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tychee69:
@ na2day: you are right about a woman earning your affection. There was a debate in my office two days ago about an issue similar to this. A lot of married women corroborated the theory that women need to be controlled. One of them was recounting how she is demanding of her husband ,  After much probing , I discovered that he was the extremely caring and doting type. So dude when you are told to count your teeth , don't use your fingers.

But as for her Vals day is d-day

i hear u brother, go drop that bomb shell on Sunday, hopefully nobody dies in the process  

Amigoz:
wow!! one sore val day for someone . . . . . .shame

shame why and how?

THE AMAKA:
[color=#ff00cc]been doing that since. . . you're right though. . .*back to what i was doing* [/color]

abt time too

Sisi Eko:
Can u possibly marry someone you dont Trust but yet you Love?
You dont trust the person to do right by you but yet you love them.
A huge question that has been on my mind.

after seeing ur profile pic, i gotta say yes, that is a woman that can do no wrong even if i dont trust her

camelot:
@ poster

don't u think our bad economy is responsible for this

cant u girls respond to a thread with a little more common sense than this bull u just spite? the fact the economy is bad, does it justify why ppl become armed robbers?

Taken:
age 0, cant get enof from all the girls that saw me!

classic! ! !

tychee69:
@ poster, I agree with 199% because control is essential in any relationship. It is the person that is less emotionally committed to a relationship that controls the relationship. I am learning from my own experience. I am a rude boy who don't commit. I changed and decided to show my sensitive side because I wanted to truly love someone with my whole heart. At first everything was wonderful u know , but I regret it now, This chic is taking me for granted. I have made up my mind to withdraw from the skool of love rocks to the skool of hard knocks, I am breaking up with her on vals day and i'am going out with someone else, I have finally realised that ladies don't like nice guys, They all need the stimulation of being subjected to a form of restraint. Women , on realising that you are soft, would want to step over you, You help her out in the kitchen occasionally, one day ll come she ll direct u to cook dinner.
I'm sick of this bull.sh**.

lol, val's day? now thats a killer but u are damn right, nice guys dont count and this i had learned the hard way so all that talk abt being nice to a woman, i have long thrown out the window, if she wants something nice she gotta earn it just like i did

whitesturd:
wel well well.first of all, u said i have bad taste i dont ve bad tast most guys pretend to be the exact opposite of what dey are til u start dating dem den dey start flashing their true colors so basically wen we started dating,didnt see all the traits.

secondly.most girls cheat cos of wot dyve been 2ru in the hands of our so called men so wud like to say that guys are actually the pace setters and we girls are trying to follow or wud i rather say catch up.

well if u had good judgement u will be able to tell the fakers but i guess bcuz u are one of the gullible ones, u preferred the lies and the showmanship then later cry boo hoo, spare us! as for girls cheating, it is in their DNA. the fact ur house got robbed dont mean u too shld become an armed robber. i guess karma knew who u really are and had an early start on u

THE AMAKA:
[color=#ff00cc]^^^
who cares what chiogo said or didn't say. get out of her business.[/color]

and mind urs!

[quote author=TOPE2000! link=topic=397001.msg5500026#msg5500026 date=1265966030]If some women keep their legs crossed to . . . . . . maybe the infidelity will decrese [/quote]1st thing u have said that makes sense in a really long long time

Ujujoan:
Exactly! Sometimes I can't help but blame the girls that date the married men. I mean if all married men knew they would be getting 'it' except frrom their wives, they'll act better. But before you say 'Jack Robinson' there's already one sexy girl like that winding and shaking in front of your man . . .

I always tell any married man that hits on me, 'you can't eat your cake and have it' . . . . You chose to marry abi, then deal with the whole one-woman thing that comes with it.

