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SAFO: Hey sweetie, how's it going?

Good and you?

CrazyMan: I see...so his abrasive nature is inbuilt. He isn't being controlled by any drugs or drinks.

I guess the woman is at fault then. She can't claim not to have noticed his true nature until now...I guess she was a victim of the phrase " love is blind "

I still feel for her though...but its obvious that either the man doesn't love her any more or he's gradually going insane.


Yea I remembered you stating earlier that your husband is against your hospitality towards that lady. Like I stated before, I won't blame him...the matter really isn't any of your business.

Moreover, if you know that getting so involved in this case might cost you your marriage, I would suggest that you harken unto the voice of thine husband and stay the hell out.

Well..i am blessed not to have an abusive partner.

MarcAnthon: Chima, you still alive?

As for your friend, if you live close by, quietly call 911 next time you hear an altercation. Women that continue to remain in abusive relationships need to be saved from themselves. She might be killed one day, and you will have guilt in your heart.

I did contacted the popo...they said ubtil she file a complaint or i produce evidence that he hit her...they aint gon do shit.

tellwsdom: Mshew chima, is the only OROBO in america who advises OROBO single ladies of her type, when in trouble

Just like I advised your orobo mammy to keave your papi.

MarcAnthon: Chima, you still alive?

As for your friend, if you live close by, quietly call 911 next time you hear an altercation. Women that continue to remain in abusive relationships need to be saved from themselves. She might be killed one day, and you will have guilt in your heart.

You didnt die from a STD yet You are a strong brother.

Congratulations!!!

Half of the stuff many Nigerian husbands dont possess but women still marry them. They are men just like any other men. Shit stank the same.

acidtalk: Give me money to buy you panadolfor you to take to cure another man's headache.

Your mammy.

Long one....i hear you and actually i am concern about her kids....she is free ti di whatever but her kids shouldnt suffer.

I cant call the police if she wont press charges and have no evidence of child abuse. They wont do shit without such.

CrazyMan: Ok...now I do.

Wao that's a hell of a sacrifice she made (living in a town with no single family member)

Let me ask...since you desperately want to help this lady, have you thought about meeting her husband before? (I would advise you to go alone if at all you want to engage him in a conversation) What kind of person is he? Does he drink? Is he on drugs?

If you want to help this poor lady, there are many ways you can do it.

I have met her husband and he works in construction. You are not allow to drink nor smoke drugs on construction contracts in my area. If you dropped dirty..you are fired.

What other ways i can help her but talk to her and offer to help pay for hotel? I have to watch my hubby as well....he want me to mind my business.

[quote author=Mynd_44]She should set herself free[/quote]He wont let her.

tellwsdom: This OROBO don come again

Your mammy.

Poor thing.

[quote author=Larry-Sun]I can jump off a cliff for her if she ask me (with a parachute handy, of course).

I can stand in front of a fast-moving MACK Truck if she wants me to, that's if she can convince me how that would make sense as a proof of love.

But serious, the question of dying for my partner still remains under MAYBE.[/quote]I would try to save my husband within my powers but I will not die just to prove my love. It is suicide and it is a sin.

[quote author=Mynd_44]I get your point but I find it hard to stomach. Domestic violence is simply evil.
I know of an instance where the man actually beated his pregnant wife to death[/quote]Wow. My husband also said in NIgeria...people do not get involve in couple's disputes. But at what point is enough is enough when a woman is walking around with black eyes and swollen lips?

Why doesn't he just leave her and set her free?

afam4eva: English - Sleep on that one couch tonight in Igbo

Igbo - Hiu ura na oche ahun nabania na Igbo

I don't trust you Afameva! I got a feeling if I say that my husband will go crazy!

I know there is an anus in that sentence!

[quote author=*Kails*]

I think sherm heads have officially made comebacks on NL.

One must take a beating in the name of some unrealistic vow? Im sorry but if this is what marriage means...i will pass. [/quote]Girl I ignored that statement....I was like this nigga is high.

Long One: ^^^I’m curious, what was it you did, a butt job perhaps?

This is not a sexual topic. Comot for here!

CrazyMan: Nope I've never been in any.


Emm...not really.


From my thoughts and views...I feel domestic violence and abuse are used for one purpose and one purpose only...to gain and maintain total control over you.


