₦airaland Forum

jay bee:
U preggs again? how many have u got now? soccer team?
To indirectly come get kondo

I was vomiting off Furry Az's statement. I had to vomit.

Who would I be getting kondo from in London, Mr Jaybee?

MzDarkSkin:
Holy schit. This is better than 'Days of Our Lives' 

Eku you need to get over your GD self because it was the sweat, blood, and tears (sacrifices) of A.A.'s that gave you the opportunity to talk trash about them not only on a computer but in America. Most of the opportunities we have here as Africans and yes even Caribbeans is due to the hard work of A.A.s Hispanic is not a race and more than half of the latin population is of African descent so in essence its blacks surpassing blacks so to speak and even if that were true as you said population makes all the difference there is supposedly only 12 percent of the population that can consider themselves African American so there is no way they can dominate as they are the "minority".

But as far as the topic goes, Non-Nigerian women do NOT go Gaga over Nigerian men. Some of us LIKE them but go gaga? Nope. Some Naija men can be EXTREMELY chauvinistic and cocky in nature, nothing to fall out for. Some are humble too but I still am not on a mission to grab a Naija man. The notion is ludicrous.

Ms.Eve said:
D.O.A!  DEATH! you are toooo much much Eve!
*cough!

Girl, I was not going to sit up here and argue statistic with SOMEBODY that clearly does not know anything about African Americans and one fool thought AA means double AA batteries rather than African Americans. He called me WHITE. I tried to tell them that African Americans are not THE MAJORITY ON WELFARE and for some strange reasons they assumed ROBOTS work for the government.

There are more WHITES AND Africans, ,not African Americans on welfare and food stamp programs. The huge proportionate of them are SINGLE WHITE WOMEN with children and nearly half of the children are by product of AFRICAN AND AFRICAN AMERICAN MEN.

I stopped reading when I got to the part where Hispanic was a RACE. I was like this is not the same dude that called me GHETTO AND ILLITERATE? If you go to South America, you will people DARKER THAN WELSEY SNIPES IN somberos eating some tacos and coconut juice.

For some strange reason, the dude assumed that a few Africans with student visas will be hire over African Americans. I guess they don't hear what been going on in the bathrooms where the white people are still classifying ALL COLORED people african booty scratchers or slave monkeys.

It is interesting to see that some of them assumed that black people are the one that lives in ghettos, sell drugs, have children out of wedlock, and failing schools. The same group of oppressees putting the oppressors in a higher pedestal and then turn to seek God for favors. Unbelievable.

Hmmph! I am going to delay your baby shower invitation, Sir!

(pulling out measuring tape, still pulling, still pulling, and still pulling) Nawl, we won't be going to court at all.

jay bee:
Cos your mind is always tuned to 1-800-i-need-sex

You keep it up, you will not be invited to the baby shower!

Who you talking to Kokoye?

That was cute, he is missing the toilet now!  With his bad aimin arse! I keep my nephews on some weekends and LAWD HAVE MURCEE they both under the age of seven and It like piss and slide in the bathroom. The day my nephews come visit me I know I will be sliding to the toilet!

Heey Kokoye! I missed you

What about men crying over a good heavenly feeling?

I thinking couples should have open relationships. It bring spice into the bedroom. Women should do it often.

livedit:
You so silly! I'm laughing because I can picture a visual of that happening. Too funny girl!

He always blowing his chest out like he scaring somebody. I done told him he need to sit down somewhere. I wrote on Twitter page that I wasn't staying nowhere but USA. My family in Nigeria cussed me out saying that over their dead fish dinner that the children will stay in Nigeria and I am coming with them. I responded back and said I wouldn't care if they built a white house and a lincoln memorial over in Nigeria. I am not moving there.

Disclaimer: This could be silly, but I want to know why this is a big deal.

A co-worker came to work crying because her fiance won't marry her because she decided to keep her maiden name.  The fiance told her that she have disgraced his family and that she is no longer a wife prospect.  They have been dating for two years and engaged for six months.  She went to the family gathering to find out that she is no longer welcome and never to return.

Now, I find that highly sickening that a man wouldn't marry a woman that he claim is her soul mate because she won't change her name.  What is it with the name change?  Why is it so important that the woman must change her last name?  What if she want to honor her father name by keeping the maiden name?  Is that such an issue?

Why is IT such a big deal for a woman to change her last name?!

Hello Livedit.

Some people are doing spouse swap and are not even knowing it. When you are dealing with someone 's spouses you are swapping spouses. In other words, you are taking that spouse position and in some culture it a disrespect.

There are television shows that support spouse swapping as a way to teach each other that the grass isn't always green on the other side.

I don't condone it.

