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Pchinak:
I get your view, however the moment you explain the reason to the parents, don't be surprised if the matter changes from " wicked" to "pervert" in the neighborhood.

a "pervert" because parents are stoopid?! a "pervert" because you dont want kids in your home?! a pervert because you are advising parents to be safe with their kids?! then i guess thats what i would be, but i definitely wont stay back and do nothing.

right will ALWAYS be right, even if the majority of dumbasses parents out there tell you otherwise.

any smart man knows that if a family only has daughters then it is the fault of the MAN!

@Dorox10
since you are struggling to even get chop money, dont worry, God (the ever merciful) would understand!

if it was me, i would remove my 5000 and never ask him for my money ever again... but i wouldnt tell him that the debt was "repaid"!

1) why does she want to abort?
2) is the abortion going to suddenly turn this slut into a good girl?

let abortion be for proper valid reasons and not for this flimsy BS!

do a Google search for ROJADIRECTA

@Sundayslim
i would have done the same as you did and explain exactly why to their parents... while also schooling them as to why this is wrong!

- get married is easy, staying happily married is DAMN HARD! so many people think that because you've gone on a few good dates and like one another, you will be a great married couple... WRONG! before marriage, talk about EVERYTHING extensively and in details... put everything OPENLY on the table: goals, desires, life plans, children plans, work plans, religious plans, financial plans, family plans, sexual plans etc
thinking that you guys should talk about these issues AFTER marriage is completely wrong.

- your worries are her worries, your pain is her pain, your stress is her stress so SHARE SHARE SHARE everything, not just the joy and happiness. she is here to alleviate/take some of it all so that you have two minds to deal with any issues.

- women are predisposed to NAG (and some argue while making no damn sense to us men), its a natural thing to them and sometimes you are better off just by saying the magic words:"ok dear" or "whatever you want babe". these magic words solve the union from pointless arguments and headaches because no matter how we men want to make some sense, sometimes women dont and thats ok.

- MONEY MONEY MONEY!!!! if you are not willing to be fully honest with your financial situation then i suggest you dont get married. you should trust your partner 110% and work/plan for the future of the family together. she is/will be the mother of your future children and if you cant trust her fully then there is no reason to want to start a family with her (unless you are with her for the wrong reasons) trust her with EVERYTHING, meaning financial aspects of the family but also your fears/worries etc so that the union will be stronger. i know a lot of guys are like "HELL NO" but your family will always be lacking/handicapped if your main associate dont fully know you. yes they can use that against you in the future but that is part of family life! pretense will get you nowhere.

- before marriage, many believe that they dont have to change and will find the perfect person that will fit perfectly into their way of life etc, WRONG!!! you have to adapt, reevaluate the way you view/do/deal with some issues. as a single person you could (foolishly) possibly knock out a drunk guy who disrespected your gal, as a family man (father) you certainly cant!

- you have to let her be in charge of something "worthy" in the union (no, cleaning and cooking aint one of them)... let her role at home be just as important as yours. why should you get all the burdens?! dont get it twisted, cleaning and cooking is easy!

- no matter how tiring it may be, spend time with your kids and dont let no one raise them for you. spending time with them only in the weekends is not enough!

- have fun with wifey, everyday! laugh, joke, play, go out, keep wooing/surprising one another... do all the things you did before marriage AND SOME MORE. make a list of +50 different things (some sillier than others) that you guys can do during the month/year, put them in a box, shake the box and pick one at least 2 evenings a week.

- however you may want to avoid them, you cant have a great family without adding your extended family in the mix. if they are your friends, you are on a winner, if they aint then you will have difficult/painful/odd family reunions... and when kids are added to this mix, you will see much more of them (btw your/her best friend are part of that extended family).

- no matter what happens between the two of you, never go to bed angry with one another. by the time you get to that bedroom, you should leave the argument at the door (have a magic word to remind you of that). the bedroom should be a white flag zone, and if you normally sleep spooning while facing east then thats exactly how you should go to bed after that argument. saying you are sorry is good and certainly not a sign of weakness, so long as you understand the meaning.

- you cannot teach a person not to cheat, it is a conscious decision that each and every one of us must make at a particular time in our lives. some may be saying NO today but due to unforeseen issues, they may fall tomorrow. the important point is that ONLY that individual is responsible for such action.

he does:

there is nothing wrong with her dressing, it is her body shape which is strange.

have you been living in a cave?! the Boondocks season 4 was out more than a year ago, and has also been on Youtube for just as long.

btw the 4th season wasnt that great, especially since the creator Aaron McGruder wasnt part of it any longer!

Mekus68:
Hmmmm

This story get capital K leg.

How come a mad woman totally unclad on the road, automatically is in d court defending herself n seeking custody of her children.