Well...you did the right thing (by asking her to leave), I mean...you cannot allow a spouse to treat you poorly, or you’ll wind up hating yourself, your mate, your relationship and your life.  Since your husband is unlikely to change his behavior without being forced into it, it’s going to be up to you to enforce changes in your marriage. 


If your husband asks you to refrain yourself from that subject, then obey him and avoid bringing it up so peace can reign in your home.


He's right you know...what happens in their home is actually none of your business.


Note the bolded...some men just prefer to stay away from other people's territories. They hate engaging themselves in battles that have nothing to do with them or their loved ones. I won't blame him for that.

If you feel much concern for her, then you can report the matter to the authorities (police, court etc)


Are you sure you've convinced her enough? She has been assaulted physically and according to the law, she definitely deserves justice.

Her children is not the issue here...the issue is that she deserves the right to a happy life, she deserves peace of mind...that which her husband has denied her of. So I feel it would be proper if she takes legal action against him.

If she's a christian, she can take the case to God, but in the mean time she must rise up and fight for her right as a woman.


I thought you said you advised her to leave the house for a while?

Don't tell me she's still in that house.


I couldn't actually comprehend your statement here...but from the look of things, it seems you're her hero. I'm sure she would forever be grateful to you.


Well...there're many ways, she can decide to pack her things and leave if her partner is a threat to her life.

She can go for counseling. Counseling therapy has been proven over the decades to be a way to help the situation...but most couples refuse the counseling method. They refuse outside help thinking they can work it out or iron their own differences out. Maybe they're ashamed to tell people (their friends and families) what they're going through.

What you should or rather she should note is that if you don't train yourselves to look at your arguments as a couple in a more constructive way then chances are you are bound to repeat the same mistakes again and again, until you all get tired and frustrated with the same resurfacing of the problem.

The part where you didn't understand my statement...I said that I have helped women leave their abusive partners but for some reason I can't convince her to leave her partner. She is left her hometown to be with him so she doesn't have family members she can call in the area.

Hope you understand now.

[quote author=Mynd_44]I dont get why some women will stay with an abusive woman. Its something I am desperately trying to understand[/quote]Mynd... It is difficult to convince some women to leave their abusers. I also have seen men that were abused by their women as well. It is more common then we know but it is happening in silence.

She doesn't have any family members in our area that she can go to for a while. But I have offered to pay for a hotel since she is not allowed to stay at our home. My husband wants no parts of it.

I am mad at him for that but he is my husband so I say nothing else to him about it.

afam4eva: A career woman can be a feminist...Infact most Feminists are often Career women.

There are millions of women with careers and ARE NOT FEMINIST. It is like saying ALL BLACK MEN HAVE AIDS.

sadeiyare: One of the reason for this is because most Men are just too demanding, because they have this stone-age mentality about marriage.

[size=44pt]GBAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 1,000,000,000[/size]

anitank: U seem so sure. Are u really talking about any "girls" here or urself

IF I LIKE SHORT DICKS..I WOULD SAY IT. YOU MUST BE NEW.

WELCOME TO NAIRALAND.

YES...I WAS TALKING ABOUT THE GIRLS THAT TOLD ME. I HAVE NEVER bleeped A HORSE BUT I AM SURE IT DOESN'T FEEL NATURAL...OR DID I bleeped A HORSE SINCE I KNOW IT ISN'T NATURAL?

jhydebaba: Both

Why would I be in an abusive relationship encouraging someone else to get out

Are you on your period?

It is okay for manbitches to DEMAND SEX but a woman can't DEMAND RESPECT

Niggas!

[quote author=Atheist:-D]Of course you are my dear

However, if you did want to leave him, you would not do it until you are financially stable/comfortable.

What a load of nonsense. How is Mr Chima meant to sleep at night [/quote]I AM FINANCIALLY STABLE AND STILL WITH MY HUSBAND. If I want to leave...I would have left YEARS AGO.

Are you on your period

anitank: Probably b'cos they havnt tried one with proper training and experience.
When they do, they'll start breaking their own rules

Those girls also had big dicks and still prefer smaller dicks. Big dicks isn't everything and the size of a dick doesn't determine whether you will have an orgasm or not.

jhydebaba: You don't need to get out of domestic violence, its for better for worse sister.

Me or my friend

preciousoz: not True.....#igotthemajicstickandarapidwaisttomatch

My friend dated a guy that said the same thing and after their first encounter...she haven't spoke about him since.