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you did well soldier, now dont ever offer gifts to ungrateful women who only see you as an ATM. if they cant show gratutude/humility/patience, then they dont deserve to receive any gifts from you (let alone an Iphone 12)!
BTW if she comes back saying she is pregnant, then advise her to abort the child asap!

ITS NOW A NATIONAL SPORT
wasnt it a few days ago that Aki did a video on the same subject after some yeye online strangers went into his DM begging for $35k and another for $12K ?!

BTW Nigeria is NOT the capital poverty of the earth. there are countless of countries on earth poorer than Nigeria, yet people dont go begging online left right and center, like Nigerians.

thats the end of the r/ship, no questions asked, no wahala!

so you mean to say that FOR 14YRS, YOUR "GOD" DIDNT WARN YOU ABOUT THE JEZEBEL YOU WERE MARRIED TO?!

let that yeye pastor use his own medicine, and go and pray about it.

IkpemhiTG:
Your candid advise is needed.

His wife got a job in the UK which pays her about £30,000/ annum. Husband will be going with the wife along with thier 3months old baby as a dependent. How do you think this man can cope nursing thier baby for God knows how long before he gets something doing.

On a second thought he will rather let the wife go while he stays back with the baby in Nigeria managing his business. He's not doing do bad in Nigeria.

My people what's the best option he should take that would favour him and his family?.

whatever this couple does, they should do it AS A FAMILY... so if she goes to UK, everyone goes... and if he wants to stay back in Nigeria then EVERYONE STAYS BACK IN NIGERIA!

DKM123:
You are irreversibly damaged. You must have grown with a terrible father for your mindset to have been destroyed to this extent. I cringe for your future wife and kids. Chai!

Nairalandhotboy:
if no be say nairaland go ban me,I for call you very useless man. But no worry. We no your type

you guys are entitled to your opinion, this is what NL is here for...aka people giving their opinion on any subject. i am not here for popularity contest, i am here to give MY OWN OPINION ON ANY SUBJECT. regardless of whether people like it or not.

pixey:
She was wrong in doing this but she is still a kid who hasn't matured yet. The mother should have cautioned her in that aspect.However you should understand the disappointment and resentment she is feeling towards her dad.No child will be happy if their parent is divorced.Especially from a girl child, she will start having hatred towards men and very likely be a die hard feminist.This is how feminists are usually born.

as a father, you are gonna take choices in life that wont be okay with everyone in your household, but as this man probably explained the situation to his daughter (the best he could), he cant make her see/understand the situation more than he did. a child would be hurt regardless of what is the cause of the divorce, claiming that his cheating is the reason for everything that happened is so far fetched. this couple was growing apart and this man was not comfortable with his 1st wife and decided to take matter into his own hands and change, so that he could live a better life. i cant fault him for doing that, i can just fault him for the ways he went about solving that (aka by cheating). we are all human, we all make mistakes, but that doesnt change the fact that this man needs MORE in his life that hs wife cant provide for him.

also, i fully understand why a teenager would be upset if her father decides to have a 2nd wife and extend the family. its a normal emotional process... but that child has no right to question her father's decision to get a 2nd wife. thats not a detailed discussion you should have a with a teenage child, thats a detailed discussion you only have with that child's mother. to that child, you just give basic simple facts of life.
daughter: daddy why you want to get a 2nd wife?
father (to child): this is something that men can do in our culture, this is something that is perfectly normal in our culture, and as daddy needs more in his life, a 2nd wife will solve that. it doesnt mean i love you any less, it doesnt mean i love your mother any less, it just means daddy needs someone else to help grow the family, and/or to be a better man.
father (to wife): i need another wife as you cant provide me with what i need as a man. you cant satisfy my sexual needs, you cant fulfill my family needs, you cant satisfy my urge to have more children; we've reached a point where my desires for life has outgrown what you can offer me. it doesnt mean i love you any less, it just means that i have so much love to give, that a 2nd wife will fill the void that is currently present in our marriage.