Nawa o

is this not 9ja? a lady would wear a mini skirt and show cleavage (in order to stay fashionable etc) and some people will say she is nekkid!

Islie:
“I am ready for the refund of the bride price of N10,000 I paid,” he said.

NONSENSE!!!! are the 3 kids she bore for him irrelevant here?! that man should shut the hell up! 10K ko, 10L ni

NONSENSE photoshopped BS!!!

Johnnoah1st:
i dont understand wat u mean.

if you are not ready and willing to fully be open and lose any privacy you may "think" you presently have, then there is no reason for you to get married or remotely think of starting a family.

Johnnoah1st:
seriously i would like to marry a girl am so confidence in her dat i can let her knw all my privacy, but i dont tink such girl exist hence u have to limit wat she can knw about ur PRIVACY.

instead, you should limit what you want in life while removing "having a happy family" from such list

@femmmmy
thats what happened when you hurry and marry a stranger... and yes, you have all the rights to leave that deceitful woman (who knows what else she is hiding from you)

jonaifame22:
A guy and a gal walked in2 my salon and the gal asked me to shave her full hair completely bald dat she wants to change her look,I hesitated at first,but since money is involved I obliged,when I was done she heaved a sigh of releive and paid me and they both left holding each others hands! I was stunned but she looked very beautiful wth the bald head especially wth the ear rings she wore,shld have snapped pics but if na u,u go put ur head down make I snap am?

obviously they went there together knowing fully well and agreeing that she was going to do this... now, if she did that while you had no idea and suddenly meet her "gorimapa" style, then you have all the rights to re-evaluate your stand in this r/ship.

@Apexquest
think outside the box and do what matters to YOU, because you are the only one who is going to live with the consequences. if you are fully happy with your purchase then dont let any fool out there tell you (or make you feel) otherwise.
live your life, be merry, enjoy what you got and have a big smile while cruising pass the haters waiting at the bus stop!

anyone expecting to have their own privacy should live in a house on their own, and probably NEVER have kids!

agarawu23:
let me give you a short story.
a man applied for a job at a particular time but he wasn't lucky to get the job. so after some months, the company called the man for another vacant since he was turn down the first time but his phone was with his wife. so the wife later picked the call to know who was talking unfortunately it was the Secretary of the company that called the man but merely hearing the voice of a Lady on the phone, the wife started abusing the lady calling her husband snatcher without waiting to hear from the Lady.

The man later went tru his phone and saw received call so he called the number back just to know who called but the lady(Secretary) asked him to come their company.

to cut the story short, the manager told him to caution his wife and ask her to stay off his phone cos your mobile phone is meant for only you and no other person. imagine if the man was unlucky, he will definitely lose the job again. this is a story that happened within my neighborhood.

having a crazy jealous wife has absolutely nothing to do with the subject... if a woman is willing to abuse any female that calls her partner's phone, without prior checking who she is, then that woman need to be locked up in a mental institution. but hey, since your phone can be answered EVEN WHEN IT IS LOCKED, then this example is flawed.

agarawu23:
OK another one.
two friends planned to attend a party at night so the appointment and time was fixed already but when it was time, for the party, Mr A was very weak and tired so he made up his mind not to go to the party anymore but he didn't inform his friend.
so when it was time, Mr A was asleep already since he was tired so Mr B started calling his phone so that they could meet up.
The wife picked the phone and inform Mr B that her husband is asleep already. Mr B was very angry that why will Mr A give his wife phone to lie to him that he is asleep when they already had and agreement to meet.
Mr A tried to explain to Mr B the next day but Mr B didn't listen since the phone his meant for his private use therefore it was and agreement between him and his wife. that's how the friendship ended

MR A made an error and should have contacted his friend to advise him of his change of plans.

IMHO there are so many things that contributes to today's failing in r/ships and marriage, and sadly, lack of communication is far from the main culprit.

FIRST AND FOREMOST, the main reason why unions are failing today is because people today are going into r/ship and marriage for the WRONG reasons. family/religious/social/peer pressures have a big part to play in this madness. Nigerian society will be quick to celebrate marriages as the epitome of HAPPINESS, and therefore so many miserable people want to get married at ANY cost (even with the worst partner out there), foolishly believing that it would change their miserable state.

SECOND, in today's age, people live different lives, faster lives with different priorities. we cant compare the old days with today, its a different era. now more women AND men have the right to be themselves, are not afraid to be themselves, and go for what they desire without any care in the world what society believes. some women today are independent/liberated, they have good jobs and can take care of their own selves, unlike before when they had to stick to a man and depend on him for LIFE, or be viewed as "soiled good" (as soon as she was divorced) and rejected by society.

