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iLegendd:
We've started, but the door is already closed for new entry.

Closed door or not, let me post for people to learn too from my flaws.

4 THINGS TO ACHIEVE IN 2024
1. Go 1 month without sex.
I have NEVER achieved that for more than 12 years, NA BIG ACHIEVEMENT 4 ME.
2. Get another previously lost opportunity to Japa.
3. Get a dope digital skill.
4. Learn a very local but lucrative handwork, Vulcaniser, shoe making etc.

4 THINGS THAT'LL EASILY DISTRACT ME IN 2024

1. Konji, that thing has worked on my life seriously.
2. Kindness and Empathy, I have shown a lot of kindness to stupid people in 2023.
3. My salary job, I will have to take a tough decision to resign and chase my dreams.
4. My mom and elder bro's condition, I can't go 2days without thinking about them.

4 THINGS TO STOP OR REDUCE IN 2024

1. Masturbation, Stop.
2. Fvcking anyhow, that shit has done a lot of harm in a Nigga's life.
3. Reduce Alcohol intake, that thing cost alot, even in broke state.
4. Reduce being close to everybody, a lot of people showed me shege 2023.

4 THINGS TO START OR INCREASE IN 2024

1. My relationship with God, na ONLY him and siblings nor make me follow 2023 go.
A lot of gud people also came through in 2023 tough times.

2. I will prioritise taking very good care of my siblings, mostly the girls, they have been amazingly caring.

3 I will increase my saving habit, omo, savings dey save o.

4. I will increase my connection and networking, a lot of good has happened in my life, through someone that som1 i know, knows.

WHO NOR LEARN FROM MY FLAWS NA IM KNOW.
Not everyone is fortunate to rise after falling.

Ireportlive:



All what he has ever wanted. RIP Aketi .. Goodluck Ayedatiwa ..



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U guys should learn how to talk and act mature.

NA HIM KILL AM ABI?

U talk as if anyone is God. In DESTINY, when its your TIME it will happen anyhow / anyway.
We all have our roles and unique assignments on Earth, no one can fast track or slow that of anyone

Silentgroper:
Men dey suffer eh ...


Its just that some has been brainwashed to the point of no return ...


Wetin pussy no fit do..

The way i run far away from dangerous women is out of this world.

One had the guts to use fake pregnacy to rope me 3 times, i just simply moved ahead amid her tears and a lot beggings
, she even sent more than 5 diff. people to beg me, but MY LIFE AND PEACE OF MIND IS NOT NEGOTIABLE.
There is nothing i fear in life more than women wahala.

I have been opportuned to experience VERY GOOD and BAD women and i must say;
Having a good woman by your side is the sweetest thing that can happen to a man and having a bad one means, you are DOOMED 4 d the rest of your life.

CHOOSING PARTNERS IS THE MOST SERIOUS BUSINESS FOR ADULTS.

Never underlook little things or red flags u can't cope with.

One thing i find very fascinating about my mom, is the fact that she didn't divide or set us against our father during misunderstandings and years of divorce.
Though my dad, maltreated my mother a lot but she is the type that understands that; One bad act could lead to severe actions against someone.
SHE TOOK HER PART OF THE BLAME AND UNDERSTOOD WHY THINGS GOT WORST AGAINST HER. This is a trait MOST people don't have.

Every misunderstanding has either 1 or 2 people who were at fault and it is human to make mistakes, why not forgive if u can or move on quietly.
Offending somebody (without apologizing and also claiming right) has led to a lot of disaster in relationships.
When you discover someone broke up with you because of your wrong doings, why on Earth would you wake up and start cooking all sort of lies in order to form the victim?.

The cases of Yul and Emeka is a very annoying one to me.
Truth be told, their problems came as a result of issues that could be trashed out indoors without involving even families, not to talk of coming to the public to fool themselves.

