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Time is really that hard huh?

makky: Saw him just this sunday, and today I got a text on my phone from his friend, his marriage iv!
Ive bn in shock since morning, dnt knw who to talk to cos i dnt kip friends, i absolutely may go suicidal on this. A man that didnt even have a house, a job, no money when i met him. I cook for him, he spent virtually all his time at my place, even most times borrowed as lil as N200 from me. He cried at the bustop one evening begging me not to let go, that single tear kept me. I dnt have a regular job, I buy & sell things just to keep going till a job comes. Ive chased suitors away all in d bid to make this man feel save cos i believe in tomorrow. He is a divorcee, i didnt worry abt that. I stood by him since last year till he got a house dis february. Bx march i started noticing things. Ive asked him severally what d problem was but he said its just stress cos he got an event contract with a company. At a point he even borrowed some money from me, got to find out that it was cos of d girl he is planning to marry that came visiting bt he was too broke to host her.
This life and thd men in it are heartless. Tell me how i can ever love another? Am dying silently, please i need friends to talk to or even a proper job to help me get over this hurt, am self destructive!

Nigga huh?

jamola87: hav he promise 2 marry u and u knw he is very serious,4 me i will advice go ahead if he want 2 marry u,but if no dat u guyz ar just having fun i bet u u will pay 4 ur action

Why would you encourage her to chase another woman's used dick? \

She is entitled to fresh and unused up dick.

Totonese. Works every time!

[quote author=Mr..Cork] is it a crime to smile? pls advise! [/quote]How can you expect someone to smile at your ugly arse?

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]White men are the best!
[/quote]

MsDarkSkin: GOT YA!!

I wonder, where IS pleep?

Maybe Verizon Wireless cut off his internet service.

cshall1120: Whether he is or not I may never know. Sometime two people can be made for each other but if both people arent willing to explore what there, you never know. Hence, God gave humans free will. So often people dont obey his will for us but operate in some fleshy desire.

What are the outcomes of you and the Yoruba guy?

MsDarkSkin: can you provide proof that there were africans as light as alicia keyes since before african/arab contact?
im not talking about now. nowadays someone can be dark and still be genetically more mixed than someone lighter than them. we are talking about how the lighter shades came about.

Maybe my comment was misconstrued and I should have added more clarification. Fulaman spoke about how the shade of someone's skin has nothing to do with how "African" a person is. My agreement to that comment was purely that I have stated similar comment for the last year when some Nairalands who names will remain unknown, stated that if you look more Black American, you can't be pure African. In other words saying if your skin is light spectrum...you aren't African.

I am not speaking of race mixing. I just agree with Fulaman that a skin tone doesn't determine whether you are African or not.

solomon111: @TISABONE
I hope you will not take the views of some nincoompoops parading themselves as Nigerian men on NL,as the views of all Nigerian Men.
We have over 80million Men in Nigeria,but less than 400,000 men in NL,so they do not reflect the overall views of all Nigerian Men.
I for one,have dated different races and nationalities of women ranging from WHITES,HISPANICS,AA, AFRICANS e.t.c. and i have not found them better than Nigerian women,if not worse.
Hundreds of Nigerian men,flock home from various nations of the world to get married to Naija women,after dating and dumping various kinds of women from different races of the world,converting a large number of them to baby mamas.
Does that not tell you anything?
Nigerian men,who have had the priviledge of dating the different nationalities and races of women,know that none of them can be compared to a PROPER NIGERIAN WOMAN.
That is why most of Us,just want to catch our fun,and then come back home.

You are more than entitled to your opinion...but I found contradictory in your post.

There are MILLIONS of Nigerian children in the WORLD with non-Nigerian and Nigerian parents whom are still MARRIED to this day. I guess they are the dumb NIgerians huh?

You can't compare MEN with BOYS. Just saying.

No offense to the Nigerian women....if Nigerian women were such great mothers, cooks, bleeps, culturists, and everything else....NONE and I mean NONE of the Nigerian men who didn't marry/date non-Nigerian women out of love wouldn't LOWER their STANDARDS for someone who they feel isn't worthy of being their wife. Just saying.

Goes to show how much some Nigerian brothers respect Nigeria sisters and would potentially contaminate himself for a piece of "fun". I am sure Nigerian women are feeling honored and potentially contaminated.

Some Nigerian men just need to have respect for themselves and the Nigerian women they have claimed to "cherished".

solomon111: I have being used to the african culture,despite my long stay in the west,thanks to my family.
You can call me a chauvinist or anything,but it dosen't change the fact that i want a woman who can cook my african delicacies,listen to me when i speak and not trying to assert her authority unnecessarily,dont want a woman who shouts at me at every turn,threatens me with the police everytime we have a small altercation,dont want a woman who drinks like a fish, and parties like a LovePeddler,dont want a woman,who doesn't know what it mean to lead from behind.
I want my children to know my culture,not the trash i am surrounded with in America.Who best to teach them,but a good Nigerian woman.
My mother is an embodiment of most of what i want in a Woman,and she gives me the hope that somewhere,in Nigerian,the woman of my dreams lives.
As for Nigerian women,in the west;
it seems like they have been mutated into something else.
We cannot differentiate them from the very same women we are running from.
They have lost their africaness. The original unadulterated african essence is gone from most of them!
They have lost that innocence and simplicity.
Sorry,i think i will pass.

How the hell can someone lose their "African essence"? I mean seriously! This is some bullshit!

luckgames: The attitude of Nigerian women toward you has British is completely different for now
I hope you don't find out the other side
Lot of Nigerian men appreciate Nigerian women and women in general
There are unique issues in Nigeria communities in U.K ,Canada and US
Please do your research about these issue will help you a great deal
[b]All Nigerian men want to marry Nigerian women, [/b]it comes with more challenges

Really? So all the Nigerian men ONLINE and OFFLINE that have professed their true happiness in non-Nigerian women are LYING?

