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"using a condom could have saved me from marrying this pregnant thing... Lord, pls strike me dead with thunder!"

you can actually see the despair in that poor man's eyes

is that not 2 different people?

can someone tell that deluded woman that having big boobs while being fat does NOT count, thats as stupid as having a skinny guy say he has 6 packs

if a man takes the bold step into doing this in public then they have to understand that it equally put pressure on the lady, and therefore the outcome could be catastrophic.

five

i guess it takes more than 4 months for a world class hospital to be ready, lol

NONSENSE!!! this is not the real miss America pageant, read carefully it says "MS" America, not MISS... anyway, look at all these ugly old women, this is just some similar pageant for older women. this one is some fake bullsh1t, look carefully what it says:

women 26 years of age and up who are single, divorced or married with a dedicated platform or cause they are an advocate for.

while we all know that the real MISS AMERICA pageant you cant be married or a mother to enter.

btw the REAL miss america 2016 pageant will be held on the 13th of September 2015

^^^^ so you dont know your name any longer?! what a shame tribalist with amnesia

Dapo777:
Nice I can share my happiness with everyone. Complications sets in when I try to single out someone. Thats why I won't do that.

you probably can share your happiness with anyone but if that person aint special (or dont care about you) then whats the point really? it is in vain.

yes, you can live a rewarding life without getting married, but only if the women you are with are "special" to you (and vice versa).

@Dapo777
although i fully understand what your are saying, and agree on a few point, i have to say:

The main reason why I can't get married is because I am a "higher" animal, I have hormones running through my blood, I am not biologically built to be monogamous, I am polygamous by nature and so marriage isn't an option.

in Africa, Polygamy is accepted and therefore you could marry as many wives as you desire.

Take a look at the animals, they live such a pleasurable and enjoyable life with no complications like feelings, courtship, marriage and all those thrash humans have invented to complicate things, if a dog wants to have sex, it just looks for a female dam and fvvcks her, no complications just pleasure.

yes animals do that, and then the next dog mounts her too, and the one after that till that poor bi.tch cant take it any longer. do you really wanna have sex with women who mean absolutely NOTHING TO YOU?!

But if a guy wants to do that, he has to go through some routines and emotional games to fvvck who isn't a prostitute , and to Bleep a prostitute, u need money, which was never the original nature of things, things were made to be more straightforward than they are right now, but due to increased organization among humans , complications arises.

if a woman decide that she wants to have sex with me, then let it be because i am SPECIAL in some kind of ways... sex just to put your dikc in whatever hole out there (like animals do) is pointless

Forget about the love, even if you both love each other, if you get married, life would be complicated for you as the guy regardless of love, ask married couples who would be honest enough to tell you the truth.

are you saying that married men have more complicated lives than single men?!?! i dont get what you are saying. but even if that was what you were saying, thats simply because they have different aim in life. they want to build a family together so of course two people have twice as much issues in their lives as a single person, and because they are 2 different souls with emotion, then that means there will be frictions BUT there will also be a lot of happiness... same happiness that single guys cant get on their own (joy of parenthood, love and affection, having someone there all the time to lift your spirit etc)
also these men have a partner to help them in their daily struggles, as a single its more stressful if you have nobody that cares and help alleviate some of your worries

Women are even more complicated than men, they have more complex emotions that they themselves can't explain, getting eternally bound with a woman is like sitting on fire for eternity. The thing is this, I dont see myself swearing to eat only one kind of fish for eternity, why should I be with one woman for life, when they are plenty everywhere, that would be plain stupid of me to do if I settle for a single one.

to each their own so long as you accept that these females do the same

Another very good reason is that, I have only one life to live which is my life on earth , no other place afterwards, hence I would live it to the fullest, I will try all sports, all activities, I will go to different places, meet different people in this life , my life would know no limits, I would live a very rich life with no worries and nagging wife nobody telling me what is right or wrong to do. I will live my life to the fullest, and people around me would wish they could attain such a blissful level of freedom

but then, eventually, you would want to share such happiness with someone special... trust me, you would!

so what he is saying is that he will only get married in order to have kids.

bro Ronald4lif
you raise some good points but let me clarify a few things:

ronald4lif:
MrBrownJ has been deliberating all day about what is right and what is not. I don't know what makes him or anyone think they have the mandate or audacity to dictate and tell what is right in another's person home.

