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royalfly:
Going by what you said, it is obvious from my post that I truly wish to find the one despite my lack of belief. About trying men, it means, you don't really understand the post. My brother I have also tried the ones that could be called the good ones, the ugly the beautiful, the average, the wild, moderate and extremely reserved, nigerian girls have very high tendency to cheat. If not the 1st end 3rd year then maybe the fourth year. Conclusion a woman can never stay fateful for the rest of her life with a man. In married or not. So I think men shld be prepared to forgive their women for cheating, just like they would forgive her when she does something else. We should be prepared. Gone are the days cheating is not part of the things you forgive or think of in the african culture.

if you fully believe the above in bold then pls care to tell us again what this thread is about?

vague:
by the way buying a land and building your house is a necessity there is no need to be passionate about it, its something one must have.

yes that would be ideal but you have to be real about this and understand that A) the majority of Nigerians dont own their own homes and are perfectly happy with that, B) there is a time and a place to build a house, thinking that this is what EVERYBODY must do as soon as they get some money is a joke, and C) you are now talking of building a house on that said land, which is an entirely different ball game and/or financial investment than a car. pls dont mix the two, but hey, if you believe that buying land and building a house on it is just as simple as buying a cheap car then you best quickly wake up bro!

if you die you will need a permanent place for your family to live comfortably in after you are gone. A secondhand car is a liabilities that can drain your pocket when it starts giving you problems.

bwaaaaaaah! you are now talking of a family, while the OP has none. the OP should buy what his life requires TODAY (aka a car). when the family will come in the picture then him and his wife will do the needed TOGETHER to secure the future of that said family. stop trying to put the carriage before the hrse simply because thats what you need/desire in YOUR life
the liability here is the person that will buy a land yet dont have any clue/means to do anything with it (or on it).

So it is people like you who encourage porverty. Years down the lane when you are still staying in someone else's house and living under their rules, battling with child maintenance and other bills you will start going around the neighbour hood calling your landlord a witch for demanding the rent you are owing and dodging utility bills. sounds familiar? i thought as much

- i encourage people to be smart and live the life they desire, regardless of what miserable people out there desire for theirs.
- i encourage people to go for personal satisfaction/gratification FIRST because if they aint happy with their own self they sure wont make anyone around them happy.
- i encourage people to never foolishly copy others like sheep, and instead make their own path in life.
- i encourage people to listen to advices from people but to remember that they must always have the last say about what they should do in their own life.
- i encourage people to make their own way in life, at their own pace, and to fully enjoy life in the same process instead of being "zombies" which sole existence is to stressfully worry every single minute in their life on how to make money, while their lives is passing them by.
- i encourage people to use their brains and understand that there is a time for everything and they shouldnt foolishly rush into doing things that they are not ready/willing/able to do right away.
- i encourage people to open their mind to understand that paying rent does NOT mean you are poor, it simply means that you have different priorities in your life at that moment. when times comes and you are financially READY, you can start the "build/buy a home" project.
BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY, i encourage people to use their brains at all times before deciding to do anything in their lives... and if it doesnt sound right to them, then they should desist from the act (whether people tell you its right or not)!

and hubby dont even have a scratch! deluded women focussing on the wrong issues.

MrBiggzz:
na wa ohh... i.taught women.are supposed to be the ones to.dress properly to cover those manCHESTER and ASSernal.., now they are.the.ones almost.getting naked publicly... soon wearing NO clothes at all wld be d latest fashion. then. we have gone bak 2 d days of adam and eve.. MAY.GOD HELP US

this is what they will wear under their tight dresses in order to not show panty lines, and NOT just what they will wear to go out

royalfly:
I don't know how to start this, I will go straight to the point, I have been betrayed by lots of women and am tired, like totally tired. Right from the very first girl I ever loved to this day. I have tried different things. I have even gone as far as taking blames for the things that was no fault of mine just to see how I can make my self a better person for the one I am dating or the one I would date but at the end, its the same thing. Please do not see this like am the soft or what I can call the mumu kind of guy. Trust me on this, am not that kind of guy and do not say its spiritual cos I also don't think it is. I do not want to bore readers with the details of the betrayals so far. But seriously, any kind of betrayals you can possibly think. My fear now is that I don't think I can trust any woman, I don't believe that there is someone out there for me, but I really want to have my own. What can I really do. Please serious comments on how I can really trust and remove this fear so that I don't miss the right one when she finally come that's if she ever comes tho.

