Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

You have a husband who really don't want to hurt your feelings. The request is weird and crazy but maybe you need to find out how to cook to his taste. Also, those two buddies at work are not married to you, they are getting awoof food and won't complain. You should also get the ewa for him before he even ask for it. Seeing that before asking for is good for both of you. I bet there are things you do that piss him off too but that's why you are in marriage.

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Customer is always right my foot!
The man lost everything when he touched and hit the lady.
I am raising my daughter to be able to defend herself at all times.

I may not be dangote or Emir Sanusi but I am looking for him too.

He is an amazing talent who need support and encouragement.

Please share his contact here so others can reach out and support him.

At least, he is a zillion times better than some losers out there looking to kill or scam others.

This is not a bad news at all.
The current INEC chairman should be on notice as well.
At some point, those who steal should face the consequence here on earth and in hell

I feel his pain. Nigerian workers are among the most underappreciated and insulted in the world.

The same bosses who ask you to burst your bubble from 6am to 8pm will close their eyes when it's time to pay you.
I have to assist a cousin who get up at 5am and return around 8.35pm on a monthly salary of 60k.
Ironically she works in a freaking bank and spend everyday counting huge amount of money.

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thesicilian:
These are some of the negative aspects of tradition that we should do away with. It's not about tribe or religion, but using education and public enlightenment to deliberately liberate the people from mental slavery.

I beg to differ. Tell me what is wrong with the tradition? Did she tell you that she was forced into what she was doing?
If you were the only son and die, what do you expect your mother to do? Who will take care of her when she gets older?
There are fundamental questions you should ask before condemning other people's culture and tradition.

Yes. It's an Igbo tradition. There are other crazy traditions among other tribes.

This is one of the reasons why we must quit all these division and infighting and learn from one another.

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simonjo:


It's a good thing that you posted a link. You don't have to live in NY to know It's public info. I know you live in Ngr that's I used the word "guess"

Research Tips: Learn to read the entire article and read slowly (the link you posted doesn't agree with what you posted)

Compare with one or two other articles.

That way you will be better informed.

Continue to live in Portharcourt and blab about minimum wage in US you don't live in. Losers like you will quote only a section of what I wrote in order to show why you are still struggling in life. Again, stop telling people about what you don't know.

simonjo:


It's a good thing that you posted a link. You don't have to live in NY to know It's public info. I know you live in Ngr that's I used the word "guess"

Research Tips: Learn to read the entire article and read slowly (the link you posted doesn't agree with what you posted)

Compare with one or two other articles.

That way you will be better informed.

Do you live in US? Answer the question Mr Know it all. I don't have to live in NY to better inform you about what's going on in the world. Be aware that living in Nigeria is not a crime also. Stop making a junk of yourself and accept the correction about the minimum wage in New York. You also need to know that minimum wage in US vary state by state.

simonjo:


Minimum wage in NY is not 15USD.
Guess you are living there so you should know better.
It was increased to 11.10 USD this year. No state pays 15, only the city of San Francisco.

Not sure I told you I live in NY, quote me correctly or stop quoting me.

"If you work in New York City for an employer with 10 or less employees, you are now entitled to a minimum wage of $13.50 an hour. If you work in New York City for an employer with 11 or more employees, you are now entitled to $15.00 an hour"

https://www.lmblaw.com/blog/2019/minimum-wage-increase-new-york-2019/

nairalanduseles:


Am a citizen ...
And u get fucking free Medicare
And u get paid even when u don't work
Bro no comparison
Am at work now chilling doing nothing and making something very decent

Well, you are lucky then. I prefer the single payer system than the junk we have here.
Good luck!

nairalanduseles:


It's $18.99 and lots of people from the states are I Sydney working ...fact
All on working holiday visa

Least pay u will get here working even as a labourer is $25 an hour

Wow! Cool

nairalanduseles:



Australia is the best
Better health care
Better wages

Don't fool urself

What's the minimum wage of Australia?
It's $15 per hour in NY for the lowest level employee

salford1:

I am a Citizen of Canada, and he is right. USA is indeed the greatest country in the world.

I have learnt to separate patriotism from reality.

Let's make a switch or trade sides. I like the free healthcare in Canada better than the crap we have here. Beside trump and healthcare, I agree with you that it's the greatest and will always be the greatest Country.

masternoble:
I initially approached her during my 300 level first semester last year, though I was not straight forward letting my intentions known to her. Then as we entered second semester same session I shot my shot and she accepted my proposal. Throughout the three months we spent during the session, we only had wonderful romantic moments no sex though which I never demanded from her because I did not want everything to happen too fast despite realizing she keeps numerous guys around.

Fast forward, we entered another session our final year. And my birthday happened to be on the 26th of April, she got excited to celebrate with me and came for the first time to my new lodge. As a nice lover, I served her her favorite food which we ate together then proceeded with our normal romantic gestures till I got to her panties and her mood changed all of a sudden, I still never mind and tried all I could to relax her mind for the act and she resisted and begged me to stop for my good sake.

I got angry and enquired why I should not have my way into her and her response still got me confused till now. She told me that am one of a rare nice guy she has met in her life, that she doesn't deserve me because she is not good in health and would not want to see me suffer like most bad guys she had come across, also that it will be more better for me to just enjoy friendship with her with no sex attached.
Ever since then, my mind has been pondering why she made those statements. Why she considers me nice and not deserving? Or is she giving me those excuses to deny me sex?

Please fellow Nairalanders advise me concerning the situation. Should I quit the relationship with her and move on?

Here are a couple of questions for you, bro!

Does she look healthy?
Does she look emotionally disturbed?
Did you offer to use protection or have c'ndom with you?
Did you prod her further to find out what health problem she has?
Did you try to assure her that regardless of her condition or revelation, you care or love her?

Answering these questions may lead you to something fruitful: either she is a liar or she just want you as a friend but nothing more.
If she doesn't open up, then I think you should move on because she may have something very serious with another bobo somewhere.

Continue to shout APC and PDP while they are raising your future leaders.
You will get umbrellas, bags of garri, rice and then trade away your voting rights for those who really don't care about you.

"There is a sufficiency in the world for man's need but not for man's greed"

She dared him and has to live with the consequence. Love has nothing to do with it.
If you know what your man or woman hates, why go ahead and do it?

it starts with two, then four and later 6 piercings

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And they are still alive?

Nice