MISCONCEPTION #1 i dont give a damn what is "right" in another person's home, this is SOLELY about what is right for ME!
- i would tell because I dont believe it is right for a person to be in suspicious surroundings while their partner (who happens to be my friend) "may" be taken for a ride or in harm's way.
- i would tell because this is what i would expect my friend to do if i was in the clueless partner's shoes.
- i would tell because if the partner is indeed unfaithful, I could not live with the deadly consequences of such actions, that i could have prevented.

Indeed, we learn everyday and this has got to be one of my greatest albeit weird knowledge so far on this platform. Who would have thought another's privacy can be something anyone can intrude into and claim their are doing the right thing according to them.

MISCONCEPTION #2 we all should decide what is RIGHT or WRONG in our lives and stand proudly for it, while teaching and showing the examples to our children how they should live righteously. if i see my friend beating his wife mercilessly i MUST stand in to ask him to stop, whether that woman believes it is RIGHT for her to be beaten or not. if you'd rather stand and watch simply because thats their private lives then no wonder people are so fukced up these days!

Now that we have degenerated to the point of doing what is right and what is not without minding the consequences and aftermath of our actions, may I plead that we digress a little and see how lengthy you can go to substantiate your right claims, shall we?

MISCONCEPTION #3 telling ones friends about possible danger that lay ahead is what any normal human being should do.... not saying anything simply because that person "believes" that the coast is clear is wrong. TELL THEM and if they dont want to listen to your advice then let them crash, knowing fully well that you would have done all in your power to prevent it.

Let's assume we are buddies and I do smoke once in a while or a chain smoker but my wife doesn't know as I always ensure to clean my tracks away from her. Would you turn around to tell her in the name of doing what is "right"?

if A) your wife was my friend and B) your "once in a while" smoking could HARM her in anyway (which i doubt it will) , then YES i would tell her.

I have a child before I got married to madam but I never told her as I was afraid it could ruin my chances of getting her tied to me. You as my long time buddy is aware or might not be aware about it but I later told you. Would you in the spirit of rightness disclose this to her?

how can having a child HARM in anyway your unknowing wife?! but i sure would ask YOU (aka my friend) to come clean. and if madam was my friend, and i got this info, then i would tell her in a heart beat.

I and my wife have a mortgage home and she has been appealing to me to pay off the balance so it can be outrightly ours but I have been evasive and lying that I don't have the money even though I do. My reason being that, since she's European or we're resident in Europe where alimony settlements are strictly enforced any property bought here might turn out hers in the event of a divorce and for that reason I opted to purchase a property in Nigeria without her knowledge but you are aware. Would you open up to her and damn the consequences in this paradigm of rightness?

MISCONCEPTION #4 again, can having a house in 9ja HARM your wife?! but i will advise YOU (aka my friend) to come clean... and if your wife was my friend and i get to know that her husband is cheating her financially, then by all means i will tell her!

now let me tell you when i would gladly tell your wife even though YOU are my friend:
- i know that you sleep with hookers unprotected and after i advised you to protect yourself, you refused.
- you told me you have thoughts of having sex with your own teenage daughter, and when i ask you to get professional help, you refused.

Your response to this posers would go a long way to clarify what you truly mean by doing the right thing and why you think it is your obligation to tell what is "right" in others private affairs.

again, as soon as any information is PUBLIC knowledge then this is no more a "private" matter and people have the right to notify their friends of possible incoming HARM. not doing so is not only foolish but also plain crazy!

jboy73:
Lol. Olodo. This proves that you're a confirm Gay he-goat.