THIRD, i also blame society because men have never been better than these women, but "society" has for a long time accepted that men could fool around and not be judged for it. so it was all ok for these men to have mistresses and fool around (with total disregard for their union), just because their wives/gfs unwillingly accepted it as a way of "mens" life. now this same society has evolved and women today aint afraid to COPY what men have always been doing for all these years, but now it is a big deal, and most men cant take it.
many women of today have role models such as Rihanna, Beyonce, Kim K and Nicki Minaj, so what do you expect? lol

LAST BUT NOT LEAST, we can all see that the FOUNDATIONS used today in order to get into a r/ship or marriage are crooked, and therefore no wonder they dont stand the test of time.

Ishilove:
Seriously? Thought she was a jamo lady

Where is MrBrownJay?

my profile was deleted (i have yet to know how/who/why) so i am now using my 2nd profile that i used when i was banned back in the days MrBrownJ

and yes Mzdarkskin is a Jamaican cutie living in the US... she is still on NL under a different profile now (dont remember which one)

Day11:
BrownJay is a bouncer for Europa night club in pretoria S.A

you no well! Europa nightclub ko, Asia dayclub ni!

stale

https://www.nairaland.com/2557287/boy-girl-got-more-swag

as if anything a gal would say can change anything here, LOL! the only thing the ex can do is warn her sister about what happened between her and this man when they were together, et voila.

BOTH of them are foolish, without a shadow of doubt!

@Kacyrose
shouldnt you have thought of this BEFORE lying on your job application?!

old hag trying to stay relevant in the media, by posting BS outrageous pictures online in order to compete with young biatches like Miley or Riri

a simple look at their browser history will reveal what they were really up to in these cyber cafes!

all these goldigging whores claiming they were forced into prostitution, lol! i will never feel sorry for any of these people!

just by reading the link we can clear see that she "killed her lesbian lover because she was still seeing her boyfriend", lol!
i guess she thought her gf was a full blown lesbian while she was in fact bisexual.

@Nature8
#2 is NONSENSE!
anyone can attract/deserve the exact opposite of who they are, and thats because, when it comes to affairs of the heart, there are NO rules.
a God fearing lady could well fall in love with a murderer/armed robber because their evil deeds isnt written on their foreheads, and the lady will fall for what these men wants her to see/discover!

#3 is STOOPID
everybody's 1st impression (women included) is physical because thats the only thing you know about that person, thats the 1st sign needed in order to want to know that person further/better. if you aint attracted to them at the 1st impression (physical) then chances are you are never going to try to know them further. now yes, sex is very important to us men and there is NOTHING wrong with that! we spend a lifetime trying to tame the tiger in our pants, and most fail miserably. so ALL our needs have to be satisfied and there is nothing wrong if SEX is part of our important need/priorities (we dont wake up every morning with "wood" for nothing).
here is an important clue: sexual chemistry is VERY important and nobody should marry a person that they are NOT sexually compatible with... that is a sure road to failure.

#4 is DUMB
of course the content of ANY person (whether man or woman) should be evaluated before marriage. ALL prospective partner need to pass all the necessary test in order to ensure that they have the proper mindset that you require in a future wife/husband... BUT the outward appearance should never be dismissed either!
btw here is a clue: some men out there are simply looking for a trophy wife, and although not ideal, there is nothing wrong with these particular men putting all their criteria on beauty/sex appeal!

#5 is CHEAP
that is what ugly women are saying to themselves in order to fool one another and believe that they have just as much chances as beautiful women. LIE LIE LIE!!!!!
people should put just as much emphasis on character/compatibility etc as they should put on BEAUTY... simply because nobody wants to wake up every morning next to a "good" woman that looks like a donkey.

#6 is THE DEFINITION OF HYPOCRISY
the majority of women in Nigeria are the ones marrying for money and ending up slaves, and you have no problem with that, but if men do the same it is an issue?! what an hypocrite, NOBODY should marry for money!
but who are we kidding here?! when we have A) young women value men solely by their wealth and B) young men ready and willing to do any crime/atrocities for money, in order to attract these clueless women... then no wonder Nigeria is fukced up!

#7 is FUNNY
especially when we all know that many women are only good at killing a man's dream!

#9 is FALSE
any person should take whatever time they REQUIRE in order to properly discover their partner. there is NO timeline here because people are different (and some people can fake it for years). some people can be fully discovered in 3 months while it will take YEARS to discover others. women desperate to get married will be quick to tell you otherwise but that is the LIE that they are using in order to blackmail men into quickly marrying them due to age, society or whatever hopeless situation they find themselves into. anyone who stands by the #9 point has NO respect for marriage/life!

#10 is BS
be a couple. you both handle the responsibility of marriage. Love one another the best way you can. be a blessing to one another and have an awesome marital journey.

@swemzkid
let me be the bearer of bad news.... you are simply fukcing a hoe and should NEVER (even in your wildest dreams) think of dating such woman!
enjoy fukcing her and be merry, anything more than that would be a grave mistake!