if you truly believe the above in bold then A) you can join a monastery and become a monk or B) you can try your luck with MEN

but seriously, the common denominator here is YOU, so look within yourself to know why you are attracted to these no good women!

Legend, Lovato, Gomez and Pharrell are a HIT, the rest are

vague:
you think Dangote got rich from buying car to enjoy life or he made wise investments in his youth so he can afford whichever car he likes years later? Not everyone may become as rich as he is now but at least learn from the wise.

stop mentioning Africa richest man here, you are showing even more your "make money or die" miserable way of thinking. Dangote comes from a wealthy family and has ALWAYS BEEN passionate about business since a very young age, while here you are foolishly believing that everyone can make sound investments. it is an insult towards Dangote to believe that any dumbass in Nigeria CAN/SHOULD invest their money wisely.

BTW here is something that is certain: Dangote has always done what HE believes is right, and he has never been forced by "strangers" (who probably know nothing about sound investments) to do what he was not comfortable doing.

what we should all learn from Dangote's story is that he did something he was PASSIONATE about, thats what important here.

vague:
Listen to uncle here afterall a car loses value over the years and land actually increases value over the years. But who needs to make wise investments when you can brag about having haters?
Maybe one day you will be like Mr Brown, an elderly guy who rents another person's house when his agemates are building flats to rent out to other people.

of course not, he should listen to you because you are the land/money expert who is like all the clueless Nigerians who know all the schemes to invest money yet never have anything to show for. the OP should become like all the miserable Nigerians whose sole existence is to "make money" at all cost, and certainly NOT enjoy life and/or the fruit of his labor... so yes, the OP should certainly listen to Vague and NOT be happy and purchase the car that he desires, but should instead invest in land because "Vague" the life expert has decided that this is what the OP (better yet, the whole Nigerian population) need right now. NONSENSE!!!!

if a man doesnt know anything about land and how everything works with deed/C of O/land surveys/omoniles, price appreciation etc then they have absolutely NO business buying land as an investment, PERIOD!

hertz9te:
I wish I had your heart bro

well, you can live a life where you are at peace with yourself, or live a fake life where everyone in your life is at peace but you.

markmira:
so u tryna say if i rilli loved dem i wnt b acting dat way? I tink u might b right mayb am mistaking lust for love,d only tym i regret is when i remember hw sweet her pucci is nd if i dnt make peace wit her i might be sex starved 4 a long tym

LOL there you go bro!

jaxxy:
Hmmm I've been reading ur post since I joined nairaland and I must say u quite rational and hv mostly intelligent and meaningful post dat it never crosses my mind ur an atheist or watever I really don't care mayb cos I'm smwhat of a free thinker and nt judgemental bt yea I'm a xtain.

Regards d arguement d bible gives u guidelines which u cud term retrictions bt not really also cos u free to decided and cos ur nt perfect bt I think so is life even if ure nt a xtain. It's either d country/state laws restrict ur actions smtmes or ur own basic inherent or learnt principles guide u. Nobody just does watever dey like literally like dat without consequence if u go against d laws or basic logical reasoning. For instance u can walk on d street and slap sm1 for no reason and go on a shooting spree on people wen it's not war time so my bro we all hv restriction to sm point.