Bigot like u... For your 16years old mine u don mature lols.

Dreamer... C'mon go wash plate for your mama.

Laser light strike u anywhere u the now.

Foool @ 16.

Iguana to be @ 20.

Mumgulicious @ 30.

About to inherit Stupitology @ 40

Idiot...

bro Bonaventure Izeogu,really? is this childish nonsense all you got?! after your tribalistic meltdown, this is what you came up with?!
why dont you at least log in with your other profiles and pretend that someone cares for your immature rant.

cococandy:
I see your point MrBrown and on a good day, I agree with it.

Only that experience has taught me otherwise.
For men and women in our society, and that's the POV I'm speaking from, marriage means different things to them. For some women there's no them without a husband and you coming to say you saw their husband doing this or that makes you the enemy that wants to ruin their marriage.
I'd rather respect myself than have someone think I'm out to ruin their marriage. Woe betide you if you're single and doing that. You must be jealous

yes some desperate people wouldnt care if their partner cheats or not (and would stay in that disrespectful marriage regardless) but whats important here is: is it right?! and do YOU care?! if what you saw is not RIGHT then you must voice your concern. if you care that something may be foul here then you also must voice your concern... and if people will paint you as a marriage broker then to hell with what ignorant people think, so long as you did what is RIGHT by you. if you indeed "respect" that FRIENDSHIP then you must advise your friend, and to hell with how she will react.

I can tell you that most men would want to be told if their wife was caught cheating while the ladies would rather not be told because then calling the man out on his behavior and putting down their feet to demand a change will be a hard task for them.
They'd rather be married and endure it -as you know, we've somehow convinced ourselves that all men cheat to avoid dealing with the truth that we ended up with the wrong person.

yep, thats the sad world we live in today where some women are so desperate to "stay married at all costs" and pretend that they are happy to the whole world, that they accept such miserable lives/treatments, and would turn on you because you cared.
also, as someone said earier, this "amebo" state of mind has got to GO!!! if anyone sees anything suspicious they must voice their concerns, whether its their friend's husband or anything else!

GHoJes:
There are friends and there is friend!
Friends are mere acquaintances here and there. Friends are the ones to whom you give the much you can afford not expecting anything in return.
The ones you should attach the sacred word friend to, are those whom you give much and expect much in return, like having your back because you got theirs?
Where to draw the line? From conversations and actions over time, you should know if you have a friend. It is either miss B was not sensitive enough to know the one she calls friend, only see her as former classmate as stated here in this thread or she is living in denial after knowing the mindset of her supposed friend because they seem not to have anything in common. However if after this episode, miss B does not redefined what she termed friendship with the Op, then she is on a "long thing". Now i hate to say this but it is the truth; this is also what is also brewing problems between feminists and non feminists here. Some non feminists would rather embrace the devil than a feminist, vice versa. Knowing this, they (especially feminist) should state their opinions because they want to and know when not to waste their time on certain people or situations to avoid unnecessary fights.

so where exactly do you draw the line? and most importantly, why should we ever? does righteousness only work with a few people/instances?!
- you see a common friend's husband kissing another man, would you voice your concern?
- you are in the bus and you see a guy having his hand in a lady's bag, would you voice your concern?
- your friend comes over and his/her mouth stinks, would you voice your concern?
- you see strange people lurking around your neighbour's car, would you voice your concern?
- you see a child alone in the street and later see a man talking to that child before leaving with the kid, would you voice your concern?

only men at her bday party?!?!?

?!?!??!?!?!!?

cococandy:
For those that would consider telling, 90 percent of that decision should depend on the kind of person your friend is.
Would they appreciate such info or not?

If they won't, then telling them is in vain. It won't solve the problem-assuming that's what your aim was to start with. And you end up the bad guy who's out to ruin their marriage. Be careful.

But if you're sure they will appreciate it, not telling them would be a disservice to your friendship.