Nasri100:
Relax you are taking it personal now
Everyone knows women are always sorted in life. Its men that have to suffer. Women will always get help from every corner. Women are in money. Men are bankrolling these women.
We know. We know. Its evident.
BobbieZion is only advising men to be more intentional with their money so they wont live a life of regrets, and these women will never be satisfied.
Again, calm down bro.

the above state of mind is so narrow minded... you guys are so focussed on your little broke man views that you cant understand that some men have different desires than you, and therefore if someone spend on biatches what would solve ALL YOUR PROBLEMS IN LIFE, you automatically see it as wrong. the life of regret is only for those who AINT GOT IT, and wish they had what the ogas at the top have. these people dont regret spending millions on top oloshoes out there (aka actresses, supermodels etc)

HERE IS A CLUE: just because you aint got it, doesnt mean everyone has to live like you do. i am never gonna give millions to an olosho, but i certainly understand why some do. you think the biatches that Dangote and Adenuga fukc are street oloshoes that receive 10k per night?!

MrPRevailer:
Why?

no particular reason...

so a woman of 25 cannot be a mother of 3 anymore?!

if your daughter is dumb enough to want such butt enlargement (to look like a baby hippo), then she deserves anything and everything that comes with such disgusting trend. stop blaming men for something that is SOLELY DOWN TO WOMEN AND THEIR YEYE MINDSET!

pixey:
I pray you don't follow his footsteps.This is not about polygamy.This is about adultery.

you are absolutely RIGHT... this isnt about polygamy, sadly, it aint about adultery either.... its solely about a child who is crying out because her parents are divorcing, while that same child was openly slandering her own father online.

emapeteum:
You disgraced your aunty publicly irrespective of her attitude towards men. You are not in a position to do that.I could tell that your disrespectful type

i thnk the above message was for the OP....

vengertime:
When American security agencies catches any vehicle used in smuggling of drugs, they would seize it and auction them out and make money. Even if it's rolls Royce or Bentley they will take it.
But Nigerian agencies will burn a whole vessel that they could have seized and auction out for millions of dollars.
Black man no get sense

what you mentioned is what they do in civilised sane countries, but in Nigeria where corrupton is RAMPANT, the above is the best thing to do (so nobody will profit ever from this crime).

babe played herself...abeg cry me a river!

dude is bouncing from England to Italy like a yoyo!

Hardunmhi:
Pls this may be a funny thread but not funny to me at all I had been living with my wife for 3-4 years, we have a kid. We just separated for a reason, I am not the culprit anyway and it was not cheating.
Though out the time we were together I didn’t get close to any other girl, I mean a relationship. Now it’s been very difficult for me to move on
How do I move on ? Abeg una wey get experience advice me

if you are REALLY done with your wife, and dont want to reconcile then FIRST divorce her, then SECOND find ways to co-parent your child, and THIRD understand that you will never be able to move on because you guys have a child together, and will have to see each other once in a while.

Zigzagman:
[right][/right]how do you differentiate one-off situations from habitual disrespect? at why point will it be just enough for people to leave?

IMHO, any form of disrespect, whether one off or habitual, would be a no-no. i dont need to teach people to respect me, because if they cant naturally respect me, then nothing i will teach them can fix that.

IconicR:
One funny thing about people like you is that you'll never go polygamous but keep advising other men to, the highest you'll do is to cheat. I sabi all of una

as much as Polygamy would be a proper headache, i, contrary to you, dont look down on the act (to each their own misery in life), just because i couldnt do it. what i do instead, is look at this story as a WHOLE ISSUE, and then use my own mind to judge that said issue.

we are not here to judge polygamy, nor are we here to discuss cheating in marriage, we are solely here to talk about a child crying out because her parents are getting divorced, while that same child was going online to slander her own father.

BTW here below is a few post about my stand on cheating:

MrBrownJay1:
the reality of this issue is irrelevant to whether men are polygamous in nature or not.... IF A MAN IS INDEED POLYGAMOUS THEN LET HIM BE HONEST AND TELL THAT TO HIS WOMAN/WOMEN OPENLY, SO HE DOESNT HAVE TO CRAWL LIKE A RAT AT THE DEAD OF NIGHT TO CHEAT!

MrBrownJay1:
the fact that you already have a side chic, shows that your mind is already wrong...(aka you cheating), whether you like it or not. not fukcing her is a sad consolation into your confused mind.
i guess, if your babe has a bf but doesnt fukc him, it makes it okay, abi?!?!?

MrBrownJay1:
whether male or female, cheating is CHEATING. i dont warrant it whether if it is a female who does it or a man.