Personally, i hate discussing issues that happens with my personal relationship with anybody to a 3rd party, if u offend me; I forgive if i can pr move on quietly.
Lately, a lot of people have called me asking me about reasons why i cut ties with some people.
Truth be told; these are people that i cut off becos; they hurt me so bad to the extent of still standing on wrong, claiming right.
I moved on quietly without even saying anything to all the people that came to ask me (I have been like that, relationship is for 2 people and if anything goes sour, handle it among yourselves) the fools that offended me are going about spreading different nonesense in order to form victims.
A lot of people are like that, they can never accept their wrong doings not to talk of apologizing.
They will even do more in order to push u over the wall sef.

A Nigga's wife called and was complaining of the guy's Bleep up, i simply went there in present of the guy and lady, i asked them not to explain anything to me because ONLY God knows the truth but rather look into the issue properly and fix their differences within themselves. I was surprised when i met them laughing the next morning.
It takes ONLY two reasonable people to be in any relationship and being reasonable, comes with accepting wrongs and apologizing when necessary.

☆☆THE MENTALITY EVERYONE SHOULD HAVE IS☆☆☆

We have a lot of people that won't accept their wrongs and would go and castigate you, painting different lies about what happened.

-Just avoid the noise and move on as an adult--

And for those people that jump into taking sides foolishly; KNOW THAT; THERE ARE 3 SIDES TO ALL ENCOUNTERS AND ITS ONLY A FOOL THAT JUDGES FROM HEARING ONE SIDE, WHEN JUDGING FROM 2 SIDES SEF TAKES A LOT OF WISDOM.

HAVE THE MINDSET THAT; THE ONLY PERSON THAT KNOWS D TRUTH IS GOD.

The day i knew your plans has nothing to do with what happens was the day i always embrace God'sPlan.
GOD'S PLAN the surest way till 2000 infinity.

Vinnie2000:
OP, comot your eye for woman money.

In Africa, Even if ur Wife earns 1million and you earn N40000,
You the husband will still, pay for all the Bills in the House.

You see a woman and her family that has been killing a man slowly and all u could do, is to unveil stupidity.

You guys should apply wisdom when talking and its not all matters u must contribute your foolishness to.

letstalksense:
There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.

Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.

Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?

Pease what do you advise I do?

Thanks in advance.

This is a personal and individual differences issue here, WHAT DO U WANT US TO TELL U NOW?

Dagger111:
In 2016 she told me her salary was N35,000. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only N8,000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. N654,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. Her father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?”
I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked him, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”

My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Lastly she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money.
She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all.
She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a separation for a period, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.

What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt??

Stand strong and do what ONLY your heart tells u.
If u fail to man up and listen ONLY to your heart, depression awaits u and trust me; dat woman u call a wife and her family wud move on VERY fast without u. THAT WOMAN DON'T LOVE YOU, ITS A HARD PILL U NID TO SWALLOW,

The ONLY PROOF of genuine love is SACRIFICES and that is what u have been doing, despite being in rough times.

PLEASE STAY SAFE AND AVOID FOOLISH DECISIONS THAT WILL NOT BE IN YOUR FAVOUR.

gabbrri:
what your wife did was very bad but still better than her cheating on you... life is indeed a mystery

I doubt if u understand individual differences or read and understood wot O.P wrote.
If it were to be some men, that woman face for don swell with beating and slaps.

A woman knowing u are trying more than your BEST and still have the guts to put u through stress and unecessary hardship, is capable of KILLING U!, infact; she has been killing O.P, just that; THE MAN GET STRONG HEAD and that is worst than CHEATING.

Dannydrums889:
Hello Nairalanders

Happy Festive Season 🎊🎈🎉

As we all know that year (2023) is gradually coming to an end

So this year has been a great one to some people while some is "Let's just thank God" and some is the other direction

So tell us in one word how the year 2023 is to you

MINE: Is splendid and fabulous

So tell us your own

O.P, u said; one word and u went further to write 2.
Naija and breaking rules na 5 and 6.

My 2023-----God.

JohnNgene:
Fellow Nigerians, I used to buy this sugar N50 (fifty naira) but when I went to buy it today, the woman selling it told me that it is now N100 (one hundred naira).