The kind of friend he/she is to you also matters. Not everyone you go shopping with or to salon is your friend. Only do that for friends close enough to trust that you have their best interest at heart and not the ones whom you haven't been through enough with that they doubt your motives.

i am sorry but i have to disagree sista...
1) if that friend dont appreciate what i have to say then let her tell me that AFTER i have said my peace (and i subsequently remove that dumbass from my life).

2) i cant for any reason under the sun sit back and pretend that i didnt see anything that i saw, simply because my friends is weak or cant take the TRUTH! if they want to live in denial then so be it but they CANNOT/SHOULDNT expect me to lower myself to their cheap/weak levels, where we should bury our heads in the sand. where do we draw the line and why should we even lie//hide such petty things?!

3) how would you know what your friend can or cant take if you hide the truth from them?! it is NOT your call to make as a friend, and you should be brutally honest (or sugar coat the truth if you wish), regardless of the outcome.

4) why what i have to say should "resolve" anything?! so far as i know, the friend is telling her in good faith that it is just NOTHING... but it sure cant be dismissed without confirmation that it is "nothing"

i expect NO less from people i call my friends (or anyone for that matter) because i know i am clean. the people who are against such issues are the one that aint clean, because only ill deeds will break up a union. so let us all grow some backbone here and stop accepting/settling for a state of mind where everyone is pretending like zombies; where everyone is afraid to be themselves; where we protect any suspicious actions for fear of hurting some poor desperate sod who cant take the bloody truth!

jboy73:
Gerara here.

Idiat.. No quote me again ooo.
Gay!! Na by force??

Make una come see Anuss Straffer ooo.

I cover my ass with cover pot.

you really think your childish insults will do the trick?! bwaaaah!!!
instead of accepting that you made a mistake, like any mature person would, you now write NONSENSE in order to derail this thread and make us forget why we are here: the garbage you wrote as your 1st post!

ronald4lif:
Does she have a job? Why poke-nose in other peoples affairs like it's theirs? Except the friend told her to report any time she sees her hubby in suspicious places she should tell her otherwise is none of her business. And even if the wife recruit her services she still have the option to rebuff it and tell her to sort her private issues herself. Why would a gainfully employed person move about reporting every of their friend's partner they met with suspicious people to their friends? Didn't know we have degenerated to a people who don't keep to their business anymore.

so you mean to tell us all that if a friend of your partner drives by a hotel and sees you coming out of there with a lady, therefore A) she is unemployed, B) she should pretend/lie to her friend that she did not see you and C) this is NOT her business because you are "mysteriously" not her friend's husband any longer?! thats a great joke!

Like I said in my initial submission, no one sent her on a fact finding mission so the issue of reporting what she saw is inadmissible and unnecessary. There's a limit to how one can intrude on people's private affairs and some can come with grave consequences. Personally, I wouldn't mind to treat the fcvk up of anyone who dares to involve in my affairs ininvited and I could go to certain limits to deal with them even if it involves inflicting body injuries on them. One can't just delve into my family business and don't expect repercussions, especially when their services where unsolicited for. The wife sleeps and wakes up with the hubby, spends everyday with her and its solely upto her to dig out or close-mark the hubby's movement, if she can't it's her loss. And likewise if the gender is flipped.

and who told you that she was spying on her friend's husband?! is that so difficult to drive by and see someone coming out of a hotel?! should she have closed her eyes?! if this was a "private" affair then he shouldnt have done it in public. if you seriously think that your private family business has ANYTHING to do with you coming of hotels with strange women, then PLEASE go get a dictionary to understand the meaning of what you are saying and let your wife tell just that to her friends (right after they tell her they saw you coming out of a hotel) but the most important thing here is that why is that so bad to let wifey know about all these private affairs of his?! where is the big deal? an innocent person would certainly understand the suspicious act and wouldnt mind people reporting him.