But like Abekeade08 said, God will help that man that calls himself my hubby and cheats on me! By the time I'm through with him, he'll wish he never met someone like me . . .

story! na ur type too dey cry pass. as for dealing with the one woman thing, sha na u want expert sex lord, he may just want to polish his skills with other women so that he can give u the best always and not slack. how dem talk abt again, "practice makes perfect" and it is perfectly ok to share ideas with other ppl on his road to perfection

jmoore:
i am 24 year plus and still a virgin and i must marry a virgin bride. it is unfortunate most girls here do not want to marry a virgin, thats shows bad character and lack of knowledge. it further shows that there are few virtous ladies. about being experienced in intimacy? who taught adam and eve how to have intimacy? it is an instinct,by the time both of you are unclothed on the bed something must happen. this instinct can be compared to a baby sucking a bosom, who taught a baby how to suck a bosom? no one. if you want to marry by experience, then go and marry a love-peddler

dont mind dem jare, i am supporting ur good cause

chiogo:
I don't remember ever saying I was or wasn't anything.
Ain't you supposed to be 'retired'?

i will retire once this yeye snow melts away and i can move freely and not being stuck up in the house. do u have a problem with that? and yes u said u were a virgin.

Mhismole:
you saint?? thats not how i rmbr you last night, dont wori love, the more the merrier.

ssssh! beta keep it on the down low, u dont wanna bring down the house do u? but seriously, i dont share my women

platinumnk:
** hugs Ibkaye and plants a soft kiss on her cheek** 

This is like Lagos getting snow. I woke up to a blizzard 

welcome to my world, 2 days i cant go out and i had to now soak garri with my water supply running low, no thanks to this yeye snow. Tomorrow by fire by force i will head out b4 i die of hunger

djojo:
I have been on this thought about the qualities of a good wife and what must a man or guy look before saying he want to marry a lady.
ladies and guys in the house i want serious reply

kinda simple, anything u dont see on NL gotta be good

tai2:
I used to be like many of the whiners here on Nairaland, “Oh I'm so in love with this babe but she's treating me badly, what do I do? what do I do?”. That was a long time ago and now I am wise and believe me I learnt from the school of hard knocks, this women dealt with me mercilessly until I actually sat down  to analyze them and their ways and figured out the language they speak. If you think maintaining a woman is about excess love, showing affection, kindness, forgiveness, religion and all that bullsh*t, you're dead wrong, treat a woman too good, she will find an excuse to leave ( “I was once dumped by a chick who later told her friend, I was 'too nice'.”). But they will stay with an “omo rapala” that mistreats them day after day after day.


Even fellowship girls are still tempted by young men of the world and leave their fellow fellowship brothers to look for bad boys to convert. They are never satisfied with a squeaky clean good man. To them every guy that is too good is a nuisance.  Even the ones that are married have only calmed down and become good in order to trap a husband that offers them security or at least a husband that has managed to figure out their buttons. Be wise, young men, be wise.

Maintaining women of all shapes ages and sizes is all about control and remaining in control. The moment you lose control, you lose yourself and a woman will ride you till the very end. Some people say all sorts of rubbish, “Oh my woman is not like that, she's different”, all that one na story, Eve betrayed Adam, Delilah betrayed Samson, so who on earth is your woman that she won't act like those that came before her?

There are different levels of control, there is no control, artificial control and true control. No control is the default situation most guys fall into. They love a woman and believe everything she says in the heat of passion ”I'll never ever leave you”, “I can't wait to marry you” etc etc, and deceive themselves into overconfidence and over love. A no control guy does not know how to tell his babe no and is always apologizing even when it is not his fault. When they start exhibiting too much attention and love, the chick gets bored and starts looking for “rude boys” somewhere. Then her mind starts wavering and she starts telling you “I need space”, “I'm confused”. When you hear these words you're in trouble.

Unfortunately most young guy today no dey hear word and they will start reminiscing about the sweet nothings the babe told them when the going was good and continue to misbehave and show over love and over affection. Meanwhile one bad guy fit dey comb the babe for corner somewhere. In the end the chick leaves and the guy is in a wreck, crying, complaining to his friends begging etc and at that point the girl no go wan hear again, anything you're saying is a waste of time. A chick will bring up some of the dumbest excuses when she wants to dump you. She might regret leaving you later but all that one na Tales By Moonlight what matters is the wrecked condition she will leave you in at that moment.