E shock me o! That is why I said let me come to Nairaland and ask all of you if the price has changed in your area too.

What is really happening in Nigeria biko?

Bros, wot do u do with sugar?
I just hope its 4 a child or other puposes.

Sorry, i have to tell u this, the sugar in other things we consume daily is more than enough, every guy above 18, should try to STOP raw sugar totally.
That sugar u are holding, if u dash me 1 basket; i will give it back 2 u.

R.I.P.

Money couldn't save him.
Money couldn't save d Ekweremadus from jail.
Money couldn't save my millonaire late Uncle.
Billonaire like TB Joshua, his money didn't save him.

--And a lot of myopic adult fools keep shouting;
HAVE MONEY AND D REST NA +.

--MONEY DAT IS MAN MADE IS WOT A LOT OF FOOLS THINK WILL SAVE DEM, TIEING THEIR JOY TO, VERY SHAMEFUL---.

As i was typing, my Poweramp shuffled this jam out, listen and learn and change your view of life.

MackIV:
Please Help,

Good day Nlers, honestly I don't know where to start from, but I'd be brief as possible.

There's this young girl I'm dating and intended getting married to, I have gone to see her parent to make my intentions known. She has met my family as well.

History of how we met and started dating. She's in her 20s, a student in a private Uni in the South
.We were introduced by a cousin-sister of mine. In which We saw/met in lagos briefly as her parents live in Ikeja, Lagos, while I live in Surulere. At the early stage, while I return from work, i would drive to her parents house, we chill and hangout, Before she went back to school.
We continued communication, chatted and all. Shared deep conversation, secrets etc. Introduced me to course mates all of them knew me. She couldn't do without, Talking or Video calling me daily. If my number is unreachable, she would call my cousin-sister to know my where abouts or complain 1 or toos. We'd settle, we were inseparable. My parents observed I was always on Video Calls and started smiling much, because I would be in their place to chill to avoid traffic, before I head to my house.

Now the Dilemma, she came back from school this Christmas. I went to visit her, took her on a date/outing. After that, we went to my place to drop some stuffs.
Then we had sex, we already know we were gonna have sex, as we were already gonna get married already. Yeah, the sex wasn't the bomb, I was tired from work and outing, but the 1st and 2nd rounds duration was atleast 40 mins total. She was wet and creaming. After a while, She pushed me off and said she's tired and mood has gone.
We were still all in love, i come over to her place, we hangout and chill. The days I'd be off work, I'd tell her to come. She would give one excuse or the other.

Then, recently she sent me a text in the morning,
She can't get married to me or else she would be having extra marital affairs.
Haaa, my head burst. What did I do? She said she wasn't feeling me! Eh??!!

Immediately, I chatted about 2 exs, 2 hookup girls and a girl I disvirgined.

The 2 exs and the virgin, we all had a bad break up. Because I wasn't in love with any of them, I just wanted to knack that's all. When I was only handsome no cash, girls no dey like me like that. With cash, the girls started loving me, I felt any girl that liked me was about money. So I treated them bad.
1 of the Ex, said that she (my gf) doesn't love me, if not she will feel me. That I can knack well, she dey cum steady, if I remember when she used to tell me.

2. The other ex told me, that my girl might be wide down there. That my dick is OK, she feels it when we knack.

3. The hookup Girl:- She just said, Me na Knackerdemus. I no allow am rest. Small money wey i pay am, I wan kill an with fvck and she orgasm twice, say she no fit forget me.

The Virgin: was still angry, no reply. I used about 9 days to deflower her. Wasted many ky jelly etc

I did the tissue roll test, my dick struggles to enter the hole, but it enter when I force it.

So I forwarded the replies to her.

She got angry and started insulting me, that I am an idiot, bla bla bla etc

Me too i lost my home training, called her Borehole pu,ssy, how a young girl go get a wide pus'sy, When did she start having se,x ? Abortions, Too much Blue films
I HAVE ALL THE SCREENSHOTS, but for privacy.