Who's talking about righteousness? Who righteousness help. I'm talking about a cheating husband trying to mend his tracks and protect his family from splitting and nothing to do with honesty. Granted he might have cheated but he'd never admit and would fight back to retain his reputation before the wife. That's what is at stake, not about righteousness.

who cares what cheating people do to clear their tracks?! it is WRONG! and a friend MUST do what is RIGHT, and therefore any suspicious activity must be reported to your friend.... whatever she does with the info is up to her.

Going about poke nosing on a people's private affairs doesn't make one a real friend. If anything it connotes joblessness, mischief-making and diablerie. One's private business should be respected by anyone who's not involve and third parties should remain uninvited unless if told to do so. I'm amused by your affirmation of not minding the consequences. Some consequences can be daring and disastrous mate. Be mindful of the repercussion of what is ideally not your business.

you can call that whatever you desire, the truth of the matter is that friends must be honest and REAL at all times, this is what FRIENDSHIP is all about! that friend was "invited" into that saga the minute the husband decide to put himself into a suspicious situation. HE is the one to be blamed for whatever happens here, stop trying to flip the script! there is absolutely NO consequences here if the husband aint doing anything wrong, because he just tells his wife who that lady is and what they were doing (aka clear the air), et voila! there are only consequences if the guy was doing something wrong and wifey finally finds out, thanks to her friend.... oh yeah i forgot, even if he cheats, you want her friends to mind their business, right?! lol!

By telling my wife not to believe the friend coz she want to cause us pain and ruin what we have I'm only trying to fight back and paint the friend in bad light to her so she can stop listening to her and if possible discontinue their friendship. Not necessarily because she truly want to ruin our union even though that's what her actions exude. When a jobless and mischievous individual makes your business theirs you fight back and go to any length to destroy them.

how can somebody who said they saw you coming out of a hotel is causing you pain?! if YOUR actions are not ill then you just clear the air and thats the end of the story. why is that such a difficult thing to do if you are not guilty??!?!?!?!?
if telling what YOU are doing is negative towards your union then i suggest you change these actions instead.

Going by the story as narrated by the OP her claim is unfounded as she can't prove it beyond verbal presentations. They are mere allegations without evidence which makes it unfounded by default. Even a murderer can be let off the hook if there are no concrete evidence to nail him.

again, who cares whether there is proof or not?! a friend is simply telling what she SAW (she did saw him right?! or did that become a lie now?!). its down to the wifey to do whatever she pleases with that information.

Who send am work? Amebo no be work o bro.

i call it friendship, but you have the right to call it whatever you desire

You see, in any case the family splits after the revelation by the self-styled amebo friend, her friend (ex wife) would never forgive her after by the time it must have dawn on her that the friend had no cause to intrude in her marriage and she will go to town and tell anyone who cares to listen how she destroyed her marriage.

- if the wifey decides to split (or stay) because of her cheating husband then so be it, but let HER make that choice
- if the wifey decides to never forgive her friends for telling her the HONEST TRUTH, then so be it
- if the wifey would rather live in denial (after she knows the truth) then so be it
- who cares what people think of you so long as you have done what is RIGHT?!
- if a man cheats and (because of THIS act) the marriage ends, then HE is the sole person responsible for the failure of that marriage (whether the friends told on him or not)

Married couples should be left to detect acts of unfaithfulness by themselves and friends, real or not should maintain their lane and don't get involve unless they were solicited to do so. If the lady appreciate their friendship she should mind her business and just one day she would find out about her hubby's escapades if she even cares or watch his moves closely. It's her obligation to dig her husband's philandering lifestyle and no one else. Minding one's own business cost nothing but poke-nosing could be harmful not just to the victim and his/her spouse but to the whistle blower themselves.