Bt then d bible and it's laws r sumed up into 1 law. Love! For thy neighbour and for God. DTs d long and short of all d whole grammer/commandment. Peace bro

bro, i am here to make sure that you question yourself, all the time.....so lets talk from one free thinker to another, and lets be rational here: do you believe you can still be a "free" christian without following the many restrictions/guidelines written in the Bible?

we as a people should be intelligent enough to decide whats RIGHT or WRONG for ourselves in order to live better lives. i certainly dont need a book/pastor etc to figure this one out. but hey, if you do thats ok, but please dont be a christian hypocrite by taking from that said bible what fit your selfish agenda, and leave out what you dont deem fit.

here is a list of things that your bible tells you to do.... dwell on that for a minute:
MURDER/INFANTICIDE IS OK
- If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them: Then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city, and unto the gate of his place; And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton, and a drunkard. And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die. Deuteronomy 21:18-21

SLAVERY IS OK
- You may purchase male or female slaves from among the foreigners who live among you. You may also purchase the children of such resident foreigners, including those who have been born in your land. You may treat them as your property, passing them on to your children as a permanent inheritance. You may treat your slaves like this, but the people of Israel, your relatives, must never be treated this way. Leviticus 25:44-46

CANNIBALISM IS OK
- If in spite of this you still do not listen to me but continue to be hostile toward me, then in my anger I will be hostile toward you, and I myself will punish you for your sins seven times over. You will eat the flesh of your sons and the flesh of your daughters. Leviticus 26:27-30

- I will make them eat the flesh of their sons and daughters, and they will eat one another’s flesh because their enemies will press the siege so hard against them to destroy them. Jeremiah 19:9

RAPE IS OK SO LONG AS YOU MARRY YOUR VICTIM
- If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and they are discovered, he shall pay her father fifty shekels of silver. He must marry the young woman, for he has violated her. He can never divorce her as long as he lives.
Deuteronomy 22:28-29
MURDER FOR BESTIALITY
- If a man has sex with an animal, he must be put to death, and the animal must be killed. Leviticus 20:15

BANG YOUR CHILDLESS BROTHER'S WIFE
- Moses wrote for us that if a man’s brother dies and leaves a wife but no children, the man must marry the widow and raise up offspring for his brother. Mark 12:19

STONING OF NON VIRGNS
- If, however, the charge is true and no proof of the young woman’s virginity can be found, 21 she shall be brought to the door of her father’s house and there the men of her town shall stone her to death. She has done an outrageous thing in Israel by being promiscuous while still in her father’s house. You must purge the evil from among you. Deuteronomy 22: 20-21

CURSE YOUR PARENTS, YOU DIE
- anyone who curses their father or mother is to be put to death. Because they have cursed their father or mother, their blood will be on their own head. Leviticus 20:9

WEARING OF CLOTHING MADE OUT OF DIFFERENT MATERIAL
- Do not wear clothing woven of two kinds of material. Leviticus 19:19

YOU SIN WITH YOUR ARM; LEG OR EYE, YOU CUT IT OFF
- If your hand causes you to stumble, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life maimed than with two hands to go into hell, where the fire never goes out. And if your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life crippled than to have two feet and be thrown into hell. And if your eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into hell. Mark 9:43

SOMEONE STEALS FROM YOU, GIVE HIM MORE
- And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. Mathew 5:40

NEVER GETTING A ROUND HAIRCUT OR CUTTING YOUR BEARD
- Do not cut the hair at the sides of your head or clip off the edges of your beard.. Leviticus 19:27

A BASTARD CAN NEVER EVER BE A CHRISTIAN
- No one born of a forbidden marriage (bastard) nor any of their descendants may enter the assembly of the Lord, not even in the tenth generation. Deuteronomy 23:2

OK TO THROW KIDS ONTO WALLS
- Happy is the one who seizes your infants and dashes them against the rocks. Psalm 137:9

WOMEN CANNOT TEACH MEN
- I permit no woman to teach or have authority over men; she is to keep silent. Timothy 2:11

WOMAN TOUCH ANOTHER MAN'S DIKC, CUT OFF HER HAND
- When men fight with one another, and the wife of the one draws near to rescue her husband from the hand of him who is beating him, and puts out her hand and seizes him by the private parts, then you shall cut off her hand. Deuteronomy 25:11-12

WOMEN UNCLEAN WHILE MENSTRUATING
- When a woman has a discharge, if her discharge in her body is blood, she shall continue in her menstrual impurity for seven days; and whoever touches her shall be unclean until evening. Everything also on which she lies during her menstrual impurity shall be unclean, and everything on which she sits shall be unclean. Leviticus 15: 19-20.