MrBrownJay1:
the problem here is NOT men who have hard time to forget, but women who so easily forgive a bastard cheating partner.
here is a clue: a cheating partner is a DECEITFUL/DISHONEST/UNTRUSTWORTHY/DISRESPECTFUL being, and nobody on this earth should forgive such person. sadly, too many women out there are desperate to be in a r/ship or married, and will rather accept such liability of a partner at any cost.
***spit on floor***

IconicR:
It's not totally wrong because some religion permits it but there are steps and procedure to follow. You don't go out to commit adultery with another man's wife and try to be smart about by hiding under the cover of polygamy, it is very wrong. You have to seek your wife's consent and also in total agreement with your family which Yul never had. Yul practically took that woman from another man while she was still legally married to her husband, the man made a video calling yul out for taking his wife from his home. It's not about polygamy here but Yul's actions, he's all over social media doing skit with his side wife instead of mourning his son. Yul is not it abeg

as much as cheating is indeed wrong, if the man cheated then its obvious something was NOT right in their marriage (contrary to your above claim), and therefore why he decided to take up a 2nd wife. as for your claim that you must seek 1st wife's consent before marrying a 2nd wife, i beg to differ. many women are against their husband having a 2nd wife and that has never stopped these polygamous men from taking a 2nd wife. if asked, 99.99999% of 1st wives would refuse that their husband marry a 2nd wife, who are we kidding?

sadly, a man willing to marry a 2nd wife dont really care whether or not his 1st wife divorces him, when she finds out. this man has already made up his mind to be with someone else.

oya Lalasticlala, do the needful....

IconicR:
Sad to see you type this smh. The wife didn't give him any shit , it was just a case of adultery. See Yul's post few years ago

come on now...we all know that PEOPLE CHANGE, thus what happens in the past can change too... but most importantly:"do you believe it is wrong for a man to take a 2nd wife?!?!" which is the main issue here.

unless she is married to you, you have NO business sending someone to school. the above is the consequences of being a DONKEY!

...probaby the woman was never pregnant to begin with, and was using the story for clout!

IconicR:
In all of these you failed to mention her emotional well being or is that not important to her dad? This is where you guys get it wrong, the moment you begin to pop out kids, you can no longer take decisions alone without considering them. Ofcourse you are not in her shoes to understand the emotional trauma she's going through which can eventually make her vulnerable to men and same guys will label her olosho not minding the root cause of her vulnerability. That man called Yul is a sorry case and committed adultery with another man's wife and secretly went to pay bride price without the consent of his parents and wife to safe face. Obviously you didn't follow their story. Yul was sleeping with that woman right in her husband's house before she eventually left with proper divorce, the man called him out. Their story is awful

what does a child emotional wellbeing got to do with a father taking a 2nd wife?! as her father, HIS OWN emotional wellbeing is more important than hers. her father need to be emotionally fit so that he can go out there and fulfill his responsibilities in life. NO FATHER should ever put their child's emotional wellbeing before their own, EVER!

a father MUST take decisions that he believes is right for HIM/FAMILY... and a child certainly shouldnt/mustnt question that. as an adult, you know best what is needed for the family, and should do that, regardless whether wifey/children are ok with that. thats the price you have to pay for being the HEAD OF THE FAMILY. not all decisions you take will go down well with everyone but if thats what you need to do, then so be it. if wifey wants to divorce you because you took a 2nd wife then so be it. if your marriage is gonna crash because you couldnt take the shiit of wife #1 (and needed a 2nd wife), then so be it!

Promzy99:
At this point, i can't take it again. My in-laws should please return the 42 yams i gave them.
Got down from a shuttle and as i bounced home, someone walking behind me said "see him walking majestically, someone will think he has money", turned back and it's my wife 😡...

Am Finished...

as much as wifey must have been joking, this is highly disrespectful and uncalled for... especially if you are doing everything in your power to provide for her unemployed self!

IconicR:
Do not insult her, that man called Yul shattered their life because of pleasure.

as a "human being", a man has all the rights to do what he pleases with his life. polygamy is not against the law in Nigeria, so far as i know. so if he decided to get a 2nd wife, he had all the rights to do so and live with the consequences of his actions.

as that man's child, so long as your father is catering for all your life's needs and his responsibilities towards the family, you have NO right to question what he does as an adult/father/husband. slandering your father online is the act of a bastard pikin in my book (aka ungrateful child that should have been aborted)

although the OP sounds harsh, with such ungrateful/conceited women you MUST be harsh! see as this girl is talking as if she is entitled to whatever she desire, even when the OP already told her to wait for the new phone.
what man in his right mind would waste money to fix an old yeye phone, when he is already buying a new phone for her? cant she wait a few days with that old phone?

repair the phone to use it until sunday (while you already have another phone to use), does it even make sense to anybody WITH A BRAIN?!