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Bekeey:
Was urgent, according to the sender, he said it was only UBA that's he can pay into to avert wahala.

...so urgent that (til now) you havent been able to tell her?!?!?! come on! your story makes very little sense.

i dont think these really matter today...although if you go to the movies its different but in this day and age, mst kids have phones/tablets etc that can easily access such content (even if you block/monitor it).

the minute they leave the house, they can easily view these somehow illegal contents.

Karen2024:
I have been housing my boyfriend for months now... meaning he's squatting with me. This useless good for nothing guy brought in another useless lady to sleep with her on our matrimonial bed, he had the guts to cheat while I tame my desires to have taste of other men. Should I send him packing? I'm still contemplating...

you guys are exactly the same type of animals, and deserve one another.... continue dey tame your yeye desires there!!!!

at least now you know, why get upset?! YOU ARE FREE AT LAST!

if thats what she was doing before you met her, and was glad to date her while she was doing that then, technically, you have nothing to say now. this is the type of yeye woman she has always been... why wail now?

i can NEVER date a woman who flaunts her body online (as a way of life), let alone marry that deranged person. such woman is only good for "chop and clean mouth"

Israel will win BY FAR!!!!
... because everyone will stand by (and support) Israel, even if they were at fault.

if child hair is too big and in the way of the child safety at nursery/school (aka hair getting caught in doors/windows, fan etc) then i would understand.... but i would prefer they told me this before, so I could fix it myself.

BTW LA click LA gorimapa

let him name each and everyone of the 424 orphanages around Nigeria receiving the money na!

funny how...
- if someone is caught cheating, PLENTY PLENTY PHOTOS!
- thief get caught and burned alive, PLENTY PLENTY PHOTOS!
- neighbors are having sex in public, PLENTY PLENTY PHOTOS!

but the minute someone's private get stolen or (like the above) private inside food, NO PHOTO WHATSOEVER!!!

the police is indeed your "friend"

i dont understand.... why didnt you tell her that someone was gonna send you money in HER account? why the sneaky part, trying to test her?!

another yeye fool who did a terrible crime due to TEMPORARY INSANITY related to love.

yep

casualobserver:
We don’t come from the same strata of society so we can’t see eye to eye. Have a good day.

no we certainly dont... i come from a strata of society that believes that EVERY HUMAN BEINGS whether rich or poor, black or white have different character... anyone who believe that the lives of the 2% of the population is relevant to the 98% of the rest of the population, is clearly living in la la land.

i love my white/latina/asian women, and whether commoner or not, they bring the type of joy any man requires in his life (no offense to my black sistas). ALLELUJAH!

have a fantastic afternoon.

casualobserver:
Like I said you have the mindset of a commoner nothing else need be said. That you think a woman can be approached by an Uber driver says it all, you and the women you think should allow themselves to be approached by anyone have no standards. I didn’t bother to read the rest of your drivel. I stopped when I saw the word rich. Again for the umpteenth time this has nothing to to with wealth…again showing your commoner mindset. Money money money…typical of commoners!!!

bro, i am a commoner 100 times over, and proud to be... and as 98% of women in the US are commoner themselves, then i would expect these women to be approach by their peers, same in Europe or Africa. the fact that you believe that because 2% of the population are elite, therefore NO WOMAN should be approached by Uber drivers or Bricklayers (while the majority of the population are uber driver/bricklayer types), is the JOKE OF THE DAY!

the "commoners" are the majority of the population, not the way around! stop viewing your life in the eyes of people who dont even live in your world and/or dont want to mix with you.

It is people like you that their wives end up sleeping with houseboys and drivers because you marry women without standards and boundaries.90% of people who marry outside their race or tribe do so because they don’t have what it takes to attract the best of their own! Deal with the fact!

please tell us how the 2% population will marry all the 98% of the population? duh!

