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Adewale1603:
a castrated man can not have erections, and his hormones can no longer work, so he can no longer has any sexual feeling

these sick men have deviant desire IN THEIR HEAD.... their brains is what send these (deviant) signals that gets them excited... and even though they have no erection, they would still find excitement to rape someone with their finger or with a d1ldo...so again, only death will solve the problem, not castration!

cuteboy2:
Will you pay $2000 return ticket for family member from Norway to Nigeria? You think it's like boarding N200 bus from Gbongan to Ede?
These days family members abroad connect to events like this via Facebook or Instagram live.

Nigeriadondie:
It costs a lot for air ticket considering the distance. Norway to Nigeria isn’t Lagos to Borno

coming from Norway (one of the country with the highest salaries in the world), of course i would .... but most importantly, A) i certainly wouldnt let her go there by herself, with nobody whatsoever to accompany her and B) that is "suppose to be" her once in a lifetime special moment, as her friend, i would want to be there with her.

we all know exactly whats going on.... them mamas used to go to Gambia in the past, i guess Nigeria is taking over for foreign sugarmamas coming to poor countries in Africa looking for young fit blood to service them for a few yrs (in exchange for japa papers)

Angelfrost:
No need... Why waste funds and take risks?!!
They can and will do the main wedding when they get to his new country!

if you (as a friend) believe that such place is really risky then wouldnt you be worried that your friend goes there by her self and/or that there are "supposed" chances that she would never ever come back from this trip?! so you would let a loved one and/or dear friend take such risk?! what kind of friend are you...?! going with her to Nigeria is what REAL friends (that truly care for you) would do.

so many yeye people out there married for the wrong reasons (aka family/religious/peer pressure), wondering why the stranger they got married to is not remotely attracted to them....

much better to stay single and masturbate til you go blind sef!

Acekidc4:
Those Motherfuckers should be Castrated. I hate rapist, c'mon I have Sisters.

castrating wont solve the problem, only DEATH would! a castrated bitter man can still rape women with his fingers or d1ldo.

you know a marriage is fishy, when not a single member of the bride's family/friends are at the wedding.

thats because NOT A SINGLE EUROPEAN CLUB WANT HIS OLD SORRY SELF!!!!

nothing impossible here, but just because a dude mounts her one round, doesnt mean that he has to ejaculate. today when every yeye person is using drugs to fukc, yu can even fukc 100 rounds of 1minute.

...and you even shook the hand of the dude who whooped your aasss?! KAI, see as the dude beat better humility into you.

when better hunger don jam you, and you see food is ready, you too will rush for the buffet while forgetting your shoes!

logo that there are so many free apps to create, na that one you are begging people for?

abeg download the LOOKA app and do it yourself FOR FREE!

kai!!! some people are truly INSANE....
- so you go to salon while you have NO MONEY?
- so instead of messing with her hair to remove the work done, you will cut her hair "gorimapa" style?

talk about insane people dealing with insane people!

Ijelenwanyioma:
I am legally married to this man and we have 3 sons together. Recently he purchased some land which he actually told me about but when I checked the documents of all the land I only saw Mr(his name in full) and not Mr & Mrs (his name and surname) or Mr (his name ) and Mrs (My name ). This really gave me great concern and when I asked him, he told me it doesn't really count because the properties also belong to my children. Later he started accusing me that I am nursing ulterior motive in my heart and maybe I want to take over the properties which is blantly lies. I just want to feel ownership of the land too

Please am I overreacting on this issue truly or my husband is planning something behind me (maybe remarrying)

... unless you contributed to the money used to buy the land, i dont see where the problem is. that is land that your husband bought, and therefore it is in his name. if anything happens in the future, let it be stated that the land was bought with HIS money, not both yours.

and even if he was planning on getting a 2nd wife, you still have claim to a property HE is purchasing.

unless you agreed/signed to be a guarantor for that person, you should tell them go to hell and sort their issues without disturbing you! whats next? i put Dangote's name as my guarantor for a loan and they will call him to ask for the money??!!?

BTW isnt your cousin's sister, your cousin?!?

It was already dusk so I drove to my residence at almost 8 pm. My phone had gone flat then, so I charged it when I got home and called him again. His line was switched off.