I really love her, but I'm trying to move on. Right now, my head has been messed up.

I need your inputs, opinions.
I have tried messaging Sir Dickson and Agba to get a wider reach and opinion.

Thanks

Move to front page

Cc

More guys will keep falling victims till the end of time.

The fresh girls of these days have been destroyed with excess money and drug induced hard fvck a regular gentle man cannot give.

When a guy fails in his teens to hook a reasonable young love, The BEST option is to settle for 30+, The ones u guys call old newspaper (Born 1 or 2 pikin) and rest your life.

These days satisfying a 20yr girl, is EXTREMELY difficult (Bad guys don scatter dem with bad drugs).

ONE MISTAKE I KEEP REGRETTING IS LEAVING PREVIOUS GUD GIRLS because OF MANAGEABLE MISTAKES I WUD HAVE COPED WITH, GETTING A YOUNG, LOYAL FRESH GIRL THESE DAYS, IS VERY EXPENSIVE.
__They are the hotspot and big guys will tripple woteva u have to offer and if its svx, Lol.
if u see d way dis guys fvck mostly these young ones like Animals...

Princewill1:
This is a rebuttal of this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7936687/11-reasons-why-must-japa#:~:text=11.,life%20expectancy%20is%20very%20high.

DISCLAIMER:
There is a notion that once you present an anti-japa argument, you're automatically an agent working for the govt. I want to state here that I have never supported this Apc govt since their coming to power in 2015. My contrary opinion on japa stems from my detest of youths mass-migration for economic reasons. I see it as an act of cowardice and stupidity.

This is not just for Nigerians japaing alone. I'm also disgusted whenever I see pictures of thousands of able bodied Latino youths who are at the US-Mexico border begging to be allowed entry into the US. These youths coming to together to mass-migrate can also link-up to take back their country via any possible means. Because if their home countries were better, they won't be moving out enmass. One of the reasons why the citizens of the country you're japaing to often discriminate against you is because you have proven to be a weakling seeking an easy excape or an inferior who are incapable of fixing their problems.
The only mass-migration i support is if it's due to serious natural disaster or large scale political persecution like that of Israel-Palestinian conflict. Below are the 11 reasons why you shouldn't Japa from Nigeria.

1.) It's More Easier To Be A Dollar Millionaire/Billionaire In Nigeria:

There are millions of Nigerians in the diaspora who are supposedly living in the first world economy and are working in various fields of human endeavor. But it may interest you to know that non have ever made it into Forbes billionaires list. But those at home keep making the list back to back.
This is important to point out because wealth building is a crucial topic to every real man and majority of Nigerian men moving are doing so mainly due to financial reasons.
Truth is, Nigeria is the largest market in Africa and a developing economy. There are plenty of wealth to be created in a "developing economy" than in a "develop economy", that's why as you are trooping out, Chinese, Lebanese and Indians are trooping in. Nigerians are raising $20k-30k in this economy to Japa while average Americans can't boast of $10k in their bank accounts, they live check to check.

2.) African Communal Living:

Nigeria offers the African social support system that you won't find in the Western countries. You fit run into financial emergency, your family will gather to raise funds for you, if you child misbehaves outside elders go assist you to discipline the child before you return home, if your house is on fire the whole neighborhood will join hands in puting out the fire, if you're cooking late night and ran out of maggi, if you knock on your neighbor door, him go deliver you, if your co-tenant never see you for 2 to 3 days, he go knock for your door to check up on you. All these don't happen in your Japa destination. In the West, you fit dey sick and later kpai inside your room and stay there for over a month nobody go know until your body begins to the smell.

