrownJ: 12:44am On Sep 28, 2015

what about:
* the STINKY ones... the ones that smell so bad you need to move seat
* the MOTHER WITH PERTINENT CRYING CHILD... as much as we understand this one, its a pain in the aaass!
* the GROUPS... they are all around you talking to one another and having fun, while you are uncomfortably in the middle of it all
* the SEXY BABE... the babe that is sooo fine and sexy, you need to strike a conversation with her, one way or the other.

Romance › Re: Is It Possible To Be In Love And Still Cheat On Your Spouse? by MRBrownJ: 11:53pm On Sep 27, 2015

EnlightenedSoul:
Not to mean that I outrightly disrespect the people I don't 'respect', but if I speak for myself, the number of people I respect I can count on one hand (with digits to spare), whereas the people I care for and/or love are near numerous and diverse in nature, degree, and method [of love]. But I digress...

The definition agrees with me. It's your perception of it that differs. Never was love synonymous with respect. Still, I don't wish to argue with you.

so what you are saying is that YOU CAN FALL IN LOVE WITH A MAN YOU HAVE NO RESPECT FOR... and therefore i am saying again, we have a different definition of LOVE.

Romance › Re: Relationship Is Really Not All About Sex. by MRBrownJ: 9:29pm On Sep 25, 2015

bxcode:
Sir, what was sex created for originally?
Wait.... on what standard do you base this your assertions on please because they looks so shallow, where did you get these lies from?

i asked you a few questions, they are still up there, if you missed them.

Family › Re: This Is My Story. by MRBrownJ: 1:00am On Sep 25, 2015*

@Celibate
let me reply to you as if you were my son (no sugarcoating):

#1 i suggest you STOP trying to compare yourself with others and instead cherish the man you are, however/whoever it may be! see how you are doubting yourself at the slightest setback. if you dont believe in yourself then why should anyone? listen to yourself:"i had to do chores and was verbally abused" boo hoo! when people had to go hawk in the street to get 1 meal a day, here you are acting like an over privileged baby. i suggest you stop acting like the silver spoon raised man that you "should" have been, and instead accept fully who YOU have become.

#2 stop blaming this and that for your predicaments and instead accept that this is LIFE, and work with it! the reason the business failed is because YOU were not good at it, now stop acting like a biatch (excuse my French), get off your aaass, dust yourself off, and use what you have learned in this failed venture to "possibly" succeed in the next one. one thing is certain, what you are doing aint the way to go.

#3 if you are a miserable person now, then chances are you will be a miserable boss, a miserable bf, a miserable son etc so WORK on YOU and be positive about life. its all about taking ONE positive step at a time. everything you wrote is from one negativity to the next, why dont you instead COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS and start afresh from there. are you homeless?! are you deadly sick? are you handicapped? are you deaf and dumb?! are you starving?! COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS!!!!

#4 what business did you get into and why? i suggest you find something that you are passionate about and try to find employment in such field. at least, if the business is not working well, you can enjoy life regardless.

#5 there certainly are many people who love and care for you, the important question is HAVE YOU TOLD them exactly what you wrote here?! also, remember that they have their own lives to live and they cant be babysitting you. what SPECIFICALLY do you expect from them?! when you know, then go tell them! they cant read your mind.

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Romance › Re: Ladies Why? by MRBrownJ: 11:59pm On Sep 24, 2015

sweetorgasms:
lol but na true na, if there are no men in dis world will ladies even dress fine? definitely no

if there is no women in this world, would you?!

Investment › Re: I What To Know The Best stimulating drug by MRBrownJ: 11:53pm On Sep 24, 2015

the best sex enhancer is YOUR MIND!!!!!

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Romance › Re: Relationship Is Really Not All About Sex. by MRBrownJ: 11:46pm On Sep 24, 2015

bxcode:
You can say that sir.

ok fair enough, but let me ask you a few questions here:

#1 do you really believe that the problem of today's failing marriage rate is due to not knowing one another enough?
i can give you many reasons why today's marriage are failing, and not knowing each other is not it:
A) society changing
B) people marrying for the wrong reason
C) religion not as important today
D) women are now very independent and can take care of themselves in case of divorce

its called the EVOLUTION of marriage

#2 what is more important here... SEX or the R/SHIP ?!
you have to decide once and for all what is important and focus on that. so, since (i guess) the r/ship is more important to you, you must get to know your partner fully, in order to have the perfect r/ship and possibly move to marriage plans... but guess what?! SEX is part of the "everything" you need to discover about your partner, to know if you guys are sexually compatible. why would you want to leave that out of the EVERYTHING?! finding the perfect partner and realising AFTER MARRIAGE that you are not sexually compatible is the worst thing that can happen to a newly married couple.

#3 what is so bad about SEX?!
why are you trying to demonise sex as a bad thing?! sex is good for the health, sex is fun, sex is great for intending future partner, sex is natural... so what is the big deal really?! actually, the lack of great sex is one of the reason why many are divorcing today. so, instead of stopping people having sex, let us teach them how to have fulfilling sexual experiences!

Romance › Re: How Many Guys/men Can Say Amen To This?? by MRBrownJ: 2:22pm On Sep 24, 2015

NONSENSE prayer! anyone knows that nothing is eternal, whether love or marriage.... so when it is dead and gone then a man needs to move on and find someone else. why would a man in his RIGHT MIND say such prayer?!

Romance › Re: Relationship Is Really Not All About Sex. by MRBrownJ: 1:56pm On Sep 24, 2015

@bxcode
let me get this straight, so you want people to get to know one another BETTER before they have sex... is that it?!

Romance › Re: This Is Madness!!!! Pix Attached by MRBrownJ: 1:51pm On Sep 24, 2015

@Mschubby
NONSENSE BUL.LSHIT that these bloggers write to get traffic on their silly website!!!!
that is NOT the photo of a pastor or whatever, this is a photo made by photographer SPENCER TUNICK called "Na.ked for art" (Google is your friend). he invites 100s of people to go nekkid in public before taking photos of them... he has hundred of such public display of unclothedness.

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Romance › Re: Symbols Of Ugly Girls by MRBrownJ: 10:34am On Sep 24, 2015

Smartresult:
The only reason are ugly
when u post ur picture on facebook and receive few likes. so FB is now the new beauty recognition tool? lol
When a guy can speak to you without feeling anything
when you are above thirty and still single. NONSENSE OF THE HIGHEST ORDER
When u need makeup before you look beautiful.
When no guy has ever paid your transport fare a beautiful rich (or too proud) girl wouldnt NEED transport fare
when you spend half of the days infront of mirror because someone is full of themselves it means they are ugly?!?!?!
when you always look at mirror before going out. everyone should look at the mirror before leaving their house
When guys find you not attractive.
When you have more male friends than female friends. bwaaaaaaaah! the more beautiful, the more men she will have around her
When girls like going to party with you. girls like to go out with friendly outgoing women, whether beautiful or ugly
When you have few friends on facebook. oh lawd, the number of Facebook fake BS friends is now how we value beauty!!!!
When you pass by and no guy notice.
When guys look away as they see you.
When guys can ask you question about their love. its called FRIENDSHIP, and if all your friends are ugly then i do feel sorry for you and you better check yourself

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