Sibe007:
Like I said, you have stated your opinion, and you may have offended some people, (I wonder How/why though)
But next time ignore some comments, Cos we are not to respond to all things we hear,
Like I said the thread is not about what they know about America so don't work yourself up over off-topics.
One Love people.

Okay. They twist my hands, I make no promises.

jennykadry:
@Topic

The good sex drags the women to our men

Really? You sure it not character and personality?

Sibe007:
There's been absolutely no need for all these Bashing, We are all friends even if we differ in our opinions,

I having read all through this thread, I seriously wonder what points Ekubear, Sunch, Genius, where trying to make, If somewhere along the thread MrsEve offended you or said what you oppose to. You should have just stated your points and avoid all this unneccessary bashing.

Nigerians have good sides and Bad sides, Yes we all know that, But the thread is not about that,
One claims to be more educated than the other, another claims to be more insultive when the need arises, to what profit are all these If we have put aside Love for our Neighbor

MrsEve has her Views about Nigerian Men and has stated it above, She also has some not so right views about Nigeria as a place, Which as a Good Nigerian, you could chip in your own Bit of information and point us all in the right direction, Because,We are here to Learn from one another, Not to tear apart,

Please, humble yourselves and evaluate what you type before posting and see if you are making good inputs to the minds of people and the World in general or you are just spewing out bitterness, thus spreading Hate,

Please, I beg you all, Lets Be friends,

My husband is Nigerian-American and I have stated multiple times that there are GOOD NIGERIANS and BAD NIGERIANS. I do not have anything against the country itself but SOME OF THE MOFOS in it.

They want to hash out what they felt about America so tooth for a tooth. The original poster asked Why do Non-nigerian women go "gaga" over Nigerian men? and I responded there is nothing special about Nigerian men. I have also included that women falls in love with the MAN, not his culture.

So again, where is the tarnishing and Nigerian bashing that they have accused me of?

Ladies do a few waterworks. It works like a charm! Come to think of it, (muttering some tears)
Be right back!

lagbaja20:
Your husband must be one of those weak White men

Very immature people

Nigerians do not cry!

I suggest you view profiles and read threads more often. Her husband is Nigerian.

livedit:
Mrs. Eve your point is very valid and makes perfect sense.  When I say seek God, you do pray to him for wisdom and guidance.  God has also blessed his people with common sense.  I would hope you don't meet a man saying crazy stuff like that, but when I say the husband has the final word. He does hun.  Yes you two should pray and seek God first. But in the end, if your husband says: hun, I don't want you to wear that revealing shirt or I want you to stay home tonight, then you are not to wear it.  You don't have to seek God and be like, God, should I wear this shirt or asking God if you can go out? That's what I mean by the last decision.  If your husband decides he wants to move back to his home country, as his wife. You have to go.

Your point of view is excellent.  There should always be mutual respect, but God does put the man in charge over the household.  This is minus some idiotic common sense stuff.  Just like the bible says: If a man don't work, he don't eat.  There are rules for him as well. But I completely understand what you are saying. Honestly, I do.

Girl, you made me laugh when you said that. I was laughing and crying. My husband thought somebody said something to me on the phone. He was ready to blow his chest out. Over my big, ashy, and juicy nyansh going back to his home country! Shiiiiiid! I hear you though and if it works for you sister girl by all means don't pay me no mind.

I don't give HUMANS that much power over me and I am not the "jump how high" person. By all means whatever works for those who do. I ain't mad atcha!

samir101ng:
You are completely missing the point.

If i understood the basis behind this thread and your previous comments, women who live in houses owned by their husbands or boyfriends have not been treated fairly especially during a breakup where the woman is sent forcefully packing out of the house. Therefore, we are reversing their situations and trying to see how the shoe fits on the other foot. Am i right so far ?

That is why i mentioned the Nigerian environment and compared it to other western countries. Most educated/exposed men secure in their manhood will not have any problem moving into their fiancees house. But as i mentioned, they must be willing to endure their societies backlash. If you are in Europe or the US, nobody gives a damn but here in Africa its a different story. The best solution as far as i am concerned for any man wishing to compromise is to buy a house jointly 50-50. Here nobody has a say over the house and if their is a breakup, you either buy each other out or sell the house and split the proceeds.

I got your point. I was referring to the Nigerian/African environment.

Since you asked so nicely, I will digress for right now. They twist my hands, I can't make a promise.

samir101ng:
This i believe should have been the topic of this thread.

Would you as a man move into your girlfriends house when you are going to get married ?