3.) There Is More Insecurity Abroad:

You are 7times more likely to be shot in any city in America than in Lagos. Almost every Western country has violent "Far-Right Groups" who are frustrated and bitter with their Govts for allowing influx of migrants to erode their society and culture. These groups are like a time bomb waiting to go off because they can easily turn violent by attacking migrants especially black people. The big truth is, insecurity especially in southern Nigeria is over-reported and amplified on social media. There are violent crimes in every country. The crime news you read on social media especially in South of the country is commiserate with our population. No one can pull out any data anywhere to show that crime rate in the South has reached an epidemic proportions as believed on social media. In fact if you ban social media for 1year in Nigeria and conduct an opinion poll on insecurity. You will be surprised that Nigerians will tell you that insecurity has reduced. Just recently, a govt minister was robbed on the highway in South Africa. If that were to happens in Nigeria, Japa will be trending in Nigeria for more than a week. Most Nigerians haven't seen a bokoharam militant before but bokoharam will attack a village in Borno State close to the border with Chad, someone living in Lekki will read the news online and tweet that he wants to Japa due to insecurity.

4.) Easy Access To Natural Foods:

Nigeria has abundant healthy cheap natural foods and it's even taken for granted here. The people in the abroad you wants to go are jealous of your menu. Unhealthy and disease-causing canned and processed foods are what you will end up to when you finally japa because you will pay through your nose to place your hands on any organic food there.

5.) Favourable Weather Condition Throughout The Year:

Nigeria has one of the best climate conditions you can find. We have no extreme weather here. No severe temperature, Tornado or Harricane. Weather conditions in your Japa destination can cause sudden emergency situations. It can sometimes cause a whole city to be evacuated.

6.) No Racism:

Truth remains that after you Japa, you and your family will at one point experience both subtle and harsh discrimination based on your skin color or accent and you will never integrate into the Western society not even in a million years. Black Americans that japaed 400yrs ahead of you are yet to be fully integrated and accepted, I don't know who is motivating you that you will be accepted fully or that your own case will be different.

7.) Nigeria Better On Raising Cultured Kids:

If as a Nigerian, you are cautious of how your kids will be raised, you better stay back home, because in the West, your kids doesn't belong to you. They belongs to the government and authorities there are free to teach and instill any idealogy they deem necessary. So don't be shocked if your 7yrs old son are taught how to switch gender or pronoun at school and given free lgtv literature with erotic images.

8.) Nigeria Better On Entertainment And Fun Activities:

You can fall into depression abroad due to loneliness and stress from doing multiple jobs but not in Nigeria. With little money in Nigeria, you can go partying and balling till dawn day in day out. You fit die onto enjoyment.

9.) No Weird Or Crazy New Culture:

Abroad will humble a deeply religious person who is against homosexuality to work as a caregiver for gay couples. You will be forced to embrace trans and gay people, feminism and made to reject polygamy. I doubt if men have rights in the West. You risk losing everything to a woman, this don't only apply to your wife. Even your long-term girlfriend who you are cohabiting with, can be given a share of assets after a breakup by the court. If a random woman accuses you of rape, the system will already treat you as a convict. I recently observed that premier league captain band is now decorated with pride colors (lgtv flag) to support the community. And you know what awaits any player that openly criticizes it or refuses to wear the band. He risk getting cancelled and he should kiss his footballing career a goodbye. They will use his punishment as deterrent to others. All these new crazy woke policies and behaviors are not practiced in Nigeria.

10.) Cost Of Living Is Cheaper:

Thousands of Americans and EU citizens are retiring like kings in South East Asia and South America ie Thailand, Indonesia, Mexico, Chile etc. You can look it up. Not that they don't love their home countries but because they are excaping the high cost of living in the West. Accommodation, transportation, education, local foods etc are still cheaper in Nigeria. The amount you will paid on a match-box apartment in London or New York can fetch you a year rent of 2bedrooms flat in a good location in any major Nigerian city.