LOOKING AT A WOMAN IN LUST IS A SIN
- But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Matthew 5:28)

CIRCUMCISED MEN CANNOT BE CHRISTIAN
- No one who has been emasculated by crushing or cutting may enter the assembly of the Lord. Deuteronomy 23:1

SHARE ALL YOUR POSSESSIONS
- Anyone who has two shirts should share with the one who has none, and anyone who has food should do the same. Luke 3:11

WOMEN MUST PRAY WITH THEIR HEADS COVERED AND NEVER SHAVE THEIR HEAD
- But every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head—it is the same as having her head shaved. 1 Corinthians 11:5

OKorowanta:
But u guys tag Miley Cyrus and Lady Gaga's body "Beautiful" wen they pose nude.how are they Finer?

bwaaaah, pls bro, dont insult us in such manner!!! Miley who?! Lady what?! there is nothing remotely sexy about these two either!

hertz9te:
very
very

HArd

who told you that LIFE was going to be easy?!

markmira:
bro i do love dem.

bro, you obviously dont know what LOVE is! especially if this happens with all the women you "supposedly" love.
again, search deep in your heart, the answer is there!

btw dont confuse LIKE and LOVE, just because thats the only feeling you ever felt.

there are no 2 ways about it, you must take your heart and tell them exactly that, in a non threatening manner!

shegsky:
Guys! If you were walking by a Street &you find a Guy or About Three(3) Guys trying to Rape a Gurl as she's Struggling& screaming for help, what would you do?

keep a safe distance then start shouting at the top of my lung, RAPIST!!! ARMED ROBBER!!!! OLE!!!! BARAWO!!!!

markmira:
Am a pain in the ass.i have this fuuuckt up habit sometyms i insult and humiliate my gf 4 no reason.she v forgiven me tyms without number but i keep on doing it.plz i nee d advice i tink am a psycho.this same issue spoilt most of my relationship in d past after the lady must have forgiven me tyms without number.

bro the fact is that you dont really love these women, and you just settle with them for reason best known to you. look within yourself to see what is troubling you as you will only go from one gal to the next aimlessly!

IMHO same thing, different name, different illegal activity!

@Djboosting
bro, a lot of the stuff you wrote had me kinda laughing:

Things involved....
The guy in question is not sparking any female attraction in the girl.. They only claimed to be "in relationship"..
And the girl wants more...

fair enough, but dont you think that if a gal "want more" then she should A) talk about it with her bf and B) find other WAYS to go about it rather than go and get smashed by her boss behind her man's back?

She wants to explore her sexuality out there before sticking to one man all her life....

and instead of exploring with her man FIRST, she'd rather give her prized Virginity to her boss?!

She wants to 'feel things'

there is nothing wrong with wanting to feel things, what's wrong is the WAY she disrespectfully/deceitfully went about feeling these things.

All that can be observed here contextually is that the "FAMILY BOND" means nothing to the girl...

at least we can agree on something!

Girls are emotional creatures, some girls already decided what they wanted and go for it, irrespective of the rules layed...

and that gives them the right to deceive/cheat/hurt us men?!

1.. The guy is obsessed about the girl...
(might be her beauty or whatever reason best know to him since the story is a summary) ...
He seemed to be too clingy to the girl in cost of "she's my already planned wife" ... And it's freaking the girl out (brings us to the Facebook status and more issues between them)

again there are ways to solve such issues... communicating with her man etc is a far better way of possibly solving that issue, rather than fukcing her boss. a man cannot fix a problem he doesnt know exist. the FB status issue is just a proof that she was up to no good for a long time and thats why she was mad at him.