NONSENSE UPON NONSENSE!!!!

focus7:
Point of correction, friends are not for amebo and home breaking. That you saw a man and a lady together in an eatery or coming out or going into an hotel does not mean they have amoral affair.

you are RIGHT, and if you'd focus on what i have written, you would have understood that i never said she should tell her friend that her husband is having an affair, she should simply say that she saw him coming out of a hotel with a lady... which is A) what happened and B) a suspicious act.

A lady friend of mine was to have a conference and urged me to go with her to source for a hall to use in an hotel, the hotel is located along a busy express road in Lagos, and I am a popular person in the environment due to my career. So as we are about entry the hotel I heard a voice frantically calling at me to get my attention to let me know that she saw me, by the time I turned to her I could see the expression on her face though she acted as though she meant only greet me. I greeted her and entered the hotel with my friend not minding her insinuation since I was not guilty, I and my friend talked and laughed over it. You see unnecessary insinuations and interference has caused more havoc to marriages than is needed. I told my wife to not listen to what she heard people report to her about me if she doesn't want hurt herself as I have much female friends as I do men. Lady B should let that couple be.

again, if you dont understand why your actions may have been viewed as suspicious, by that friend of yours who saw you, then i suggest you wake up and start living in the real world bro! what is actually funny is that you would expect a friend of your wife to see you going inside a hotel with a lady and NOT suspect your actions nor tell your wife that she saw you??!?!?!?!??! bwaaaaah, you are indeed a dreamer!
you are looking at it as an unnecessary insinuation/interference as if it is so damn hard for you to explain to your wife what really happened... poor you, i am sure that must be so difficult, lol!

ronald4lif:
For how long will the person go about telling her friend where and who she saw the hubby with? It's true that the place she saw them is suspicious but for inquisitive fellas they don't care where they saw such persons but just want to gossip. Even if they saw the man in a church with a lady they'd still report. At what point do one stop delving into others privacy and business? Who recruited her as a private detective?

every time she sees the husband in suspicious places (or with suspicious people) then the friend should let his wife know. i mean, if that person wants it hidden so badly then they should not meet these women (or else) in "public".

Let's establish some possible facts that could ruin the friendship with such friends in due time. First off, it would be her word against the friends hubby. Who do you think the wife would believe more: the friend or the hubby? Take a guess.

so what you are saying is that she should lie/pretend in order to keep a phoney friendship?! the friendship would certainly be phoney if you cant be honest and tell the truth to your friends. who cares if the hubby lies that he wasnt there? if she saw him there with a lady then thats what she has to say.

She allege she saw me coming out of a hotel with a lady with no evidence except verbal presentation and I counter it that I have never been to the said hotel. There's no verdict on my part and my wife depending on the trust she has for me might dismiss her friends claim. Although she might start prying on me afterwards but on this one she's going to let it slide as there's no verifiable evidence.

whatever the husband says is irrelevant to the fact at hand... no matter how hard you are trying to make a lie being righteous.

A week after you saw me drove across your hood and notice a lady infront of the car and text my wife to indirectly find out if she was the one but she said no. Then she, as an unrepentant amebo, tell her you just saw me drove by and a lady was in the car. Later wifey confronted me and as expected I dismiss the claim that no one was in my car and I didn't drove pass that area or conspire with a female cousin and allege she was the one in the car and wife calls her to confirm and she admits true. Again, she'll exonerate me from this allegation though still keeping a close watch on me but without no traces of infidelity to nail me. And similar scenario keeps playing out.

again, stop trying to paint all this deceit as righteous. even if the supreme court says you are innocent, if the friend saw you in a suspicious position then she MUST tell her friends, thats whats REAL friends do, regardless of the consequences.