The next level of control is artificial control. Artificial control works a lot in Nigeria today, and people exercise this level of control primarily by having money. This is what the so called big boys and sugar daddies use to maintain their babes. Some poor guys starving on their pocket money and University allowances even try to maintain this level of control to their own downfall. With artificial control a girl might screw around but will not really leave you until she finds another guy with better control than you. The best way to use artificial control is ruthlessly, if you have money and control them with money make sure you take no crap from them or else they will turn you to a MUGU and you fall into the no control category even though you have money.

Remember money is relative. Some guy has more than you somewhere. Some guys exercise artificial control through other means as well, such as being older, being in a bigger office, better school, living in a bigger house etc. Until the chick meets someone with better control she will not leave but always remember you are in control and use it to your advantage. Don't boast about it though as they really hate it when you point out that the reason they are with you is because of artificial control ( even though we know its true). All those threads written by sacked bankers on Nairaland who have lost their babes are a result of the artificial control category. Control go, babe go.

Guys without money should remember this ( University boys open your eyes) the moment you start spending to maintain control, you will never stop and this is a problem when you do not have money  so students, graduate trainees and people without money should avoid money artificial control as much as possible. You will only wreck yourself financially, because they will only get greedier and you will find out you cannot keep up and she will use the money you have used to better her looks, wardrobe and her life to find a replacement for you. They always want to upgrade. If you have money to spend it is okay to use artificial control just make sure you do it in a responsible way, not in a way chicks will use “MUGU”  to replace your name on their phones.


The last control category is true control. Maintain this level of control and you are the true guru. You are the Don Juan, the guy women trip and fall down for regardless of whether or whether not. The true control man is in control of EVERYTHING. He will not chase a babe he cannot control or who he knows will want to lord over him. Before he spends his money on a woman he makes sure that she knows who is in control and spends his money sparingly, in fact she might spend more than him.  If she tells him she is in her male corpers friends house sleeping because she does not have light he laughs and tells her “I hope he knows how to screw well, I know you're probably lonely”.  It might pain him inside but you will never see it, because he knows that if she finds out he is jealous he is finished, if she feels he is not jealous, she will correct herself and find call him 20 times a day to make sure he truly loves her.


The guy who shouts at his babe and tells her what sort of nonsense is that ( why should she sleep in Mr Corper-With-Generator's house) is maintaining artificial control, she will tell him she won't do it again and do it the next day and for the next 10 months, and get combed mercilessly by Mr. Corper-With-Generator and his colleagues. It takes 10 minutes for a quickie and that place does not have a gauge you will use to measure  who did and did not do when she comes back. Artificial control men and no control men should take note.

In fact most of the accomplished true control guys have barricaded their hearts a long time ago. They show affection strategically and when a chick leasts expects it. They are not always complete bast@rds, they will send flowers and call a babe to check on how she is doing but they do it strategically and sparingly. Too much of ice cream and chocolate is not good. Too much visiting of woman is not good. Calling her more than she calls you is an equally silly idea. If she calls twice call once. What bothers other guys does not bother men of true control. Even if they love a chick they will never show it more than the chick shows it. They say I love you three times a year. This sort of guy might love a chick but still screw one or two around to ensure that he remains in control of his senses.

intimacy is intimacy, love is a different kettle of fish. intimacy helps you keep things in perspective. Screw one woman too much, you might become silly and lose control. Fidelity is over rated my brothers, you can love a woman but don't confuse it with being faithful.  If she suspects you are screwing outside, thats okay for them, just make sure you're never caught and she only suspects, suspicion is good, it keeps her on her feet, she knows she can be replaced. When she sees that text message on your phone, tell her “you are the only one for me “ and buy enough “ chocolate and flowers” and then leave her to think. But NEVER keep two chicks, you should have one chick and the occasional ones you are chopping outside to maintain perspective and self-control, that way you won't create unnecessary problems for yourself. If you are not on the financial capability of Atiku Abubakar, polygamy is a bad idea. If you can retain control without screwing outside, fine for you. But the day your woman is caught screwing outside, you will feel seriously cuckolded and feel like a fool.

