ronaldbecky:
i was reading this as a guest,bcus of this i have to login and quote u,which i normally dont do..u r very stupid and most foolish person to ever come across...u r an ass hole..idiot

You feel better now right?

Alot of people are just quick to blame the man.
If the man accepts the boy and many years to come the useless guy comes back to take his biological son, lots of you here will still yab the man why him no born him own son.
It's already a complicated issue and should be handled carefully.
Madam OP born 2 pikin with a guy she can't have access to his relatives and you are blaming a man that is probably scared of allowing a 12yr old boy(who is stealing) to come be bad influence to his daughter? That stealing alone might be the reason the man changed his mind.

OP forget all these divorce them they tell you here and speak to your husband. While doing that, you must locate your babypapa relatives so they come take care of their own. no be when the boy grow finish now them go come claim am.

Find out why your man changed his mind about accepting your son(that did not just happen, something caused it).
This is not a we and them fight, it's your reality handle it carefully.

Again reduce the way you born pikin until you are stable. 4 children is enough for now.




Non of the people telling you to divorce your husband can handle a house help that is stealing(they normally send them to their parents.... including relatives that are stealing)

Mr Gazzuzz pls how much can one get the AC module for 2014 Camry?

No be everybody money you go chop and go free. some money dey get hook.

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This is evil under the son. women dey suffer sha.

she doesn't not respect you not because you are poor or have no job but because you do such life changing things without telling her. and I am very sure she tells you everything she does before you lost your job.
Your sister too no help matter at all.
it's well. just keep apologising to her, she will forgive you.

Men should learn that their wives are part of them and should be carried along in everything they do.

Why will you lie to your wife that you have lost your job?
may be you have made her have some unrealistic expectations from you.

zmpp:
How serious is irreconcilable differences that it make some couples to dissolve their marriages? What do you know about irreconcilable differences?

another name for irreconcilable differences is PRIDE.

They must be preparing for "one in town" burial for contribution as high as 150k going to married granddaughter.

I am very sure if they made this kind of contribution when he was alive the man might still be here today.

If you don't have don't pay......infact if you have don't still pay there are no consequences.

Use that 150k for something useful, may be send 20-50k for them to manage for the burial.

May be they will still expect you to come with your people and still bring something (may be cow) and other things on the burial day.

Mindfulness:

Is sex a good turn now?

Is that what you understand by want I wrote?

Mindfulness:


I am female and I am not offended. I am married and I don't have sex for money.

Ok.
sex for money or not, One good turn deserves another and when much is given, much is expected. When you do somethings for your husband, you will like him to appreciate you and the appreciation can come in form of "thank you" in form of gift or in form of just giving you money.

Mindfulness:

Isn't sex something to be enjoyed by the two people involved?

Sex is something to be enjoyed by couples not fiance and fiancee

Mindfulness:


Is she a prostitute that has to be paid after the act?

Pls sir don't the offended are you married?

donstan18:
I don't think this is enough reason for you to get angry since she didn't say anything belittling or demeaning to you for giving her that amount. She even advised you should stop giving her money until you are finacially fit.

But please, help her mentally or financially to get something doing, so that such issue will not come up again.

I find it disturbing for a lady to demand for money from her fiance for visiting him.

Sir, there is nothing disturbing about it. I hope you also find it disturbing that a man will demand for sex from his fiance anytime she visits

You are obviously looking for an angel to marry.
God will answer your prayer bro.

But let me ask ooo.
you normally give her 5k ba??
That's after sex right?
this time you gave her 1k?? and expect her to be happy??

Don't make mistake of thinking because of this single reason that your woman is now materialistic.
She is not. She just needs that money from you. if you have give her, if you don't explain to her.

Two of you should stop telling your issues to anybody.... including your people and your people.

These people you tell don't care. The ones that suppose to care have their own issues.

Your hubby should know and act like the man of the house he is.

When last did you go and see your "very" sick father in law?

What will be your reaction if your son refused to come see you many years from now because his wife told him not to?

Some of you don't really understand that when you are married, you are fully part of the family.

For the fact that only your husband was invited says alot about your behaviour towards your in-law.
When my dad was very sick, he requested to see my wife and my daughter, the moment they saw him, the man left few days later.

You only have one father in-law but many Christmas and crossovers to do.
You better join your hubby to go see his dad before it's too late.

Even if you have issues with your in-law, it should not be to the point of knowning the that your FIL is very sick and you are "attempting" to stop your hubby from going to see him.

You hubby is a good man.

The topic asked "Am I wrong?"
YES you are extremely WRONG, VERY VERY WRONG.