Meanwhile, as someone who has realized that this said friend of my wife is out to ruin my marriage and stoke the embers of disharmony in my home I will fight back by ensuring I destroy her image in my wife's eye and twist it that she should be mindful of this friend and don't let her have her way to destroy the peace we have sustained thus far. What do you think might happen and who will my wife believe? The person who has been making unfounded allegations against her heartthrob or the man she married and has never had traces of infidelity against him? Take another guess.

so let me get this straight, you come out of a hotel with a lady, a friend of your wife sees you and tell your wife, and SHE is trying to destroy your union?!?!?!?!? BWAAAAAH!!!!! what about taking responsibilities for your poor choices and actions?! have you thought about that?! any person who does something suspicious, and knows nothing wrong was done, will simply clear their names... its the guilty ones that will instead LIE and focus their energy on the wrong issues. if you come out of a hotel with a lady and thats what the friend says she saw you doing then HOW DOES THAT BECOME UNFOUNDED?!

After tainting the cordiality she shares with this family and unsuccessful attempt to convince her friend her hubby is cheating will this jobless dunderhead of a friend give up on her unassigned job to invade people's privacy and intensify her foolishness by trailing the hubby with a camera to take pictures with every woman she sees him with? Remind me what joblessness is all about again.

every time this friends sees the husband in suspicious places then she should tell her friend, until the reason as to why he is there with the said lady has been confirmed.

It's the duty of married couples to keep an eye on their partner and investigate any suspicious act of infidelity. If they can't no one else can and they should nurse their misery themselves. The lady or third parties should fvcking mind their business if they don't want to ruin their friendship with the family because at the end of the day such couples would reconcile and your friendship will never be the same again. Minding one's business isn't that hard, is it?

NONSENSE! its the duty of a couple to NOT find themselves in public questionable situations. if they do then they should accept that someone might see them and report such suspicious activities to their partners.
no matter how hard you will try to make this look RIGHT, it will never be... it is and will remain SUSPICIOUS and QUESTIONABLE for a married man (or woman) to come out of a hotel with a lady (or man)

krazydave:
@MrBrownJ
Love is not an excuse for foolishness. I've seen most friends humiliated by the people they once fell in 'love' with after a minor breakup.
Like I stated, except your 1000% sure it's leading to marriage..... then everything listed above can be neglected.

yes many have been hurt, and 100times more havent. if you judge anything in life through the failure of a few, then you will never go anywhere, or experience anything in life.

jboy73:
Lol, you're a foool and a coward, you're a foool because you type nonsense and prove nonsense... You're a coward because you're hiding under the umbrella of a disguised name. U know me personally, what's your real name foool. Stupiddd idiotic coward.

Omega beam Fire u were ever you are for jumping into my topic. idiottt

He-goat.

i must have hit a sore spot, BWAAAAAAH!

jboy73:
And I just went through your previous post on this forum.
You dirty derailer, u go about derailing any post you find yourself... Sadist like u.
Don't ever quote me again.

A) trying to change the subject again MR Bonaventure Izeogu? so its no more about the tribalistic NONSENSE you posted here?
B) i dare you to find ONE thread that i have ever derailed and to post it here.
C) aint you going to THANK ME for educating you?

jboy73:
Yoruba??

Haha amala eating tribe, the Mumus of the nation.

so instead of thanking me in educating you, you instead try to change the main issue here, lol!
broda Bonaventure Izeogu, i am calling you by your real name since you have so many profiles here (Modestbrowser, Bonaventure73, jboy73 etc)... i wish i could lower myself to your level and foolishly insult all Igbos but that would make me the same ignorant miserable person as you are, God forbid!

Chidoks:
You just said if you see your buddy coming out of the hotel you would jokingly mention it right? why wouldn't you run to the wife.i honestly expected you to say you would tell the wife not your buddy.
Every woman has to device a means of knowing what their hubby is up to.i have my methods.i occassionally check his phone.i read his body language.i just know if he misbehaves.if she cannot do her homework, i will not do it for her.i don't do the best friend crap though.

again, i have a duty to my FRIENDS, and them only... the FRIENDSHIP is what is going to make me fully honest to them.

jboy73:
Liar.. Because he is your brother.

This photo came up yesterday.. Search google for it.