2.. The guy is needy..
Maybe he is not good with girls outside this girl in particular.. That's why he's sticking to her.
Whatever he's doing with the girl is coming from a place of scarcity and NEEDINESS...

the above in bold is far fetch but, lets assume that it wasnt... is that really an issue?! thats his girl, he is a virgin and therefore she could be his first, so what? is that a crime?! if he aint good then let her voice her concern so that he can change.

If he's in a place of ABUNDANCE with other girls, he won't worry about one little outcome with one little girl somewhere .... Leading to hypertension..

you sir have never been in LOVE... this has nothing to do with how many girls are around him (since he is faithful to his girl) but it has all to do with the hurt that the woman you kept yourself for, the one you love more than anything, the gal you dream of spending the rest of your life with, she went ahead and whøre herself like a common ashewo; that your life long dream wont happen any longer; that this is all over!

I'm not a fan of breaking whatever relationship anyone is having anywhere...
But I'd advice the guy to...
1... Get a VISION and purpose in life where he'll channel all is energy... Cos the guy has no life right now .. At all - NO life..

he had a vision/purpose, and that was to be the best possible man for his woman.

Hypertension on a girl = NO life..

lol you are harsh!

2.. Find other girls and do things with them, enjoy ur life outside ur comfort zone... Get great people in ur life...
There are one million and one girls out there waiting for u to talk to them...

of course, with time, now he will seek for another woman to date and possibly marry, but that wont change the fact that he had a girl and she did the unthinkable and cheated on him! this man didnt do anything wrong and ALL the blame rests on the LovePeddler he was unknowingly dating. lets be clear on that.

Finally... To all guys out there...
Don't ever give all ur power to women.. U're a man..

men who think like that end up being miserable lonely old men who are too stuck up (or even cowards) in trying not to be hurt by a woman that they never really find anyone interested in the macho BS gorilla they pretend to be.

Note this:- the moment a lady completely has ur Love, at that point she STOPS loving you...

BWAAAAAAAH! where do you get this stuff from?! you either love somebody or you dont, there is no middle measure here. oh lawd, well i hope you wont be too lonely at the top... as if it is the end of the world if your woman stops loving you?! lol. if she does then you drop her silly aaass and go find another one who will cherish your love... and you probably should stop falling in love with childish women, but then again, no wonder!

there is ONLY 1 rule: BE YOURSELF!

from their posture, it seems like she is Akon's gal, lol!

NONSENSE!!!!!
@fajani, since you are clueless about us men, let me help you, since NONE of the stuff you mentionned is a confirmation of cheating:

1. He tells you he isn't really ready for a relationship early on. Yet he continues to talk to you and lead you on in a way that seems serious. You just go with it because he is cute, seems genuine, gives you attention, and you might just think he'll change and realize you're "the one."
its called BEING SERIOUS about not wanting a serious r/ship... but he still wants to fukc you.

2. He puts his phone on airplane mode. That way you can't see incoming texts when you ask to see pictures on his phone that you guys just took of each other.
whats the point of that since she could well see all the past msgs sent to him?!

3. He wears a man ponytail. AKA ponymale.
UTTER RUBBISH

4. He takes his phone with him every time he goes to the bathroom.
he may be a very private secretive person, and there is nothing unfaithful about that

5. He has more friends that are girls than you do, and he only has a few guy friends.
so having a lot of female friends means he is cheating?! which cave did you crawl out from?!

6. You haven't met a lot of his friends even though you hang out with him a lot. They're always busy.
so its against the law to have busy friends?! what if it was just because that the gal was too "village" like?!

7. His phone battery seems to die more than the average person’s, making him unreachable for extended periods of time.
so being unreachable because you have a bad battery means you are cheating?!

8. He gives you just enough attention to keep you around but not enough to actually move forward in your "relationship."
since when does ALL r/ships need to move on, regardless of what you guys experience together?

9. He always has a reason why you can’t meet up with him. Like he's "not sure when he’ll be off work” or it’s “just the guys.”
is being busy a confirmation of cheating now? maybe she is just NOT that important in his life!