Columbine:
When you say one is ugly, what do you mean?

have you never seen an ugly woman?! i believe in my book, anyone below a 5 is ugly. remember everyone have a different view of what is a 5 TO THEM.

casualobserver:
The 1st part of your post shows you are a commoner or have the mindset of a commoner. One of the things I often tell Nigerians when they go abroad is…don’t think that because a white person can speak English, they are on the same level as you, assuming you are on any level. The problem with many Nigerians is the white people they interact with are the commoners. And they behave like commoners. The white people you are talking about are commoners just like a Nigerian commoners. The white person you are talking about does not have access to the elite of their society, they didn’t go to the same schools as children of senators business leaders , governors etc. they don’t have the numbers of these sorts of people in their address book. The equivalent white elite do not allow themselves to be approached by commoners because to begin with you will not find yourselves in the same social setting. When the Nigerian elite marry, they marry themselves. Its the same all over the world. It’s not about money, it’s about social class. People with class don’t mix with commoners either in Nigeria, Uk, USA, India, Lebanon, UAE. They don’t even stay in the sort of areas where the majority of Nigerians will stay. A friend once said, homes in London are small. I told him these are not the homes of your type of people, go to surrey, and see where the elite British live. They have servants just like we do back home. The people you are seeing are the commoners. The people who live in Ajah, Akowonjo, Ipaja, Abilene eggs, Amuwo and co. Imagine interacting with people from such areas and thinking you understand the real Nigerian elite? Those are commoners!!!

now you are truly showing an inferiority complex, swerving this discussion from picking a wife to now talking about marrying someone who is rich/famous/elite.
majority of white aint upper class nor elite, and just because a few dont want to mix, doesnt mean that these people are the representation of the white race. saying that because elite marry elite, it means white women that marry other races are "below" these elite, is so far from the truth, its funny! the problem you dont understand is that today the elites anywhere in the world are black yellow and green, the time when the elite were solely white is done and out (especially in the US). when you go to the country clubs, you see equally blacks, indians and asians (especially Chinese)... and even though Chinese have very little class, their money/power around the world open all the doors. go to any top elite schools around the world, and you will find you fair share of black/Asian/Indian kids.

but most importantly, who cares about these elites, they are the minority in the white population out there. in the US only, they make only 2% of the population... and truly, i wouldnt care less what these people do as it is irrelevant to this discussion. the majority of white people around the world have no problem with marrying anyone they are attracted to (whether black yellow or green)... and thats what matters here.

Whites marry whites, blacks marry blacks, Indians marry Indians etc etc. those who cross breed are generally commoners. Unless went to their schools, Harvard, Yale, Oxford, Cambridge, LSE, Imperial, MIT etc etc, you wil not even get the opportunity to mix the proper whites. The oyinbo you went to school with at Georgia tech, north London, east London University etc etc are children of commoners. Those you are mixing with are commoners….commoners have no standards to begin with they would rather die than go to such universities. They are the equivalent of the Tonto Dikehs of Nigeria, that they may have money like Kanye and the Kardashians makes no difference. Their children cannot gain admission into the exclusive jack and Jill club that a black or white civil servant with pedigree on a meager $100k a year can. If you think that a bricklayer or cab driver should be able to approach a woman who has pedigree, then you are clearly a commoner and have never interacted with women of pedigree either in Nigeria or abroad. They will dismiss you without even saying a word.

the above is such a sad post, truly sad! you living in la la land.... EVEN the royal family got mixed, thanks to prince Harry, and there is nobody above them when it comes to "elite". BWAAAAAAAH! ask Monaco prince and his black illegitimate child if he doesnt sleep and have children with blacks... or better yet, why dont you ask his black illegitimate child Alexandre Grimaldi-Coste about it (i guess since they dont mix, he must have fukced his mother via wifi abi). sadly, you have all the right to believe what you wanna believe. to each their own!

Secondly you need to learn how to read and comprehend. I specifically said most people live to pay bills so your second paragraph is pointless. I have told you this is not about being rich. The only requirement for a man is that he must be able to fend for himself and his family. Otherwise he has no business with a woman….and any woman of value has no business being with him.

again, your definition of "broke" man is (as you stated) a man with no potential, no future, while my definition of broke is anyone who took care of their life responsibilities and then have no more left to spend on irrelevant life frivolities.... not to be mistaken with a POOR man (who in my book) are men who cant take care of their life responsibilities. in my book, a broke man who meets a broke woman can easily have a great family life for themselves. his contribution with her contribution will support the family!