11.) No Rat Race Or Extreme Taxation In Nigeria:

You will labour abroad for a month and the rigged system will use "high taxation, high cost of living and the scam credit system" to return everything back to the system in order for you to repeat the circle again. In a bid not to go homeless on the cold streets, and also to put food on your table, you have no other option than to keep repeating the circle until the time you will finish your term of slavery due to old age, then your children will start where you stopped and the circle continues.
Truth is, the entire world is controlled by the globalists in the West, the further away you're from the West and it's entanglements the freer you will become. If the 1% elite in the West removes the rigging in the system you will be able to secure enough bags and retire early. But they stands to lose if people starts excaping the system early, they need your manpower for longer period of time to maintain their industries and establishments. This explains why the more income you earn there, the more rediculous taxes you pays because the system is continously gauging you and the tax system (one of it's tools of control) is strictly and heavily guided, defaulters risks jail term. The system was programmed in a way that you will never get enough in order not for you to start thinking of excaping the slave camp early until you finish your term of slavery.
This is one of reasons why rich and exposed Nigerians don't fancy living abroad. Even most African ex-footballers returns home immediately after the end of their career in Europe. An average Nigerian coming from lack, hunger and extreme poverty and who is daydreaming of Japa won't be able to see this anomaly. Living in Nigeria will provide you the opportunity to excape Matrix.

If u fail to mention the fact that;
Nigeria politicians have condemn the past, present and future of the country and it is wiser to secure your life and posterity is saner climes, then u have said NOTHING!.

Rubyjade:
Erase this mentality from your head
Na who get money dey save gang
Na who dey alive dey plan gang
Chop life tomorrow no sure gang

Thank u.
u won.

IyaTola:
Following this thread https://www.nairaland.com/7947584/whats-greatest-achievement-2023, it important we start making plans for 2024 because who fails to plan, is planning to fail.

What's your goal for 2024?
Me:
👍 I intend to save $1700 by October 2024
👍 Start a business by November 2024
👍Get married in 2024

I intend ONLY to be alive!.
NA WHO DEY LIFE DEY PLAN.

Pelumisamuel:
must you drag tribalism in to this

MUST u reply idiots?
Look all d kids saying thrash above, d BEST answer is to laugh and pity their ignorance.

Posting reasonable threads on NL, is very pointless.

NA CHILDREN AND PIPO WEN DEY WORK WITH EMPTY BRAINS FULL HERE NOW, DIS IS NOT D NL I ONCE ENJOYED

LooneyLester:
Take sniper , just a sip just do for you

Na mumu really full here...

And d fool go think say; I DEY EVER WASTE MY QUOTES😆

Obainoman6:
Poor men will always look for excuse not to hustle, oya now remain sane and remain poor.

Fools like u are the reason this country will remain backward.
QUOTE MY ASS, COS MY HANDS ARE 2 BUSY TO QUOTE FOOLS.

Dubetex96:
I appreciate your kind thoughts currently I'm have been applying for jobs hoping to get soon. once again I appreciate for your concern

God is d greatest,
Believe in his PLAN and TIME🙏

Dubetex96:
I'm passing through this stage now praying to come out stronger. it has not been easy i pray to God every day to uplift any unnecessary burden in my life

I went through your post, about you looking for a job.

Please bro, take up a private school teaching job, it will make u to know people and get connected through home lessons, I went through thhat route and i am enjoying the people i connected with.

Please, if u intend getting a job faster because its clear you dont have a big connection; START A TEACHING JOB, SQUEEZE YOURSELF AND APPLY FOR PGDE, u will get jobs faster in the teaching profession and settle yourself for life.

Start the process of PGDE, don't be scared about funds, it would shock u that; HELPERS WILL COME.
A lot of helpers just like seeing seriousness, before helping.

GOD IS WITH U🙏

LikeAking:
If you no get squad problem, if you get squad problem..

Life is complicated

Test your squad.
Sometimes, pretend about a lot of things going wrong for a long period and you will definitely see their true colours.

Dubetex96:
I'm passing through this stage now praying to come out stronger. it has not been easy i pray to God every day to uplift any unnecessary burden in my life

TIME (same thing as God's design) is the ONLY thing u should put your hope.

There is NOTHING, impossible provided u are still alive.

Lonestar124:
You can still make money, and pretend like you have gotten nothing in order to find a true love..

That is very correct.