10. Every time you call him out on something (like why he went so MIA on text) he turns it around on you, saying you’re being clingy or crazy.
its called having a life, you should look it up in the dictionary if you dont know what it means

11. He stops initiating sexy time.
so a guy is ALWAYS the one who should initiate sex time? if it is so important to women, why dont they initiate it? et voila!

12. You never know where he is. But he refuses to add you on Find My Friends.
bwaaaaaaah! what next? a chip under his skin to follow his every move.

13. He refers to himself here and there as "a loner." Time to walk the F away.
and thats a sign of "cheating"?! how exactly?!

14. He is a shitty communicator and takes forever to text you back. Duh, because he's texting countless other girls, so it takes a while for him to get back to you.
what about because he has a LIFE and is BUSY?!

15. He occasionally agrees to plans, then backs out later — like telling you he can come to your cousin’s wedding and then acting weird when you actually try to book a rental car.
emergencies happen all the time, i suggest you wake up and live in the real world

16. He falls off the map more often than not.
and thats a sign of "cheating"?! how exactly?!

17. He can't commit — to you or to future plans, even things like what you're going to do with him on Saturday.
its called having a life and being BUSY

18. He sometimes lies about random/inconsequential things at times when it doesn’t really seem to matter.
when does being a LIAR equates to being a CHEATER?!

19. Everyone he follows on Instagram appears to be a sexy-looking, half-naked woman.
is there a law against liking sexy looking half nāked women?!

20. He has a lot of numbers in his phone that aren't saved under names. You can bet those numbers are attached to girls who are conversing with him in a flirty manner. Trust.
pls do tell us what more can you see in your crystal ball

21. You haven't met his family. OK, maybe his mom, but she doesn't even know what he's up to, and you only met her for an hour.
that means its not time yet, OR you are not the one... but certainly not that he is CHEATING

22. You find alarming texts in his phone that say, "Have you been tested?"
its called "prevention"

23. He has his text messages linked to his iPad and stored in the "Finance folder." SHADY!
he has a gf that snoops around his personal stuff, like a PI... shaddier!

24. He comes up on your friend's Tinder.
and what the fukc are YOU doing searching people on Tinder, you hypocrite?!?!?!?

25. When you pick up his phone to do something innocuous like check the time he FREAKS OUT and/or snatches it away from you with some lame excuse like "my mom's texts are embarrassing" or "phones are really personal."
excuses which could be true, isnt it?!

26. If you calmly and sincerely approach your partner about the thought that something seems off or makes you uncomfortable, and he or she lashes out and make you feel insecure or insane, it's because s/he is deflecting. A caring relationship involves talking things out and caring about one another's feelings and validating them, while trying to resolve an issue in a constructive and healthy way.
and how is that a confirmation of cheating again?!

BTW i suggest you stop following what these garbage magazines write in order to sell more of their BS to sheep all over the world!

not a single fukc given

@agarawu23

1. The guy doesn't know what next to do.
he certainly shouldnt continue marriage plans with this deceitful lady, and instead he should sit down and re-evaluate his stand on life and marriage!

2. He doesn't want to break the bond between both family cos the lady's father isn't aware of the recent situation.
how can he break a bond that has already been broken?! that gal broke the family bond, let HER take full responsibilities for her cheap and whoring actions. the lady's father should be aware of EVERYTHING that has been happening!

3. He loved and care for the lady with all his life but he is now confused.
this man is in love with a dream/ideology that is not real... of course he loves this lady and will do so for a while but time will heal his heart. staying with such demon is certainly not the way to go. that man needs to stop listening/following what his heart is telling him, and INSTEAD listening/following what his brain is telling him to do. if a lady that you are dating goes to fukc her boss, it only confirms ONE thing: she is no good for you!