A proper Oyinbo woman, just like a proper Nigerian woman, Indian, Emirati, Lebanese, German, French etc will not give you the time of day unless you are from her social class and she can smell your class and pedigree from afar no matter how expensive your designer attire. In fact it is usually a dead giveaway of “common”.

in the US, 98% of white women would NOT be elite, therefore they would be the majority and would easily find a man to marry whether common or not. the fact that you keep talking about these elite further shows your inferiority complex, as if these elite were better humans to marry than other people of their race.

ugodson:
I think castration will be proper cos DEATH will be like a one way ticket, for me let them suffer CASTRATION will be good, maybe later they are put to death

why give the devil the luxury of breathing an extra breathe?

cuteboy2:
You fail to realize that cultures are different. Even if the wedding took place in the girl's hometown, max maybe parents or 1 or 2 friends might attend.

It's not like in 9ja that family will sow Aso ebi and hire 10 ten danfo buses to bring everyone from village to come and chop jollof rice, and pack extra in polythene bags to take back home.

You have switched from wedding attendance to sexual. Is your blood not hot enough?🔥
Why is it none of them has contacted you to come and service them? Better go and marry. Stop dragging other people's marriage.

NOBODY in Norway gets married and there is nobody from their family attending... not even a friend. although today, young people in Norway/Scandinavia dont believe in marriage any longer, when they do decide to get hitched, everyone comes along.

i should know about the above, as i used to live a total of 7yrs in Norway and Denmark
also, yes many now come to Africa to find young fit men to marry (Gambia was their preferred country in the past but now west Africa and Kenya is taking over)

Calitoscassius:
It is very very very very cold in Norway and most Norwegians are fishermen and women.

the above is a damn lie from the pit of hell! nobody in Oslo lives off fishing any longer, same with Bergen and/or Trondheim (who is full of students).
i used to live in Trondheim and Oslo, and never met people living off fishing ever. even in the marinas and boatyards you would see very few fishing boats. only place i saw a lot of people living off fishing is/was in the north of the country like Lofotten, Tromso etc

casualobserver:
You are free to approach, it is woman’s as perogative to ignore or reject you you. What nonsense you spew!!! A woman does not have to respond simply because you are respectful. I would be irritated if my woman is approached by an UBER driver..what nonsense? It shows she has no standards. What binds them together? Bricklayer…are you out of your mind? It is only a woman who has no value that allows herself to be approached by everybody. This is why white women are approachable, they have no value. Trust me the white women who have value (country club upper class white women) will not be allow themselves to be chatted up by a non-white. If you are approaching a white woman, you are dealing with a cheap common woman who will also be approached and entertain the next man that chats her up.

you sir, show me exactly what is wrong with Nigerian school of thought....
- if a man approaches a woman, she has all the rights to "respectfully" decline the offer to talk to this man. to be respectful of others in life (that may respectfully approach you) IS FREE!!!!!
- are you claiming that a woman in a r/ship with a Uber driver and/or bricklayer has no standards/value?
- are you claiming that a respectful Uber driver and/or a Bricklayer that (approaches a woman RESPECTFULLY) does NOT deserve the exact same respect as any other man on earth would?!
- what kind of yeye woman believes that she shouldnt be respectful to a Uber driver and/or a bricklayer?!
- so if i approach a woman respectfully, it will be written UBER DRIVER and/or BRICKLAYER on my forehead, abi?!
- so if a billionaire approaches your woman, you wont be upset (only Uber drivers would upset you), abi?!
- i can categorically STATE that you sir have never been to the west or simply you just look like king kong... the difference between Nigeria and the west is that people dont judge you (socially) by how you look, therefore any man in their social circle would be able to talk to them (whether Uber driver or Bricklayer). it doesnt mean that they are gonna date in the future, but at least they would be civil to one another, whether a bricklayer or Uber driver.

Oga there is a difference between being broke, getting by and being rich. The man you described who handles his responsibilities but has not much left May be struggling but he is not a broke man. A broke man is a man who cannot pay his bills, a broke man has no business with a woman. A broke student yes, not a broke grown ass man. Fix yourself before you chase after women.

again, no wonder these women have such yeye attitude when men say the above you just wrote. funny how you would look down on women and their attitude when you confirm exactly the reason why they have such foul attitude.
there is nothing wrong (to fix) with a man who took care of all his life responsibilities... there is only something wrong with women who expect such man to have extra money, so that he can take care of them (under the guise of dating/marriage). if a man took care of his life responsibilities and the women (he goes after) took care of theirs, then this is a perfect match IMHO. only broke deluded women who come with NOTHING TO THE TABLE think like you do. no man/woman need more than to take care of their life responsibilities!