Ryan03:
I laugh you in ijaw, my sister thought same and took in a cousin of mine. I warned her but she wouldn't listen, my cousin us about 21. She started stealing from the house, graduated to her shop (she shares the shop with someone) was stealing from my sister and the other lady sharing the shop with her. Not long, she claimed my sisters husband is sleeping with her and she is pregnant for him, thankfully, she wasn't pregnant when test was conducted. It was a total disaster

another terrible experience.
like I said, if not a relative, then nothing. at least relative may have affection more than a total stranger.
The best for me is no househelp at all but if condition requires that I must have one, a relative will be considered first.

Another angle is that most Nigerians will bring in a househelp and not send her/him to school.
If you know you can't treat a house help the way you treat your own children, Don't expect the house help to treat your children as his/her own.
There will always be this feeling that "these people think am their slave"

The maid did not change because she ate on the dinning with you. Your mum just got a wicked person that pretended for a very long time.

It's generally risky to have a total stranger look after your kids. I prefer relative from my wife or my side, anything shut of that, will not work for me.

How will you hide your phone from your partner?

Village people are on top of the woman matter.

No matter how you look at it, 30-35k is not too much for two adults that eats breakfast, lunch and dinner with meat. But know that there is always room for improvement.
Even someone living in states like Benue and Taraba where food stuffs are cheap will just be ok with 30k.

Mind you when we say 30k for food, I'm sure madam is also expected to by toiletries from there too.

Why forcing the man to be on the limelight?
Even the suit no fit am.

How your dad to enjoy his old age in peace.

A 40-year-old Las Vegas hotel cleaner won a child support battle against a 28-year-old millionaire who she never slept with.


Jane was 36 when she stole a used condom from a then 24-year-old tech millionaire’s hotel garbage can.

She inserted the semen inside her vagina and became pregnant with a baby boy who is now 4-years-old.

During the child support hearing, Jane confessed that she never slept with the young millionaire and that she impregnated herself with his sperm while she was cleaning his room.

“He left his bank statement on the nightstand in his hotel room and I saw it when I was cleaning, at the time I wanted a baby so bad and I thought it would be better if I had a baby with a rich man”


The paternity test where conducted and the young millionaire is the father. The court ordered him to pay the mother of the child $2 million for the 3 years of his son’s life he missed.

His lawyer says his client is planning to pursue other legal actions against the mother for stealing is personal belongings and violating his privacy.

Meanwhile, Jane had quit the hotel cleaning job and started a few businesses with her newfound fortune, she still has full custody of her child whom she named after his father.






https://thecrestng.com/2019/11/09/hotel-cleaner-who-stole-millionaires-sperm-from-used-condom-won-child-support-battle/amp/?__twitter_impression=true

LoveThemChubby:

Can you give a summary breakdown please?

Start with things that are very compulsory.
Church or court or traditional demands,
Wedding ring,
Gown,
Suit with bestman(if you like),

If there will be reception,
Cake,
Hall or open place with canopy and chairs(this one is always cheaper),
Food and drinks(soft and alcohol(if necessary)),
Music,
Logistics,
Both parents cloths of you can,
Brides maids and grooms men(if you like),
Then others.

Madam, why have you not been able to give birth?
Since the last miscarriage, what have you done about it(medically)?
What has your husband done about it too?

What is the reason for the miscarriage? Or miscarriages?

Any medical solution to that?

That is the reason your husband is acting up. You and him should solve that first and if he continues, look at your options.

There are loyal partners.
Don't get involved with cheating ones so the need for forgiveness will not come up.

I am not in support of complete border closure but we complain alot in Nigeria. If stockfish is scarce, then we should eat more dryfish and catfish that we farm locally. Must we complain about every single imported product that is no longer available in the market??

These guys are doing wonderful job here.
Will like the see it when they are done.

A Federal High Court, Abuja, has ordered the remand of the embattled former chairman of the Pension Reforms Task Team, Abdulrasheed Maina, in prison custody.

Justice Okon Abang granted the remand order following a request by the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission after he pleaded not guilty to the 12 counts.

The judge consequently adjourned untill October 30 for trial and November 19 for suitability of his application for bail filed before arraignment.

Maina is facing charges of money laundering, operating fictitious bank accounts and fraud.

Source: https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/breaking-court-remands-maina-in-prison/amp/

The biological son is the first son.

Plead:


The man should cry not, because if it was him the wife would’ve accepted


What is good for the goose is good for the gander

So a faithful man should accept a cheating wife because other men are cheating their faithful wives??