₦airaland Forum

menacetosociety:
I too know go kill u

Ironic.

Back to topic, which places in Nigeria are regarded as the most treacherous?

It's not an insult.

yes, you'd think I wasn't aware someone could up and say that given the title of the thread?

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Guy nawa for you, don't be one of these lazy youths.

What is horror about these pictures?

No description, no label, the description on the tumbs are not readable.

Amazing isn't it.

A place where I'd go and see just interesting historical artifacts, another person is seeing horror.

Shows how subjective everything is.

But, it's better to be cautious sha. Who knows.

I'd like to try the international call feature, from Nigeria.

Some foods are still poor people's food though even when richer people eat them from habit.

Is that Nigeria because it doesn't look like it?

Interesting thread.

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Eba has to be mentioned.

yes, I think beans is mostly considered poor people's food although well to do Nigerians also eat it by choice. (Acquired taste perhaps, from the days of poverty )

Yujin:
You are right if we are to be too simplistic. I'll even add Urhobo to it. To me she looks very much Urhobo but I know the African American story. They've been mixed over a very long period of time and as such its difficult pinpointing a particular ethnic group. Surprisingly, some people are able to retain some looks and even structure peculiar to certain ethnic groups. This mostly favours the big tribes. In the case of OP, I'll say she doesn't really have the well identified Igbo nor Yoruba look. She could be any of them but does not possess that peculiar look that easily gives one away. To me she's tilted to the Niger Delta groups that I supported earlier. Binis didn't participate in slave trade and the ijaws were more of slave merchants. Urhobos on the other hand suffered under the trade but with little information to support it.

You could be somewhat right.

m0rena35:
This is true but does that make me more or less African? Lol I wonder because the average African American has 70-99% west African DNA and the average African American has at least 1 white ancestor, but you can look at my dads people and tell there is not white in his lineage at all, they are very tall slim and dark skinned, my moms side is short, light skinned and have some members that look white or half but I carry more of my fathers DNA I am dark skinned, high cheekbones, strong, sure we are mixed but I will say I'm African until the day I die. Like where is Africa America, theres no such place

You actually do seem rather mixed, I think it's something about your facial structure.

I'm not sure where your non-African ancestry would indicate, possibly neither Europe nor Africa?

m0rena35:
My best friend is from Lagos, she says I look Ibo (Igbo) so I will go with that until I know for sure lol my husband and I are both descendants of slaves, he Afro-Mexican and I am from the USA, I want us to take pictures like this one. I love the clothes and will be getting some. I also love Nigerian food and music. You guys rock!

That picture is of a Nigerian man who deceived his wife though:


https://www.thesun.co.uk/archives/reallife/902802/my-husband-went-back-to-nigeria-last-christmas-to-wed-a-secret-new-wife/

Like "amotekun" versus "ekun" kind of scenario.

Assuming "amotekun" is the derivative while "ekun" is the real thing when finances allow.

Could someone change the user ids of nlers who are using the names of public figures to commit crimes here. I think such user ids should be considered hate speech against the people whose identities they are stealing.

They register (mainly female) monikers using names of public figures, then start insulting and threatening people with the hope others wont be able to respond for fear of offending the public figures whose ids are being used.

If my id could be changed without my permission and with no explanation from nairalandposter to nlposter, why are these other ids roaming free?

Check with the families involved.

NaijirianKing:
I assume that you're from "that" side of the Niger River. First things first, this is a forum for Igbos, but I'll entertain you today.

There's a difference between hailing a woman for being a good wife, and generalizing a whole ethnic group's women as being mere concubines, as is the case with a certain demographic of musicians from Lagos who make lyrics overtly sexualizing Igbo women.

I believe you know the difference between extolling the virtues of a good wife, and generalizing a whole ethnic group as the concubines of choice.

Just be aware that Igbo men have taken note and we are moving things in motion to check this.

A ma ka mmiri si were baa n’opi ugboguru?

NaijirianKing:
This is all part of a concerted effort to further marginalize and malign the image of the Igbo Man.

The Igbo Man is a rare breed, fears no man, but devoutly respects Justice, Equity, and his Chi.

As such, attacks on the morality and virtue of his woman is a way to indirectly attack the Igbo Man, who is seen by his enemies as having little weaknesses.

So, by actively degrading the women of the group, those who despise the Igbo Man feel that they are launching blows against him, directly and indirectly.

At this point, Igbos have began to see the trend and this next decade will be very different as the Igbo Man doesn't take challenges lying down.

Naijirians number one target is not the Igbo people, but the Igbo Man.

You could open another thread to discuss these issues as outlined by you.