Truthfully, i honestly don't know. But let me start by saying that i would be extremely uncomfortable in the house. I can move in with her but you must be prepared for the societal backlash. Unfortunately, i live in a traditional African society (Nigeria) not in US or Europe. Here, depending on your religion or ethnicity you have 2 kinds of marriages ;

1. The traditional marriage

2. The Church/Islamic/Civil Wedding

In both these 2 marriages, the families of the bride and groom are actively involved in all stages of the ceremony. Now imagine you (the man) being asked where you are guys are going to stay and you reply : " Am going to be staying at her house ", am telling you authoritatively that there's going to be a riot. Your family members will curse and disown you if you are not careful and insisted on the marriage. Her family members will regard you as a weak man and say that you married her for her money. All sorts of negativity will start and before you know it, your marriage will be in shambles. Your idea is a good one if you are ;

1. Based outside Nigeria

2. Do not invite your family members & friends to the wedding

I know it sounds cruel but that's the truth. That's why its better if your wife to be has a house, let her rent it out and collect the proceeds. You can both contribute 50-50 to buy a new house.

I guess it a crime for a man to move into a woman's house. Oh no! I wouldn't want to be accomplice to that.

Hello Livedit.

I do agree with you that the man is the head of your household and that all he is. The bible speaks about a married couple agreeing TOGETHER on any subject that concerns them and not a man deciding for the couple then that will defeat the point of partnership.

You said in your previous thread that married couples should seek the face of God first. If the man makes the final decision and can tell his wife the ways to go, what the point of seeking God first?

Now let me bring it back down a notch,

Hypothetically, your husband tell you that you are to cover your body completely when you leave the house, you are to have ten children, your immediate family is to only visit during holidays, you must only work around nuns, you are only to do certain things, and I can go on and on. He is the man of God and he reads his bible.

You will obey him in all those commands? Remember God didn't make man and woman to be beneath each other but as partners.

Mygoldie,

Shhhh. Please let him assumed AA means double AA batteries. I have on some white scrubs does that count?

[quote author=eku_bear link=topic=570836.msg7417193#msg7417193 date=1293473956]Err, wtf? How would I even prove my citizenship? Or more importantly why would I need to prove citizenship to YOU?
Anyway, lots of posters here are dual citizens, isn't a big deal.
WTF? I am a full-blooded Yoruba man, both of my parents are Ekiti. We just immigrated to the US when I was little kid and became (naturalized) citizens there.
You do realize that it is possible to acquire American citizenship w/o being born there, right? Or did you fail out the mandatory history/civics courses in middle and high school but your teacher kicked you up a level to get rid of you?  
And I have no beef with all AA women, or AA males. Me having a problem with you doesn't mean I dislike anyone else. As I said earlier, my current boo is AA. A good number of my girlfriends have been AA. But they have their heads on straight and aren't batsh1t insane like you.
Finally, even if your crazy hypothesis that the only way I could be a US citizen is because my daddy married an AA woman. . . well, in most African cultures, ethnicity is patrilineal. So even if my mother were AA, I'd consider myself primarily Yoruba, not AA. And thus I'd still be calling you out on our lies and bullsh1t.
Err, wtf? I'm in my father's village right now still on Christmas break. Ain't no white man oppressing us here. Our oba is not white. Our senators and governor is not white.
Look, just because the white/hispanic/asian man is kicking your backside in the US doesn't mean the white/hispanic/asian man is rubbishing us here
With that said, some of Nigeria's problems are to varying degrees due to foreign influence. But I feel fairly confident that they'll be solved, at least in my region of naija.[/quote]I never said your daddy married an AA woman for USA citizenship, but thanks for telling the truth.   You all got a real smart Nigerian representing Naija!    It okay dawg the first step overcoming crack addiction is accepting the fact that you have a problem.  When the distributors told you not to sample your own shit, they meant it.  

sunch:
@ivynwa,
how i which am with u there, i wld sure have bought u a champagne wit those sweet comments above.
Pls i want u to continue with the way you uphold your pride as an african woman, not faking white scum bags like d MRS dope head around the corner in the ghetto. love u ivy

Apparently dumb arse assumed AA stands for DOUBLE AA batteries. Yes, I am white and you owe me exactly $20,000 USD for cyber cafe time. Pay up bitch!

I disagree with you, Livedit when you said "that just the way".  The bible speaks about the man being the head of the household and he does not have a final say. The Holy Father, The Son, and the Holy Ghost have the final say.  When you put everything BEFORE GOD then you are not honoring the LIVING WORD.  

If YOU chooses to follow your husband regardless of how you feel that your choice.  "The way of a fool seems right to him, but a wise man listens to advice." (Proverbs 12:15) If you have a house before marriage and he has an apartment before marriage, a wise man will not buy another house for a house is already bought and paid for. REGARDLESS whom the owner of the house was.