₦airaland Forum

kokoye: I have met several Nigerian men who were born in the US but raised in Nigeria. Some married whites while some married African American. Of course it is easy to take a look from the outside and conclude they married for green card.

On the other hand, I have friends who entered into relationships for green card purpose but ended up faliing in love with that person.

Like my dear Mrs Chima said, focus on the person and their heart ...so you dont miss out on what is truly meant to be yours.

Good luck.

amefi: na lie joor.

afam4eva: I agree with you. But it should be a two-way street. Don't you think so?

BobDon: I would like to thank everyone who responded to my post. You have been so wonderful and honest to me and I really appreciate your contribution. Opening this thread was important to me because I needed to get some anonymous unbiased feedback about my situation. Since my family does not have all the information that I posted here, they are unable to advice me appropriately. I posted the facts just as they were and I gave you all my arguments. Given the overwhelming rejection of my line of thought, it is clear that I need to do away with it.

I am going to stick with my relationship and I am going to have a positive attitude going forward. My girlfriend is a great woman and I love her with all my heart. Even when we argue, we never go below the belt, we always have a debate. She states her arguments without raising her voice and I state mine. If she is right, I apologize to her and if I am right she does the same. This is my first relationship and it is has led me to the point where I have had to make to most important decision of my life at a relatively young age. I posted my story here because I sincerely wanted to know if I was making the right call based on the facts that I presented.

To everyone who responded, I am very grateful for your honesty. May God bless all of you.

afam4eva: Of course people should take responsibilities for their actions but that does not mean some actions are not off-shoots of others. Human beings are emotional in nature. They're not metal.

tpacalipse: Oh! Naija MEN are so wonderful.

afam4eva: We should stop this believe that women are always the victims in domestic violence. It's not just about physical violence but also about emotional traumaa that some women put men through which inspires some men to go on the offensive. It's a to way street.

NEROSKY: Maybe his hand is behind ur success

amefi: Na lie!!!

dabrake: Likes
190, mrCork, lefulefu, tellwisdom : for their funny e-attitude.
Deshclones, anonymus: my right hand
idowuogbo : no comment
MBJ : on point.
Sexkillz : used to hate him but the way he handled coolval222's thread has won my respect & likeness towards him.
Hates
[size=16pt]mummy chima : chai! [/size]
Mynd_44 : sexkillz wannabe. Oboy, e no fit you jare. Chaff man.

pDude: What is so special about US? Can someone with experience and knowledge kindly tell me.

MarcAnthon: I didn't say "all". So the big question is why do you feel that way? since not all Americans feel that way

tellwsdom: Mshewwww chima, do u knw u should be at the gym now and not on the computer Tryin to send some mesg with ur big yansh??...Do u realise dat??

MarcAnthon: u got balls already?

MarcAnthon: ^^^ crazy Chima. Always enamored with balls Go and get a sex change then u can play with yours

KateSpade: First of, So are you married or are you single?

Second, it sounds as if you love her and she loves you. Your only concern seems to be wanting to marry a Nigerian for the shared culture which is understandable but its not enough. If you were having other doubts about her I would suggest looking elsewhere but as long as she is alright with you and you both are open-minded, honest and communicate well you are good.

MarcAnthon: You had it? Why didn't you say so? bad, bad woman. Guess I'm really strong then

MarcAnthon: Completely agree Pendo. It's a shame though, cos it def affects our image while all they care about is how much money they can get as aid.
Btw, hope you've been good? Missed you and crazy Chima

I hooe your balls got caught in a blender.