Also, why are there no yellow people in your photos?

Phidosky:
Cus im keen to know

Who did you observe doing that, or why are you keen to know?

And engage in emotional tantrums, tagging the woman all types of nasty and unkind names as is their usual wont.

Why do you ask.

It seems to me they (nlers) rather than take actual responsibility for what goes on in their immediate personal environments, come up with "if" scenarios such as "if you do this, I'll behave in such and such a way". "If you don't do this, I won't do that/I'll do that" etc. Like a seesaw.

They give or withhold affection or responsibility based on a subjectively oriented reward system with themselves or their emotions as the prize.

Not considering if their emotions are actually considered prizes by the person they are trying to shape into some type of personality to reflect their whims.

airsaylongcom:
I'd be interested in those Yoruba words and what they mean

Mostly some concepts, not sure of the details.

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the usual cliche of Nigerian girls are prostitutes (sometimes linked to another phrase common on nairaland "foreign women are better" ) and Nigerians are usually linked to fraud. I only tried to let you see that it is mostly due to poverty and the society

But why is it only Nigeria with these stereotypes? Why aren't other African countries perceived the same way?

They also have poverty and societal stuff though.

NaijirianKing:
On a cultural level.



Another troubling trend I'm noticing in music is when other ethnic groups over sexualize Igbo women in their music, such lines as "Amaka give me lovin", and a few other lines such as Wale rapping that "I fell in love with an Igbo, she said I'm a demon... now I'm in Enugu to get a new one", as if our sisters and mothers are merely objects to be replaced at will. Igbo artists never show such blatant disregard for the women of other groups. This trend is troubling to say the least

Are you saying Igbo musicians (both male and female) do not sexualize Igbo women in their music?

For example, on Netflix, many of the current Nollywood movies produced by Lagosian film makers carry this agenda. For example, the movie "Yoruba Demons", within the first 7 minutes features one of the "demons" using an Igbo woman merely as a concubine in a very explicit and disrespectful manner, but in Igbo produced movies, the reverse is never the case.

I haven't watched Yoruba demons yet, I didn't know there's a movie with that title. Let me check it out and see what you're saying.

There was a topic the other day when someone said Igbo women are placed on earth as concubines or sexual objects to Yoruba men, I personally found the concept highly disrespectful but since I'm not Igbo and also don't know if that's agreeable to the parties concerned, I didn't comment.

Did you respond at all on that thread if you were aware of it?

NaijirianKing:
I'm sure you can agree with me that the level of overt sexuality directed at Igbo women by outside groups is on the steady increase.

And, if care is not taken, such energy can give our women a very bad name.

This energy is usually directed by one group in particular.

I thought Igbos themselves (both male and female) sexualize the women?

When you say you are the best in everything especially marriage, times without number, and you're the public face of Nigeria, plus you insist Igbo women are not equaled in anything you care to mention, most especially relationships and marriage, why are you complaining now?

Can you deal with having a low profile and not being feted all the time? Wouldn't that make you sad?

Also, are you referring to a recent photo op where a popular musician posted randy pictures of his Igbo significant other?

knowledgeable:
Igbo elite and cultural leaders must approach the Yoruba Obas & cultural leaders and discuss some of these disturbing trends. The Yorubas must made to understand fully the negative cultural & social destructive effects this will bring to Yoruba society if they don't slow the monitization of beautifully endowed attributes of Igbo womenhood & the negative sexual connotations they attached to it. There are realities our SW brothers must be reminded of.

1). Igbos are also among the equals when it comes to access to social media, and will defeat them hands down when it comes to propaganda and etc.

2) Using the same social media, Igbo cultural.orgs can move against inter-marriages between Yoruba men and Igbo women citing all kinds of connotations both historical and contemporary.

3) This is the first time Nigeria Tribalistic stereotyping is being enthrone to the international audience through Yoruba leading acts in Afrobeats.

4) Igbos must not also fail to remind these ofenmmanus/afonjas that their obsessions/compulsions to Igbo women are statements on Yoruba womenhood period. Are they uglier than their Igbo counterpart?. Are they cheap and loose?. Are they the dirtiest in Nigeria etc?.

4) Yorubas must warn Naira Marley on his portraying of Igbo womenhood in his music. Trust me, Igbos will come up on top with any social media cultural war between Igbos & Yorubas.

@ bolded

Yoruba women don't seem to be bothered countering these stereotypes regardless how many times you say them.

@ naira marley stuff, what exactly are you referring to, can you give better details.

If you listen to bad advice then pray for wisdom to discern what's good and what's bad.

Not everyone has the ability to tell the difference between the two or have their own mind.