ARRANT YEYE NONSENSE!!!!
any sane person would have drove the car back to the dealership/office (from the gas station) in order to not be called a thief... or at least return the car to the dealership the next day, before going on your business trip.

only a thief would not return the car from the gas station and then take the car to some other state!

all these yeye people who wash their dirty linen on SM, as if social media is now the international supreme court for marital affairs.

you came to tell us your problem, oya what should we now do?! if he cheated then take your sorry self and move on with your life na...and if you are desperate then go roll around gutter crying and begging him to come back to you.

another GREEDY FRAUDSTER IN ROBE spotted...

maybe he wanted to use the money put a down payment on his future private jet.

Jazmine10:
A bottle of champagne for you MrBrownJ. Thing is not only men get tired of their partner shebi they say what's good for the goose is also good for the gander? Some men will be irresponsible and disrespectful towards their wife and children and still have the nerve to complain that the kids always favor their mother. When you treated your wife as nothing but an object to satisfy your sexual cravings and do not value or invest in your wife and kids but go about philandeering like a rabid dog without control, then if she's a good woman she suffers in silence all the mistreatment and maltreatment and turn to her kids for succour when the man is all washed up and old he'd still want his wife to be a faithful and loyal wife to nurse him for all the ways he wasted his life and the kids look to love him as father? Men the joke is all on y'all with the sick mentality of the Op. May you all find what is in y'all to wife or better still be baby mama for and leave good women alone for good men to marry.

See thread attached a result whether direct or indirect of the failure of a man in the home and society at large:

https://www.nairaland.com/7768515/ondo-secondary-schoolgirls-fake-kidnap

Some of this generation of men eh?
Tufiakwa! Y'all should go on with your stupidity and foolish mindsets dem no dey tell blind man say rain dey fall.

very true.... actually i didnt want to mention the part where the OP claimed a child loved his mother more than father as this clearly showed the poor state of mind of the OP.
- OF COURSE, a child who spends more quality/free time with mama would favor his mother;
- OF COURSE, a child who has an emotional bond with mama (thank to women being more emotional beings) will favor mama;
- OF COURSE, a child who interacts very little with his father because daddy is too tired after work, would have a weaker bond with daddy;
- OF COURSE, a man who always wanna show this tough stand and never show emotions to children, will be viewed as tough guys who dont need love, even from their own children (you can only harvest what you planted);
- OF COURSE children have no filter and therefore they dont care about daddy paying the rent/bills and school fees (how would they even know about this?!) but instead they value WORTHY INTERACTION with their parents. expecting your child to love you more than mother because you paid the rent, the bills and school fees, shows us all the OP is still very immature!

...but the biggest problem here is when men use this as a tool to look down on women/marriage, while completely forgetting that (as a family) the above is irrelevant because you guys are a TEAM and so long as the kids are growing up to be fantastic adults, it doesnt really matter who gets more love (so long as you've done your part for the family). its obvious the OP doesnt see "family" as a team but instead as a competition between men and women.

BreconHills:
It is not a relationship issue it is a brain issue. The brain saves processing power by only paying attention to what is new, novel or dangerous. Who meditates on the wonders of their route to work ?
Unless the parties introduce newness into their relationship - it will become automated action.
I know a woman who started picking up her husband during some of his lunch breaks to go have sex in different hotels - to everyone their own.

But all usual actions are automated by the brain and this is hurtful to the feelings if others.

exactly... the brain has no gender, thus why this aint a woman nor a man problem, but a human being problem.

Tunde835:
I'm doing it right now without any females

ok sir. to each their own misery in life. make konji no kill you there and if not, you can still join the other side (since women seem to be your mortal enemy)

StPete:
How will you be “cheated on” when you’re not committed to any single woman?

IRRELEVANT RUBBISH #1
true, if you are just fukc buddies with a woman, then BOTH OF YOU can fukc whoever you desire... which btw is irrelevant to the issue at hand.

the fact that you’re living your life to the fullest doesn’t matter whether they do or not

IRRELEVANT RUBBISH #2
living your life to the fullest is irrelevant to the issue at hand that the OP raised, aka your children abandoning you at old age.

No room for any nagging woman, once she nags, you throw her out. You’re not tied to her by marriage so you owe her nothing

IRRELEVANT RUBBISH #3
whatever you want to do when a woman nags is irrelevant to my point which was....EVERY WOMAN NAGS WHETHER MARRIED OR IN A R/SHIP!