PS: you make it difficult to respond to you with the way you keep breaking up the posts. Too much wahala!

bro, thats because you say so many different things in the same post

come on bro, even a blind man can see that...

why are they even wasting time?! just HANG THIS DEMON, and then HANG HIS DEMONIC WIFE TOO right next to him!

casualobserver:
We are talking about Nigerian women, once you get to a certain age you understand their BS.. only boys chase after women, if you are successful in life ( don’t equate this to money though money tends to come with success) or going places, women chase after you.

the above is part of why i am against this school of thought. regardless of how successful a man is, he should be able to approach someone respectfully and try to create a conversation. you could be a bricklayer and approach women, you could be a Uber driver and approach women. so long as a man takes care of his responsibilities in life, then i see no reason why he shouldnt approach women that he is attracted to. the moment a man says:" you need to be successful in life before you can remotely think of finding someone AND let them approach you" then IMHO you have missed the plot. A) so long as your rent is paid, bills are paid, food on your table, clothes on your back and you are gainfully employed, then i suggest you look for a proper MATE to share your blessings with (make sure she get her life in order too job/responsibilities etc)... but most importantly B) why wouldnt you approach EXACTLY the type of woman you want in your life, rather
than only choosing between the ones who chased/approach you?! be in control of your life.

To an extent, I agree with you on women from other countries especially other African countries but the reality is as a Nigerian you are better off marrying a Nigerian. Nigerian women are no different from Arabs, Indians etc. Women who marry outside their race are low value women usually because men from their race/ ethnicity/ tribe won’t marry them. Although Nigerian women are a pain in the ass generally don’t get seduced by the approachability of women from other races, all these easily approachable women from other races/ countries are usually women you don’t want to marry. They are as easily approachable to other men as they are to you.

the important question IS: what do you seek in a future wife?! the majority of men would reply PEACE AT HOME and RESPECT FROM YOUR WIFE. so, as much as marrying a Nigerian woman is ideal, if you are more likely to get the above from a foreigner, then i would suggest you seek a foreigner each and every time... because these are values in marriage that are better than gold!

This discussion was not about money but since you mention money, as a man (not a teenager) if you have no money you have no business trying to marry another man’s daughter.
The other thing I will say is a woman who is happy with a broke man should be dumped. You don’t have to have money but you must have potential. A woman who is happy to stay with a man who is broke and has no future will keep him broke.

my mention of money is related to Nigerian men quick to teach women that "money makes a man" while i fully disagree, as there are many "broke" men out there with no money because they took care of their life responsibilities (aka paid the rent, paid the bills, food on the table, cloth on their back etc etc) who will make great husbands. even you, what you are indirectly saying is that, a man who drives Uber and got no money to splash trying to woo his potential future wife, shouldnt get married".... while we all know that the majority of marriages in Nigeria is from PEOPLE WHO AINT RICH!

casualobserver:
Trust me, a beautiful woman with an attitude or entitlement problem or “goddess complex” is the most unfixable character in a woman. It’s a one way path to destruction for a man. There are beautiful women with good character they are few and it is mostly because they have been brought up well. The others who make up the majority, are fundamentally bad news, it’s just the way it is, it’s not their fault, it’s the way the world has programmed them to be. From childhood they have grown up entitled, all they e ever heard all their lives is how beautiful they are, the center of attention, weak men have sucked up to them all their lives, they are used to getting things from weak men. These are not habits of a lifetime you can “fix”. Usually by the time they realize they have a problem they are too old to have any value to a man.

Don’t even waste your time considering them for marriage. Smash and run or just walk away. They are not worth the headache. Note I didn’t say ALL beautiful women, I said the ones with an entitlement mentality which is the majority of beautiful women. Look at men who are successful and married, their wives are either not the most beautiful or when they are very beautiful. They are very modest, reserved and simple.

i fully disagree with the above.... when you travel the world you see way less of these very arrogant beautiful women that you easily find in Africa. you just have to approach a beautiful woman in Nigeria and say:"excuse me", and you will see her automatically frown her face before even knowing what you have to say. these 9ja women have been programmed by the environment they live in, because this almost NEVER happen in the west (not even in other poor countries outside Africa).

the problem in Africa is that, men have been using MONEY as a tool to control/approach women ; MONEY has been used to dictate how a real man should be, and if you aint got no money, you are supposedly not even "alive". these women learn this shiit from AFRICAN MEN, and therefore i can only blame African men for the state of mind of these women. why would a beautiful 9ja babe even give a broke dude a chance when she knows that her value lies with these men with MONEY?

since all people in 9ja are quick to say "make money and women will come" why do you think 9ja woman in general (let alone the beautiful one) dont value broke men?! the attitude from the beautiful ones comes with the territory.

grandstar:
Most women after 2 kids become robust. That beauty she once had isn't no more there. That is something you should consider.That is something that was not envisaged and pushes some men to cheat.

robust?! lets call a spade A SPADE...some women after birth turn into baby whales, just like many men get pot belly. its called being TOO COMFORTABLE in marriage.