Evolutionism:
Well it's okay.

But i can confidently tell you that what you experienced is directly the effect of the ill in the society.

Yes as you said we have many good people. But are they many like that of Saudi Arabia, The west and others. Although these nations have bad people and their shortcomings too but it's minimal.

What can you say to a boss of a nigerian company riding a luxury car while his workers moves on bare foot?? What can you say to a boss of a company living in bungalow while his aides lives in face me i slap you while they are even struggling to pay their rents?? Same thing with the politicians. There is more to say but i'll stop here.

The truth is your experience will keep happening to people in a nation like Nigeria because they see it as norm believe me.

Until Good people surpass the evil people. Things like this won't stop happening.

I wish you all the best.

You are VERY correct, One reason why i priorities living the rest of my life in reasonable countries.
A lot of stories i hear about people in reasonable coutries is awesome. Their empathy, kindness and love, is jaw dropping.

Only in a stupid country like this bosses owe you your own salary you survive with, yet they go to ceremonies and larvish money, go to churchies and see people donating just to impress and oppress others, while a lot of them are owing their drivers common 30k.

MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS MY BOSS (outside my Job) THAT MAN IS TOO GOOD TO BE A NIGERIAN.
Imagine having more than 30 people i know aside the ones i don't even know, on his charity payroll.

Evolutionism:
Wait aren't you one of the people who usually support the government of Nigeria. Your Monica looks very familiar, You have an old one with MS something, I can't really remember.

Everything you posted here are what someone of us here who have seen Shege in life have experienced. So they aren't new to me. That's why i usually marvel when i see you guys supporting the government of this nation. Most Nigerians will not condemn evil until it personally happens to them. In as much as they are thriving, They will turn a blind eye to the woes of the nation.

Nigerians are generally evil people. There is nothing anyone can tell me. The country was built on evil to thrive. I have been through hell in the hands of Nigerians.

Only very few Nigerians are humans with kindness and sympathy.

Sir, i don't and can NEVER support politicians or get involved in it.

Any post i make relating to politics, was or will be on a NEUTRAL ground. THE TRUTH IS BITTER and i am not scared to say it ANYWHERE, ANYTIME.

Sir, there are lots of good Nigerians out there but my problem with people that inspired this post is that of ; BACKBITTING, BACKLASHING and EVIL GOSSIPING in order to spoil you, Anyone possesing these characteristics is capable of killing, i am grateful for life because; these were people i was very good and open to.

Lovemeharder:
This is a beautiful piece.

Thanks.
Please u guys should have at least, one person that is capable of standing strong with you through hard times, IT WILL HELP A LOT.

CooldipoMPS:
This is a very encouraging post!

🙏

VeeVeeMyLuv:
@ MSN1

The people who turned their backs on you, let you down on your wit's end, were they materialistic? Vain?

Kindly list their characteristics here, so that we will learn.

Then compare with those who stood by you through thick and thin.

Nobody is perfect as i have disappointed a lot too, forgiveness is vital in ALL relationships.
BACKBITTING, BACKLASHING and EVIL GOSSIPING to pull down is something i rate as top class qualities of an evil person.

Someone that looks at you and say, I know you are not ok, even when you tell them you are, someone that can go into hot fire to pull you out, are qualities of people one should NEVER toil with.
Hope you have that kind of person?, If No, please do.

As for details of occurrences;
Sorry, its against my ethics to discuss the good i have done for people.

PoliteActivist:
*Politeness*

Well, you learnt a lesson everyone learns sooner or later: PEOPLE DISAPPOINT!
So, know this in advance and plan accordingly. How about if you were a parent who loved, sacrificed for, and raised a child only for them to not care at all about your sorry ass??

Yea, i am happy i knew this very early in my life.
I am super happy for this lesson and i thank God for having 1 Angel in my life, She is the reason I STILL HAVE THE COURAGE TO BREATH.
Hope you have som1 that can enter into fire to pull you out?
If you don't, please do. Because; unconditional love; is the sweetest thing on earth.

