₦airaland Forum

Acidosis:
why did you open in the first place?

Because I am grown. Now what?

armyofone:
ummm, get all your pots ready. invest in pots, 3 leg pots, non sticky pots, Rachel Ray's and Paula Deen's pot, mortar for pound iji etc.
you will be fine  

Reading thru, OP, please let him marry you proper. Let your father give you away. Don't do corner corner o.

Paul Deen's pots and pans SUCKS! However, she can make a mean peach cobbler though!

Igbo men like good cooking just make sure you feed him proper. Hold on, got to pound these yams.

BRB.

You are on one now. Enjoy.

I don't do women.

It is not a big deal to me if my husband doesn't help me in the kitchen.  I know how to cook and no, I don't burn water.  

However it is not my "responsibility" because I am a woman/wife.  

Happy marriage is subjective.  Simple.

(exiting the thread)

It is unfortunate that your mother is ostracized in the family however your family should look at her happiness and safety. 

Meddling family members are responsible for a certain numbers of divorces in America.  People always want to question why you married this person and why you are not going along with the family flow?  I mean it is crazy how some families can't see that marriage is about two people and they should be honored to be part of that marriage. 

We all wants the best for our family members, but we should be realistic when we are judging the other person.  Are we judging because we are jealous and lonely?  Are we judging because we are unhappy in our relationship so we are going to make yours hell?  Are we happy that she/he found the person to grow old with?  These are some of the questions some families formed and wonder why many families are estranged. 

We don't have to like their choices, but we should respect that who they have chosen to be their spouse and make the best out of it.

dtanigwe:
Well, before marriage, the groom traditionally has to ask the girl's father for her hand in marriage. The father approves or disapproves (although, admittedly its more a formality these days. Even if the father says no, the girl will still marry whomever she chooses) At the wedding, the father walks his daughter down the aisle and hands her off to the groom, signifying that he has "given" the responsibility of caring for his daughter to this man.

In my father's eyes, none of this happened, so he still bears the responsibility of caring for me.

I can't lie to you and say that my family has been super traditional, cause we haven't been, but I was always kind of like the "golden child" in my family. The one my parents pointed to and said, "look what we produced despite all our disfunction". And honestly, I don't know where I got all my traditional values from, but for some reason I'm the one expected to adhere to them.

Yeah, some people back in the days used to have "gentlemen ball" and during the party, a man would go to the parent and "introduce himself" and request a hold on the girl.  The hold lasts for several weeks while the parents discuss with his family on terms.  

If both families comes to an agreement then the boy "steals" the girl and a proper proposal is in place.  However, the girl have the right to decline the proposal or accept the proposal.  Some parents talk to their girls before making a decision anyways to prevent public embarrassment.  

Some families in Haiti takes their girls to the fattening rooms which some men prefer their wive to be larger in size.  

It is interesting each family have their own "wedding cultures".

She need to change her circle of women she deals with because the Nigerian women I know personally doesn't act like that.

Few of them aren't even married to Nigerian men. I don't think many of them could care less, but then again who knows.

Just do you.

dtanigwe:
Well of course. We're legally married. It's just there is nothing traditional about it. No "white" wedding or traditional ceremony, or any of the courtship traditions that go along with either of our cultures. We love each other very much, but we don't have much money, yet. My hubby works very hard. I guess you can say we're saving for our wedding and a trip to Naija.

Okay.  I was confused with the statement, "you belong to me because you didn't have the wedding ceremony". 

What is your wedding culture?

Interesting.

Tosinville:
Beware of Boko Haram explosion on ur wedding day, beta stay in da states & do all that.

I thought she was married?

You guys have a legal marriage license?

Not alll the women on Nairaland are Nigerian. Get it right.

Princek12:
A lot of these women on this thread are just liars. Once they see money, they change their stance and standards. Nigerian girls for the most part don't even know the meaning of handsome. A lot of these women would not even talk to a handsome dude who, for example, works at Iddo market or who sells pure water on the streets. First thing a Nigerian girl sees is money and notoriety. Attractiveness is at the bottom of their list, if it is even considered at all. 

They would date the "Rich but ugly and short" guy really quick.

Were you a liar when you said you don't like ugly and flat arse women?

How can YOU tell us what WE WILL CHOOSE?      How would you like it if we say that you will pick a fat and ugly granny just to make it? 

You need to broaden your caliber of women.  Not all women are driven by money or money hungry.

Real talk.

People let be realistic, you know some secrets or things that happened in your life isn't always easy for others to digest.

Some secrets should remain hidden and some secrets should be revealed. Use common sense when revealing secrets or information to your significant others.

Before getting to deep into the relationship, KNOW YOUR PARTNER and ALLOW your RELATIONSHIP to MATURE before getting SERIOUS.

You will know what is important to share and not to share with TIME and PATIENCE.

1K2M3A (Press 1 and enjoy)

Some men have died having sex with their wives/women.  

Sex can kill.

Some of them do.

It is the societal pressure that forced some men to feel less than a man if their wives earn more money.

None. My husband is just right.

sexkillz:
[color=#000030]It's had to tell when they all go to church! There's a common misconception that church girls are good girls! You may or may not find good girls in the church, but going to church on the sole rationale of getting a good girl is = #FAIL!

Nah, not me, must be my twin![/color]

You sure? He was calling some dude discombobulated nimwit with a dead kondo.