Poske95:
Question is what is beauty...?!
Character is the natural...and once you have a wife that's on the journey to finding their true character, you're on the way to unearthing real beauty.
No woman is ugly....only their untrue character

sadly, the majority of people HIDE their unfavorable character and pretend to be who they are not (in order to get married). it is only when that person gets comfortable in marriage that you will now see their true character... thats when their "possible" dishonest, deceitful, manipulative, selfish, greedy, entitled, immoral, close minded, abusive, disrespectful, untrustworthy, unfaithful, arrogant, self center NATURE will surface.

Tommydare:
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Some people are not necessarily after beautiful women. As long as the woman has a good character they are ok. But at the same time beauty can be achieved/gotten as the case may be but u see character....u can't get it in the market. And not all women have these two things together. It's only few. And what is a beautiful women with a bad character? She is like a tasteless sausage roll from Mr biggs.

absolutely right, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, and regardless of what i believe, a woman is either beautiful to someone or so-so or plain ugly. everyone gets their own level, my point is that: if you aint physically attracted (beauty and body) to your woman, then you are starting the r/ship just like a 100m athlete starting a race with a broken leg.

i am sorry to say that beauty CANNOT be "achieved", because sadly, the minute after you guys get married, beauty will fade (aka you will see her true self in the morning and you will be tired of mounting her, even if she has the most banging body on earth)

yusufmurry:
Is anyone ugly? Na money be fine bobo
The lady you think is beautiful, spends much and pay attention to her

I rather go for "ugly" with good character as a wife than "beautiful" with bad character

to each their own, i'd rather stay single than being with someone that i am not attracted to.

casualobserver:
Fact: it is very difficult to find an extremely beautiful woman with good character in Nigeria. Generally, the more beautiful a woman is the more entitled she is, the more beautiful a woman is, the more scrutiny needs to be put on her.

FIXED
these bad character that these women possess are just bad habits that grew along to get rid of the men they dont want... easily fixable!

remember: in poor countries, beauty is indeed wealth. these women understand that A) their beauty is gonna take them out of poverty so of course they will be quick to dismiss broke men who cant give them what they need. B) beauty put these women in a different league, a league where they can choose the type of men they associate with (and therefore also dismiss the type of men that aint up to their "imaginary" level) because these beautiful women understand that C) all the ogas at the top, big boys and billionaires etc are gonna fight TOOTH AND NAILS for these beautiful women's attention. rich men will spend billions to woo them and marry them... and if that babe is a virgin, the likes of Ned will make her his 3rd or 4th wife sharp sharp.

so yes, these women mostly come with an attitude that can only be tamed with the right bank account. sadly, only Nigerians can be blamed for that because, even when the girl looks like king kong, yeye men are quick to want to flaunt money to get such woman's attention, let alone the top ones! you cant teach a dog to bark when he is hungry and then be upset when it barks too loud because he hasnt eaten for 3 days.

sadly, these highly beautiful women (that you attract with money) have one MAJOR FLAW: what you attract with money, you will lose when a man with more money than you comes into the picture!

Jewessgratitud3:
You can't always have it all in one package. So you'll have to chose either beauty over character or vice versa.

the above is what desperate men say when they find women who aint shiit, but decide to marry them anyway. sometimes, its best to walk away than to marry someone who is lacking... i would say, anything below a 7 (in either beauty/character) and you should solely keep as a FWB or simply walk away....

so here is IMHO how you would choose.... 7 BEAUTY - 7 CHARACTER is the minimum. if she is a 8 Beauty then she can be a 6 character (but no less), if she is a 9 beauty she can be a 5 character (but no less)... and vice versa. and as we all know there is no such thing as a 10 beauty, lets end it here. remember Beauty = right look with the right body.