Child support only happens abroad and only if you’re working

IRRELEVANT RUBBISH #4
the OP raised the point of child support, so obviously this is an issue for someone who is A) abroad and B) gainfully employed.

No baby mama would be foolish enough to stick a child as yours when you’re not married to her. She would be too glad to let you know the child ain’t yours. DNA testing is also fundamental before any bitch can claim the child is mine

IRRELEVANT RUBBISH #5
you sir are simpy too clueless to educate... instead, i suggest you watch the thousand of paternity cases (judge Lake) so you see how many babymamas are/were tryng to collect child support from men who were "NOT THE FATHERS"

here below is one of such cases (enjoy):


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sAu5Md8oDYU

or better yet, "Virgn Mary" here:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WrsKuIDMA1I

if thats what you believe is the punishment for baba Putin, what would then be your punishment for those who invaded Irak/Libya under false pretense and killed millions of innocent people?!

Monman56:
Very true but again do you realise that some people's perception of beauty changes over time. Like a not so beautiful lady can become beautiful in a person's eyes after some years of acceptance and also some ladies can become ugly to some people because of consistent awful character

true, but we all know that the first impression is what gets you to notice someone to remotely wanna get to know them... and that 1st impression is solely physical.... nobody sees an ugly girl and says:" let me get close to this woman and see if she has good character", that doesnt happen... your beauty/sex appeal is what will get someone to notice you FIRST, thats the initial foundation that you will use to build a r/ship with that person, and although you need other foundations to make a great r/ship stand the time, beauty (aka physical attraction) is a well needed foundation.

yes, beauty fades but by then, the r/ship you have built is so strong (thanks to other foundations that support you r/ship), that even if beauty is gone completely, you would still want to be with that person.

it should never be character over beauty.... but instead beauty WITH the right character. choosing an ugly wife that has the right character is as useless as having a beautiful dumb wife

let me guess...some good anaconda is the reason why they are fighting it out.

all what you wrote is the result of anyone being in a long term r/ship...whether married or not. it is completely normal for people to be lazy after they said "i do" (or after dating for a few yrs)... after marriage, many feel that they dont need to woo nor do anything to conquer their partner any longer, as they are already married, so after marriage, they stop going on dates, they stop doing fun things etc. THIS IS A MEN AND WOMEN issue, and certainly not solely a women issue... get real! many men get tired of their wife/gf after a few yrs and the sex/attraction/Affection aint the same. this is called LIFE!!!! and someone who values more than just the sexual part of their union, will work through it to find ways to spice their union, spice their bedroom activities, spice their life with fun things again....while the lazy disrespectful ones will just go and look for other people to satisfy their needs.

BTW in Nigeria, i can find many benefit to marriage (for some men):
- your parents wont give you headaches no more and whine everytime you visit about "when yu gonna get married and give them grandchildren"
- your pastor wont look at you as a wasted seed
- your friends and acquaintances wont be looking at you as a failure because you aint married.... yes in Nigeria, anyone who aint married with kids, is seen as a failure.

as much as i dont believe in marriage, i understand that it makes sense to a lot of people out there... and to each their own!

when i watch the below parenting video, i am glad for the fantastic kids i have:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dYUIEL1lWeU

Sxyhalima:
but where will i find someone as perfect as him

its obvious he wasnt perfect... if he was, you guys would still be happy together.

Sxyhalima:
ive done all this already

then there isnt much more you can do... be happy and move on with your life.

Sxyhalima:
he makes excuses for her
and tells me he understands my feelings
the problem continues

just tell him:"you cant continue making excuses for your mother and avoid facing the obvious. we cant continue like this. we will never have a future until your mother is out the picture.
pls dont get me wrong, i dont want you to get rid of your mother from YOUR life, i just want you to understand that unless your mother stops putting her mouth in our affairs, we will never have a future together"... then walk away!

when he grows up, he will be back to you (sadly, by then it would probably be too late)

you buy a yeye car that aint worth shiit, and when the mechanic state that exact fact, you are upset?!

the only reason he wanna arrest that dude is because he exposed the yeye car Portable was quick to flaunt around, as if this was the "creme de la creme"

the important question... which IS:
- what does your man say when you tell him about this very important issue?