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Omo the things people do in Nigeria

nicej2:
Dear Nairalanders, i am not really good posting my issues online. But this time i need your advise.

I have been married for 9 years now and my sister inlaw has been living with us( I, my wife and the kids) for the past 6 years now, although I am not always around.
I have never imagine any negative thoughts toward her. I always see her like my younger sister, i have been taken care of her. She is 28 years old and I can't really says if she have a boyfriend cos I haven't see one around her. She is a boss in her working place but yet i foots all her bills in the house without bothering anyone, including my wife that is also a boss .Until of recent she started wearing seductive clothes around the house, Some how i started developing feelings for her As if she knows, she continues wearing those clothes and started showing more caring towards me.
I can't believed that i am having feelings for my sister inlaw cos i am a disciplined man to the core. Even during university days girls do come to my apartment passed a night without molesting them. I am well brought up. But is like that disciplined man in me started degenerating as i began to see this girl in my dreams.
There was a night i returned from travelled, i started feeling the urge to go to her room. My wife almost cought me that night cos we lives in 3 bedroom, I have my own room, my wife have her own and my sister inlaw have her own room. So we sleep in separate rooms except some occasions my wife decided to stay in my room. That night i was pimping through her door. I have been trying to control my feelings and I believed the reason why I have not sleep with her is because i am not always around and I also the fear of traditions implications of sleeping with sister inlaw . And my wife is not helping matters, she can leave both of us alone in d house and go to all night church program and the children will be sleeping.

I don't really know what to do. Should I tell my wife so that we can get her accommodation or just let the sleeping dog be. Though I don't really want her to leave cos is my wife and the children are alone in the compound. I just want to kill that urge before I return from travel.

Sorry for the long episode ..😀

Oga don't listen to the devil, the only solution if for you to kill that urge..

Jennyclay:
The man is a rapist and a Murderer.

The man raped and murdered the lady in cold blood.

Why are Nigerian men so evil and heartless

Omo there's nothing in your brain again, what if it's something else

leaving your comfort zone is really very vital, I'm just too sure you guys will make it

Nigerian is fantastically corrupt, I can imagine how much has been embezzled already from that money

Kobojunkie:
Gambling is not a sin. It is instead a mental illness and most gamblers already aware of their problem by the time they become adults. Prayer does not heal gambling instead a change of lifestyle, and a commitment to it does. If Prayer was the key to gambling, then the millions of gamblers who attend your churches should have been free from it by now.

Also, it is wickedness when a gambler goes on to marry and then afflict other human beings, including children, with his burden. That is not love but wickedness. This man is not a victim.

Wouldn't even advise my enemy to venture into gambling

Dearlove2me:
The truth is right now, I feel like going somewhere for a while. I feel like I need rest. Somewhere I can forget about all my problems and breathe a fresh air.
My husband has not been honest with me since the beginning of this marriage and I doubt if this is an attitude of a man that loves

He has always been in debt even before I married him. and he wouldn't let me know what he do with the money he keeps borrowing from people. Even my friends I introduced to him, he is owning them and can't pay back.

The bad side is, he borrows and stop picking their calls not respond nicely to them.
He behalves badly to them.
I'm suspecting he's into some kind of addiction that demands money. Maybe gambling but he wouldn't tell me.
He's constantly on his phone.

He is owning loan app everywhere. To the extent that the app had to send hurrible messages to his contact's lists including his bosses, office colleagues and my relatives.
It's so embarrassing and tiring.
He has apologized several times that I should give him time to work on himself to stop an addiction, but he refused to explain what it is. Claiming that I might leave him if I know.
But he has not changed abit.
We are always hungry in this house. No baby food for my 6months old baby, no pampers and everything is total struggle. I quit my job last year but I'll soon start job search once my baby grow a little.
In this house, If I don't look for food, then, we starve, I don't look for means of getting pampers, food, wears,then my baby will suffer, because his daddy is not capable of providing anything for us. It's so annoying.

