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[quote author=~Mikael~ link=topic=856033.msg10055915#msg10055915 date=1327612974][color=#000030]I agree it cant change anything, but what happens when someone tells the husband the truth, since what transpired is not a secret between the woman, and her said cousin alone? [/color][/quote]There is nothing wrong with her telling her husband, I am just trying to figure out what would their relationship be once the secret is out?  Would it be worth it? 

If the husband isn't forthright about some things then he can't be upset with his wife.  That's why I said don't ask/expect for what you are not willing to give in return.

(shouting through the cracked window) Can I borrow two eggs and a cup of white sugar?

[size=44pt]Fainted.[/size] Be right back.

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=856033.msg10055822#msg10055822 date=1327612014]The guy will find out from someone else when the situation heats and how do you think he will feel? Atleast if she tells him, she can control the way he gets the info[/quote]Nine out of ten times women who have an abortion doesn't share the information unless it is someone they can trust. 

She can tell her husband, however HOW WOULD THAT CHANGE her CHANCES of getting pregnant and what would he do with the information once she tells him?  How would that help him?

What if she gets pregnant and withheld the abortion secret, then what?

Abortions and miscarriages aren't always the reason why a woman hasn't conceive a child. Some women ovulate in different manners which makes it easier and harder for some women.

We also have to look at the sperm count as well, just because a man ejaculates doesn't mean his sperm count is high enough for conception. We must study the life of gametes/zygotes and how they go through mitosis and meiosis.

If a woman has an ineffective abortion, it could contribute to her fertility however statistics shown that many females who had abortions are mothers of multiple children.

Even if she told her husband, how would that change her chances of getting pregnant if he would to remain with her? If a woman has to give blow by blow of her entire life then the husband should be comfortable giving blow by blow of his life.

Don't ask for what you aren't willing to give in return. Simple.

dtanigwe:
Forgive me if I'm not very forthcoming on a lot of personal info, pls, don go scare me now. dats my worst fear, too. I've never spoken with any of his family members. I met a cousin of his who lives here in the states and spoke to his wife. dats all.

Wow.  It is important that you speak with his immediate family members.  I know international calling can be expensive but make an effort to speak with his parents and siblings at least before going to Nigeria (when you go). 

It has been a year and the only family members you have spoken to is his cousin/wife.  Wow.  It was important for my husband and I to know both families before we moved to the next level in our relationship. 

When you spend time with his family, you will pick up on a lot of things therefore it wouldn't be much of a surprise later on in life.  Now if he is preventing you from contacting his family then something is not right. 

You are part of their family whether they like it or not but you have every rights to know his family because if you guys are planning on having children it is important.

If this happened before the husband, then why does she need to tell her husband she lost a baby by another man?

SMH.

tellwisdom:
You seen her recently??  

Tarzan is looking for you.

hightechbiotech:
thought this was a section where u can get solution to issues. Its full of craps and bullsh.it comment

Welcome to Nairaland!

sexkillz:

Why the face? You got an issue with the quote above?

Acidosis:
do I look like gay? some one said you date anything. .so why dont you rescue mr. poster from his calamity. ? ?

Somebody said you suck scrotums, why don't you get to sucking?

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=855863.msg10054536#msg10054536 date=1327598646]bro dont you have raps?  I just recomended Mrs Chima.   she look like Beyounsi (hopefully)  [/quote]Why don't you stop playing hard to get and give the man your number gay donkey!

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=855863.msg10054501#msg10054501 date=1327598280]Bro. try Mrs Chima. she single free and she dates anythin [/quote]If that was the case, how come I haven't dated you?

Acidosis:
are you available ?

Are you?

sexkillz:
[color=#000030]^^^
Makes you wonder doesnt it? And they've been married for a year now? What kind of love had they been practicing all along? I'm obfuscated! [/color]

Yeah.  Men are the same regardless of race, ethnicities, tribes, region, culture, and traditions concerning love.  Men in general just wants to be respected and appreciated.  

There is no "specific" way to love an Igbo man except adhering to [size=44pt]HIS[/size] expectations and wishes.  

When she said that her husband isn't into experimenting in the bedroom or doesn't want to try new things, I immediately kissed Oga Chima!  Thank you LAWD!!!_{Hmm. I just thought of a new trick.}  

Ngo Iwu

Acidosis:
is that what your husband does, whenever you visit your sugar-son?

You want the husband and son too?!!! You are the male version of Karrine Superhead!

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=855384.msg10054186#msg10054186 date=1327595383]A few things like?! [/quote]I am not allowed to share them.

LMAO@married from the wrong tribes 

Some of those women on Nairaland complained about their husbands/boyfriends and they were Yoruba men.  I am sure every tribe has it bleeped ups but to say one tribe is better than the other is sophomoric. 

My husband is a man and he isn't Yoruba.

sexkillz:
[color=#000030]Never knew igbos had a different way of love! This is captivating! [/color]

I am glad Oga Chima is a simple black man. I only have three mandated "activities" according to him and I am set.

I see some people are unrealistic about life in general but hey!

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=855384.msg10054034#msg10054034 date=1327594065]How to love an Igbo man by Okija_Juju (A real Igbo man);

https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-chores009.gif _{- Clean his house}

https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-chores012.gif _{- Mop and dust his crib as well. Shows you can keep a home}

https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-chores003.gif _{- Wash his clothes}

https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-chores011.gif _{- Put them out to dry}

https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-chores047.gif _{- Bring them in after sunning them}

https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-chores007.gif _{- Iron and fold them neatly}

https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-eatdrink051.gif _{- Cook for him}

https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-eatdrink056.gif

https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-eatdrink061.gif  _{- Make sure its his favorite meal and that you know how to cook.}

https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-eatdrink020.gif_{- Feed him}


https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-chores004.gif _{- Do the dishes. Igbo men hate dirty dishes.}

https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-chores037.gif _{- Take out the garbage}


https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-chores036.gif _{- Run him a bath}


https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-sex016.gif  _{- Make sweet love to him.}


https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-sex015.gif _{- Have an after-se'x smoke with him if he is into that type of thing, like me.}

https://smileys.on-my-web.com/repository/Babies/pregnant-woman-123.gif _{- Get pregnant and have him strong, healthy, pretty babies (boys especially)}

https://smileys.on-my-web.com/repository/Babies/baby-feeding-bottle-018.gif _{- Take care of his babies.}

https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-sleep002.gif _{- Let him sleep peacefully.}


Do this with any Igbo man and you will shall have a blissful marriage. Thats all we need.


Okija_juju^TM _{MOTTO: The gods are wise.}


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Now go choke on a giant scrotum.

sexkillz:
[color=#000030]You see the key word? "Help me"! But if you say it with that face,( ) My reply will be:
But when you say it with ( ), My reply would be: I'll be right there!


Spot the difference!
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Get your arse in the kitchen!

nwani oma:
No questions! No story! by far the cutest thing you have ever seen!

I like that over the shoulder look! The baby got swag and muuuuah-ish!

freecocoa:
Mrs Chima pound which yam? We normally like akpu,are you sure MR C isn't a Yoruba man claiming to be igbo?

Nope. He is not Yoruba. Akpu isn't the only staple people eat these days.

Come and help me pound these yams.

Sexkillz, come and help me pound these yams!  

hornipipe:
since wen

When I found out that you bleeds every 28 days for five days.