Hausaaa idiaats.

although i do feel sorry for you and your poor tribalistic state of mind, i MUST help you, so here it is:

Google the name "Akinbobola Taiwo Oluwa" (yep thats the name of the guy in the photo) to see that this news was making the wave back in May and that it actually happened in Ogun state... thank me later.

oh and before i forgot, my parents are Yoruba, just like the guy in the photo!

RickRichards:
Why does she have to do it herself? Are AIT that broke?

my thought exactly.... so she goes on the air the way she desires to look like?!

@krazydave

1. Exchanging Social media Passwords:...
Mehn!.... I know girls can be demanding when it comes to sharing passwords. But common, if all the "I love you" he says isn't enough then she better swerve joor. How will you share your password fam, so that when you break up she can post nasty stuffs on your wall telling everybody that you've got a small d¡ck or something of such...

its called TRUST and, in due time, if you have nothing bad in your closet (aka nothing to fear) then you should give your girl your password... so long as there is a VALID reason for that!
btw if you have a tiny dikc then your ex doesnt need your password to shame you.

2. Free access to your apartment:...,
I've got a friend whom after breaking up with his girlfriend, she came secretly through her personal key and raided his apartment, destroyed his valuables and even picked one or two documents. Scary right? Well, you better keep your keys to your self then.

only a very foolish man will not demand his keys back (or change the locks) the minute there is trouble with his girl.

3. Sharing of nudes:....
Learnt this from school. Some weirdo guy exposed his babe's private nude pics just cos she broke up with him. I don't even get the whole point of the d!ck-puss¥ sharing of pics self.

the rules about nude pics is very simple: always hide your identity/face/tats etc...

4. Unprotected sex.:.....
With all the baby mama trend which is gaining popularity anyhow, you better stick your 'long thing' in your pants rather than sticking it anywhere all in the name of 'Love'.

a trip to the doc to get tested and some contraception will do the trick.

btw bro do you always value your life via what happened in other people's lives?!

another recipient of the Darwin award

this is a very old photo and i doubt the guy was hausa.

Mindfulness:
Fortunately, we all can choose who we call a friend.

well said... yes we can!

@5minsmadness @Ronald4lif

tell her friend what she saw... if there is no big deal about it then thats what the husband will confirm with his wife.
why should anyone care who the woman is or if it is his family member etc? the point is she saw him and since it is a "suspicious" place, she needs to make her friend aware of it. any husband who has nothing to reproach themselves will A) understand why the situation is suspicious to his partner's friends and B) explain the situation to his partner without a beef. only a foolish/cheating husband would think that the friends of his partner should have been quiet about it.

but here is a clue: if i happen to drive by and see my buddy coming out of hotel with a lady, then guess what?! the next time i see him, i am going to tell him" hey buddy, btw last time i saw you coming out of this hotel with a lady, what were you up to?! bad guy!!!" and there would be no big deal about it. if i see my friend's parents coming out of a hospital, then next time i see this friend, i will ask" hey, i saw your parents coming out of a hospital last time, i hope everything is ok with them?!" and there would be no big deal about it... now hypocrites here would want women to act differently because its there friends partner?!

one thing is certain, being a FRIEND is certainly not being quiet about issues that "may" be detrimental to that said friend.

troy20:
you did well chidoks.its a dicey situation and there are certain things you dont wade into baring the level of your friendship.she will find out herself intime if he is cheating cause you cant even in all certainty proove what you think it is.if you go running your mouth.whatever the outcome, you would have damaged something big somewhere.

you mean that the wifey possibly finds out when the husband will have infected her with whatever deadly disease he would have contracted from that possible mistress?! i guess thats when you will be a true friend and cry on her dead bed.... kai, friend indeed!

@Mindfulness @Phema

sadly, as we can see from this thread, many call themselves "friends" so long as they dont have to put themselves on the line and take a stand for that friendship. friends on paper but in fact these are NO friends! they desire the positive friendship only, and as soon as there is a sign of trouble, that friendship disappears (like enemies do)