I have dreams before I married him, but right now, I feel lost. There's no romance, no love, no affection in this marriage anymore, as I wouldn't even let him touch me because of the stress, suffer he constantly brings on us.

Money I raised to start up a business, (340k) I ended up using it to pay for his debt last two months because the people were always coming to embarrass us in the house and neighbors were coming to pleade on our behalf. I had to clear up the loan, yet he couldn't explain what he did with the money.
With that start up capital, I would have been growing by now, but here I am. Still at the zero point.

I'm really tired
I'm so confused here.
What should I do?
What would you advise?

Madam am not married, but your husband is going through what we call chronic gambling addiction, have been in that shoe, am still struggling to come out of it completely, one needs discipline, commitment, financial prudency, planning, openess n maybe lastly prayers, gambling is indeed a sin

Feggie3:
Why are you congratulating a criminal that stole billions of naira openly?

it's my choice to congratulate him

chaloskyx:
He is only good to his political class and his family member you on the other hand are road kill just like the rest of the illiterate's and poverty stricken unemployed Nigerians you case is hopeless for the next 8 years enjoy

hmmmm you don't mean it

Congratulations Eti Agwo, you're a good man indeed.

they like the man

Invalid Vote, Vote were cross line

Yeah my Home, but we the good people of Abak likes Akpabio but we don't want APC

yoruba people and betrayal is are 5 and 6

Jennyclay:
Broke men are the most shameless people living on earth. I'm allergic to broke and wretched men. I hate broke men like Kilode!

How can you sue a lady because of ordinary 3k transport . Shame!! Big shame!!

I was jejely on my own, when one broke wretched man wanted to send me 5k, biko what can I do with 5k ? I just told him to hold his nonsense 5k to himself, then I blocked him immediately.

Broke men everywhere!

I can imagine how broke your father is, then i can imagine how broke you are,

LilMissRobbie:
If those redpill hooligans see this your post ehn, they will finish you o

that's their business, i don't live my life for people, I live for myself and do what suits me, wen i will die i will die alone, so why should I care abt what they think

LilMissRobbie:
12. SUPPORTING A BED-WETTING KLEPTOMANIAC

Sweetie wouldlove to personally chat you up on whatsapp, so i get more details on this your point, cos it seems you've had an experience from your expression,

no more banditry
fuel is cheap
herdsmen is our friend
bail is free
light is steady
no more kidnappings
food is cheap
government shares money
employment opportunities everywhere u go
APC, PDP, LP are all brothers and sisters
No more tribalism, nothing like he's calabar, he's igbo, he's hausa, he's yourba

what is this idiot still saying

hmmmmm

Jaylite10:
Please guys I need urgent and mature response to this issue.

I am a graduate and currently working as a real estate broker in Abuja.

Recently a friend of mine who happened to be my brother in-law told me of a job offer in portharcourt at a company( an international company persay) who were ready to pay him in dollars every week.

The problem was that he has to pay N650k for international working documents, dollar account and other stuffs to commence training.

I don't know what happened next, I later heard he's there already and he wants to create opportunity for me too.

So he requested for my details which I sent to him. Lately yesterday he called telling me I was confirmed for the job replacement and I also have to pay N650k to get the job.

I didn't say anything to him yet aside telling him I'll get back to him.

I'm having a double feeling about this seeing the fact that this is someone I know in person, that's why I brought it here.

Thank you guys!

Run ooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

what about Buhari, were them put him name

is this a question, go for the 300k joor

nothing

wickedness

loyalist

yes ooo my brother, you have some more than napoleon

God forbid affliction the second time

Abeg i have watched this comedy over and Over again there's absolutely nothing wrong compared to what they did to Goodluck johnathan

He's very stupid, idiot, Lazy useless man, till now hasn't seen the need to pay Nigerian civil servants their salary with the kind of hardship they're going through, you're opening your smelling mouth to talk about Christmas, what does he knw abt Christmas, it it was to be salah he would have paid salary like 4 days to the salah, tribal and religious bigot..

After they've spent 430 million dollars on Consultancy