There are several Nigerian men I know OFFLINE that are married to women that are not Nigerian and happily married more than 10 years. IF they married those women for benefits....then what are they waiting on? 10 more years?

Fulaman198: Light-skinned black has nothing to do with or w/o being 100% African origin as everyone has their roots in Africa. As you know in every African ethnic group (we should not refer to them as tribes), there are light-skinned black and dark-skinned black. Complexion has nothing to do with how much African blood % one possesses.

If I had a dollar for every time I said the emboldened I would end world hunger. Seriously!

MsDarkSkin: okay! They know....trust me.

Lol @ur signature

[quote author=Ileke-IdI]Depends on how cute he is. . . . .shade doesnt determine sexiness.
Most Nigerian men wowo either way sha.[/quote]Idi!

MsDarkSkin: This is a black issue.
Individual countries are irrelevant. For aslong as there was contact between the African and European, there has always been a complex on both sides. Nigeria/ns included.

Exactly Sis! What kills me about some Black folks regardless where they are from...they think they are different because they pronounce their vowels phonetically different and toes are ultra ashy. If the World would to put a Carrib, an African, Black American, and Afro-Latin in a pool.....the first thing comes to mind is Niggas, not their respective identity.

Black is Black is Black.

lefulefu: nothing wrong if ur husband black pass kettle yansh.in my village na wetin we dey refer to as blk beauty

That's right Black Shrek be proud! Beat your chest and roar!

(grabbing some popcorn and turning down the radio volume)

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kambili190: Why are you searching online when you're so gorgeous, smart and rich? No chance outside the virtual world?

Exactly! There are plenty of "beautiful and successful" Nairalanders have met and are meeting from online source.

Hmm.

lefulefu: haba SO Oga Chima na also dark ape?
Safo must hear this

Yeah, your sister's husband Chima is a dark ape.

talina: Are you saying that a man cant tell if a woman is wearing a lot of makeup? Or high heals or extensions? They are not attacking you with this or forcing you.Dont choose these women if you dont like it is all Im saying.

Talina...you know damn well....you were laughing when you read that bullshit. If a man can't tell if a woman is wearing make up or extensions then that mofo is blind and dumb.

Have you ever seen a chick with two different type hair and claimed it was hers? I did! Check this out...this chick had red synthesis and straight weave and her natural hair was brown and wavy...but she swore up and down that it was her hair.

MRbrownJAY: there are NO PRESSURES in life that forces women to be any different than what they truly are. these women are the ones putting these pressures on themselves when opening magazines and wanting to look like who they are not (simply because that person is famous etc).

as i said/asked earlier (which NONE of you ladies have answered yet): would you rather be loved for who you are NOT or hated for who you truly ARE?! the choice is yours, but dont blame men for judging y'all.



Mrs C
you are again missing the point:
- some men will marry out of desperation (or for "trophey" purposes) and therefore it doesnt matter to these guys how a lady look like under the masquerade.
- some men will date some masquerade ladies, and after confirmation of her natural look, some will decide to continue dating, relegate her or dump her.
- if a woman keeps her masquerade on, then who cares what she "really" look like IF/WHEN her duties are SOLELY to spread her legs and service her man?! she can do that with a weave and all the other accessory! the IMPORTANT point is that: when her duties are done, SHE LEAVES!!!!!!! (and also that this man never sees her real hideous self)
- dont get it twisted, "some" men will even fukc handicapped women, so long as it is hush hush and she has the right curves! who are we kidding? yeah, these man aint real but they are MEN nevertheless. the catch is for women to know where they stand in any r/ship.

LMAO@me missing the point. Denial/excuse is definitely a mofo.

My previous comments still remains. Until people START being HONEST on both sides...WE WILL NOT PROGRESS further than where we are at now. Real talk.

You all keep repeating the same bullshit and hoping to get a different answer. The horse been dead weeks ago.

Gabrielle Union.

[quote author=Mr..Cork] but how are we suppose to deal with females who are rude, especialy black womens? they dont respect men anymore. too much attitude. please advise? [/quote]Bring your face closer to my crotch.....give me a minute to lift up my big and heavy cyber dick.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Stop dating Naija pr[i]o[/i]stitutes. . .[/color]

Ashyhoes.

I know DAMN WELL...I didn't read a post where a woman is blamed for a cheating nigga!!! Seriously!

Who to say that these cheating niggas are chasing WOMEN? Do you know homosexuality is[b] STILL ALIVE[/b] in these days? There are married men chasing men OPENLY and PRIVATELY. Ask the gay men on NL....if one is bold enough to answer.

If all the women were to day no...which is a crock of bullshit...then what about those married men that like MEN? Are those men to blame for a married man wanting to Bleep them? Come on!

Accept responsibility for YOUR ACTIONS. [/b]In a minute...some you fools will say that if a woman kill a man for smiling at her...it is the man fault because he shouldn't be smiling at her! I mean [b]WHAT THE Bleep?!

IF YOU can't keep your legs closed or dick in your pants...DON'T GET MARRIED! Simple!

[quote author=Mr..Cork] Ok, we all no women can be annoying, lack respect, not too trusted, faragulated, rude, talkative, sinkalative and too nagging. So is it ok to slap a women in the face once in a while so they can respect u? Please advise. matured response only. No attitude please. cheers !! [/quote]Can I slap your face with my cyber dick?

LMAO@gayish fingers.


Ooooh Lawd! (wiping tears from eyes)


Op....

You want to leave her because she is stubborn or asked you for your last naira?

If you don't mind being a suga moma....go right ahead. Happy life!