4. He is currently hypertensive cos of the lady.
there are many treatments out there that cures hypertension.

5. What advice will you give him?
since you are going to live with your choices then its all up to you... but never forget that this lady has NO respect for you, your r/ship or the agreement your parents had. she is deceitful, untrustworthy, disrespectful, cheap, damaged goods, and you should instead find a lady who will value you and your r/ship ABOVE ALL.

there are gazillion possible answers to this question, depending on how you want to portray yourself (ambitious, committed, driven etc)

Cassidy9:
not talking about her man, 'the Ebony lady on pink but bikini.

ok ,i was talking about Mocheddah and that "sexy body" the OP wrote about.

Chidexter:
Whats this one saying?.
I've met intelligent atheists, but you, you need a brain transplant asap.

you are welcome!

Cassidy9:
look close to your right, the lady got Azz like water melons.

Mocheddah is the one in the black swimsuit, right?! ps look again and tell me what is so "sexy" about her body?! she cant even fill that swimsuit properly

Chidexter:
Finally, so this is why you chose to live as an atheist, cos you dont want to be restrained?? Lmao!

Who told you being a christians restrains you from doing things??.
It only guides you.

i'm a christian and i do not live a restrained life, i go to church when i want(even the bible said when two or three gathers in my name i'm there, also God is everywhere. So i choose to pray at home when i like).

stop being foolish, ALL christians live the life the BIBLE "orders" them to live, in order to be a proper christian. who are you trying to kid here?!
if the Bible told you to fukc your own mother in order to enter that "imaginary" paradise, then thats what you will do, thats what sheeps do!

I, in the contrary, I live the life I want to live, i do what i want to do whenever i want to do it; i use my brain in order to decide what is RIGHT or WRONG for me... without the need of "restrictions" in my life, in order to have all the necessary requirements to enter some imaginary land when i am dead.

koning:
@MRBrownJ, if I don't want kids in my house, I will simply tell them and their mother that I am busy and do not want to be disturbed. Not that I do not want to accused of rape.
What makes the OP a pervert is his reason for not wanting the children in his home. How do you even begin to explain to a mother that you do not want her daughters in your home because you might be accused of raping them.

bro,
A) stop selfishly thinking about your own self and instead prevent some kids to possibly be molested/kidnapped etc. you MUST educate these foolish parents because, guess what?! often, it is a person close/familiar to these kids that molest them. you certainly dont solve the problem by sending them to some other stranger's home

B) gather all the parents of the compound and tell them exactly that (and say it like you mean it): [b]"people, you must take a better care of your children because it is wrong that they come hang out at stranger's home while you are home chilling. there you are, having your peace in your own house, without a care in the world as to what your kids are up to. you need to be on top of your game when it comes to children because this aint RIGHT. dont you read the bloody news?! i could be a kidnapper! i could be a ritualist! i could be a pedophile!! i could be a rapist! i could be a mad person!! be responsible for your kids, thats YOUR duty, not mine! be a parent to your kids, thats YOUR duty, not mine! be aware of what your kids are doing, thats YOUR duty, not mine! know where your kids are at, ALL THE TIMES, thats YOUR duty, not mine! if one of them breaks my TV are you going to pay? if they get hurt at my place, who is responsible?
listen, if they have nothing better to do then give them a book or something but certainly dont send them away at stranger's homes, thats WRONG!

btw: do you guys really think that i paid a DSTV subscription in order to have all the neighborhood kids hanging at my place? i want my peace when i am home, so as from today, i DO NOT want to see any of your children in my house. thank you very much"[/b]

i am desperately searching for some signs of tittays and bootay in that nice swimsuit.... helas!
sexy body?! where!!! a flat chest and aaaass is all what i see!

@fantasticshaw
very simple, i will accept my fate and since i have lived "handsomely" with no regrets on earth then so be it.

now you answer this question: knowing that you lived a BS restrained life here on earth hoping for castles in the sky, what if after you die you realise that there is no "Christian" heaven or whatever, and that we all (atheists, christians, Muslims, buddhists etc) end up together in the same place? wouldnt you be hella pissed knowing that you lived a BS restrained life for nothing?!