A true control guy will NEVER date a woman he cannot control. A woman who does not respect you is one you have no control over, these women do not understand equality, look at the divorce rate in America ! A true control guy has ALL control but he never uses money to control too much. He never makes it about money or how much he has. Most true control guys have more money than the women they control, other much more skilled true control guys may have less money but always make sure that she knows who is boss. Because once you let a women who's money is longer than yours gain control, you are finished.  A true control guy also has koboko control ( meaning he knows how to give it to her in bed, if you do not know better learn by hiring a skilled Pay As You Go or else she will leave you for the first Mr. Magic Stick). In fact koboko control is way better than money control. Look at Kimora Lee Simmons and Djimon Honsou, you go no say na koboko dey at work, no be by fine face or too much money. ( No offense to Russel Simmons but he had artificial control).

A true control guy also has fashion control, he knows how to dress and be neat ( it might not be the most expensive stuff he wears but he looks smart and neat always, he has fashion sense). A true control guy also knows how to tell his babe no and stick to his no. They rarely say “I'm sorry” and always make a chick laugh or some other tactic to avoid using those words. A chicks friends will beef this sort of guy in public and on forums like Nairaland  and berate their friends for dating him but will secretly dream of screwing him. It even helps when the guy acts nice to the chicks friends, but not too nice (as in we are all age-mates level,  respect must be maintained at all costs, chicks know how to disrespect a guy who plays with them too much). All men should strive to attain true control. True control will give you peace of mind and undying attention.

Be wise, my brothers be wise, enough of these tears on Nairaland. These days more men come here to complain than women. This is a war we have to win at all costs. For the sake of the male reputation. For more advice, I am here all week. Remember I have been beaten before but I am now wise, I exercise true control now and take no nonsense from them. If you let them bring you down they will finish you and your village people will say it is the work of juju and your uncles and aunties.

I see u read one of my books

[quote author=Tink_sh link=topic=396243.msg5491297#msg5491297 date=1265843043]Poster,  wow!!! It must be rough being this bitter and twisted!!! And some guys wonder why they cant find a decent woman with this attitude! What a lot of dribble!!!

Just a tip, us women have a way to make you think you are in control but we are the ones pulling the strings, lol!!!! The joke is on you!!![/quote]oh we got all that down and pinned in the right places, we know how to turn that joke around, trust us

Mhismole:
oh honey, you'r cheating on me too now

me cheat on u? dont u remember i am a saint? where did that kind talk come from?

whitesturd:
objection my lord.my conclusion is based on wot ive been 2ru which im very sure almost all girls wud agree with me on on but urs is more like just an opinion.

i counter object to ur objection. ur experience is just an infinitesimal part of a larger system on which i belong to, so the fact u have a bad taste and even a more terrible judgment in picking a mate does not imply u know the male gender and if u can imply that it simply means i can imply the same, after all, females came out of males and if the male produces deceit it only will be logical that the female produces same and i have a ton of example to show u on that

whitesturd:
I beg to disagree with you.wrong conclusion.

really? so ur conclusion for some reason is the right one? i strongly beg to differ big time

agathamari:
i said depends on circumstance. example: my neighbor accused his wife of being a love-peddler- that deserves a slap.
another neighbor slaps her husband for not waking up quickly enough when she calls him - that is not deserved

neither cases will slapping her back though acomplish anything

yes, slapping her really really hard will accomplish alot and i need to talk to ur neighbor asap!

H2O2:
One good slap deserves another.

thank u my brother

whitesturd:
can u blame me wot is good for the goose is also good for the gander .gud u now know wot the female gender is all abt.lol

me blame u? no ooooo, just coming to the same conclusion u did, that the female gender is one of deceit. thanks for sharing

THE AMAKA:
[color=#ff00cc]what i said wasn't referring to chiogo.[/color]

THE AMAKA:
[color=#ff00cc][size=30pt]VIRGIN, VIRGIN, VIRGIN!!!![/size]
@na2day? na wa for you oooo. [/color]

wetin i do nau? i thot she was a virgin, so i didnt expect to see her in a virgin blasting thread