Initially, I blamed myself for financial carelessness and I accepted a lot of backlash from a lot but ALL WAS TO TEACH ME THIS GREAT LESSON.

Myer:
Now playing Billing by Spyro ft Davido.
I'm happy for you. Your eyes have open.
Truth is do what you can to assist people but don't expect them to reciprocate.
We all need people but not squads. Just the right circle of people across age, gender, profession.
And you may need to test their loyalty in little things.

But most importantly, and I'm glad you figured this out yourself, please determine to do 2024 solo.
And spend it building a relationship with God to Know who you are in Christ and rededicate your life to Him.
Every thing begins to fall in place for you.
The right effects of people will qlso start coming your way.

Note: You will like wise meet evil people in churches cos most Nigerians as evil as we are, we belong to a church or mosque. So don't go there for friendship either. Go there to know Christ and build a relationship with God through the Holy Spirir. Please ensure you're baptised in the Holy Spirit.
There's so much about life that starts making sense to you once that journey is started.

Seek ye first rhe kingdom of God and His righteousness, all other things will be added to you. Matthew 6:33

God bless you and have a favored 2024.

Thanks.
About closeness to God; God is my everything and i always strive to do his will and i wish and will upgrade my closeness to him, because; he alone can do all things.

I am not saying i have NEVER offended or cheated my friends or close ones but if it were to be offences, it would have been better, as i know; WE ARE ALL SINNERS AND IMPERFECT but; For people you could pass through fire to make them smile, to be BACK BITTING, DOUBLE CROSSING and BACKLASHING you, is EXTREMELY PAINFUL.

One big difference between the rich and poor is; The rich know and follow process, while the poor always want to bypass it.

A rich man knows; planting a seed would definitely yield fruits within a period of time, but poor people believe in planting and harvesting now.

Take a good look at MOST of the rich people, politicians and big business gurus you see today, they all started from somewhere far below where they are, but with TIME and CONSISTENCY, they got to greater heights.

Someone once said to me; "If I tell you how I got this big, you will not even dare pass through my path"(good not evil path).

Looking back to the sacrifices I have made, the struggles, risks and narrow escapes that brought me where I am today, I just pity those that envy, jealous and wants to be me. Because MAJORITY of the good odd things i have done to get this far, A LOT WILL NEVER AGREE TO DO IT.
Its only a foolish person that compares his/her 1 step to somebody's 20 steps.

My life is a big testimony today, because; Even if i am not rich or comfortable, but in my early 30's when a lot of my age mates are still struggling to find their way;
I CAN BODLY SAY, BY GOD'SPOWER; I HAVE DEFEATED POVERTY AND LACK OF BASICS IN MY LIFE, TILL THE DAY I LEAVE THIS WORLD.
-Thanks 2 God-🙏

Most Governors today, started as Local Govt. chairmen before they grew.

Most big establishments today, started as a shop.

Read the story of Messi, Eisten, Ronaldo, A. Lincoln, and our celebrities and you will know; The reason you think you are not progressing is the fact that; YOU ARE OVER STRESSING, OVER COMPARING and LOOKING DOWN ON YOURSELF.

I used to have a late uncle that started life as a local electrician, living in a room with his wife (my aunt) this man was someone that could barely feed but once upon a time, late Nigga got contract and later appointment with shell.
This man died a millionaire, with lots of money he didn't even knew what to do with.

ALL gurus in different fields, were once FAILED LEARNERS.
Failure is a VERY essential part of growth. Erase it out of your life, then you can NEVER progress.

In life, EVERYTHING takes time and process. The day you fail to acknowledge this; is the day you start a journey of self disruption and failure ProMax.

Without knowledge of simple A, B, C, D; no one would have known how to spell simple BALL, not to talk of making simple sentences.

-Stay calm and follow the process, sucess is reserved ONLY for those that master TIME and PROCESS--

A child that came from 10th--5th-- 3rd--2nd and 1st position is far better than the child that came out 1st , all through schooling, BE WISE.